FabSwingers.com forum: Pestered

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Does any other woman feel pestered on here to meet men.

I am fed up of the abuse i get just because i dont want to meet someone.

Most of the time i just let it slide, but when its constant, its a bit much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No not really to be honested I dont feel pestered (just a pest at times)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What is it you want ????

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

I've only once had a bit of abuse when I've turned someone down and it was simple to block the tosspot...change your filters maybe so that it's you doing the looking if you feel you're getting pestered. To be fair, it is a swinging site, one might assume people want to meet

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By *anny PepperoniMan
over a year ago

Matlock

I can't believe there are men on here looking to meet women for sex. Whatever next???

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By *nvercoupleCouple
over a year ago

Inverness

block single guys if it gets too much.

You can still look and contact them, if you mail them then they can get around your filters.

Problem solved

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they start bugging you, block em

if they rude and/or abusive report them

then block em

you don't owe anyone anything just cos you're here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"block single guys if it gets too much.

You can still look and contact them, if you mail them then they can get around your filters.

Problem solved

I'm not sure why more women don't do this. Each to their own I guess but I think I'd prefer to go looking rather than wade through a pile of people who I thought were unsuitable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think that the population of this site is typical and representative of people in the UK. I have been horrified, seriously at the readiness of people to resort to abuse when they don't get what they want. The number of seriously damaged people on here must be well above the national average, hence the reduced tolerance of rejection. I try to just block and report but sometimes it hurts a bit to be called a fat old slag etc for saying no thanks. I think possibly my days here are numbered xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does any other woman feel pestered on here to meet men.

I am fed up of the abuse i get just because i dont want to meet someone.

Most of the time i just let it slide, but when its constant, its a bit much

Yes just this morning I got a load of abuse just because I would drop all my days plans to meet a guy who didn't even fit what I'm looking for. Seems mentality of some men is that us women must shag them, must not have preferences etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"block single guys if it gets too much.

You can still look and contact them, if you mail them then they can get around your filters.

Problem solved

Sound advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

seems the site is full of gods gifts - bleurgh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunatly some get bitter at a knock back, one minute the most beautiful girl in the world.

Next the knock back, and your a fat slag, strange

Your online, block them, I'm sure you wouldn't put up with it if it was face to face, and I'm sure they wouldn't call you things either.

If they were like that sod em.

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just block all and find your own guys.

Hassle over.

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

"block single guys if it gets too much.

You can still look and contact them, if you mail them then they can get around your filters.

Problem solved

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

block all guys and do the searching yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"block single guys if it gets too much.

You can still look and contact them, if you mail them then they can get around your filters.

Problem solved

I'm not sure why more women don't do this. Each to their own I guess but I think I'd prefer to go looking rather than wade through a pile of people who I thought were unsuitable."

Very sensible and far more successful way to find people, if indeed you are here to find people.

You have an inbox that's manageable, you know who the people are because you contacted them and genuinely guys are pleased to be contacted, mostly anyway.

You don't have people begging for meets anymore or a massively full inbox so perhaps that explains the reticence.

Oh as well a having to make an effort and risk rejection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I must be one of the lucky ones as I've only had a few stroppy messages in all the time I've been on here....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never been pestered. I wouldn't let somebody do that to me. If someone says something I don't like I block them. Why would you continue chatting to them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes I'm ashamed of my gender

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I'm going to have to start blocking single women soon...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are completely different, its usually miss Decca, pestering big cock men for meets lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sometimes I'm ashamed of my gender

Don't be the overwhelming majority are not anything like what's described honestly. My experience personally is rude people are rude people, it's not gender specific.

I honestly think sometimes folks get a bit carried away when they describe the amount of hassle they get very publically.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just block all and find your own guys.

Hassle over.

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

"I've only once had a bit of abuse when I've turned someone down and it was simple to block the tosspot...change your filters maybe so that it's you doing the looking if you feel you're getting pestered. To be fair, it is a swinging site, one might assume people want to meet

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By *utumnWoman
over a year ago

leeds

"I've never been pestered. I wouldn't let somebody do that to me. If someone says something I don't like I block them. Why would you continue chatting to them?"

What she says!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

find it a bit creepy when some men keep messaging me when i have said they arent my type also when i havnt answered their messages they still keep sending them. i have got message filters on now and do block some people.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"I've never been pestered. I wouldn't let somebody do that to me. If someone says something I don't like I block them. Why would you continue chatting to them?"

drama......... and they love it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont feel pestered here.. I mistake this place for sahara desert lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think I'm going to have to start blocking single women soon..."

my restraining order mentions no 'blocking'

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

"I think I'm going to have to start blocking single women soon..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think I'm going to have to start blocking single women soon..."

Haha take that singletons. He's all mine now. lol.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"Does any other woman feel pestered on here to meet men.

I am fed up of the abuse i get just because i dont want to meet someone.

Most of the time i just let it slide, but when its constant, its a bit much

No....

We use the single male filter and search ourselves. No drama and no hassle!

Not that we get pestered or abuse when we occasionally remove it.

If you feel someone is pestering you, block them. Why would you let it slide or put up with it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Use your filters and do the searching yourself... Stops all unwanted attention

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've never been pestered. I wouldn't let somebody do that to me. If someone says something I don't like I block them. Why would you continue chatting to them?

drama......... and they love it

It seems that way!

I don't know why people moan about mail, just go looking instead of waiting like a sitting duck. I've never had abuse and I reply to every initial mail. Guys are polite.... if you are polite to them.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"Does any other woman feel pestered on here to meet men.

I am fed up of the abuse i get just because i dont want to meet someone.

Most of the time i just let it slide, but when its constant, its a bit much

I'm off work at the mo and have had a few thinking I can/will meet them because of it. No, mate, a) I am busy getting things done I can't normally do when at work b) you fit none of my preferences c) a 'what time you wanna meet' message is likely to just get you blocked when I have no clue who you are and we have never spoken before.

Easy enough to deal with them. Block, move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What everyone else has said...filters and blocks work wonders

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"I've never been pestered. I wouldn't let somebody do that to me. If someone says something I don't like I block them. Why would you continue chatting to them?

drama......... and they love it

It seems that way!

I don't know why people moan about mail, just go looking instead of waiting like a sitting duck. I've never had abuse and I reply to every initial mail. Guys are polite.... if you are polite to them. "

No they are not - not all of them. I always respond politely but have had the abuse. Luckily I have a thick skin to complement their thick heads and just block with a smile.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sometimes I'm ashamed of my gender

Don't be the overwhelming majority are not anything like what's described honestly. My experience personally is rude people are rude people, it's not gender specific.

I honestly think sometimes folks get a bit carried away when they describe the amount of hassle they get very publically."

It was a question re abusive behaviour because I said no, don't assume to know I was getting carried away. I was under the impression the forums where public

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you for all the positive feedback re the filters. Noted

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

Really? No..I never feel pestered, although some may take a while to get the hint, blocking after a no usually gets the message across .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've never been pestered. I wouldn't let somebody do that to me. If someone says something I don't like I block them. Why would you continue chatting to them?

drama......... and they love it

It seems that way!

I don't know why people moan about mail, just go looking instead of waiting like a sitting duck. I've never had abuse and I reply to every initial mail. Guys are polite.... if you are polite to them.

No they are not - not all of them. I always respond politely but have had the abuse. Luckily I have a thick skin to complement their thick heads and just block with a smile."

Thick heads!

Little heads more like....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've only had abuse once.

I am not saying you deserve it because you don't and those men shouldn't treat you like that. But you shouldn't be getting constant abuse so maybe either say no thanks and block or think about your profile and how you say no thanks.

We lie all the time when saying no thanks to spare people's feelings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No does actually mean no weather your polite or rude it still means no and getting arsey about about being told no thanks isnt going too all of a sudden change my mind

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

That's a shame op, although I can't speak from a woman's perspective I honestly believe that everyone should be able to enjoy this site without having to be open to abusive messages. If you are, then maybe hide your profile for a while

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get pestered round the clock so your not the only one. I often get abuse when I won't meet someone even when I politely decline. I hide my profile until I feel less pissed off about it then return. I just tell them to fuck off most of the time now though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get pestered round the clock so your not the only one. I often get abuse when I won't meet someone even when I politely decline. I hide my profile until I feel less pissed off about it then return. I just tell them to fuck off most of the time now though.

Lol least I didn't get a "fuck off"

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Fuck Off Mr Nuts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fuck Off Mr Nuts

Twat!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can't believe there are men on here looking to meet women for sex. Whatever next??? "

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By *imply_SensualMan
over a year ago

warrington

Yes it is a swinging site and yes people want to meet - but, to be fair, should that mean people should just meet anyone? People (some) will have standards and preferences and stick by them. That doesn't justify being pestered for a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Unfortunatly some get bitter at a knock back, one minute the most beautiful girl in the world.

Next the knock back, and your a fat slag, strange

It was the same when i was at school though.

"lend us, give us a go on/with your new eraser, pencil, protractor, book, bicycle, moped mate"

"no".

"You fucking bastard/tosser/wanker"

Nothing new there then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"seems the site is full of gods gifts - bleurgh"

Men?

Or women?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think I'm going to have to start blocking single women soon..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Saw the subject and wondered for a moment if this was a discussion about a new "Lost" style TV show

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sometimes I'm ashamed of my gender

Don't be the overwhelming majority are not anything like what's described honestly. My experience personally is rude people are rude people, it's not gender specific.

I honestly think sometimes folks get a bit carried away when they describe the amount of hassle they get very publically."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Unfortunatly some get bitter at a knock back, one minute the most beautiful girl in the world.

Next the knock back, and your a fat slag, strange

It was the same when i was at school though.

"lend us, give us a go on/with your new eraser, pencil, protractor, book, bicycle, moped mate"

"no".

"You fucking bastard/tosser/wanker"

Nothing new there then"

So true!!!!

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