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Emotional maturity?

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By *risky_Mare OP   Woman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

What do you think it is and have you got it??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totes emosh totes immature

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

Not taking the piss out of people who wear comfy shoes out of a workplace.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts


"Not taking the piss out of people who wear comfy shoes out of a workplace. "

On a dress down day in a previous job I went home and put my carpet slippers on and then wore them to work. For some reason my gaffer went ballistic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not taking the piss out of people who wear comfy shoes out of a workplace. "

I wear comfy shoes to travel to meets then change into heels in the lift

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I think it's accepting that not everyone will like you, that everyone has a right to a different opinion to yours and having a different opinion is not a personal slight, sex does not equal love and it is easier to be kind than it is to be unkind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not taking the piss out of people who wear comfy shoes out of a workplace.

I wear comfy shoes to travel to meets then change into heels in the lift "

Cor blimey. They must be rich if they got lifts in their houses. I've been searching the wrong part of London.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's about being able to understand your own emotions, to recognise, control, nurture and accept them.

True emotional maturity for me came then I could also learn to recognise the emotions of others and how my actions effected and influenced them.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"It's about being able to understand your own emotions, to recognise, control, nurture and accept them.

True emotional maturity for me came then I could also learn to recognise the emotions of others and how my actions effected and influenced them."

yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's about being able to understand your own emotions, to recognise, control, nurture and accept them.

True emotional maturity for me came then I could also learn to recognise the emotions of others and how my actions effected and influenced them."

I agree. In addition it is about understanding how repressed emotions distort behaviour and being self aware enough to recognise when it happens and having strategies to deal with the repressed emotions.

There is also the comptence to transform base emotions into higher order emotions through sublimation or other such processes.

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By *ScotsmanMan
over a year ago

ayrshire

heavy man. . milky milky x X X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it's accepting that not everyone will like you, that everyone has a right to a different opinion to yours and having a different opinion is not a personal slight, sex does not equal love and it is easier to be kind than it is to be unkind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"heavy man. . milky milky x X X"

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By *risky_Mare OP   Woman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"

There is also the comptence to transform base emotions into higher order emotions through sublimation or other such processes."

Can you give us an example?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Turning fear into ecstacy.

Anger into love.

Meditative practice enables the transformation of the energy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me the ability to be reflective plays a big part in emotional maturity. If you can't reflect on how your actions affect and impact yourself and others you are destined to be stuck in perpetuity.

I can't promise I'll never be an immature or insensitive dick at times (and nor can most people) but I can try to keep improving and be a dick less often.

I'm only 40 but I think I'm getting there.

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By *risky_Mare OP   Woman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"For me the ability to be reflective plays a big part in emotional maturity. If you can't reflect on how your actions affect and impact yourself and others you are destined to be stuck in perpetuity.

"

Yes, good one - being able to take a step back and observe yourself. An emotional selfie!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's about being able to understand your own emotions, to recognise, control, nurture and accept them.

True emotional maturity for me came then I could also learn to recognise the emotions of others and how my actions effected and influenced them."

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me the ability to be reflective plays a big part in emotional maturity. If you can't reflect on how your actions affect and impact yourself and others you are destined to be stuck in perpetuity.

I can't promise I'll never be an immature or insensitive dick at times (and nor can most people) but I can try to keep improving and be a dick less often.

I'm only 40 but I think I'm getting there.

"

and this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me the ability to be reflective plays a big part in emotional maturity. If you can't reflect on how your actions affect and impact yourself and others you are destined to be stuck in perpetuity.

I can't promise I'll never be an immature or insensitive dick at times (and nor can most people) but I can try to keep improving and be a dick less often.

I'm only 40 but I think I'm getting there.

and this! "

except the bit about being 40, that would be an outright lie!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me the ability to be reflective plays a big part in emotional maturity. If you can't reflect on how your actions affect and impact yourself and others you are destined to be stuck in perpetuity.

I can't promise I'll never be an immature or insensitive dick at times (and nor can most people) but I can try to keep improving and be a dick less often.

I'm only 40 but I think I'm getting there.

and this!

except the bit about being 40, that would be an outright lie! "

Lol, cheeky bugger.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"What do you think it is and have you got it??"

I think I have. I call it emotional intelligence. It means I don't mind much when things go wrong, I can walk away from a sexual situation without getting inappropriate emotions, it means I don't get stressy when I don't get meets, it means I'm open mind and selfaware about myself and it means I have a good time on Fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Frankly I agree with what people have posted in here as to what emotional maturity or intelligence is. I think it is a quality that is being recognised as very important in all areas of life. Interestingly EQ, Emotional Quotient or EI, Emotional Intelligence are now being recognised as the best indicators of future in job performance by recruiters.

The other stuff I've put in my earlier posts maybe can be seen as forms of emotional mastery that come through personal development and transformation usually under guidance from therapists or spiritual guides.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it's accepting that not everyone will like you, that everyone has a right to a different opinion to yours and having a different opinion is not a personal slight, sex does not equal love and it is easier to be kind than it is to be unkind.

"

I like the sound of that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am terribly immature.

(makes farting noise with hand in armpit)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am terribly immature.

(makes farting noise with hand in armpit)

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By *risky_Mare OP   Woman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Here's a good definition of emotiona intelligence, which I would call maturity:

emotional intelligence

noun

1.

the capacity to be aware of, control, and express one's emotions, and to handle interpersonal relationships judiciously and empathetically.

"emotional intelligence is the key to both personal and professional success"

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