FabSwingers.com forum: first meet nerves

By *iamondsmiles. OP Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

How bad are yours. I get worse the older I get

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We rarely get them but did meet a couple last month who got them really bad so we made it a social and just enjoyed their company. I would say nobody is immune to them though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah real nervous sometimes. Depending on how I rate the meters!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many wees needed ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We get them pre-meet but once we're together and getting on well they're soon forgotten

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mr D, calmness personified.

Me, shaking, saying over and over what im afraid of, feeling sick, needing a drink.

I do my husbands head in as when we then meet it all disappears and I morph into dirty girl.

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By *leasures4Couple
over a year ago

East midlands

Meeting couples I don't get nervous but I do with single men. I don't know why

Fem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest don't think id like to lose that nervy first meet feeling ..adds to it

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By *iamondsmiles. OP Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Mr D, calmness personified.

Me, shaking, saying over and over what im afraid of, feeling sick, needing a drink.

I do my husbands head in as when we then meet it all disappears and I morph into dirty girl."
mine disappear as soon as I open the door but I'm terrible before hand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always nervous but excited too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm quite bad , I get really cold hands and feet, shaky, feel sick and get period type pain ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to pretend to myself I'm not by breathing deeply and acting calmly. However like a swan gliding down a river I'm paddling like crazy underneath. I like socials as it helps alleviate the nerves a bit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm quite bad , I get really cold hands and feet, shaky, feel sick and get period type pain ....

Oh yes, forgot the stomach cramps!

They're worse if it's just me and a guy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you just beat me to that remark, am reasonable newly, but was very nervous.. and will be again, but what if we weren't wouldn't that make us to experienced and dare i say it.. uninterested...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only time i get nervous is when the Chloroform starts to wear off early

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The journey can be nerve wracking but I am fine once the greetings are over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

once you stop getting nervous its time to think of something else to do as this is becoming to normal.

we always get nervous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i tend to need the ladies before hand.. but after 5 mins once with a guy im cool

in those 5 mins i avoid eye contact, twitch, fidgit, wont sit down..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always talk to much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mr D, calmness personified.

Me, shaking, saying over and over what im afraid of, feeling sick, needing a drink.

I do my husbands head in as when we then meet it all disappears and I morph into dirty girl."

Exactly the same here ...

I never get nervous and am teetotal .

My wife is a nervous wreck till we arrive , and then turns into a proper naughty girl !

She calls it the zone , and when she is in that zone she has no nerves or inhibitions

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By *leasures4Couple
over a year ago

East midlands

"I always talk to much

Same here...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I talk too much or giggle like a school girl ( not a good look at all ) but once into it I love it and the nerves go away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm quite bad , I get really cold hands and feet, shaky, feel sick and get period type pain ....

Oh yes, forgot the stomach cramps!

They're worse if it's just me and a guy.

Glad it's not just me ... Thought I was weird lol

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By *all-Eddies QosCouple
over a year ago

wirral

I make myself ill stressing to the point where my ibs kicks off.

Need to give me head a wobble

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The worst was a guy I met in Jan. He's not a swinger so random pre-arranged sex was a very alien concept for him. Random sex with a married woman whose husband you're about to meet must have been frankly terrifying. I however was a mess for literally days beforehand. When we met it didn't immediately get better as he was clearly as bad as me. Even my husbands parting shot of 'have fun kids' didn't break the tension.

For a while in that hotel room we managed to create our own vibrating bed, just from shaking.

We got over it eventually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to get nervous on first meets, after chatting a while i'm totally fine when meeting someone for first time...

shame really, as being nervous adds to the excitement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I make myself ill stressing to the point where my ibs kicks off.

Need to give me head a wobble"

Doed wobbling your head work? I might give it a try

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm quite bad , I get really cold hands and feet, shaky, feel sick and get period type pain ....

Oh yes, forgot the stomach cramps!

They're worse if it's just me and a guy.

Glad it's not just me ... Thought I was weird lol"

It doesnt mean your not tho

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

Being even clumsier than normal (and that takes some doing!) and talking too much interspersed with clamming up seem to be my main symptoms so far but I then tend to laugh at myself for being like that. Still pretty much a novice though so don't know if I'll get less nervous. I think not, but who knows?

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By *irtydanMan
over a year ago

Blackpool

i never get any meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's worse for women than men .... Men have bigger balls and egos

!!xx

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

i love the anticipation

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By *my-blackTV/TS
over a year ago

Poole

"The worst was a guy I met in Jan. He's not a swinger so random pre-arranged sex was a very alien concept for him. Random sex with a married woman whose husband you're about to meet must have been frankly terrifying. I however was a mess for literally days beforehand. When we met it didn't immediately get better as he was clearly as bad as me. Even my husbands parting shot of 'have fun kids' didn't break the tension.

For a while in that hotel room we managed to create our own vibrating bed, just from shaking.

We got over it eventually."

thankyou. that really made me chuckle.

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By *an and wifeyCouple
over a year ago

n lincs

We're ok until any chance of fun then my arse falls out lol and my balls shoot up into my throat that's when the nerves hit me. And we try not to drink on meets as we have met the odd couple that make a bit of a cock of themselves under the influence and we would rather not follow suit so nerves and sober ha ha

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By *ickedxxxCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

For us it's a nervous excitement which can be a great feeling x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im a complete pain in the arse with them,they go the second I see the guy and the cool calm confidence is back again and then its me that has to settle everyone elses nerves

I wouldn't have it any other way though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get terribly nervous. I don't feel so bad knowing that most people get nervous. I used to think everyone was so cool and calm.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get very nervous I can't sleep the night before

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont have time to get them just grateful for a meet

no seriously always get them even second time too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm just myself and smile, after all were all people and human

Her

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

"To be honest don't think id like to lose that nervy first meet feeling ..adds to it "

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"How bad are yours. I get worse the older I get

I always get nervous before a meet even if we have met before.

How bad and when I start, depends on the type of meet and who it is. Can vary from butterflies to a herd of elephants.

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By *aul.J.JMan
over a year ago

Sedgley

I get really nervous. ...I have a couple of drinks and try and chill.. then when I first meet I try and be funny to break the ice......

bit outta practice though.....it's been a long time....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is a great thread because until now I thought I was the only one that felt this way.

I get really nervous and most times my nerves get so bad I dont even get as far as arranging some meets.

That said, for those who I have met have been so patient and nice with me it makes my anxiety be totally misplaced. I think this says more for the nice ppl I have met more than me though - so a big thank you to them!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is a great thread because until now I thought I was the only one that felt this way.

I get really nervous and most times my nerves get so bad I dont even get as far as arranging some meets.

Don't let it stop you, you see that post about the guy I met in Jan nerves really can't get any worse but nothing would have stopped me and despite the sheer terror before and even during we met again a month later. He is still very nervous but we're getting there and we're meeting again next month, I guarantee I will be very anxious. The fear is SO worth it because the resulting experience far outweighs the jitters/screaming night terrors/cold sweats and upset stomachs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How bad are yours. I get worse the older I get

I always get nervous before a meet even if we have met before.

How bad and when I start, depends on the type of meet and who it is. Can vary from butterflies to a herd of elephants.

I get the herds of elephants as well

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By *all-Eddies QosCouple
over a year ago

wirral

"I make myself ill stressing to the point where my ibs kicks off.

Need to give me head a wobble

Doed wobbling your head work? I might give it a try

Nope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love the nervous feeling of meeting someone new. For me it's all part of it. The day I stop feeling nervous I'll think it's time to stop.

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

I get nervous if hes handsome and I worry he wont want to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Meeting couples I don't get nervous but I do with single men. I don't know why

Fem

I'm exactly the same now... Although as long as it's a meet together I'm okayish..

Meeting a single guy I find nerve wracking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is a great thread because until now I thought I was the only one that felt this way.

I get really nervous and most times my nerves get so bad I dont even get as far as arranging some meets.

Thanks for this encouragement - I will definitely not give up now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get nervous but relax quite quickly once in their company.

If I didn't get nervous I'd probably not do it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is a great thread because until now I thought I was the only one that felt this way.

I get really nervous and most times my nerves get so bad I dont even get as far as arranging some meets.

Thanks for this encouragement - I will definitely not give up now.

Best of luck, you should come back and read these threads if it seems to get too much on the nerves front. I find words of encouragement really helpful to return to when I'm struggling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't get nervous,I get excited

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just imagine them naked.

And then get them naked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is a great thread because until now I thought I was the only one that felt this way.

I get really nervous and most times my nerves get so bad I dont even get as far as arranging some meets.

Thanks for this encouragement - I will definitely not give up now.

Best of luck, you should come back and read these threads if it seems to get too much on the nerves front. I find words of encouragement really helpful to return to when I'm struggling.

I am a regular contributor to the Forum now and I totally agree with you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just imagine them naked.

And then get them naked.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I need a first meet

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"I need a first meet

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Well bloomin well get one then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I need a first meet

Well bloomin well get one then

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"I need a first meet

Well bloomin well get one then

Yes mum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How bad are yours. I get worse the older I get

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I'll tell you when i've had my first meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont get them. Either things 'click' or they don't. They are less likely to if you're nervous as hell.

The thing that puts stress into the situation in applying a sense of expectation or pressure to 'succeed' to proceedings.

So I don't get nervous because I have no expectations - other than a coffee / pint and a chat.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"How bad are yours. I get worse the older I get

I'll tell you when i've had my first meet

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You haven't had a meet yet, that's bloody disgraceful...Ladies you are letting the side down!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How bad are yours. I get worse the older I get

I'll tell you when i've had my first meet

You haven't had a meet yet, that's bloody disgraceful...Ladies you are letting the side down!

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Thanks, i'm flattered

Though in all honesty i've only recently started to be active ... Started this account ages ago, but never really frequently used until about a month ago

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