FabSwingers.com forum: Abusive messages?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Apparently, and I have this from the horses mouth, you are not supposed to send replies to people telling them to fuck off if they can't be arsed to read your profile when they message you. Even though their message was a generic copy and paste job sent to every women within fifty miles totally regardless of what they were looking for. I don't want to hide profile but it is doing my head in, despite filters, despite being very clear with my interests. I used to just block them but now and again I get one that really pisses me off, you know the really cocky gods gift type of ones and I react.

Shan't anymore, will try to get a life and not get so upset.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

. It does occasionally get annoying doesn't it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I do feel a bit like Winston Smith in Oceana sometimes when I use this site, Nuffield said

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By *ove bi guysWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

Well I have been told I am a fake and need to get a life this evening by a woman (or at least a female profile) ... More irritating they are now hidden and have blocked me ! Probably just as well for them grrr !

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I do feel a bit like Winston Smith in Oceana sometimes when I use this site, Nuffield said

Well I have no idea who Winston Smith is but I feel like the invisible woman in invisible on here sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't you just ask them to put a word in there message heading?At least that way you will no if they have read your profile and just delete the ones that don't use the word.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take a deep breath hun. It is frustrating but there is more eloquent and fun ways of telling someobe to f off. They are probably that thick they wouldnt even realise what you are saying (and they would look forward to the journey lol)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What part of 'not meeting' didn't he/they understand?

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"I do feel a bit like Winston Smith in Oceana sometimes when I use this site, Nuffield said

Well I have no idea who Winston Smith is but I feel like the invisible woman in invisible on here sometimes

It's a reference to the novel 1984 by George Orwell.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Unfortunately there's no rule on here that says anyone has to read your profile but there are ones that say not to send abusive messages.

I find sarcasm works much better. If I'm having one of those days where I'm fed up of daft messages I tend to reply politely explaining exactly why I don't want to meet the person. Then block.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Can't you just ask them to put a word in there message heading?At least that way you will no if they have read your profile and just delete the ones that don't use the word.

Tried that before for a few days and not one sod bothered to use that word but all claimed they loved my profile and pics (one line profile, one pic).

Winston smith main character in Orwells 1984

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there are some random people on here who seem to think you are only here for their pleasure, even if that pleasure is abuse to you, we have had a few random messages ( and no doubt will get more) such is the life of a interwebby type person lol

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

"Well I have been told I am a fake and need to get a life this evening by a woman (or at least a female profile) ... More irritating they are now hidden and have blocked me ! Probably just as well for them grrr !

I'm sorry, I read your profile name as BigAl rather than BiGal...maybe that's what happened with the other profile

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I do feel a bit like Winston Smith in Oceana sometimes when I use this site, Nuffield said

Well I have no idea who Winston Smith is but I feel like the invisible woman in invisible on here sometimes

It's a reference to the novel 1984 by George Orwell. "

Thank you. I have read the book but when I was 16 so I've had a lot of time to forget it lol.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I do feel a bit like Winston Smith in Oceana sometimes when I use this site, Nuffield said

Well I have no idea who Winston Smith is but I feel like the invisible woman in invisible on here sometimes

1984.

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By *ove bi guysWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

I'm sorry, I read your profile name as BigAl rather than BiGal...maybe that's what happened with the other profile

I didn't notice how it could be read until a guy kept calling me Al and I had to ask him why he called me that lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just delete.. And breathe. Swamps attract pondlife...

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I do feel a bit like Winston Smith in Oceana sometimes when I use this site, Nuffield said

Well I have no idea who Winston Smith is but I feel like the invisible woman in invisible on here sometimes

1984.

Thank you

. It's a lot of years since I read it and I think I was made to for school

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can you not ask them to play the game called f**k off and they go first

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I am. Considering returning the favours and the next message I get that goes into detail about what they would like to do to my arse/tits/fanny I will report because I find those messages offensive especially as completely uninvited. If someone came up to me in the street and said what some of them say I would punch them on the nose!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm sorry, I read your profile name as BigAl rather than BiGal...maybe that's what happened with the other profile

I didn't notice how it could be read until a guy kept calling me Al and I had to ask him why he called me that lol"

That did make me giggle

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

I honestly don't know why folk stress over these sort of messages...just block - or - and here's a radical thought - either filter everyone out or hide your profile, that will stop you appearing on searches

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By *inkykoupleukCouple
over a year ago

southampton

Know how you feel.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I don't suffer fools gladly and this site has a fair few I'm sure, but they seldom bother me. If someone outwith my criteria contacts me I ignore. Sometimes they are waaaaaaaaaay outside what I'm looking for and I'll reply (when I'm feeling devilish,asking when they read "no bi, married, Dom, short hairy men", did they think I meant the other guys, not them?!!

Don't let it bother me though!

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

"I am. Considering returning the favours and the next message I get that goes into detail about what they would like to do to my arse/tits/fanny I will report because I find those messages offensive especially as completely uninvited. If someone came up to me in the street and said what some of them say I would punch them on the nose!

If pointless exercises make you feel better then I'd say report away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never get daft messages. It's great. I reply to all my mail and they are always polite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always find the being overly polite and extremely sarcastic approach highly amusing followed by a block of course

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I laugh....delete and carry on

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Sending fuck off messages is against the site rules and abusive. If you don't like a message block or ignore its not that difficult

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"I laugh....delete and carry on

We do that but we save the really bad ones to cheer us up when we've had a rough day.

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By *j_markCouple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Totteridge/Whetstone

"Sending fuck off messages is against the site rules and abusive. If you don't like a message block or ignore its not that difficult

Sounds like good advice

Admin x

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