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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Happily married but I get very turned on by dressing and she knows nothing.

Id love to have fun with others but don't wanna cheat on my wife, Meeting other people for photo's or dressing fun to me isn't cheating but what about anal toying, strap on fun or oral??

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

In my opinion, if you won't or can't tell your other half what you are up to then it is cheating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You know the answer.

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By *rymeplsMan
over a year ago

manchester

"You know the answer. "
only smarties have the answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Touching another person sexually is cheating in my mind

Gimp

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

Happily married, but unable to tell your wife you like to dress up?

life too short ta live a lie ... In my opinion ( mrs)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So what you mean?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Emotional infidelity is just as hurtful as sexual infidelity, you're aware if that I think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This reminds me of all the it's not gay to suck cock threads.

Basically people are telling you to talk to your wife. Dressing up May not technically be cheating but it is deceitful.

Anal play is sex and it is cheating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To many it's not the acts that hurt but the lies and deceit.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Dressing to me is a hobby which I just haven't told my wife about. Ive not done anything sexual with anyone at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dressing to me is a hobby which I just haven't told my wife about. Ive not done anything sexual with anyone at all."

Yet

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Dressing to me is a hobby which I just haven't told my wife about. Ive not done anything sexual with anyone at all."

Do you think she might be less than understanding?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dressing to me is a hobby which I just haven't told my wife about. Ive not done anything sexual with anyone at all."

I think if Dressing is a hobby it might be one that your partner should know about the maybe the other stuff can be mentioned too.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I really don't know, I just love to dress and much as I love my wife.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Try taking her for a night out in Leeds on the first of Friday. It's LFF, which is a huge TG event and there will be 200 girlys out (not me sadly, as I'll be at work

) and see how she reacts. If she spends all night being sick into a bucket conveniently carried by a tranny walking next to her, or if she spends all night talking shoes to the girlys then you'll know which way the wind is blowing

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

whatever the situation... keeping things from your partner is cheating in my book x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I really don't know, I just love to dress and much as I love my wife.

Well it's not for me but your wife might like it.

**I think**

Tell her....

I realise that might wreck your marriage so I apologise in advance...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You spoke about anal toying, strapping and oral. All of that is gay sex, deceitful and cheating.

Only you know if your wife may react badly to you cross dressing but she will probably go ballistic if she finds out you have been fucking other men. Way more so than women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You spoke about anal toying, strapping and oral. All of that is gay sex, deceitful and cheating.

Only you know if your wife may react badly to you cross dressing but she will probably go ballistic if she finds out you have been fucking other men. Way more so than women"

My ex was actually more understanding of me seeing blokes than she was women.

The way she looked at it was a bloke could give me something she couldn't, whereas a woman ...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ty all this has given me lots to think about and wish it was a lot easier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone has given you good advice! You need to really think about what you said... You said dressing up is a hobby, yet you mention maybe playing with toys/strap ons and anal... You mentioned sexual pics exchange in your profile, if this were all really just a hobby for you, you wouldn't have asked the question that you know the answer to.

I agree it'll be difficult to broach the subject with her, but if your just bringing up the fact that you like to dress up, it might be taken better than if it were to come out after you've gone further.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

tell her lovey im sure if she loves you and cares she will accept it my wife did with me good luck sweet heart x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ty all this has given me lots to think about and wish it was a lot easier."

It's not easy Alex but you gotta do what you gotta do

Telling someone is hard, sometimes the consequences are too but then again, so is carrying the burden of having a 2nd life and the guilt associated with that.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I really don't know, I just love to dress and much as I love my wife.

Talk to her!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dressing to me is a hobby which I just haven't told my wife about. Ive not done anything sexual with anyone at all."

You have... You've joined a sex site....

Plenty tvs dont join sex sites...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Show yer Missus yer verification and see what she makes of it?

Who knows, you may later be able to play to your hearts content without cheating thereafter.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I kinda new what the outcome would be to my question, I was hoping I could get away with dressing and just showing off my pictures. I've been doing this for quite a few years now and as much as I've been tempted to go further down the line of sexual fun I've never been able to convince myself that it's truly a good way to go. I really don't wanna give the dressing up and I have lots of understanding friends on here, please wish me luck X

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I kinda new what the outcome would be to my question, I was hoping I could get away with dressing and just showing off my pictures. I've been doing this for quite a few years now and as much as I've been tempted to go further down the line of sexual fun I've never been able to convince myself that it's truly a good way to go. I really don't wanna give the dressing up and I have lots of understanding friends on here, please wish me luck X"

I wish both you and your wife luck, yours are not the only feelings to be taken into consideration here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dressing to me is a hobby which I just haven't told my wife about. Ive not done anything sexual with anyone at all.

You have... You've joined a sex site....

Plenty tvs dont join sex sites..."

Is joining a swinging site classed as a sexual act ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you was my husband I would be more upset that you didn't tell me it would devastate me .

And I ended my seven year relationship because of rude texts

So think about what you are doing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dressing to me is a hobby which I just haven't told my wife about. Ive not done anything sexual with anyone at all.

You have... You've joined a sex site....

Plenty tvs dont join sex sites...

Is joining a swinging site classed as a sexual act ?

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the main objective of this site is to contact swingers. Chat rooms and forums are an added bonus. Obviously there are some on here mainly for the peripherals

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I hope you work it out.

You've said that you dress because it turns you on though, which makes it more than just a hobby in my opinion.

Unless wanking is a hobby. And watching porn.

Would you put them on your c.v. in the hobbies section?

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Dressing to me is a hobby which I just haven't told my wife about. Ive not done anything sexual with anyone at all.

You have... You've joined a sex site....

Plenty tvs dont join sex sites...

Is joining a swinging site classed as a sexual act ?

It's indicative of an interest in committing sexual acts, or a desire to do so, I think.

People may stay here for other reasons if they decide not to meet, but I think most join because they have an interest in meeting others for sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dressing to me is a hobby which I just haven't told my wife about. Ive not done anything sexual with anyone at all.

You have... You've joined a sex site....

Plenty tvs dont join sex sites...

Is joining a swinging site classed as a sexual act ?

It's indicative of an interest in committing sexual acts, or a desire to do so, I think.

People may stay here for other reasons if they decide not to meet, but I think most join because they have an interest in meeting others for sex."

When I first joined that wasn't my objective. In fact it took me 8 months to meet

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Dressing to me is a hobby which I just haven't told my wife about. Ive not done anything sexual with anyone at all.

You have... You've joined a sex site....

Plenty tvs dont join sex sites...

Is joining a swinging site classed as a sexual act ?

It's indicative of an interest in committing sexual acts, or a desire to do so, I think.

People may stay here for other reasons if they decide not to meet, but I think most join because they have an interest in meeting others for sex.

When I first joined that wasn't my objective. In fact it took me 8 months to meet

What was your objective originally?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dressing to me is a hobby which I just haven't told my wife about. Ive not done anything sexual with anyone at all.

You have... You've joined a sex site....

Plenty tvs dont join sex sites...

Is joining a swinging site classed as a sexual act ?

It's indicative of an interest in committing sexual acts, or a desire to do so, I think.

People may stay here for other reasons if they decide not to meet, but I think most join because they have an interest in meeting others for sex.

When I first joined that wasn't my objective. In fact it took me 8 months to meet

What was your objective originally?"

Chat rooms and forums.. I used to sit and watch my friend having a giggle etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You spoke about anal toying, strapping and oral. All of that is gay sex, deceitful and cheating.

Only you know if your wife may react badly to you cross dressing but she will probably go ballistic if she finds out you have been fucking other men. Way more so than women

My ex was actually more understanding of me seeing blokes than she was women.

The way she looked at it was a bloke could give me something she couldn't, whereas a woman ..."

Is that a bussy I see before me? Ello treacle ltns

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dressing to me is a hobby which I just haven't told my wife about. Ive not done anything sexual with anyone at all.

You have... You've joined a sex site....

Plenty tvs dont join sex sites...

Is joining a swinging site classed as a sexual act ?

It's indicative of an interest in committing sexual acts, or a desire to do so, I think.

People may stay here for other reasons if they decide not to meet, but I think most join because they have an interest in meeting others for sex."

But back to the poster.. Joining a swinging site isn't a sexual act.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I can only think of two choices I have,

Either carry on dressing keep all the friends I have and enjoy the comments or stop completely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In my opinion, if you won't or can't tell your other half what you are up to then it is cheating."

yep, if you have to keep it a secret, you know its wrong, whether that be in the wider community at large or just within your own little world.

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By *vluluTV/TS
over a year ago

Hull

You know my view on it darl xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

to not be a complete arse and to expand a little, are you completely certain your wife wouldnt be open to the idea of you dressing?

she may suprise you and be open minded, then again, she may well be as you imagine and be completely not open at all.

maybe broach the subject of cross dressing with her in general conversation

you know 'oo, you'll never guess, i was out shopping at tesco and there was a guy there dressed as a woman, pretty strange, huh?' and gauge her reaction to it.

you know her better than any of us.

small steps and all that

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