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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

The forums as i see it are where people can ask for advice on a topic, or voice an opinion on something.

My question to all for forumites is ' do you discount people purely on the opinions they express on here? '

My answer is no. I have a few friends in my other life where our opinions on some subjects differ greatly eg the public sector gravy train,politics religion and immigration..I still enjoy these peoples company however and we treat our debates like a game with no winners or losers as we appreciate that every one is entitled to their opinion. Does anyone else feel like me,that we are to quick to judge people purely on their opinion. After just because they dont agree with you does not make them a worse person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends, if it was one opinion I disagreed with, then no.

But if there posts regularly make me roll my eyes, then I assumed we wouldn't get on in real life and then I would definitely discount them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's some people with opinions I don't like but I still respect them as people. Just because I disagree about one thing they think, doesn't mean I don't like them.

People seem scared to disagree. I think we need all types of opinion in the world. It's all good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Depends on what it is.

I've met people who've opinions I've disagreed with after all we can't all think the same.

But some people come out with some pretty shocking things that would make me not want to meet them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I do, but when it comes to only my opinion counts, not listening to yours, I think " oh well whatever lol

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes I do, but when it comes to only my opinion counts, not listening to yours, I think " oh well whatever lol

Her"

By the way - do I owe you a pint?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes I do, but when it comes to only my opinion counts, not listening to yours, I think " oh well whatever lol

Her

By the way - do I owe you a pint?

"
You can buy me a pint of wine.

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

I don't discount people. But some do go onto my "dear God I hope I never meet you" list.

I have been known to block people based on their comments on the forum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I only spoke to and met people who's opinions are the same as mine I'd be a very lonely person. Although I have blocked a few people from the forums who views I find abhorrent and who I have no desire to converse with at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends on what it is.

I've met people who've opinions I've disagreed with after all we can't all think the same.

But some people come out with some pretty shocking things that would make me not want to meet them. "

Ditto

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's some people with opinions I don't like but I still respect them as people. Just because I disagree about one thing they think, doesn't mean I don't like them.

People seem scared to disagree. I think we need all types of opinion in the world. It's all good. "

This ^^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not always the opinion that would put me off someone,although extreme differences on certain subjects would indicate there would be no chance of us getting on,its how those opinions are expressed,not accepting that other people are allowed to have one,shouting them down and becoming personal because they can't debate in a adult manner is what would put me off completely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its not always the opinion that would put me off someone,although extreme differences on certain subjects would indicate there would be no chance of us getting on,its how those opinions are expressed,not accepting that other people are allowed to have one,shouting them down and becoming personal because they can't debate in a adult manner is what would put me off completely"

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I thoroughly enjoy a good discussion with people who listen or read any counterargument and counter it with arguments of their own and I think it's a shame that one or two if the more controversial posters have gone for one reason it another. I would happily meet people like that if our views were different.

Neither if us want to meet bigots, racists or plain old rude people who just won't engage in equal debate.....why would we?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a feeling that some of the people I disagree with quite strenuously I'd actually get on rather well with but it's unlikely they'll let me put it to the test lol.

There are only a couple of people I have honestly thought God no, never. And that's not because of their opinions but how they go about expressing themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes I do, but when it comes to only my opinion counts, not listening to yours, I think " oh well whatever lol

Her

By the way - do I owe you a pint?

You can buy me a pint of wine.

Her "

Next time I find myself down Essex way, you're on.

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes I do, but when it comes to only my opinion counts, not listening to yours, I think " oh well whatever lol

Her

By the way - do I owe you a pint?

You can buy me a pint of wine.

Her

Next time I find myself down Essex way, you're on. "
welcome

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia


"I thoroughly enjoy a good discussion with people who listen or read any counterargument and counter it with arguments of their own and I think it's a shame that one or two if the more controversial posters have gone for one reason it another. I would happily meet people like that if our views were different.

Neither if us want to meet bigots, racists or plain old rude people who just won't engage in equal debate.....why would we?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like opposing opinions. Different perspectives contribute to the tapestry of life. However if people behave obnoxiously or if their views display core values I cannot abide I'm likely to avoid contact on here entirely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are some threads that are deliberately put up to cause conflict x I defo avoid x luckily they are usually miles away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I thoroughly enjoy a good discussion with people who listen or read any counterargument and counter it with arguments of their own and I think it's a shame that one or two if the more controversial posters have gone for one reason it another. I would happily meet people like that if our views were different.

Neither if us want to meet bigots, racists or plain old rude people who just won't engage in equal debate.....why would we?"

Agree, and it is worth noting that the very definition of democracy is to argue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love reading (and listening to) other people opinions on so many different subjects - its one of the things I enjoy about the forums here.

Seeing something from someone else's point of view is such a valuable thing and often someones opinion on something allows you to do that. I often find myself reading a polar opposite opinion to one I may have on a subject and thinking 'Yes, that person makes some valid points that I had not considered' - often so much of our world view is coloured by our opinions of it.

Being able to see a different point of view, to allow it to shape and mold our own views and develop a more considered and blended world view is a valuable tool. So few things in this world are as black and white as we would like them to be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Life would be boring if we all agreed on the same things.

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By *anny PepperoniMan
over a year ago

Matlock

Sometimes people have views that I don't just disagree with but find unacceptable, I wouldn't want to meet them. There are plenty of nice people who's views differ from my own who I would be quite happy to get to know better. There are also some who would put me off not by their opinion but by the manner in which they try to put it across.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes I do, but when it comes to only my opinion counts, not listening to yours, I think " oh well whatever lol

Her

By the way - do I owe you a pint?

You can buy me a pint of wine.

Her

Next time I find myself down Essex way, you're on. "

Ere! how comes i win the bet and she gets the reward, Has she got something i havnt ?

i'l but me own beer then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't discount people. But some do go onto my "dear God I hope I never meet you" list.

I have been known to block people based on their comments on the forum. "

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I thoroughly enjoy a good discussion with people who listen or read any counterargument and counter it with arguments of their own and I think it's a shame that one or two if the more controversial posters have gone for one reason it another. I would happily meet people like that if our views were different.

Neither if us want to meet bigots, racists or plain old rude people who just won't engage in equal debate.....why would we?

Agree, and it is worth noting that the very definition of democracy is to argue. "

No it isn't. see what I did there

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

This is just another branch in the swinging world. When you meet others face to face and at a club say , doubt very much that many of the topics brought up here are discussed! ( deff not in our experience! ) ... We enjoy the forums However, yes! Have blocked people who we know we would not want to meet, not just for their opinions, but the nasty attitude some have! Wouldnt tolerate it in the "real world" and can't imagin any chemistry with people like that at ! Plus, if honest am very surprised with just how much personal info people talk about on here.. Deff an eye opener for sure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes I do, but when it comes to only my opinion counts, not listening to yours, I think " oh well whatever lol

Her

By the way - do I owe you a pint?

You can buy me a pint of wine.

Her

Next time I find myself down Essex way, you're on.

Ere! how comes i win the bet and she gets the reward, Has she got something i havnt ?

i'l but me own beer then "

She snook her order in quicker than you!

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia


"Sometimes people have views that I don't just disagree with but find unacceptable, I wouldn't want to meet them. There are plenty of nice people who's views differ from my own who I would be quite happy to get to know better. There are also some who would put me off not by their opinion but by the manner in which they try to put it across. "
exactly this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think sometimes people may go a bit over the top to get there point accross and only their oppinion counts,which leads to arguements,we all have different views,that's the point of discussions,anybody that bit racial or something gets a note wrote on profile

I'm invisible meself say my bit,walk away,mite come back sometimes forget,I'm not in forums to get popular,I'm not argumentative in real life so I wouldnt bother here,if I say something I don't expect people to agree,we are all individuals at the end of the day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its not always the opinion that would put me off someone,although extreme differences on certain subjects would indicate there would be no chance of us getting on,its how those opinions are expressed,not accepting that other people are allowed to have one,shouting them down and becoming personal because they can't debate in a adult manner is what would put me off completely"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I thoroughly enjoy a good discussion with people who listen or read any counterargument and counter it with arguments of their own and I think it's a shame that one or two if the more controversial posters have gone for one reason it another. I would happily meet people like that if our views were different.

Neither if us want to meet bigots, racists or plain old rude people who just won't engage in equal debate.....why would we?

Agree, and it is worth noting that the very definition of democracy is to argue.

No it isn't. see what I did there "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I thoroughly enjoy a good discussion with people who listen or read any counterargument and counter it with arguments of their own and I think it's a shame that one or two if the more controversial posters have gone for one reason it another. I would happily meet people like that if our views were different.

Neither if us want to meet bigots, racists or plain old rude people who just won't engage in equal debate.....why would we?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes I do, but when it comes to only my opinion counts, not listening to yours, I think " oh well whatever lol

Her

By the way - do I owe you a pint?

You can buy me a pint of wine.

Her

Next time I find myself down Essex way, you're on.

Ere! how comes i win the bet and she gets the reward, Has she got something i havnt ?

i'l but me own beer then "
ok I rained on the parade lol...n your always trying to get your own beer lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there are some people on here i find interesting or funny even though i dont agree with everything they say.

then there are some that i just dont take to because of what they say and they are usualy the ones who are easily offended by other people having a mind of their own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its not always the opinion that would put me off someone,although extreme differences on certain subjects would indicate there would be no chance of us getting on,its how those opinions are expressed,not accepting that other people are allowed to have one,shouting them down and becoming personal because they can't debate in a adult manner is what would put me off completely"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The forums as i see it are where people can ask for advice on a topic, or voice an opinion on something.

My question to all for forumites is ' do you discount people purely on the opinions they express on here? '

My answer is no. I have a few friends in my other life where our opinions on some subjects differ greatly eg the public sector gravy train,politics religion and immigration..I still enjoy these peoples company however and we treat our debates like a game with no winners or losers as we appreciate that every one is entitled to their opinion. Does anyone else feel like me,that we are to quick to judge people purely on their opinion. After just because they dont agree with you does not make them a worse person"

Its easy to get form an opinion on someone if they act like an asshole on here or suck up and arse lick so I guess with some you do discount some people we do.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It would depend, and holders of some opinions would lead me to doubt sanity, intelligence and moral standing etc.

Overall, if someone is reasonably open minded, not a bigot and is a reasonable person, then they'll probably get the benefit of the doubt, and at least conversing would be of interest.

Most of my friends have similar values, but we disagree on some things, and that's healthy, as far as I'm concerned.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

people sometimes take whats said a wee bit too seriously on here sometimes and often take things the wrong way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The forums as i see it are where people can ask for advice on a topic, or voice an opinion on something.

My question to all for forumites is ' do you discount people purely on the opinions they express on here? '

My answer is no. I have a few friends in my other life where our opinions on some subjects differ greatly eg the public sector gravy train,politics religion and immigration..I still enjoy these peoples company however and we treat our debates like a game with no winners or losers as we appreciate that every one is entitled to their opinion. Does anyone else feel like me,that we are to quick to judge people purely on their opinion. After just because they dont agree with you does not make them a worse person"
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