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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Guys, this is especially for you but would love anybody's opinion.

Would you, but more importantly COULD you do it with anybody - the "any hole is a goal" policy?

My partner tells me that while he can find something attractive about most ladies, whether it is a smile, a cute nose, a sexy bottom or their personality, there are a few where he would struggle to get an erection. (Don't know whether to believe him, lol)

But what about other guys - I am really curious to hear your views and experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Guys, this is especially for you but would love anybody's opinion.

Would you, but more importantly COULD you do it with anybody - the "any hole is a goal" policy?

My partner tells me that while he can find something attractive about most ladies, whether it is a smile, a cute nose, a sexy bottom or their personality, there are a few where he would struggle to get an erection. (Don't know whether to believe him, lol)

But what about other guys - I am really curious to hear your views and experience.

"

Fully agree with him hun

Many Men are more fickle when it comes to attraction than women give them credit for xx

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By *ariner192Man
over a year ago

Near Newport


"Guys, this is especially for you but would love anybody's opinion.

Would you, but more importantly COULD you do it with anybody - the "any hole is a goal" policy?

My partner tells me that while he can find something attractive about most ladies, whether it is a smile, a cute nose, a sexy bottom or their personality, there are a few where he would struggle to get an erection. (Don't know whether to believe him, lol)

But what about other guys - I am really curious to hear your views and experience.

"

Well there is also the two bag approach - one over her head and one over yours, just in case one breaks (works either way for attractiveness).

However, I agree there has to be some form of attraction, and there is attractiveness in everyone (even me). Looks are but skin deep, personality is the person within.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Guys, this is especially for you but would love anybody's opinion.

Would you, but more importantly COULD you do it with anybody - the "any hole is a goal" policy?

My partner tells me that while he can find something attractive about most ladies, whether it is a smile, a cute nose, a sexy bottom or their personality, there are a few where he would struggle to get an erection. (Don't know whether to believe him, lol)

But what about other guys - I am really curious to hear your views and experience.

"

I'm certainly not one of those 'any hole is a goal' kinda guys. There has to be an attraction or it's just not happening for me. By attraction I mean a physical phwoaar! that gets my pecker to attention immediately, and if that doesn't happen within the first few minutes, it's never going to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

quality not quantity in my life. Ive got to have the attraction. if not, then im not sleeping with them. Believe your man coz we are all different.

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place


"quality not quantity in my life. Ive got to have the attraction. if not, then im not sleeping with them. Believe your man coz we are all different. "

see i told you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if a guys cock not gonna rise to the occasion then its not gonna rise simple as.

speakiing for myself if a guy dont get my juices goin then its a no play situation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The biggest sexual organ is the brain - it all depends how that has been stgimulated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Until viagra was invented

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Evidently, attraction AND stimulation have to be right - otherwise "it" can still fail.

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By *ariner192Man
over a year ago

Near Newport

I suppose part of this is in what kind of relationship, in the swinging sense, if the attraction is there, then part of it is to have full sex, however if given the opportunity, and i may be boring, I sort of prefer "outercourse" (or non penetrative Sex), it gives you a chance to explore each other, without any pressures on either of you.

Of course it may lead to intercourse, and act as foreplay, or it may just be two bodies meeting and pleasure provided (without the mess).

It can heighten the experience for the next time you meet and take it the next stage, but also would stop either side from feeling "used" for just one thing, and give you each a chance to reflect.

In this case the arousal would not be the be all and end all, it would be part of the experience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I suppose part of this is in what kind of relationship, in the swinging sense, if the attraction is there, then part of it is to have full sex, however if given the opportunity, and i may be boring, I sort of prefer "outercourse" (or non penetrative Sex), it gives you a chance to explore each other, without any pressures on either of you.

Of course it may lead to intercourse, and act as foreplay, or it may just be two bodies meeting and pleasure provided (without the mess).

It can heighten the experience for the next time you meet and take it the next stage, but also would stop either side from feeling "used" for just one thing, and give you each a chance to reflect.

In this case the arousal would not be the be all and end all, it would be part of the experience"

Mate, seriously? If she's munting, I'm not touching! I couldn't get it on in any shape or form without there being some sort of attraction there....not even in 'The Dark Room' Top marks for effort there, but no, I just couldn't myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Guys, this is especially for you but would love anybody's opinion.

Would you, but more importantly COULD you do it with anybody - the "any hole is a goal" policy?

My partner tells me that while he can find something attractive about most ladies, whether it is a smile, a cute nose, a sexy bottom or their personality, there are a few where he would struggle to get an erection. (Don't know whether to believe him, lol)

But what about other guys - I am really curious to hear your views and experience.

"

I have done in the past and it never ends well. I once arranged a meet a woman through the uk chatterbox and I wished I had just drove by her. The trouble was; I had got so horny chatting to her, that even in her very very rough state If I could find some redeeming feature I could show her a good time. Anyway, I couldn't get it up (she was about 5" Im 6') and I couldn't go face to face with her on the passenger seat, as she looked a bit like a Russian Grandma. To be fair she was nice about the whole thing BUT I never went back to that chatroom.

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place


"Guys, this is especially for you but would love anybody's opinion.

Would you, but more importantly COULD you do it with anybody - the "any hole is a goal" policy?

My partner tells me that while he can find something attractive about most ladies, whether it is a smile, a cute nose, a sexy bottom or their personality, there are a few where he would struggle to get an erection. (Don't know whether to believe him, lol)

But what about other guys - I am really curious to hear your views and experience.

I have done in the past and it never ends well. I once arranged a meet a woman through the uk chatterbox and I wished I had just drove by her. The trouble was; I had got so horny chatting to her, that even in her very very rough state If I could find some redeeming feature I could show her a good time. Anyway, I couldn't get it up (she was about 5" Im 6') and I couldn't go face to face with her on the passenger seat, as she looked a bit like a Russian Grandma. To be fair she was nice about the whole thing BUT I never went back to that chatroom."

There you go another example of ED because of the looks or personality not being right.

You get some people always going on about it like an old record ,implying if you cant get it up its unmanly (even for someone not attractive) to you..your less of a man ..pmsl.

In my opinion your normal mate and I am proud to say if i find someone unattractive physically or personality wise even a bucket of viagra wont make it happen.

Guys who say they can for anyone, well ..."any hole is a goal" smacks of lack of discernment or as floyd put it "quiet desperation"...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nah def not the whole goal thing for me . maybe when your young and curious . tyhese days i really need to know them get on with them and have some sort of attraction sure there are plenty of women who i see on here and in real life and think yeah they quite nice same thing really , nice bum cute face long legs whatever it is but very very rarely would i ever act on that opinion .

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By *averiMan
over a year ago

Swindon to bristol

Quality always above quantity and if the quality is missing either: she would need to be very kinky, or if desperate throw your fist on the bed and rape it.

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place


"nah def not the whole goal thing for me . maybe when your young and curious . tyhese days i really need to know them get on with them and have some sort of attraction sure there are plenty of women who i see on here and in real life and think yeah they quite nice same thing really , nice bum cute face long legs whatever it is but very very rarely would i ever act on that opinion . "

totally agree , thing is its ok to say you struggled its the equivalent of a woman not getting turned on for "loads of reasons.." its the linkage of it to masculinity that pisses me off..seen so many guys fail in the group situation cus of inexperience and cant deliver even cus someone is watching them ..

Does it mean they have a problem ...does it hell...i normally say.. have a drink and chill out mate it happends sometimes ,9 times out of 10 they eventually lose the performance anxiety and go for it.

This macho bullshit some people spread around is unreal at best and i suspect hides the real agenda.

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place


"Quality always above quantity and if the quality is missing either: she would need to be very kinky, or if desperate throw your fist on the bed and rape it."

would you like to explain the rape thing a bit better mate as ,i dont think i grasped what you meant ..or i hope i didnt

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By *arlitos WayMan
over a year ago

London

I would almost certainly think in terms of quality rather then quantity, otherwise masturbation in time of desperation would be sufficient! Stimulation is very important and I would much rather have sex with a woman who I can have a good conversation and compromise on her look… to supposedly a stunning beauty who has got nothing to say for herself!

My feelings have to be also right, for example I have recently let my emotions go for a very special person but as I have lost her both as a lover and as a friend… I have tried to move on by going to other meets… well believe it or not I have been unable to have sex with them… and I had a reputation for being a serious swinger… well may be all men are not all the same!

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place


"I would almost certainly think in terms of quality rather then quantity, otherwise masturbation in time of desperation would be sufficient! Stimulation is very important and I would much rather have sex with a woman who I can have a good conversation and compromise on her look… to supposedly a stunning beauty who has got nothing to say for herself!

My feelings have to be also right, for example I have recently let my emotions go for a very special person but as I have lost her both as a lover and as a friend… I have tried to move on by going to other meets… well believe it or not I have been unable to have sex with them… and I had a reputation for being a serious swinger… well may be all men are not all the same!

"

you still are a serious swinger mate and you have my respct for telling the truth of it ...you will be fine dude..

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

I blame old age for the "I have to be attracted" types. Remember back when you were young and virile... and your dick had a mind of it's own, even when there wasn't even a wiff of pussy in the air it would suddenly be twitching away in your pants and seeking attention.

"oh there has to be an attractive woman or my willy won't work"... BOLLOX! How do you manged to wank so much?

What you really mean is... you can't mount a munter if you are not feeling horny.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I blame old age for the "I have to be attracted" types. Remember back when you were young and virile... and your dick had a mind of it's own, even when there wasn't even a wiff of pussy in the air it would suddenly be twitching away in your pants and seeking attention.

"oh there has to be an attractive woman or my willy won't work"... BOLLOX! How do you manged to wank so much?

What you really mean is... you can't mount a munter if you are not feeling horny."

1. Of course, as you get older some physical functions slow down - however, just like dental age varies greatly from one person to another, so does cock performance. Some men are amazingly hard and virile at 58 and older (I vouch for that as personal experience) others struggle at 30!

2. I choose my age range when I want MMF, MMMF, MMMMF etc with a lower age limit of preferably 40 and older - as I find them more interesting, stimulating and experienced. They tend to know what they are doing, they know more about the female orgasm and above all they tend to be less selfish and more considerate while still maintaining the erection.

3. I have nothing against younger men and will occasionally consider younger blokes to please the women in our parties, not so much for myself.

4. I posted originally to get the male perspective and it has so far confirmed what I thought before: A lot of a man's performance depends on the woman he is with.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


" 4. I posted originally to get the male perspective and it has so far confirmed what I thought before: A lot of a man's performance depends on the woman he is with.

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How many do you really think would be dumb enough to post "as long as it's wet n willing I'll fuck it" ?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I would hate to think that the guy i was with was a "any hole will do" kind of guy. If he has a stonking hard on i want it to be because it was me as a person that gave him it

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By *anfarMan
over a year ago

birmingham

I think there has to be at least some attraction, Ive been in a situation where someone I didnt find physically attractive was just so dirty minded and downrighty horny that they got me going but Ive said no a few times when I just havent been into someone.

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By *anfarMan
over a year ago

birmingham

Saying that, what someone else said about age is true to some extent. When I was younger then it wouldnt matter, I was guilty of the male stereotypical "any holes a goal".

As Ive aged I tend to be a bit more more picky but then I think everyones perspectives change as they grow older.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

It's like when a woman opens a box of chocolates.... we head for the ones we really like first. But when the box is nearly empty and there is a choccie craving going on.... eventually we start looking at the ones we originally left and when all other options have gone... hey at least it's chocolate at the end of the day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im waitin on a brave man to say yes!!!

lets face it many a guy has mounted a 10 pinter just cause it was handy at the time but not many will admit to it!

there are books devoted to the desperation act!!! xx

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By *ariner192Man
over a year ago

Near Newport


"im waitin on a brave man to say yes!!!

lets face it many a guy has mounted a 10 pinter just cause it was handy at the time but not many will admit to it!

there are books devoted to the desperation act!!! xx"

From my military time (Navy) there use to be an expression, and hope this does not offend.

Go ugly early, get your "banker" and then spend the rest of the night seeing if you can get better !!!

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place


"im waitin on a brave man to say yes!!!

lets face it many a guy has mounted a 10 pinter just cause it was handy at the time but not many will admit to it!

there are books devoted to the desperation act!!! xx

From my military time (Navy) there use to be an expression, and hope this does not offend.

Go ugly early, get your "banker" and then spend the rest of the night seeing if you can get better !!!"

oooooo harsh...."all the nice girls love a sailor...da de da da da de da"

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