FabSwingers.com forum: can i ask a question?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ive been speaking to a guy and weve been getting on quite well and have agreed to go on a date which is all fine and well. However he has told me he wants me to be a size 14 as thats what he likes and cant seem to grasp the fact i want to change my body for the better and slim down and get fitter and sees this as a relationship breaker as in his eyes a size 12 is too skinny and women this size have no curves yet i have plenty curves. So i ask would a guy be put off a girl who wants to get in shape and be healthier?

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

do it for you, not a man

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Nope

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

and I would be put off by someone who doesn't do things for herself.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Sorry but if he's started on wanting to change you before you've even been on a date what's he going to be like afterwards?

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Tell him to sod right off your body your life so his problem

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By *rymeplsMan
over a year ago

manchester

You look fine to me

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Ive been speaking to a guy and weve been getting on quite well and have agreed to go on a date which is all fine and well. However he has told me he wants me to be a size 14 as thats what he likes and cant seem to grasp the fact i want to change my body for the better and slim down and get fitter and sees this as a relationship breaker as in his eyes a size 12 is too skinny and women this size have no curves yet i have plenty curves. So i ask would a guy be put off a girl who wants to get in shape and be healthier?"

Some would, the keepers wouldn't.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"Sorry but if he's started on wanting to change you before you've even been on a date what's he going to be like afterwards?

To true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Massive respect for anyone, regardless of their size who wants to improve their fitness and health. You go for it girl, all the best to you on the journey.

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By *erseysideridersCouple
over a year ago

wallasey

do wot feels grt for u hun ,,,ur body not his gud luk

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By *pplecrunchWoman
over a year ago

Yeovil

Controlling already. No thank you walk away now.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Tell him to jog the fuck on....change for yourself and for no man, woman or beast...I've been told I'd look great if I was a size 16....I probably would be but I ain't and I've not got enough time to give a shit...about what others think I should be to suit them....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dump him, he is not worth it, being healthy is more important than him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jeez, stay away. That's control he's trying to exert and you're not even an item. Guy did it with me once but I saw the problems coming so I buggered off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're meeting him for supposedly nsa fun so what has it got to do with him if you want to change you ~ absolutely nothing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Alarm bells should be ringing very loudly. He is obviously a serious control freak if he is saying things like that before a first date

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol id say crack on but dont expect me to do same. Na lets work on ur physical exercise...

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

dont worry about your size .. just be you .. have fun if it works out .. if he doesnt like you how you are . i bet there are plenty of men out there that do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry but if he's started on wanting to change you before you've even been on a date what's he going to be like afterwards?

The guy sounds a total dick. Listen to the warning signs and don't get involved would be my advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id be more put off by a guy like you have described,he sounds like a barrel of laughs control freak

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Just go on the date. There's bound to be cake xx

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"Just go on the date. There's bound to be cake xx

Pmsl theres some quick wits on here cracker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

controle freek

.walk away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Controlling already. No thank you walk away now. "

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

you say you are slim, you look slim in your profile pic, why would you need to diet, you don't look over a size 14

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"the keepers wouldn't. "

this. If he fancies you then he wouldn't want you to change.

I kind of agree with him, though, but it's your body

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Walk away now - infact run !

It's a win,win. You get fit and the nutcase leaves you alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You should never let anyone tell you how to be or look after you have net them let alone before..... Be how you feel comfortable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuck. That. Shit.

Tell him you'll do it when he grows a footlong dick for you and fucks himself.

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By *exyfuntimes2Couple
over a year ago

Dublin/Carlow

Nobody should dictate another persons shape.You are a person, not a possession. I'd give him the bullet immediately. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

all of the above!!! tell him to take a running jump!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fuck. That. Shit.

Tell him you'll do it when he grows a footlong dick for you and fucks himself. "

lol that's made my night! Dress sizes are so irrelevant in my opinion, why some guys say no women over a size whatever I'll never know. Do what you want for you, not other people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

every one is different to you to remember that, like and dislikes are just a part of that. If some say you have to over a size 14 then I say there not worth the time of day. You can have curves 12 and strait up and down 16. I like people for differing reasons but I say I do love a lady with curves.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Always reminds me of Silence of the Lambs.

He wanted size fourteens.

More skin to make his costume from.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Diet and just shop in designer shops

Their sizes are always 2 smaller than what it says on the label anyway

so diet to a real 10 and u will be a designer 14

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do things for me for myself... Never for anyone else.. Do want you want you want to do, and if he doesn't like it

Then tough luck on him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seriously?! Alarm bells would be ringing for me! (Control freak!) No no no, see ya later mr control freak! I am sub in the bedroom only! X

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By *tuartb1970Man
over a year ago

tunbridge wells

He sounds like a control freak ,no. One has any right to tell you what size you should be

You go for what you want and are happy with

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

Eeeks! Well anyone who told me I had to be whatever , to fit into their perfect notch , would be in for a mighty big shock! As i aint one to mince my words and in this case he would end up being told about himself... And some... As others have said , warning bells would have me off in the other direction quick time! If he like this now , before ya even met ... Jeeeeese WTF!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you for the replies everyone, you have all confirmed what i was thinking. I told him that any sort of relationship between us would be a bad idea as i deserve better than a guy who doesnt like me for me no matter what size i am.

xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile says you are slim ? What?

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Fuck. That. Shit.

Tell him you'll do it when he grows a footlong dick for you and fucks himself. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Controlling already. No thank you walk away now.

Fully agree doesn't bode well cut ur losses not worth it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Your profile says you are slim ? What? "

Im a size 12, to me thats ideal for me at least x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank you for the replies everyone, you have all confirmed what i was thinking. I told him that any sort of relationship between us would be a bad idea as i deserve better than a guy who doesnt like me for me no matter what size i am.

xxx"

Good girl, never do it I spent 17 years trying to be thin enough, I'm still suffering from the scars

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

Don't go there,,,change for yourself, not some randomer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell him to fuck right off !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is this for a swinging meet or an actual vanille date?

Either way it would be a feck off from me!!

How dare a Guy should ask you lose/gain weight for him.

Run....run for the hills woman!!

Auds x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He sounds like a control freak, do what you want not not what he wants

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh sod that!!

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By *issyfaggotfayeTV/TS
over a year ago

Bolton

"do it for you, not a man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your profile says you are slim ? What?

Im a size 12, to me thats ideal for me at least x"

So he wants you to gain weight ??

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Your profile says you are slim ? What?

Im a size 12, to me thats ideal for me at least x

So he wants you to gain weight ??"

Yes he said id be better as a 14/16 as i wouldnt be a skeleton... xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your profile says you are slim ? What?

Im a size 12, to me thats ideal for me at least x

So he wants you to gain weight ??

Yes he said id be better as a 14/16 as i wouldnt be a skeleton... xx"

Pmsl tell him you would rather he have a bigger cock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your profile says you are slim ? What?

Im a size 12, to me thats ideal for me at least x

So he wants you to gain weight ??

Yes he said id be better as a 14/16 as i wouldnt be a skeleton... xx

Pmsl tell him you would rather he have a bigger cock"

the perfect comeback, think there's no topping that.

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

He sounded a right charmer and you are wise to stay clear!

I've had similar on here but was to loose weight. Apparently I'd be a stunner if I lost weight . That was deal breaker for me as im very upfrount im no gym bunny ,and needless to say they were cut dead. I have no issues with people's preferences but if you don't like a certain thing weight, height ,build etc then just don't message people in those categories.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seriously get him to fuck!! You are who you are and if he can't accept it then he's no the one.

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By *oulou45Woman
over a year ago

Bucks

"Sorry but if he's started on wanting to change you before you've even been on a date what's he going to be like afterwards?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your profile says you are slim ? What?

Im a size 12, to me thats ideal for me at least x

So he wants you to gain weight ??

Yes he said id be better as a 14/16 as i wouldnt be a skeleton... xx

Pmsl tell him you would rather he have a bigger cock

the perfect comeback, think there's no topping that. "

Happy to help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your profile says you are slim ? What?

Im a size 12, to me thats ideal for me at least x

So he wants you to gain weight ??

Yes he said id be better as a 14/16 as i wouldnt be a skeleton... xx

Pmsl tell him you would rather he have a bigger cock

the perfect comeback, think there's no topping that.

Happy to help

If someone said that to me id cry lol. So tell him haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you have your answer

50/60 people in here reaching a common consensus is a pretty rare situation.

Only you can make the final choice, but please listen to opinion on this one before you make it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry but if he's started on wanting to change you before you've even been on a date what's he going to be like afterwards?

To true

Never do anything because someone else wants you to. Do what you want, when you want, how you want. Your body your life. Do what makes you happy never someone else.

Kick him to the kerb, there are a few of us nice ones out there, he's not one of them. Good luck x

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By *oom18Couple
over a year ago

Rotherham

He should accept you as you are or want to be, sounds like a control freak to me !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course you could always send him round my place with that cake! If he is having a problem with you at a beautiful size 12, he might start crying with me! I am a size 6!!!! And I am not changing one skinny cell on my scrawny body for anyone!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds a little scary that he has a size fixation. We all have a preference but this sounds like something altogether different

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"Of course you could always send him round my place with that cake! If he is having a problem with you at a beautiful size 12, he might start crying with me! I am a size 6!!!! And I am not changing one skinny cell on my scrawny body for anyone!

6 wow

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"do it for you, not a man

^This

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

This would be a deal breaker for me. He's wanting the opposite of what you want, and that's not the right foundation for a secure longer term relationship.

He's already playing his get out of jail free card, by dealing this up front, so it sounds like a massive shout that's just saying 'Keep Away'.

Only you can decide. We're not putty to be shaped according to others, we have one life and need to live it for ourselves. Those that fit us well will cherish our inner qualities, and love our bodies as we want them to be.

I think you are too good to waste your time with him.

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By *unseeker34Couple
over a year ago

Newcastle

Control freak.......walk away! I lost weight from stress caused by the very man who called me skinny/scrawny because of it! xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You shouldn't have to change for any man hun and be proud of who you are. Do things for you no one else x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If he don't like the way you are....do I need to say more lol

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

6 wow

Yep!! I have always been very petite but I accept some guys like that and some dont. Doesnt bother me in the slightest but if anyone tried to change me..they have no hope. The only exception I would make is from my mum or anyone else who I knew loved and cared for me very much and it was on health grounds alone. But some random bloke???? No chance!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

xxx"

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

6 wow

I like I like

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

Run as fast as you can. He sounds like a control freak. You haven't even had a fist date and he is telling you what you should do with your body? Next he will be telling you what to wear, If and when you can see your friends etc.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I dont need someone like that in my life, im an independent young woman and i like it that way x

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