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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

what's peoples thoughts on people that don't even open messages when they've been on there for a while

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By *ea and SugarCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

Blimey they must be really busy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what's peoples thoughts on people that don't even open messages when they've been on there for a while "

Guilty soz !!!!!

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Sometimes I get a message, look at the profile and know I won't be replying/wanting to meet that person so it just gets left there until I go on an inbox clear out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That they have looked at the profile and decided they aren't interested in opening the message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think people can do as they please. They may be logged on but busy doing something else, in chat room, on the Forums, flirting with a potential meet....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

thanks for them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We spend enough time considering our own actions, let alone those of random strangers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always google images to see if they've been lifted from porn sites too

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

I don t look at my sent folder so wouldn t know whats happened to it,

I look at my inbox its a lot more important to me,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i sometimes. mail people. just to ask them something. and not to meet or i like. their. profile. so it would. be. nice to get them to get back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a couple,

We find ourselves on here at different times, occasionally. . I tend to read and reply, he kinda reads what's been said already and very rarely opens new messages .Our profile does state that tho .

D(f )

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We spend enough time considering our own actions, let alone those of random strangers."

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By *rafty98Man
over a year ago

herts

I would say single ladies get an excess of mail in the first place and messages will often get buried under the avalanche if horny men sending their one liner "fancy a fuck".

The will be many reasons the message has not been read but the only focus should be to accept it and move on..

Good luck in your quest here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

with us, its most likely becauseI want him to reply to our messages, so I tend to leave them unread until we have discussed if we like the look of the profile. We aren't always together, so may take a while to get a reply.

Saint

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"what's peoples thoughts on people that don't even open messages when they've been on there for a while "

They should be castrated, 'specially the female ones

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By *hatterfabWoman
over a year ago

Wakefield


"Sometimes I get a message, look at the profile and know I won't be replying/wanting to meet that person so it just gets left there until I go on an inbox clear out "

Me too

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

so who's the arsehole that's reported me pics then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"so who's the arsehole that's reported me pics then "

Me

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I answer all of them, unless a conversation has run it's course of which I am the judge and no correspondence shall be entered into as the decision of the judge is final. However, generally I can do so at work and so time isn't that much of an issue. For a lot of peeps it is. If one of mine isn't answered, I assume they are busy, aren't interested in my brilliant message (ie, they are no fool) or sometimes possibly are just a bit ignorant.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"so who's the arsehole that's reported me pics then "

Whoever it was would have had a reason.

As would admin if some have gone.

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what's peoples thoughts on people that don't even open messages when they've been on there for a while "

I'm not on here everyday, so sometimes there's quite the buildup to get through. Find myself replying systematically and can take a while!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what's peoples thoughts on people that don't even open messages when they've been on there for a while "

I presume they looked at our profile and weren't interested or are not looking for new people which ever we just move on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"so who's the arsehole that's reported me pics then

Whoever it was would have had a reason.

As would admin if some have gone.

A"
but you know what them.pics have been on as long as I have over a year and admin accepted them then so.all it takes is someone to.say something about them and off they go strange

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By *ay Dee BeeMan
over a year ago

INGATESTONE near Brentwood

Don't dwell there plenty of fantastic people on here.

NEXT

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By *iercedItMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I usually check in on fab from my phone, but I like to put a little effort into first and early contact replies so I tend to wait until i'm om my laptop or pc.

No other reason.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

if a lady gets up to sixty messages a day its hardly surprising that some are deleted unopened

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"so who's the arsehole that's reported me pics then

Whoever it was would have had a reason.

As would admin if some have gone.

A but you know what them.pics have been on as long as I have over a year and admin accepted them then so.all it takes is someone to.say something about them and off they go strange "

Because they were lifted from web porn sites and it winds me up as well as being against site rules that people try and pass of web porn as themselves,its deceitful and its not you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Don't dwell there plenty of fantastic people on here.

NEXT "
thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've replied to messages I've had and they have remained unread for a few days. I empty sent mail box as it's just bloody rude not to reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its good they dont open it, cos it means I dont need to wait for them to reply and basically they are a timewaster and easier for me to move on and email new horny women lol.

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By *ScotsmanMan
over a year ago

ayrshire

wait a minute guys i cant be the only one here that knows the secrets of the unread messages??.im a novice and no a very bright one at that but you can read your messages but make them look un read . . .am i correct or am i correct x x X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes I get a message, look at the profile and know I won't be replying/wanting to meet that person so it just gets left there until I go on an inbox clear out "

This!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually reply, I sometimes forget, I sometimes can't be arsed, I sometimes mean too and forget, I'm sometimes busy, and I sometimes think what?? What a numptie!!

There's many other reasons, I and I'm sure others don't reply the above, is just a handful.. It can sometimes take me days.... Don't stress... Sometimes good things come to those who wait... Then again sometimes not... Depends whether the message gets read or not.... I suppose

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"so who's the arsehole that's reported me pics then

Whoever it was would have had a reason.

As would admin if some have gone.

A but you know what them.pics have been on as long as I have over a year and admin accepted them then so.all it takes is someone to.say something about them and off they go strange

Because they were lifted from web porn sites and it winds me up as well as being against site rules that people try and pass of web porn as themselves,its deceitful and its not you"

Winds me up too, but some I have reported several times are still up, I don't get why.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"so who's the arsehole that's reported me pics then

Whoever it was would have had a reason.

As would admin if some have gone.

A but you know what them.pics have been on as long as I have over a year and admin accepted them then so.all it takes is someone to.say something about them and off they go strange

Because they were lifted from web porn sites and it winds me up as well as being against site rules that people try and pass of web porn as themselves,its deceitful and its not you"
what are you the porn police how the hell can you tell there off the net and not real are you that sad that ya trail.through porn sites and look for pics and btw they are real who's to say that someone hasn't took them from my site and uploaded them on a porn site them pics are about a year and half old and they were on another site that I was on so really anyone could have taken them and passed them on as there own you read about it all the time on here other people stealing people's photos. the post was about not reading messages not photos

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland


"so who's the arsehole that's reported me pics then

Whoever it was would have had a reason.

As would admin if some have gone.

A but you know what them.pics have been on as long as I have over a year and admin accepted them then so.all it takes is someone to.say something about them and off they go strange

Because they were lifted from web porn sites and it winds me up as well as being against site rules that people try and pass of web porn as themselves,its deceitful and its not youwhat are you the porn police how the hell can you tell there off the net and not real are you that sad that ya trail.through porn sites and look for pics and btw they are real who's to say that someone hasn't took them from my site and uploaded them on a porn site them pics are about a year and half old and they were on another site that I was on so really anyone could have taken them and passed them on as there own you read about it all the time on here other people stealing people's photos. the post was about not reading messages not photos "

google reverse image search is your friend with sniffing out fake pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"so who's the arsehole that's reported me pics then

Whoever it was would have had a reason.

As would admin if some have gone.

A but you know what them.pics have been on as long as I have over a year and admin accepted them then so.all it takes is someone to.say something about them and off they go strange

Because they were lifted from web porn sites and it winds me up as well as being against site rules that people try and pass of web porn as themselves,its deceitful and its not youwhat are you the porn police how the hell can you tell there off the net and not real are you that sad that ya trail.through porn sites and look for pics and btw they are real who's to say that someone hasn't took them from my site and uploaded them on a porn site them pics are about a year and half old and they were on another site that I was on so really anyone could have taken them and passed them on as there own you read about it all the time on here other people stealing people's photos. the post was about not reading messages not photos "

Blah blah blah,Tell it to admin

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

You may want to ponder your avatar, OP, as at first glance people may think it is a couple's profile as you can see more of your friend than you in it. Just a thought.

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By *ScotsmanMan
over a year ago

ayrshire

can someone confirm that we can read messages and make them stay unread ?. x x X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh dear so..... Do you leave your messages unread?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"can someone confirm that we can read messages and make them stay unread ?. x x X"

Yes you can

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By *ScotsmanMan
over a year ago

ayrshire

i have to read my messages because they're usually from admin. no i mean that just because someone looks at a message they have sent as unread actually doesnt mean that its been unread x x X

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By *ScotsmanMan
over a year ago

ayrshire

i bet im one of the few men that realised that or are there more?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"i have to read my messages because they're usually from admin. no i mean that just because someone looks at a message they have sent as unread actually doesnt mean that its been unread x x X"
I never knew that

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"so who's the arsehole that's reported me pics then

Whoever it was would have had a reason.

As would admin if some have gone.

A but you know what them.pics have been on as long as I have over a year and admin accepted them then so.all it takes is someone to.say something about them and off they go strange

Because they were lifted from web porn sites and it winds me up as well as being against site rules that people try and pass of web porn as themselves,its deceitful and its not youwhat are you the porn police how the hell can you tell there off the net and not real are you that sad that ya trail.through porn sites and look for pics and btw they are real who's to say that someone hasn't took them from my site and uploaded them on a porn site them pics are about a year and half old and they were on another site that I was on so really anyone could have taken them and passed them on as there own you read about it all the time on here other people stealing people's photos. the post was about not reading messages not photos "

Anyone who messages us we always google image search and if found elsewhere in the net we report it to admin I think most sensible people would do the same it helps keeps the site going and stops false advertising

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"so who's the arsehole that's reported me pics then

Whoever it was would have had a reason.

As would admin if some have gone.

A but you know what them.pics have been on as long as I have over a year and admin accepted them then so.all it takes is someone to.say something about them and off they go strange

Because they were lifted from web porn sites and it winds me up as well as being against site rules that people try and pass of web porn as themselves,its deceitful and its not youwhat are you the porn police how the hell can you tell there off the net and not real are you that sad that ya trail.through porn sites and look for pics and btw they are real who's to say that someone hasn't took them from my site and uploaded them on a porn site them pics are about a year and half old and they were on another site that I was on so really anyone could have taken them and passed them on as there own you read about it all the time on here other people stealing people's photos. the post was about not reading messages not photos

Anyone who messages us we always google image search and if found elsewhere in the net we report it to admin I think most sensible people would do the same it helps keeps the site going and stops false advertising "
that's fair enough a guess u will get people that do that like I said they could have been lifted off my profile on are off another profile on another swinging site that I was on and posted on the web

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By *ScotsmanMan
over a year ago

ayrshire


"i have to read my messages because they're usually from admin. no i mean that just because someone looks at a message they have sent as unread actually doesnt mean that its been unread x x XI never knew that "
i think you did

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts


"like I said they could have been lifted off my profile on are off another profile on another swinging site that I was on and posted on the web "

That is possible, however people like to see where they have been cropped. If they have the fab logo on then they have come from here, same if they have been cropped to exclude the logo. However, if the original picture is bigger and the bit that was cut off and didn't make it onto fab shows a foreign plug socket or something else that is obviously alien to our shores people draw conclusions from that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"i have to read my messages because they're usually from admin. no i mean that just because someone looks at a message they have sent as unread actually doesnt mean that its been unread x x XI never knew that i think you did "
no mate go back and read me posts a think I actually agreed with u

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"wait a minute guys i cant be the only one here that knows the secrets of the unread messages??.im a novice and no a very bright one at that but you can read your messages but make them look un read . . .am i correct or am i correct x x X"

Correct.

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By *ScotsmanMan
over a year ago

ayrshire


"i have to read my messages because they're usually from admin. no i mean that just because someone looks at a message they have sent as unread actually doesnt mean that its been unread x x XI never knew that i think you did no mate go back and read me posts a think I actually agreed with u "
i apologise i was just bein sarcastic. so have you clicked on how easy it is..i think most of the girls wil have a fly look. .but thing is that doesnt do us any good it just means theyr so disinterested they dont want us to even think they wasted their time even reading it. .I've got them well sussed but that usually makes them hate me even more. . i dont blame them i would do the same if there was as many and you dont want to encourage them

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I think the best thing with Fab is to keep an open mind. Most people will not be in the same situation to you - such as their inbox levels, what they're doing whilst logged in, such as at work, killing a couple of minutes wherever, whilst abroad, on a limited data plan etc.

In general, the more you put into fab, the more you're likely to get out of it. Treat new messages as a bonus, and a shag as a godsend, if you're really short of getting meets. Less focus on what's not happened, who's not delivered the goods that you expected etc.

Let go of any sense of entitlement. Most people won't have invited your contact, they have their priorities and systems for dealing with new messages - it may be whilst alone, or with their partners - but it won't be how you expect or almost command them to do it.

And if you're just messaging for a bit of support, you may be better off asking in the forums. The forums have fairly rapid response to most things, and you'll have more people reading your stuff.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"wait a minute guys i cant be the only one here that knows the secrets of the unread messages??.im a novice and no a very bright one at that but you can read your messages but make them look un read . . .am i correct or am i correct x x X

Correct. "

Howso?? You can read the first line without opening, but surely if you have opened they show as read?

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By *ScotsmanMan
over a year ago

ayrshire


"wait a minute guys i cant be the only one here that knows the secrets of the unread messages??.im a novice and no a very bright one at that but you can read your messages but make them look un read . . .am i correct or am i correct x x X

Correct.

Howso?? You can read the first line without opening, but surely if you have opened they show as read?"
just go to the previous message they sent. .

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend


"can someone confirm that we can read messages and make them stay unread ?. x x X"
yes you can read and delete messages while they are on a yellow background

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By *ScotsmanMan
over a year ago

ayrshire


"can someone confirm that we can read messages and make them stay unread ?. x x Xyes you can read and delete messages while they are on a yellow background"
no i mean you can read a message but it wil stay lookin unread .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

doesnt bother us but think they must get so many that weve fallen off the bottom of the page

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"wait a minute guys i cant be the only one here that knows the secrets of the unread messages??.im a novice and no a very bright one at that but you can read your messages but make them look un read . . .am i correct or am i correct x x X

Correct.

Howso?? You can read the first line without opening, but surely if you have opened they show as read? just go to the previous message they sent. . "

Oh duh!!!!

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