FabSwingers.com forum: Sexless marriage

By *el and Dee OP Couple
over a year ago

Derby

Your partner expects you to live in a totally sexless marriage. Do you stay or leave?

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Sexless? Hmmmmm...loveless? No!

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By *el and Dee OP Couple
over a year ago

Derby

He says he loves you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If he's having sex with someone else, leave

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"Your partner expects you to live in a totally sexless marriage. Do you stay or leave? "

if you need sex, leave.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

stayed cos of love and loyalty ... but left .. and now i feel happier .. less settled and comfortable .. but more excited with life

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

I have stayed

A wasted unhappy life.

If you are young and can start again Do It.

Do they say it will /can be an open marriage where you can find sex else where?

If you love them and they you stay. Is it health reasons or lack of libido .. can it be fixed? so many questions and reasons for this happening.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I stayed for 15 years, but 3 years ago I realised I couldn't face the rest of my life never having sex again. It was a hard decision, but my life is so much better now in every way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no choice x but life is what you make it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you stay there will be trouble.

If you go there will be double.

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By *nfieldishCouple
over a year ago

Enfield

"If you stay there will be trouble.

If you go there will be double. "

Wise words....are they yours?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you love somebody enough to want to stay - then you don't have to question things - you talk and work out things that are best for both of you...

If you have to ask the question - then there isn't enough love or reason left to stay, is there...?

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By *o1mrtlcMan
over a year ago

cannock

"I have no choice x but life is what you make it x

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you always have a choice but you have to do whats right for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I should go to relate or something. See if they can tease out whats wrong with you both before doing other things to get relief.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You do what's right for you.

I always think that unless you walk a mile in someone else's shoes you don't fully understand why anyone does anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only you can answer that question.

You need to work out what your marriage means to you, what is important & the consequences should you stay or leave.

Sex plays a part in marriage, if both parties are happy to abstein then so be it. If only one wants to that can cause issues for the other ~ resentment, hurt, insecurity to name a few.

Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sexless marriage...... Ide get myself a regular fuckbuddy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You do what's right for you.

I always think that unless you walk a mile in someone else's shoes you don't fully understand why anyone does anything. "

Trouble with that is, by the time you get back some bugger has nicked your shoes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have no choice x but life is what you make it x

you always have a choice but you have to do whats right for you "

Nope no choices x

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman
over a year ago

Glenrothes

In my last relationship, I was celibate for 5 years. I stayed because I cared and it's amazing what you will put up with when you do. However, I realised what he wanted was someone to look after him on his terms and there was no thought for me and my needs, so I ended it. It was the best thing I ever did.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would stay, I can live without sex, it's not the be all of a relationship/marriage. Cuddling, kissing etc is enough for me.

But I'm never having a relationship again so I can do as I please without answering to anyone apart from my parents. I never have to think about what wedding planning, buying baby clothes etc.

Quite looking forward to spending the rest of my life on my own

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By *kin BohnerMan
over a year ago

derby

Honestly... Obviously depending on everything else in the relationship it may well be time to call it off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you love somebody enough to want to stay - then you don't have to question things - you talk and work out things that are best for both of you...

If you have to ask the question - then there isn't enough love or reason left to stay, is there...?

This.

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By *ouple_SpondonCouple
over a year ago

Spondon

Perhaps sit each other down and discuss. Maybe the sex needs to be re-invigoratef. Perhaps the person desiring sex can suggest permission to seek it elsewhere so long as it isn't in the marital bed... Though if it was that could well be the catalyst for re-invigorating......

certainly it is important to discuss this with your partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Four years ago my wife had an emergency hysterectomy; after it she said that she no longer felt like a women, we've only had sex five times since then. I've tried to help her I've been patient, suggested seeking help but she says I should just give her time. I truly love her so I don't want to leave her but I need sex so here I am

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

A sexless marriage isn't very nice.

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By *ScotsmanMan
over a year ago

ayrshire

"If you stay there will be trouble.

If you go there will be double. "
oh its time to let me know. . .should i stay or should i go !

x X X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Four years ago my wife had an emergency hysterectomy; after it she said that she no longer felt like a women, we've only had sex five times since then. I've tried to help her I've been patient, suggested seeking help but she says I should just give her time. I truly love her so I don't want to leave her but I need sex so here I am"

Does she know you're on here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does she know you're on here?"

No - I asked her to consider letting me play on here but she wont.

I know its cheating but it works for me - I had started to be angry about the situation but now I'm on here I find it easier to live with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does she know you're on here?

No - I asked her to consider letting me play on here but she wont.

I know its cheating but it works for me - I had started to be angry about the situation but now I'm on here I find it easier to live with."

So if she said no why come on here? Sex isn't a need, in my eyes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because it is to me - give it up for four years then let me know if you still feel the same (in your eyes)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would cheat to, I gues he shags around.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does she know you're on here?

No - I asked her to consider letting me play on here but she wont.

I know its cheating but it works for me - I had started to be angry about the situation but now I'm on here I find it easier to live with.

So if she said no why come on here? Sex isn't a need, in my eyes"

But they are not your eyes. You need to see the world through the other persons.

It doesn't necessarily condone cheating on your partner but the world isn't made up of merely black white but rather a rainbow of colours. Sometimes it's hard to see how the rainbow looks to someone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because it is to me - give it up for four years then let me know if you still feel the same (in your eyes)"

I've gone longer and didn't make a difference. She already feels less like a woman, cheating might make her feel even less. Do you have any idea how she'll feel if she found out or if you tell her? I found out through a friend that my fiance had cheated on me twice

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Ok can we stick to the question rather than turn it into a cheating thread. Thanks

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"Your partner expects you to live in a totally sexless marriage. Do you stay or leave? "

It would depend on if I was in love and being loved.

If there was no love there then I would leave, if the rest of the relationship was fine then I could probably do without sex and just diddle a lot

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By *oloist 81Woman
over a year ago

wigan

Depends how seriously u rate ur marraige and ur vows

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your partner expects you to live in a totally sexless marriage. Do you stay or leave? "

depends how highly you consider sex to be as a part of a relationship.

me, i could live without.

sex has never been high up on my priority list of things in life anyway, and am as happy having a wank as i am having sex.

as was said, loveless however, no, i would walk away.

wouldnt cheat anyway, thats for damned sure

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By *el and Dee OP Couple
over a year ago

Derby

Ok can we stick to the question rather than turn it into a cheating thread. Thanks

Thanks I think it needs bringing back to the original question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think as your a couple you need to discuss this together.

It really would depend on a number of things within the marriage, but if we loved each other and was in love with each other, and sex wasn't happening for whatever reasons, then yes I would stay in the marriage, as sex isn't everything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I stayed. I was not happy though. To this day I have a complex. I always wonder why I was so repulsive to him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me apart from the physical pleasure, the intimacy you share by having sex with someone you love is an incredibly powerful emotion to give up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For me apart from the physical pleasure, the intimacy you share by having sex with someone you love is an incredibly powerful emotion to give up."

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By *affy72Woman
over a year ago

Herefordshire

"Well I stayed. I was not happy though. To this day I have a complex. I always wonder why I was so repulsive to him.

God I could have written that! I was in a sexless relationship for seven years, I didn't look at anyone else, wasn't interested, and then he ended things. Not a surprise really, with hindsight, but devastating at the time.

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By *affy72Woman
over a year ago

Herefordshire

"For me apart from the physical pleasure, the intimacy you share by having sex with someone you love is an incredibly powerful emotion to give up."

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"Your partner expects you to live in a totally sexless marriage. Do you stay or leave? "
Its not always as cut and dried as just being able to up and leave.....but it is soul destroying over time.

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