FabSwingers.com forum: fat / curvy!

By *inkykoupleuk OP Couple
over a year ago

southampton

There's a massive difference but noticing on here some people clearly don't no the difference.

Our we the only ones thinking this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no your not..

but as long as there are accurate pictures of a person, how they describe themselves is up to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be fair people should be allowed to describe themselves how they want to.

imo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think people do know the difference but would rather say they were curvy and not obese, or rather just large as there isn't an option for obese

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

People will describe themselves as they wish.

Some accurate, some not.

Mention the word fat, the doors of hell open wide......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To be fair people should be allowed to describe themselves how they want to.

imo.

self identification! Totally agree with you.

OP: Why does it matter how someone chooses to describe themselves?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's a massive difference but noticing on here some people clearly don't no the difference.

Our we the only ones thinking this? "

We should love women all shapes and sizes lol

Curvy fatt , skinny , terribly skinny

Them as a person counts and they booty lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's a massive difference but noticing on here some people clearly don't no the difference.

Our we the only ones thinking this? "

Those are two amongst thousands of descriptive words that people can choose to use in their own way to describe themselves. Its not a matter of knowing the difference neither has specific sharp parameters I would say people can use words in a descriptive manner as they wish don't you agree?

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Curvy and fat are pretty subjective along with quite a few other terms used on here to describe someone.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"There's a massive difference but noticing on here some people clearly don't no the difference.

Our we the only ones thinking this?

I should have waited a couple more seconds as you put it much better than I did.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Curvy is a shape, not a size. I'm both fat and curvy - very hourglass shaped and fairly jiggly too. You can be curvy at size 6 or size 26 in my eyes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I put chubby on mine as I am way beyond curvy... but if someone chats to me I will tell them my size..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Isn't it down to the individual to describe themselves as they want and on how they see them self?

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By *indys loverCouple
over a year ago

Stratford on avon

did I hear someone call me a 'fat bastard'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

fab doesnt provide the option to give your body type 'fat' as an option

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By *inkykoupleuk OP Couple
over a year ago

southampton

Didn't mean it in a nasty way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Didn't mean it in a nasty way. "

Just wondering which way you did mean it then? Given you know fat nor skinny are options on here for body type

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

"There's a massive difference but noticing on here some people clearly don't no the difference.

Our we the only ones thinking this? "

I saw it as an innocent question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Curvy a line that deviates from straightness in a continuous fashion

If we wish to get pedantic

Does it really matter? Ask to see pics and if their curves are more undulating than floats your boat move on

It's not rocket science

Ps I'm more than happy to be called fat so I won't be opening the gates of hell

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Curvy is a shape, not a size. I'm both fat and curvy - very hourglass shaped and fairly jiggly too. You can be curvy at size 6 or size 26 in my eyes. "
yes your right curvy is shape .........not sure why they see it a fat , weird can be size 6 a curvy .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im how I look..

Thats what pics are for...

It doesn't matter what dress size is if the appearance isnt to your liking...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plenty of people misusing the word curvy as well as hot,sexy, attractive and athletic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Curvy is a shape, not a size. I'm both fat and curvy - very hourglass shaped and fairly jiggly too. You can be curvy at size 6 or size 26 in my eyes. "

I agree!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol everyday I see a thread on this and yes I like both lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's a massive difference but noticing on here some people clearly don't no the difference.

Our we the only ones thinking this?

We should love women all shapes and sizes lol

Curvy fatt , skinny , terribly skinny

Them as a person counts and they booty lol "

and yet men that are described as large, fat, ample and so on are more often than not treated as some kind of pariah and left to look on whilst the 6 pack brigade fill their boots.

indeed, it shows the duality of man that extra weight on a woman, is positively encouraged, in most cases, yet the other way round, its to a guys detriment.

as for descriptions, as has been said, people will describe themselves as they see fit.

if you see the pics and dont agree, click out and move on.

personally, it pisses me off seeing profile names with sexy/hot/gorgeous in and when you see pics they are far from, but everything is subvjective, s if thats how they see themselves, so be it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's a massive difference but noticing on here some people clearly don't no the difference.

Our we the only ones thinking this?

We should love women all shapes and sizes lol

Curvy fatt , skinny , terribly skinny

Them as a person counts and they booty lol

and yet men that are described as large, fat, ample and so on are more often than not treated as some kind of pariah and left to look on whilst the 6 pack brigade fill their boots.

indeed, it shows the duality of man that extra weight on a woman, is positively encouraged, in most cases, yet the other way round, its to a guys detriment.

as for descriptions, as has been said, people will describe themselves as they see fit.

if you see the pics and dont agree, click out and move on.

personally, it pisses me off seeing profile names with sexy/hot/gorgeous in and when you see pics they are far from, but everything is subvjective, s if thats how they see themselves, so be it"

Herc, does duality equal two faced?

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By *inkykoupleuk OP Couple
over a year ago

southampton

Well where i come from fat n sexy is a compliment lol

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By *ot in nottsMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Bbw. I know I'm big but sexy with it

Fat. I'm fat

I'm not normally a size man but if breasts are longer than 3 foot I steer clear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am fat but I'm also very curvy. I do have plenty of full body pics that are a true reflection of me, so I'm not hiding anything or trying to be something that I'm not. I'm exactly what my pic shows. Fat & curvy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some might say I'm fat. Some say I'm curvy. My pictures show what I look like so what does it even matter?

I'm still sexy though whatever label I might be given :p

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

Beauty comes in ALL sizes. I'm so tired of people thinking that beauty is only in a size dress!

Im a fat/obese lady or what ever term you wish to lable me but i also have curves so how who you describe someone who is both fat and curvy?

To be honest as long as people have photos to show thoes who are intrested in meeting them then who really cares what others think ...just be happy being you and let others do the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Size 14 here, is it fat, Curvy " who cares I'm me! )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's a massive difference but noticing on here some people clearly don't no the difference.

Our we the only ones thinking this?

We should love women all shapes and sizes lol

Curvy fatt , skinny , terribly skinny

Them as a person counts and they booty lol

and yet men that are described as large, fat, ample and so on are more often than not treated as some kind of pariah and left to look on whilst the 6 pack brigade fill their boots.

indeed, it shows the duality of man that extra weight on a woman, is positively encouraged, in most cases, yet the other way round, its to a guys detriment.

as for descriptions, as has been said, people will describe themselves as they see fit.

if you see the pics and dont agree, click out and move on.

personally, it pisses me off seeing profile names with sexy/hot/gorgeous in and when you see pics they are far from, but everything is subvjective, s if thats how they see themselves, so be it

Herc, does duality equal two faced?

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not at all, i dont think anyway.

two faced, to me, is telling someone something to their face, then saying th opposite to someone else about them.

duality, would be finding something acceptable in one person, but not in another, if that makes sense.

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By *atinaBabeCouple
over a year ago

casa caliente

I think is totally wrong lie about ur real looking , you have to accept yourself the way you are be honest as always gona have someone to like fat or any type of body shape

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By *atinaBabeCouple
over a year ago

casa caliente

"I am fat but I'm also very curvy. I do have plenty of full body pics that are a true reflection of me, so I'm not hiding anything or trying to be something that I'm not. I'm exactly what my pic shows. Fat & curvy. "

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

People should spend more time on the photos than the description. Surely you can tell whether your attracted to someone by looking at them regardless of size

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By *s_bettyboopWoman
over a year ago

-3

Im in no denial that im fat, but i definitely have curves in the right places..

I have ample on my profile.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"People should spend more time on the photos than the description. Surely you can tell whether your attracted to someone by looking at them regardless of size

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People should spend more time on the photos than the description. Surely you can tell whether your attracted to someone by looking at them regardless of size

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I describe myself as large where it says to put your description,i dont need to write in my profile text what i am,i have many pics to show im a fatchick,

I go to a party called ' curvy club' and at the profile it explains it a party for larger ladies and for men that appreciate the larger ladies,there are many partys for bbw at various clubs,would ladies go to a party called fat club,doubt that very much

All ladies are curvy and if they want to describe themselves as that,it up to the individual,whatever size they are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's a massive difference but noticing on here some people clearly don't no the difference.

Our we the only ones thinking this? "

No you're not the only ones ..... some people carry a few extra pounds and some are quite simply grotesque.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See I was under the impression that Curvy meant two things:

1.) When somebody is shapely, as in they have a desirable form; attributed to a good balance of frame, muscle and body fat.

2.) When somebody has a little bit extra but makes it look good.

I also thought that BBW meant fat, although take out the second B and BW just doesn't work on its own.

That's the problem with the internet, if you clicked with someone without having to debate their shape and size, or put them into a fucking pidgeon hole, it wouldn't be an issue.

I got a friend who's huge, like John Candy huge. His personality gets him supermodel-type women. He's also great for hugs, which we do whenever we say hello and goodbye!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People should spend more time on the photos than the description. Surely you can tell whether your attracted to someone by looking at them regardless of size

You would think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do prowl get so caught up with others?

Surely if they're not for you it's simple?

You just pass them by!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't topics like this just get more boring?. Died a death daily springs to mind.

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

"Don't topics like this just get more boring?. Died a death daily springs to mind. "

Yep, the answers are predictable and it gets lead astray from the topic and people see it as a personal attack when infact, no attacks have been made.

Or I could be wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get confused by the choices, a year ago when I trained daily my doctor described me as an athlete but I was a runner and cyclist so I was slight yet toned and strong so was I of an athletic or skinny build??

Have taken a break for a year so now I can confidential say I'm average.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I'm fat but have curves too so I'm fat and curvy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's a massive difference but noticing on here some people clearly don't no the difference.

Our we the only ones thinking this?

No you're not the only ones ..... some people carry a few extra pounds and some are quite simply grotesque."

grotesque???

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

"Curvy is a shape, not a size. I'm both fat and curvy - very hourglass shaped and fairly jiggly too. You can be curvy at size 6 or size 26 in my eyes. "
exactly this! I have an hour glass shape... Just with some extra sand is all!

go in and out in all the right places .. So yes! Can be fat and curvy

( are always gonna be people who question others exsistance due to their own insecurities... Thats life! )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm Peachy & I'm fat, but I do have curves in all the right places & I think I'm fabulous, so which do I use to describe myself?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

IF YOU GO IN AND OUT no matter of your size your curvy .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's a massive difference but noticing on here some people clearly don't no the difference.

Our we the only ones thinking this?

No you're not the only ones ..... some people carry a few extra pounds and some are quite simply grotesque.

grotesque???"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's a massive difference but noticing on here some people clearly don't no the difference.

Our we the only ones thinking this?

No you're not the only ones ..... some people carry a few extra pounds and some are quite simply grotesque.

grotesque???

...DAYUMN!!!

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

"There's a massive difference but noticing on here some people clearly don't no the difference.

Our we the only ones thinking this?

No you're not the only ones ..... some people carry a few extra pounds and some are quite simply grotesque."
Fuck me! Say it how it is.. Don't hold back eh!

like wise, some are "grotesque" on the inside too! Dontcha just love diversity!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Didn't mean it in a nasty way.

Just wondering which way you did mean it then? Given you know fat nor skinny are options on here for body type

I think your a great size

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's a massive difference but noticing on here some people clearly don't no the difference.

Our we the only ones thinking this?

No you're not the only ones ..... some people carry a few extra pounds and some are quite simply grotesque. Fuck me! Say it how it is.. Don't hold back eh!

like wise, some are "grotesque" on the inside too! Dontcha just love diversity!!

funny isnt it.

describing oneself as 'hot' and yet having a problem with those that decide curvy is a fair representation of themselves and deciding its a little far from the truth lol.

not everything that looks like a flame is hot, some are just crap paper blowing in the wind, sorry, i mean crepe

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Im just fat....make no excuses or give a shit what others think....

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By *awkeye and HotlipsCouple
over a year ago

Takeley

Descriptions, schescriptions! We are either attracted to you or not, it's the person within that counts. Society pidgeonholes us all. As long as you have a smile on your face and a twinkle in your eye that does us.

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

"Im just fat....make no excuses or give a shit what others think....

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

"There's a massive difference but noticing on here some people clearly don't no the difference.

Our we the only ones thinking this?

No you're not the only ones ..... some people carry a few extra pounds and some are quite simply grotesque. Fuck me! Say it how it is.. Don't hold back eh!

like wise, some are "grotesque" on the inside too! Dontcha just love diversity!!

funny isnt it.

describing oneself as 'hot' and yet having a problem with those that decide curvy is a fair representation of themselves and deciding its a little far from the truth lol.

not everything that looks like a flame is hot, some are just crap paper blowing in the wind, sorry, i mean crepe"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As someone said, look at the photos, meet the person, if you like them, you like them. Why stick a label on

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Just a little disclaimer:

Just because some of the people above say they are fat and they don't care, this dosent mean that others can remind them of that as my guess is they won't like it.

I learned that lesson 20+ years ago.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's a massive difference but noticing on here some people clearly don't no the difference.

Our we the only ones thinking this? "

With you all the way. I call myself average but am slimmer than most men my age....i could happily lose a bit etc but can still run for a couple of hours.

I'm actually fed up with profiles who think they arw gods gift but are in fact " fuglies "

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

As i said on another post today some people may see someone as vwe others will see them as avarage,some will see someone as hot some will see them as ugly ,some will see others are fat some will see them as curvy .

So what im saying is we all see people diffrently let people make up their own minds about people and you make up your own ....Were all different in our own unique way

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Just a little disclaimer:

Just because some of the people above say they are fat and they don't care, this dosent mean that others can remind them of that as my guess is they won't like it.

I learned that lesson 20+ years ago."

I genuinely don't give a shit....a person can call me a fat slag till the pies come home....the important thing is how I see myself rather than some strangers off a swinging site...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's a massive difference but noticing on here some people clearly don't no the difference.

Our we the only ones thinking this? "

So many fat people say curvy! Curvy does not mean bigger or large, thats what 'large' means, curvy means shape!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's a massive difference but noticing on here some people clearly don't no the difference.

Our we the only ones thinking this? "

Glad someone else said it. As I had said via update quite some time ago, "curvy" is the most misused and erroneously assigned body types on here. There are some people who just simply need to accept that they simply have exceeded the bounds of "curvy" and are now fat enough to be squarely placed in the "large" or "ample" categories.

Either they have some kind of reverse body dysmorphic disorder or they're trying to play down the weight issue. Problem is that it all comes out when they finally make good on some full-body photos (or a meet in person).

For this reason, I'm always really wary of those who have close-ups of body parts (attractive as they may be in themselves!) but not the big picture.

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

"Just a little disclaimer:

Just because some of the people above say they are fat and they don't care, this dosent mean that others can remind them of that as my guess is they won't like it.

I learned that lesson 20+ years ago.

I genuinely don't give a shit....a person can call me a fat slag till the pies come home....the important thing is how I see myself rather than some strangers off a swinging site...

"
exactly this! Hardly gonna loose sleep with what total strangers think , Too old in the tooth for all that fuss & bollocks...

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

"Just a little disclaimer:

Just because some of the people above say they are fat and they don't care, this dosent mean that others can remind them of that as my guess is they won't like it.

I learned that lesson 20+ years ago.

I genuinely don't give a shit....a person can call me a fat slag till the pies come home....the important thing is how I see myself rather than some strangers off a swinging site...

I know I read your earlier post, I didnt post that with you in mind.

It was more about others, I know your happy with who you are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's a massive difference but noticing on here some people clearly don't no the difference.

Our we the only ones thinking this? "

I thought I was the only person thinking this

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Just a little disclaimer:

Just because some of the people above say they are fat and they don't care, this dosent mean that others can remind them of that as my guess is they won't like it.

I learned that lesson 20+ years ago.

I genuinely don't give a shit....a person can call me a fat slag till the pies come home....the important thing is how I see myself rather than some strangers off a swinging site...

I know I read your earlier post, I didnt post that with you in mind.

It was more about others, I know your happy with who you are."

I know

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

[Removed by poster at 25/03/14 17:52:50]

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

"Just a little disclaimer:

Just because some of the people above say they are fat and they don't care, this dosent mean that others can remind them of that as my guess is they won't like it.

I learned that lesson 20+ years ago.

I genuinely don't give a shit....a person can call me a fat slag till the pies come home....the important thing is how I see myself rather than some strangers off a swinging site...

I know I read your earlier post, I didnt post that with you in mind.

It was more about others, I know your happy with who you are.

I know

That is such a quality to have.

We are who we are, we dont have to justify that to anyone. They accept us who we are or fuck off and end up as 'their loss'.

That though isnt what the thread is about, I don't think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Beauty comes in ALL sizes. I'm so tired of people thinking that beauty is only in a size dress!

Im a fat/obese lady or what ever term you wish to lable me but i also have curves so how who you describe someone who is both fat and curvy?

To be honest as long and people have photos to show thoes who are intrested in meeting them then who really cares what others think ...just be happy being you and let others do the same

Couldn't have put it better MissD.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I'm as fat as butter. It's my issue and not yours. I know why I am fat and why I don't change that.

Some people see beyond body shape and others are all about the shape - in every possible combination.

Let people describe themselves their way and make your own judgement about whether you like them/want to meet them or not. It's not any more of a discussion than that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think this issue lies so much with a person's self-image or how others see them, or whether they want to be labeled one way or another.

I think the thing that is apparent to me (as it should be to everyone else who registers) is that when you sign up Fab gives you a list of body type options to choose from. It should be quite obvious that at the top you've got the skinny people and at the bottom you've got obese people, along with everything in between. The point is that it is a scale if increasing fatness (not mincing words here, just being truthful.)

Upon registration, each person has to decide for themselves where on that scale they lie. It's a bit like that thing you do to describe levels of pain on a scale of 1 to 10.

We could resolve all the "I am not to be labeled" chat by saying fuck the labels, do away with the body type categories and just provide a fatness scale similar to the pain scale.

I know I'd find it a whole lot clearer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some might say I'm fat. Some say I'm curvy. My pictures show what I look like so what does it even matter?

I'm still sexy though whatever label I might be given :p"

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I don't think this issue lies so much with a person's self-image or how others see them, or whether they want to be labeled one way or another.

Upon registration, each person has to decide for themselves where on that scale they lie. It's a bit like that thing you do to describe levels of pain on a scale of 1 to 10.

We could resolve all the "I am not to be labeled" chat by saying fuck the labels, do away with the body type categories and just provide a fatness scale similar to the pain scale.

I know I'd find it a whole lot clearer."

The fatness/pain scale won't work either. Your pain level of 9 might be my 5 as I am used to living with a level of pain. In virtual land it is still subjective.

The only way to be certain is if we all get into the equivalent of the standard hand luggage measurement box in different standard sizes. (Dress sizes are not standard fit even though they have the same numbers.)

On a separate note it's not just women who may describe themselves in a more flattering way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's a massive difference but noticing on here some people clearly don't no the difference.

Our we the only ones thinking this? "
..No we get you there..

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Just a little disclaimer:

Just because some of the people above say they are fat and they don't care, this dosent mean that others can remind them of that as my guess is they won't like it.

I learned that lesson 20+ years ago.

I genuinely don't give a shit....a person can call me a fat slag till the pies come home....the important thing is how I see myself rather than some strangers off a swinging site...

I know I read your earlier post, I didnt post that with you in mind.

It was more about others, I know your happy with who you are.

I know

That is such a quality to have.

We are who we are, we dont have to justify that to anyone. They accept us who we are or fuck off and end up as 'their loss'.

That though isnt what the thread is about, I don't think."

Of course it wasn't but these type of threads never end up being what the OP stated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think this issue lies so much with a person's self-image or how others see them, or whether they want to be labeled one way or another.

Upon registration, each person has to decide for themselves where on that scale they lie. It's a bit like that thing you do to describe levels of pain on a scale of 1 to 10.

We could resolve all the "I am not to be labeled" chat by saying fuck the labels, do away with the body type categories and just provide a fatness scale similar to the pain scale.

I know I'd find it a whole lot clearer.

The fatness/pain scale won't work either. Your pain level of 9 might be my 5 as I am used to living with a level of pain. In virtual land it is still subjective.

On a separate note it's not just women who may describe themselves in a more flattering way.

Oh believe me, I know! It's a tough one, no doubt about it.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

It's only an issue if they are lying. I have had messages from people claiming to be 'athletic'. Yet, when, after chatting, I have gotten to see more of their pics (maybe after a friend request), it is not only clear that they are NOT athletic, in a couple of cases they were very large. However, the public photos, taken from a certain angle, make them look like the type of person I go for.

Now, that is what annoys me, not the body shape but the deceit. I make sure I have a full body shot, unflattering as it is, on my profile. Anyone can take a look and decide whether or not I am the kind of person they go for. I describe myself as 'average' as, at a size 14, I am of the average dress size for a UK female.

I may do zumba regularly but would NEVER describe myself as 'athletic', any more than I would have when I used to go to the gym because I simply am not.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"Beauty comes in ALL sizes. I'm so tired of people thinking that beauty is only in a size dress!

Im a fat/obese lady or what ever term you wish to lable me but i also have curves so how who you describe someone who is both fat and curvy?

To be honest as long and people have photos to show thoes who are intrested in meeting them then who really cares what others think ...just be happy being you and let others do the same

Couldn't have put it better MissD.

"
Thank you jinty xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's a massive difference but noticing on here some people clearly don't no the difference.

Our we the only ones thinking this?

So many fat people say curvy! Curvy does not mean bigger or large, thats what 'large' means, curvy means shape!"
..Thank fuck well said..

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By *indys loverCouple
over a year ago

Stratford on avon

"There's a massive difference but noticing on here some people clearly don't no the difference.

Our we the only ones thinking this?

No you're not the only ones ..... some people carry a few extra pounds and some are quite simply grotesque.

grotesque???"

Hey Herc ,,,,, you calling me grotesque

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By *he Master JMan
over a year ago

Southall

Im fat with a big arse ( sorry curvy )

My doctor once told me that I was overweight. ....... I told her that she had wasted all those years at university

I said "I have never been to university and I could have told you that"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's a massive difference but noticing on here some people clearly don't no the difference.

Our we the only ones thinking this?

No you're not the only ones ..... some people carry a few extra pounds and some are quite simply grotesque.

grotesque???

Hey Herc ,,,,, you calling me grotesque

nope, mr, or mrs, hotty up there are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it was in any way important to me I'd give my head a wobble and get a life.

Just look at the pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's a massive difference but noticing on here some people clearly don't no the difference.

Our we the only ones thinking this?

No you're not the only ones ..... some people carry a few extra pounds and some are quite simply grotesque."

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By *indys loverCouple
over a year ago

Stratford on avon

"There's a massive difference but noticing on here some people clearly don't no the difference.

Our we the only ones thinking this?

No you're not the only ones ..... some people carry a few extra pounds and some are quite simply grotesque.

grotesque???

Hey Herc ,,,,, you calling me grotesque

nope, mr, or mrs, hotty up there are."

hmmmm . perhaps I ought to change my username to Shrek

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's a massive difference but noticing on here some people clearly don't no the difference.

Our we the only ones thinking this?

No you're not the only ones ..... some people carry a few extra pounds and some are quite simply grotesque.

grotesque???

Hey Herc ,,,,, you calling me grotesque

nope, mr, or mrs, hotty up there are.

hmmmm . perhaps I ought to change my username to Shrek

i think all us overweighties should have something in our usernames to stop us being accidently clicked on by the norms, or the above averages.

im away to figure out a new username,

how does 'fuckugly and custard' grab you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's a massive difference but noticing on here some people clearly don't no the difference.

Our we the only ones thinking this?

No you're not the only ones ..... some people carry a few extra pounds and some are quite simply grotesque."

Ohhhh the irony!!!

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By *indys loverCouple
over a year ago

Stratford on avon

"There's a massive difference but noticing on here some people clearly don't no the difference.

Our we the only ones thinking this?

No you're not the only ones ..... some people carry a few extra pounds and some are quite simply grotesque.

grotesque???

Hey Herc ,,,,, you calling me grotesque

nope, mr, or mrs, hotty up there are.

hmmmm . perhaps I ought to change my username to Shrek

i think all us overweighties should have something in our usernames to stop us being accidently clicked on by the norms, or the above averages.

im away to figure out a new username,

how does 'fuckugly and custard' grab you?"

hmmm ,,,, howabout 'Buttfuckingugly and custard ' ,,,, think it has more of a ring to it

and how about 'Shrek and princess fiona' for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's a massive difference but noticing on here some people clearly don't no the difference.

Our we the only ones thinking this?

No you're not the only ones ..... some people carry a few extra pounds and some are quite simply grotesque.

grotesque???

Hey Herc ,,,,, you calling me grotesque

nope, mr, or mrs, hotty up there are.

hmmmm . perhaps I ought to change my username to Shrek

i think all us overweighties should have something in our usernames to stop us being accidently clicked on by the norms, or the above averages.

im away to figure out a new username,

how does 'fuckugly and custard' grab you?

hmmm ,,,, howabout 'Buttfuckingugly and custard ' ,,,, think it has more of a ring to it

and how about 'Shrek and princess fiona' for us

i dont think you look anything like princess fiona, tbh. but yeah, mindy could pass for shrek lol

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By *estlands4Man
over a year ago

Sidmouth

Add to the mix "ample" and "fabulous" who knows what they are

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By *indys loverCouple
over a year ago

Stratford on avon

"There's a massive difference but noticing on here some people clearly don't no the difference.

Our we the only ones thinking this?

No you're not the only ones ..... some people carry a few extra pounds and some are quite simply grotesque.

Ohhhh the irony!!!

bloody hell ,,, wimen ,,,, Mindy has just gone out and told me to unload and load the dish washer and now you want me to do your ironing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Add to the mix "ample" and "fabulous" who knows what they are

?????????????

look in the dictionary.

ample is fairly unambiguous.

fabulous, on the other hand, is another matter i agree lol

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By *indys loverCouple
over a year ago

Stratford on avon

"Add to the mix "ample" and "fabulous" who knows what they are

?????????????

look in the dictionary.

ample is fairly unambiguous.

fabulous, on the other hand, is another matter i agree lol"

wasnt Shrek fabulous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Add to the mix "ample" and "fabulous" who knows what they are

?????????????

look in the dictionary.

ample is fairly unambiguous.

fabulous, on the other hand, is another matter i agree lol

wasnt Shrek fabulous

I like Shrek. I think he's cool.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to think of myself as pinchable.

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By *he Master JMan
over a year ago

Southall

"There's a massive difference but noticing on here some people clearly don't no the difference.

Our we the only ones thinking this?

No you're not the only ones ..... some people carry a few extra pounds and some are quite simply grotesque.

grotesque???

Hey Herc ,,,,, you calling me grotesque

nope, mr, or mrs, hotty up there are.

hmmmm . perhaps I ought to change my username to Shrek

i think all us overweighties should have something in our usernames to stop us being accidently clicked on by the norms, or the above averages.

im away to figure out a new username,

how does 'fuckugly and custard' grab you?

hmmm ,,,, howabout 'Buttfuckingugly and custard ' ,,,, think it has more of a ring to it

and how about 'Shrek and princess fiona' for us

i dont think you look anything like princess fiona, tbh. but yeah, mindy could pass for shrek lol

"
I am actually a really close relation of shrek but I am glad that I was the one that got the brains and not the looks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Add to the mix "ample" and "fabulous" who knows what they are

Famplelous

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"Add to the mix "ample" and "fabulous" who knows what they are

Famplelous

"
That sounds like something that needs to be removed through a surgical procedure lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

IMHO You can be curvy and not fat .. but if you're fat, like I am, then you are generally going to be curvy too ..

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

im not fat I should be 8 foot tall

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"IMHO You can be curvy and not fat .. but if you're fat, like I am, then you are generally going to be curvy too ..

I wonder what they call the transitional phase from curvy to fat. Cos that's what I'm doing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just a little disclaimer:

Just because some of the people above say they are fat and they don't care, this dosent mean that others can remind them of that as my guess is they won't like it.

I learned that lesson 20+ years ago.

I genuinely don't give a shit....a person can call me a fat slag till the pies come home....the important thing is how I see myself rather than some strangers off a swinging site...

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my years swinging come across some nasty people .. Size and things is only one part that makes a person looks are skin deep and fade with time , Its the person inside .. its being happy with who you are curvy big or slim and if you're happy in your own skin that's all that matter if not you change things not for others but for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm in shape. Round is a shape

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am fat and I say so

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By *indys loverCouple
over a year ago

Stratford on avon

"In my years swinging come across some nasty people .. Size and things is only one part that makes a person looks are skin deep and fade with time , Its the person inside .. its being happy with who you are curvy big or slim and if you're happy in your own skin that's all that matter if not you change things not for others but for you."

I like you

yes I might be a tad large for some but like to think ive also got a fair bit of 'good stuff' packed into that 'excess space'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

up to date photos is the key - was might be average to one person is fat to another - no law says you have to chat or meet folk you dont like the look of

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When Trace was an athlete she put "Athletic" on our profile.

Now she's retired from competition and her body has softened she's changed it to "Curvy", as this more suits her shape.

If people are in doubt about some ones description of themselves a good rule of thumb is to steer clear of profiles which only show large boobs, one or two fanny pics and a couple of leg/ankle shots.

Stick to the profiles with full body shots, then decide for yourself.

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When Trace was an athlete she put "Athletic" on our profile.

Now she's retired from competition and her body has softened she's changed it to "Curvy", as this more suits her shape.

If people are in doubt about some ones description of themselves a good rule of thumb is to steer clear of profiles which only show large boobs, one or two fanny pics and a couple of leg/ankle shots.

Stick to the profiles with full body shots, then decide for yourself.

XXXX"

mm shes lovely S xx

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

Interesting ? I'd say she was still very athletic x

I'll just mention this a person is entitled to use any body description they wish just as we are all entitled to lie about any aspect of ourselves , whether a person should be assessed for the validity of their claims i don't see why not. If you are size 6 no boobs or bun and you wish to state curvy as that's how you see yourself that's your perogative but it is certainly not unreasonable to suggest such a declaration is a mis representation or mis leading for a man wanting a lady with an hourglass figure .

I wake up in the morning feeling 27 aparantly I'm not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Look at the pics on offer. Draw your own conclusions. Click off profile or message. It can be that simple. Why complicate things ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

convex vs concave

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am well aware of the differences in body size/shape and make no secret of my own, some people will call me fat (as would I) but plenty call me voluptuous, curvy, fabulous, sexy - it all comes down to personal taste. As the saying goes "one man's meat is another man's poison".

I would rather be the size I am and know that I treat everyone, regardless of how they look, with respect than be so mean of spirit that I think it is acceptable to refer to others as grotesque - which brings to mind another saying "beauty is as beauty does".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm both!

I've got excess wobbly bits but I've got an hourglass shape so therefore I'm curvy.

Regardless of size I hate the "F" word, I think it's quite a negative word and can be offensive to some people!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am well aware of the differences in body size/shape and make no secret of my own, some people will call me fat (as would I) but plenty call me voluptuous, curvy, fabulous, sexy - it all comes down to personal taste. As the saying goes "one man's meat is another man's poison".

Wonderfully put!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

curvy is ample thighs breast and buttocks, the hourglass type body, if you've got folds you're not curvy sorry to disappoint, for example apple or pear shaped aren't classed as curvy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"curvy is ample thighs breast and buttocks, the hourglass type body, if you've got folds you're not curvy sorry to disappoint, for example apple or pear shaped aren't classed as curvy."

Bananas are curvy

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By *indys loverCouple
over a year ago

Stratford on avon

"curvy is ample thighs breast and buttocks, the hourglass type body, if you've got folds you're not curvy sorry to disappoint, for example apple or pear shaped aren't classed as curvy."

hmmmmmm , have a look at our pics , mindy is a size 12 / 14 , has had a couple of nippers a fair few years ago , she is in fairly good shape but age has given her a couple of 'folds' ,but they show that she has lived life , she is def curvy and nothing else

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"curvy is ample thighs breast and buttocks, the hourglass type body, if you've got folds you're not curvy sorry to disappoint, for example apple or pear shaped aren't classed as curvy.

She looks alright from where I am sitting

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

It just goes to show, no matter what descriptions people choose, they won't please everyone.

And even with an extensive list to choose from, some people will be more honest than others........ much like when people describe themselves as 'intelligent' or 'enjoys a good laugh'.... after all that one could mean:

a) You'll think you're in bed with The Krankies.

b) I'm going to show all my mates photos of you naked.

c) I'll chuckle my tits off whilst I slaughter your family in their sleep.

Profiles are best treated in the same way you should read a hotel re_iew.... written by the hotel owner.... expect some degree of bias.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I'm slim, but I also have SOME curves but also wobbly bits, even though I am a size 6 lol not everything is black and white! But pics do help...

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"I'm slim, but I also have SOME curves but also wobbly bits, even though I am a size 6 lol not everything is black and white! But pics do help...

Knock yourself out have some of my wobble

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

Im fat and curvy.. I go in and out shape hourglass but bigger boobs bum tum.. 18/20 never tried to hide it.

the choices on what we should label ourselves are particularly poor.

Whoever heard of describing a man as curvy for heavens sake.

I smile to myself at athletic men as a description too.

when so many only play darts and drink beer.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"I'm slim, but I also have SOME curves but also wobbly bits, even though I am a size 6 lol not everything is black and white! But pics do help...

Knock yourself out have some of my wobble

No thanks! I've enough of my own!

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"I'm slim, but I also have SOME curves but also wobbly bits, even though I am a size 6 lol not everything is black and white! But pics do help...

Knock yourself out have some of my wobble

No thanks! I've enough of my own!

Lol....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone has issuses with size...funny that in the street they would walk past you????

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"Everyone has issuses with size...funny that in the street they would walk past you????"

Only if the pavement is wide enough.

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By *indys loverCouple
over a year ago

Stratford on avon

"curvy is ample thighs breast and buttocks, the hourglass type body, if you've got folds you're not curvy sorry to disappoint, for example apple or pear shaped aren't classed as curvy.

She looks alright from where I am sitting

thank you I will tell her when she walks in , at the moment she is in a room full of ladies going ummmmmmm and ahhhhhhh ,,,,,,,,,, yoga class

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"curvy is ample thighs breast and buttocks, the hourglass type body, if you've got folds you're not curvy sorry to disappoint, for example apple or pear shaped aren't classed as curvy.

She looks alright from where I am sitting

thank you I will tell her when she walks in , at the moment she is in a room full of ladies going ummmmmmm and ahhhhhhh ,,,,,,,,,, yoga class

Lol I tried yoga once...not sure I'm supple enough for that lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people don't know the difference between "no" and "know" and "our" and "are"....am I the only person thinking this?!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a little thick, I thought bbw was a black mans term for big bodied woman, since joining it's apparently not, it's big beautiful woman, people do describe them self oddly and pictures don't help when they show a foot or a breast,, mine wS difficult to put,, I'm small very small but also keep fit so am I slim or athletic ,,,, who knows

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By *indys loverCouple
over a year ago

Stratford on avon

"Some people don't know the difference between "no" and "know" and "our" and "are"....am I the only person thinking this?!!!

Oh 'no' I 'know' 'our' 'are'ses are to big to be Fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some people don't know the difference between "no" and "know" and "our" and "are"....am I the only person thinking this?!!!

Oh 'no' I 'know' 'our' 'are'ses are to big to be Fab

too!! xx

Spelling mistress here!!

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By *indys loverCouple
over a year ago

Stratford on avon

"Some people don't know the difference between "no" and "know" and "our" and "are"....am I the only person thinking this?!!!

Oh 'no' I 'know' 'our' 'are'ses are to big to be Fab

too!! xx

Spelling mistress here!!

sorry ,,,,, to big too be Fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some people don't know the difference between "no" and "know" and "our" and "are"....am I the only person thinking this?!!!

Oh 'no' I 'know' 'our' 'are'ses are to big to be Fab

too!! xx

Spelling mistress here!!

Mistress or mistress

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some people don't know the difference between "no" and "know" and "our" and "are"....am I the only person thinking this?!!!

Oh 'no' I 'know' 'our' 'are'ses are to big to be Fab

too!! xx

Spelling mistress here!!

'too' should be capitalised.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some people don't know the difference between "no" and "know" and "our" and "are"....am I the only person thinking this?!!!

Oh 'no' I 'know' 'our' 'are'ses are to big to be Fab

too!! xx

Spelling mistress here!!

sorry ,,,,, to big too be Fab

lol now you are just winding me up!!! My red pen is itching!! x

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By *inktherapyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

See...... I'm overweight - but am in-and-out curvy with it -so describe myself as curvy (I don't think I'm in the large or ample category just yet) But... I *do* have pics on the profile that you can get enough of an idea of my body shape, so hopefully that's ok

To agree with an earlier poster - curvy is a shape, not size - curves can exist on a petite size 8 or a larger size. Stand 3 women size 12 together and you could have 3 totally different body shapes, even though they all wear the same size clothes...

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over a year ago

"Some people don't know the difference between "no" and "know" and "our" and "are"....am I the only person thinking this?!!!

Oh 'no' I 'know' 'our' 'are'ses are to big to be Fab

too!! xx

Spelling mistress here!!

Mistress or mistress

Oi! I am a mistress.....as a quiet unassuming one!!

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By *indys loverCouple
over a year ago

Stratford on avon

"Some people don't know the difference between "no" and "know" and "our" and "are"....am I the only person thinking this?!!!

Oh 'no' I 'know' 'our' 'are'ses are to big to be Fab

too!! xx

Spelling mistress here!!

sorry ,,,,, to big too be Fab

lol now you are just winding me up!!! My red pen is itching!! x

I was chortling away as i hit the post message button

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've called myself fat and just get people rolling their eyes at me or telling me not to be daft, and this isn't just from men that are in need of a hole! I know what I am, but if I were to put on my profile 'fat munter' I'd gets loads of messages from the sites white knights telling me how beautiful I am, and I just can't be arsed with it so I describe myself as accurately and inoffensively as I can so that I don't look like I'm attention seeking, but also to come across positively enough to attract those that do have have soft spot for us lard arses. So if calling myself a Curvy BBW gets me meets and reduces the sympathy messages then that's how I'll describe myself. I have pics so that those who click can see my body shape and size and decide for themselves if they like my wobbly bits or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Everyone has issuses with size...funny that in the street they would walk past you????

Only if the pavement is wide enough."

Oh i know...lol been called a lot of names by men after ive said no thanks....yet they are the ones that make contact...im thick round the middle...get over it!!! life is short...i love my body it tells a story of my life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some people don't know the difference between "no" and "know" and "our" and "are"....am I the only person thinking this?!!!

Oh 'no' I 'know' 'our' 'are'ses are to big to be Fab

too!! xx

Spelling mistress here!!

Mistress or mistress

Oi! I am a mistress.....as a quiet unassuming one!!

Just checking, nice boots BTW

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Everyone has issuses with size...funny that in the street they would walk past you????

Only if the pavement is wide enough."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some people don't know the difference between "no" and "know" and "our" and "are"....am I the only person thinking this?!!!

Oh 'no' I 'know' 'our' 'are'ses are to big to be Fab

too!! xx

Spelling mistress here!!

sorry ,,,,, to big too be Fab

lol now you are just winding me up!!! My red pen is itching!! x

I was chortling away as i hit the post message button

Oh I was on the floor rolling around laughing my tits off.....oh no, sorry I wasn't!!! x

PS it is "I" not "i"!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"IMHO You can be curvy and not fat .. but if you're fat, like I am, then you are generally going to be curvy too ..

I wonder what they call the transitional phase from curvy to fat. Cos that's what I'm doing.

*takes look* . . . beautiful

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By *indys loverCouple
over a year ago

Stratford on avon

"Some people don't know the difference between "no" and "know" and "our" and "are"....am I the only person thinking this?!!!

Oh 'no' I 'know' 'our' 'are'ses are to big to be Fab

too!! xx

Spelling mistress here!!

sorry ,,,,, to big too be Fab

lol now you are just winding me up!!! My red pen is itching!! x

I was chortling away as i hit the post message button

Oh I was on the floor rolling around laughing my tits off.....oh no, sorry I wasn't!!! x

PS it is "I" not "i"!!!!"

sticky caps lock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I lose weight and become skinny again I will lose my men I like seeing. One told me he wants me to gain another half a stone,which would be too uncomfortable for me. And he's a doctor so should be concerned about my health not his enjoyment

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Some of the most judgemental, critical people on this thread have descriptions that I think are downright wrong. It's all subjective.

I have photos so everyone else can decide for themselves, (when I'm meeting, that is. I'm not at the moment).

One thing that occurred to me though is that it's clear that photos are vital in deciding if you fancy someone. However, the OP who is happy enough to observe that sometimes people's descriptions of themselves can be misleading, only has photos of one of them on their profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's a massive difference but noticing on here some people clearly don't no the difference.

Our we the only ones thinking this? "

They know everyone knows but very few like to shout they are fat the same goes for ugly people and why should they.

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

"As someone said, look at the photos, meet the person, if you like them, you like them. Why stick a label on "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"curvy is ample thighs breast and buttocks, the hourglass type body, if you've got folds you're not curvy sorry to disappoint, for example apple or pear shaped aren't classed as curvy."

in your opinion.

if its fact, please show your findings

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"curvy is ample thighs breast and buttocks, the hourglass type body, if you've got folds you're not curvy sorry to disappoint, for example apple or pear shaped aren't classed as curvy.

in your opinion.

if its fact, please show your findings"

I could equally well say sorry but athletic means displaying some defined musculature.

Others may disagree, of course.

People in glass houses eh?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

funny how the ones that started this thread, and in fact, backed them in insulting all those that arent 'perfectly slim' have backed away from defending their opinion.

someone or something must have rattled their cage.

maybe they were turned down by a fatty and didnt feel they deserve it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Beauty is subjective. Fat isn't. Curvy as a description clearly is.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Some seem to confuse an athletic *body type* with being physically fit.

It's possible to be athletic without looking athletic. And many are.

It's not just women with rose-tinted spectacles.

And "curvy" men? What on earth is that about?

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"funny how the ones that started this thread, and in fact, backed them in insulting all those that arent 'perfectly slim' have backed away from defending their opinion.

someone or something must have rattled their cage.

maybe they were turned down by a fatty and didnt feel they deserve it"

Ah us pesky fatties who punch above our weight and wouldn't get a second glance in a pub.

To be fair, I don't think the OP was malicious. Ill-conceived perhaps but not malicious.

Some of the other comments have been entirely uncalled for though.

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

"funny how the ones that started this thread, and in fact, backed them in insulting all those that arent 'perfectly slim' have backed away from defending their opinion.

someone or something must have rattled their cage.

maybe they were turned down by a fatty and didnt feel they deserve it"

Or maybe they are on their phone and cant be arsed trying to read all the replies, its not the best layout of messageboards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

describe urself how you want. just have the pics to back it up so people can judge for themselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Curvy is a shape not a size....

You can be a size 8 or 18 and be curvy

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By *indys loverCouple
over a year ago

Stratford on avon

for some reason I feel at home in this thread ,,,,, may take up residence here ,

Herc can pop in every now and then to say hello ,,,,,, and no doubt Minxie will come in and administer punishment incase I get 'me' grammer wrong

minxie ,,,,, it was such a shame I was going to pay you a compliment last night but you wouldnt allow me to have a look at you ,,,,, bet you thought ,,, Yuk , Fat bastard , block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"for some reason I feel at home in this thread ,,,,, may take up residence here ,

Herc can pop in every now and then to say hello ,,,,,, and no doubt Minxie will come in and administer punishment incase I get 'me' grammer wrong

minxie ,,,,, it was such a shame I was going to pay you a compliment last night but you wouldnt allow me to have a look at you ,,,,, bet you thought ,,, Yuk , Fat bastard , block

Is this an attempt at reverse psychology, Minxie will have to let you look now just to prove she has nothing against fat bastards?!!! Not suggesting you are, your words not mine!

Regardless it made me smile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I didn't feel good around someone for my size a turn off to be honest.

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By *indys loverCouple
over a year ago

Stratford on avon

"for some reason I feel at home in this thread ,,,,, may take up residence here ,

Herc can pop in every now and then to say hello ,,,,,, and no doubt Minxie will come in and administer punishment incase I get 'me' grammer wrong

minxie ,,,,, it was such a shame I was going to pay you a compliment last night but you wouldnt allow me to have a look at you ,,,,, bet you thought ,,, Yuk , Fat bastard , block

Is this an attempt at reverse psychology, Minxie will have to let you look now just to prove she has nothing against fat bastards?!!! Not suggesting you are, your words not mine!

Regardless it made me smile

If I have made someone smile today then its a good day in my books

as for the fat bastard bit , well some say im a bit harsh omn my self ,,,,, but I think they are being a bit kind myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"for some reason I feel at home in this thread ,,,,, may take up residence here ,

Herc can pop in every now and then to say hello ,,,,,, and no doubt Minxie will come in and administer punishment incase I get 'me' grammer wrong

minxie ,,,,, it was such a shame I was going to pay you a compliment last night but you wouldnt allow me to have a look at you ,,,,, bet you thought ,,, Yuk , Fat bastard , block

Is this an attempt at reverse psychology, Minxie will have to let you look now just to prove she has nothing against fat bastards?!!! Not suggesting you are, your words not mine!

Regardless it made me smile

If I have made someone smile today then its a good day in my books

as for the fat bastard bit , well some say im a bit harsh omn my self ,,,,, but I think they are being a bit kind myself

how comes my name always pops up when it comes to dropping into threads and causing a little trouble? lol

as for the subject.

im me, and thats all i can be

fat

thin

tall

short

intelligent

stupid

i couldnt give a flying swans arsehole what others think about me.

i know what i see in a mirror, and i describe myself thusly.

if you feel the need to shout at me in a club/pub/street, well guess what, it aint something i havent heard before.

so what?

im much happier knowing im the type of person that judges people on who they are and not what they look like.

would rather get to know someone and find they are arseholes, than never give them the chance because they look funny, have moobs, a saggy arse or whatever many other reasons people find to segregate others.

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By *indys loverCouple
over a year ago

Stratford on avon

im puzzled Herc

what does a flying swans arsehole look like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" im puzzled Herc

what does a flying swans arsehole look like

to find out you have to watch the documentary 'plying with swans' where they put a cam on a swans head, and in one section you can see what the swan following the lead swan sees.

its like walking around with a prune taped over your eyes.

just unfortunate that the 2nd swan didnt slow down as quickly as the first.

it looked like a swan limo....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no problems either way. Some people look wonderful large and some don't.

There is something lovely about an attractive BBW who embraces her full figure xxx Jim

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Curvy is a shape not a size....

You can be a size 8 or 18 and be curvy"

We need to get Gok Wan here he knows all about body shape and curvy woman. Will sort this out .

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By *indys loverCouple
over a year ago

Stratford on avon

walking around with a prune taped over your eyes

I take it ive got to use 'duck' tape when I stick this prune over my eyes ,,,

I take it the prune juice that dribbles down your face just adds to the effect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm fat

My husband is fat

We both like other fat people

We describe ourselves as large as that is the only available option. If there was a fat option we would use that as to us fat is not a negative word.

As a personal preference I would choose a big man over a smaller one any day. BUT ultimately it's what's inside that counts, the way a person carries themselves, their confidence, aura whatever you want to call it, that's what makes someone attractive in my eyes. Six packs & big cocks are all very well & no offence to those that possess them but if they belong to an arrogant arsehole then that's a massive turn off for me. Give me a three pack & an average sized cock attached to a really nice guy any day of the week

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