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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

finally after 2 years of asking doctor to refer my son got my dieticans appointent for june ....been told by doc to try and hid vegetables n fruit in foods my child will eat .....hes 3 and very fussy with food and getting messy he dont cope with .....looking for advice from others

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By *oulou45Woman
over a year ago

Bucks

I would give him what he likes to eat. His taste buds may change later.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep putting it in his plate . But if he won't eat it he won't eat it . Give him lots of what he does like

Perhaps grow your own ? He will be proud

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By *oudnproudWoman
over a year ago

penrith

Banana cake is a good one...

my son use to be so fussy but grew out of it after I refused give in..

He always thought by eating banana cake it was yummy cake...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both my kids were fussy eaters worried myself stupid over the first. The second just let him eat whatever he wanted he grew up healthy and happy eats everything now. Remove any pressure and stress otherwise meal times become something to be dreaded by all. Vitamin tablets. Milk shakes smoothies ? Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When my elders was 3 he went through a stage of only eating sausages and oranges. I took him to drs who said don't make a fuss , give it to him he will get fed up soon enough. A couple weeks later he started eating everything that was put in front of him and 25 yes later is the same.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Mines 3 and can be a right pain in the arse!! His latest one is gagging on things like if he gets a bit of chicken stuck in his teeth he's so melodramatic!

I just put his dinner in front of him at 5pm, at 5.30 whatever's left gets taken away (unless he's still eating) , he has to eat 3/4 of what's on his plate to get a pudding. I don't give him juice with his meal now coz he's guzzles that down and fills himself up on it.

I don't pay him any attention unless he eats well then he gets lots of praise. Don't nag him or anything to eat. Gets me nowhere just makes him more bloody stubborn so I don't bother.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't force him.

It will lead to issues with his relationship with food later in life.

By the same token, don't give in to his every whim and fancy.

His behaviour will manifest in other areas if he begins to think you are a soft touch.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like the idea of growing your own, or going to one of those pick your own fruit farms to get your kid interested.

I remember seeing a recipie for chocolate beetroot cake as a healthy alternative or maybe do bits of fruit and dip in chocolate like a fondue or as a kid I uses to love mashed banana on toast with peanut butter or we used to have slices of apple with cubes of cheese and crisps and make sail boats by sticking the crisp in the apple or cube of cheese which was always a treat. .seemed like fun!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

its really hard ....he'll eat spaghetti bologeness ....homemade chicken nuggets and pizza ...cheese and crackers and weetabix and fruit loops .....got 5 children and hes the only one i had trouble with concerning food ...all this started after tonsillitus and having a fissule

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Send him to my mums for a fortnight

Trust me, with her cooking, ANYTHING will taste appetising when he gets back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Spag bol is the classic.... add lots of vegetables to tomatoes and cook the til all soft... then blitz it and use it as you would the passatta and add to the meat once you've browned it...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And you can use the vegetable/tomato mixture to make your own pizza..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

fissure not fissule ....thought going to nursery and seeing other children eating fruit would help but no.....he refused to eat or touch it ....he wont even eat mini eggs which.nursery gave out today

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Used to put the veg in the shepherds pie, pasta bake etc. Make fruit smoothies and gave them cod liver oil tablets and vitamins.

Never made a fuss about food as didn't want it to become an issue.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

tried smoothies and ice cream and he wont entertain them at all ....shepherds pie he just looks at and says digusting ....tried not giving him his food as advised by health visitor ...she said give him his favourite breakfast ...and then offered him different food but nothing else ....3 days before i broke cus i couldnt keep up with him just having 11/2 weetabix a day ....cus he refused everything else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let him help you prepare the veg and by that way he would feel proud of what he has achieved

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some really good advice on this thread, the main thing is not to make a fuss.

They do grow out of it.

The growing your own is a great idea

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By *aceytopWoman
over a year ago

from a town near you

don't make a fuss put his food in front of him,ignore him,if he hasn't eaten it when its gone cold take it away,dont say anything,keep doing it,he wont starve himself,and if he likes spag bol do what the other OP said put plenty of veggies in the sauce

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

also with his fissure....he got to drink at least 1.5 litres of fluids a day ....so get told by health visitor to cut fluids but then told by doctor to keep fluid intake high and to get as much fluid in him as i can x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"don't make a fuss put his food in front of him,ignore him,if he hasn't eaten it when its gone cold take it away,dont say anything,keep doing it,he wont starve himself,and if he likes spag bol do what the other OP said put plenty of veggies in the sauce "

It doesn't always work like that.

My son will happily go without food.

He has an aversion to most veg, potatos now cheese.

I went with the he'll eat it if he is hungry. Nope, He lost weight and still wont eat it if put in front off him.

The school nurse has told me to feed him little and often and as he has a long school walk carry some biscuits. She has said I don't care what you feed him at the minute. He has finally put on the weight he lost but for his age is still classed as underweight.

For some children food is a control thing. They know you cannot force it down their throat. With my son it only started happening as we finally got the help needed to address behavioural issues we had struggled with since he was 2. He is now 6

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"don't make a fuss put his food in front of him,ignore him,if he hasn't eaten it when its gone cold take it away,dont say anything,keep doing it,he wont starve himself,and if he likes spag bol do what the other OP said put plenty of veggies in the sauce

It doesn't always work like that.

My son will happily go without food.

He has an aversion to most veg, potatos now cheese.

I went with the he'll eat it if he is hungry. Nope, He lost weight and still wont eat it if put in front off him.

The school nurse has told me to feed him little and often and as he has a long school walk carry some biscuits. She has said I don't care what you feed him at the minute. He has finally put on the weight he lost but for his age is still classed as underweight.

For some children food is a control thing. They know you cannot force it down their throat. With my son it only started happening as we finally got the help needed to address behavioural issues we had struggled with since he was 2. He is now 6"

this is how it is with mine ....he will happily exist on 1 and a half weetabix a day and about 8 cups of juice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"don't make a fuss put his food in front of him,ignore him,if he hasn't eaten it when its gone cold take it away,dont say anything,keep doing it,he wont starve himself,and if he likes spag bol do what the other OP said put plenty of veggies in the sauce

It doesn't always work like that.

My son will happily go without food.

He has an aversion to most veg, potatos now cheese.

I went with the he'll eat it if he is hungry. Nope, He lost weight and still wont eat it if put in front off him.

The school nurse has told me to feed him little and often and as he has a long school walk carry some biscuits. She has said I don't care what you feed him at the minute. He has finally put on the weight he lost but for his age is still classed as underweight.

For some children food is a control thing. They know you cannot force it down their throat. With my son it only started happening as we finally got the help needed to address behavioural issues we had struggled with since he was 2. He is now 6

this is how it is with mine ....he will happily exist on 1 and a half weetabix a day and about 8 cups of juice"

Just keep persevering. Offer it and if he doesn't eat it move on.

If he doesn't already give him vitamins so you know he is getting something good in him.

Offer plenty of snacks, mine have a long walk to and from school and school nurse told me to keep biscuits in my bag to give him not only so he is eating something but to bribe him to stay close and not run in the road.

Keep a food diary for the hospital of everything including drinks.

If the doctor was very concerned he would have sent you straight there so try not to worry too much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am so lucky with my 3 & 4 year old , the only veg they dislike is sprouts, they eat all fruit and all salad except onions (but they'll eat them cooked)

If I offered a bags of sweets or a punnet of strawberrys/ grapes they would pick the fruit .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am so lucky with my 3 & 4 year old , the only veg they dislike is sprouts, they eat all fruit and all salad except onions (but they'll eat them cooked)

If I offered a bags of sweets or a punnet of strawberrys/ grapes they would pick the fruit ."

Strawberries *

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my youngest who is 24 now has never eaten any veg and the only fruit she eats is pinapple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am so lucky with my 3 & 4 year old , the only veg they dislike is sprouts, they eat all fruit and all salad except onions (but they'll eat them cooked)

If I offered a bags of sweets or a punnet of strawberrys/ grapes they would pick the fruit ."

I haven't found any fruit mine won't eat veg on the other hand

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

the doctor been more worried about the fissure than anything else ....health visitor tells me opposite to doctor ....the other week i asked for a joint appointment ....and this was when it was decided to refer cus they both couldnt decide on a joint action plan so decid to bring in a 3 rd party....

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By *rsK69Woman
over a year ago

Neath

Is he actually ill or unwell at all due to his diet?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

nursery says he quiet and legathic ..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

im not prepared to cut the fluid intake until they do retest on the fissure to make sure its healed ....but due to his age they dont want to do them saying they heal in time

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By *rsK69Woman
over a year ago

Neath


"nursery says he quiet and legathic .."

That could just be his personality. Lots of small children tire easily especially at nursery. Out of my 3 my eldest son has been the pickiest of eaters fron the age of around 2 til about 4 lived mainly on toast cereal and yogurts. But I just gave him what i.knew he would eat and as he started school he did follow suit with what others were eating and is much better now. I know its natural to worry but i wouldnt worry too much about it as fussy eaters often grow out of it.

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield


"also with his fissure....he got to drink at least 1.5 litres of fluids a day ....so get told by health visitor to cut fluids but then told by doctor to keep fluid intake high and to get as much fluid in him as i can x"

Give him a good drink an hour before he eats and then no drink with his food. You can fill yourself with fluids and think that you're full.

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By *ackandkateCouple
over a year ago

Truro

When I was a kid I was a fussy eater. Then one day my Dad told me that things had to change. He said from that day I would have a choice at meal times. Eat it or leave it,

Like a lot of kids I was stubborn and didn't eat for a couple of days, but it sorted me out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try a little cube of fruit before his favourite meals I know it's bribery but it might work

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By *rsK69Woman
over a year ago

Neath


"im not prepared to cut the fluid intake until they do retest on the fissure to make sure its healed ....but due to his age they dont want to do them saying they heal in time"

When it comes to medical advice go with what the doctor advises. With all due respect the the Health Visitor the G.P is the senior medical professional x

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"also with his fissure....he got to drink at least 1.5 litres of fluids a day ....so get told by health visitor to cut fluids but then told by doctor to keep fluid intake high and to get as much fluid in him as i can x"

No wonder he won't eat when he drinks all that. I bet once you've sorted the fissure and can cut his liquid intake down he will start eating more. M

Also like someone else said its a control thing. If he likes spag Bol and you can get loads of veg hidden in the sauce let him have it it won't do any harm and at least he's eating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would give him what he likes to eat. His taste buds may change later."

Snap x I have fussy eater she now tries things if she likes she has more if not she doesn't x as long as he doesn't look malnourished and is happy and bright I wouldn't worry too much they change when older don't make an issue makes them worse

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

i really realised how bad he was for eating when today me amd some other mum took them for a macdonalds after nursery as they are leaving one and starting school nursery and my boy was the only one to refuse to eat anything...but minute we was home wanted his normal lunch of two crackers n cheese

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By *aul.J.JMan
over a year ago

Sedgley

My son is nearly 4 and a very fussy eater. When he goes to school hopefully he'll be less fussy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My son is nearly 4 and a very fussy eater. When he goes to school hopefully he'll be less fussy"

good luck .....i had hoped that .....in end nursery staff just accepted that he wont try but didnt make a fuss and offered it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Easiest trick is to give him a plateful of broccoli, sprouts and raw celery.

After that lot, he'll be glad to eat owt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"also with his fissure....he got to drink at least 1.5 litres of fluids a day ....so get told by health visitor to cut fluids but then told by doctor to keep fluid intake high and to get as much fluid in him as i can x"

I would keep the fluids up, my daughter had a toilet phobia was a nightmare going anywhere and she refused to drink or drank very little, getting her dry on a night has been impossiable as her bladder had shrunk.

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By *eryBigGirlWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire


"im not prepared to cut the fluid intake until they do retest on the fissure to make sure its healed ....but due to his age they dont want to do them saying they heal in time

When it comes to medical advice go with what the doctor advises. With all due respect the the Health Visitor the G.P is the senior medical professional x"

Not always. Health visitors specialise in children. GP is a general physician. Very often my health visitor was much more knowledgable than my GP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i really realised how bad he was for eating when today me amd some other mum took them for a macdonalds after nursery as they are leaving one and starting school nursery and my boy was the only one to refuse to eat anything...but minute we was home wanted his normal lunch of two crackers n cheese"

It's really hard not to worry but try not to. They mostly grow out of it. Make a list of what he will eat and alternate it through the week. Or try variations of similar things. Then you can both (hopefully!) stop stressing a bit.

Try not to make any fuss at all. Set times for meals and when it's done it's done, do something fun.

Hugs xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm having all the above problems with my child, and he's 8!! Worry that he ain't getting dirty food in him that contain the good bacteria for his immune system. This is how IBS and Crohne's can start.

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By *effrey45Man
over a year ago

Lytham

Send them to bed hungry they soon learn

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