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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Isn't it better to tell someone look you seem nice but am not interested

Or should you read and ignore the message?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

depends on how many messages you get lol...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"depends on how many messages you get lol... "

Say you've spoken. Back and forth. A few times. Or just a first message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Isn't it better to tell someone look you seem nice but am not interested

Or should you read and ignore the message? "

Just block the , it's much fairer and works both ways

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

sorry .. your not for me .. good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Them

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

I think it's better to just do whatever you feel like doing at the time.

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By *romageFraiseWoman
over a year ago

London

I delete msg when its clear they haven't read my profile or its a generic msg

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it's better to just do whatever you feel like doing at the time."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Isn't it better to tell someone look you seem nice but am not interested

Or should you read and ignore the message?

Just block the , it's much fairer and works both ways "
I think just blocking someone Is hash.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block is the easiest way and saves any further awkward conversation

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Block is the easiest way and saves any further awkward conversation "

Fair enough. Sure I if they bring mean then you should ignore or block them.

I mean genuine ppl with respect that your just not interested in.

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

if I get messages like I wanna lick your cunt block block block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Block is the easiest way and saves any further awkward conversation

Fair enough. Sure I if they bring mean then you should ignore or block them.

I mean genuine ppl with respect that your just not interested in. "

A block is not a rude thing it's just a way of filtering people we are not interested in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be polite and say they're not for you,most people appreciate the honesty and are adult enough to know we won't appeal to everyone

But then again some take rejection very badly in which case the block button comes in handy

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

If it were true yes, if its not no. I can't be doin sugaring the pill.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"Block is the easiest way and saves any further awkward conversation "

I don't do awkward conversations, it's better to have a laugh and hopefully they will get the message

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just be polite and say they're not for you,most people appreciate the honesty and are adult enough to know we won't appeal to everyone

But then again some take rejection very badly in which case the block button comes in handy "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tell them but I hate it.

I say on my profile to block me if you don't fancy us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends how and what they ask for, but usually tell them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Isn't it better to tell someone look you seem nice but am not interested

Or should you read and ignore the message? "

If they messages asking for a meet just say sorry, not interested. I have a few locals that are not what I'm looking for but just chat now and again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd prefer to be told. I have been in the past and it has not been an issue.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

You should do what suits you best and let others do the same.

You may not understand why someone does something but that doesn't mean they don't have a reason or that what they do is unreasonable or wrong. Nobody has any responsibility to justify how they manage their time here and their account.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"depends on how many messages you get lol...

Say you've spoken. Back and forth. A few times. Or just a first message "

If you've spoken to them a few times & you know they're keen then I would say something

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You should do what suits you best and let others do the same.

You may not understand why someone does something but that doesn't mean they don't have a reason or that what they do is unreasonable or wrong. Nobody has any responsibility to justify how they manage their time here and their account."

Simply asking opinions

NO ONE IS TRYING TO JUSTIFY. How anyone manages their profile gosh lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Isn't it better to tell someone look you seem nice but am not interested

Or should you read and ignore the message? "

If I wasn't interested like that, I would tell them straight away and I have done.

I would expect anyone else to tell me straight away too.

It just saves aggro and time with ping-pong messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they have made an effort, I.e. not "Hi how r u" then we tell them what we think, politely. No effort = no reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

always reply to someone that has sent you a message if they put effort into it. its the polite thing to do

I talk to people as though they were right in front of me.. you never know if you really going to meet them or not one day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I either upfront about it or delete. it does say i will delete messages if i am not interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A simple 'sorry no thanks' takes a second

D (f ) . .

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By *eno_2004Man
over a year ago

Bishops Stortford

Manners cost nothing unfortunately though some people just take it personally which doesn't stop me always being polite then blocking where needed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok question for those of you that say manners cost nothing.

If you get a message that says love your pics you look great want to chat , you reply with ah but you haven't read my profile ( your profile is hidden with only a couple of pics up). They reply with I've read your veris though what would you do.

Bearing in mind hypothetical but in a roundabout way some of what I have had would you still reply with a thanks but no thanks because to me they are the ones that are being not only rude but lying.

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By *eno_2004Man
over a year ago

Bishops Stortford


"Ok question for those of you that say manners cost nothing.

If you get a message that says love your pics you look great want to chat , you reply with ah but you haven't read my profile ( your profile is hidden with only a couple of pics up). They reply with I've read your veris though what would you do.

Bearing in mind hypothetical but in a roundabout way some of what I have had would you still reply with a thanks but no thanks because to me they are the ones that are being not only rude but lying. "

I don't get that many messages so can't relate

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"You should do what suits you best and let others do the same.

You may not understand why someone does something but that doesn't mean they don't have a reason or that what they do is unreasonable or wrong. Nobody has any responsibility to justify how they manage their time here and their account.

Simply asking opinions

NO ONE IS TRYING TO JUSTIFY. How anyone manages their profile gosh lol "

That's my opinion.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"depends on how many messages you get lol...

Say you've spoken. Back and forth. A few times. Or just a first message "

I think if you have spoken a few times the only emotionally mature, respectful and kind thing to do is to say 'Sorry but I don't think we'd click after all' or something similar. Just because we can block without a word does not make it right in such circumstances IMO.

On the other hand if someone sends an inappropriate first message or is not what the profile specifies anyway, I think it entirely proper to just delete.

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By *uffmuncher59Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

Recently had 2 rejections from a couple of ladies, the first one just blocked me, while the second did have the common decency to say she wasn't meeting new people, guess which one I think the most of?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just block

Or if they seem sweet and made an effort I say sorry but no thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Glad of this subject because I can't even get so much as a hello??? Been on here intermittently for like 6 months and feel like giving up... What am I doing wrong?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Glad of this subject because I can't even get so much as a hello??? Been on here intermittently for like 6 months and feel like giving up... What am I doing wrong? "

Have no idea mate.

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