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What is with blocking as a reply?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What I said in the post... I am not into messaging a lot, in fact I barely do so, and I am always extremely courteous.

If I do not get a reply I just assume there is no interest and move on...

So, what is with blocking for a reply?

Well, I know I am not the one missing out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Blocking is just another way of telling you they are not interested in you, you dont need it spelling out and you dont get the opportunity to ask why like many people do, just accept they dont want to meet you and look elsewhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always block but it's purely to stop further fruitless conversation from both parties.

It's not a personal thing and we say no thanks first.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Oh, I do get that it means she is not interested... it just seems a very rude way of saying so... I am new to this site, and the scene really, so there's got to be a learning curve, right?

No hurt feelings on my side, it just seemed a disproportionate reply, but I imagine that is the norm here... note taken.

Thanks for the advice, Keen, I will surely look into that as soon as I get more time.

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

People block for all sorts of reasons...avoid getting abusive messages when they don't respond, avoid getting abusive messages when they say no, block if it's obvious messagee hasn't read profile, block as not interested and won't show up on future searches to name but a few...

And neither you nor the blocker is missing out - what the blocker obviously didn't want isn't going to be missed

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

Welcome to the forum by the way

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

it is a site function that makes life easier.....

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Welcome to the forum

Sometimes people do this instead of replying, it is just how they run their profile.

Good luck in finding the ones who answer

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"Welcome to the forum by the way "

Wow, great hair

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you Blonde. I would not have been surprised if it was for one of the reasons you mention that is what I would do and expect in return.

But as The devilinus say... a "No, thanks" would be nice too.. I imagine people get bombarded with messages, which is probably why those are not given out.

About missing out, what I meant is... having me blocked does not make it effectively as if I did not exist in the future? well, closing doors IS missing out for me.

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria


"Welcome to the forum by the way

Wow, great hair"

Thanks Ruggers, I'm blushing now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Welcome to the forum by the way

Wow, great hair

Thanks Ruggers, I'm blushing now "

Waw I've just notice your hair too. Great colour!

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria


"Thank you Blonde. I would not have been surprised if it was for one of the reasons you mention that is what I would do and expect in return.

But as The devilinus say... a "No, thanks" would be nice too.. I imagine people get bombarded with messages, which is probably why those are not given out.

About missing out, what I meant is... having me blocked does not make it effectively as if I did not exist in the future? well, closing doors IS missing out for me."

But your OP stated that you WEREN'T missing out, which came over as a "their loss" type comment to me hence my reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Welcome OP. I answer all [sensible] messages but not everyone does so they block to avoid further messages. I only block when they can't take no for an answer and message constantly! Good luck and hope you enjoy the site

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

My mistake, Blonde, poor choice of words it seems.

I hope I find more like you then, Legs. Otherwise I will just stop sending messages altogether.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My mistake, Blonde, poor choice of words it seems.

I hope I find more like you then, Legs. Otherwise I will just stop sending messages altogether. "

lol Oh don't give up so easy. I'm sure you get some answers. Plus now you've joined in the Forums, there's no going back

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria


"My mistake, Blonde, poor choice of words it seems.

I hope I find more like you then, Legs. Otherwise I will just stop sending messages altogether.

lol Oh don't give up so easy. I'm sure you get some answers. Plus now you've joined in the Forums, there's no going back "

Yeah, it's like Hotel California in here...I only popped in for a nosey in 2011 and I haven't left the sofa since then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My mistake, Blonde, poor choice of words it seems.

I hope I find more like you then, Legs. Otherwise I will just stop sending messages altogether.

lol Oh don't give up so easy. I'm sure you get some answers. Plus now you've joined in the Forums, there's no going back

Yeah, it's like Hotel California in here...I only popped in for a nosey in 2011 and I haven't left the sofa since then "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've blocked you all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My mistake, Blonde, poor choice of words it seems.

I hope I find more like you then, Legs. Otherwise I will just stop sending messages altogether.

lol Oh don't give up so easy. I'm sure you get some answers. Plus now you've joined in the Forums, there's no going back "

Haha, I read that as 'your arse is ours now'

OP brighten up your profile, get involved in chat here and keep going.

Rhino skin will be useful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've blocked you all "

Lier pssst your flies are undone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Welcome OP. I answer all [sensible] messages but not everyone does so they block to avoid further messages. I only block when they can't take no for an answer and message constantly! Good luck and hope you enjoy the site "

This I dont see the need to block unless someones given abuse, taken the hump or not taken the hint.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What I said in the post... I am not into messaging a lot, in fact I barely do so, and I am always extremely courteous.

If I do not get a reply I just assume there is no interest and move on...

So, what is with blocking for a reply?

Well, I know I am not the one missing out."

what?

you message someone, as you are interested in them, yes?

they reject you as they are obviously not interest, and block you so you dont waste either of your times, and THEY are the one missing out?

think someone is deluded and has a somewhat high opinion of himself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I see someone and I'm not what they are looking for, I usually block to save me from accidentally wasting my time reading their profile again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you Blonde. I would not have been surprised if it was for one of the reasons you mention that is what I would do and expect in return.

But as The devilinus say... a "No, thanks" would be nice too.. I imagine people get bombarded with messages, which is probably why those are not given out.

About missing out, what I meant is... having me blocked does not make it effectively as if I did not exist in the future? well, closing doors IS missing out for me."

But what difference would a no thanks make? End result is still the same.

The harsh reality is that people that don't want to meet you have no need or reason to pander to your sense of entitlement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What I said in the post... I am not into messaging a lot, in fact I barely do so, and I am always extremely courteous.

If I do not get a reply I just assume there is no interest and move on...

So, what is with blocking for a reply?

Well, I know I am not the one missing out."

Every one should block every one and get on with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I block for several reasons, if the person becomes unpleasant, if I see a status update like "so many fatties on here"' and if I keep getting messages from someone I've said no to or I can see isn't the kind of fella I'm going to ever meet. Saves my time and theirs too really. I do often think it seems harsh, but it's necessary.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I once had a bitchy letter I mailed back as could not understand why and was blocked. Some don't wish to here what you may say back so block you . I now think really I should have reported it .. And will if I get that again here . I have no one in block had no need too .. so far and been here years.

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