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How to judge a time waster?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

so i've just had 4 days in a row now that 4 different people have chatted to me and wasted my time with arranging meets etc, please people share your tips and tricks on how to spot them from afar so the genuine people here don't waste time with them.

Maybe i'm too nice and trusting.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

stick a deck chair up their nose?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did they stand you up in a pub or something? What do you call a time waster? Maybe you're coming across too needy or something, not sure why anyone would do that... It happened to me a few times as well on a previous profile, not this one though thankfully xx

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By *oom For 1 MoreMan
over a year ago

Ayrshire


"stick a deck chair up their nose? "
pmsl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"stick a deck chair up their nose? "

Throw a chicken in the air

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Did they stand you up in a pub or something? What do you call a time waster? Maybe you're coming across too needy or something, not sure why anyone would do that... It happened to me a few times as well on a previous profile, not this one though thankfully xx"

when i say time waster a person who arranges something like a meet then doesn't turn up, or says they can't do it last minute etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah, would def call that time wasting as well... bummer, hope things change for you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"so i've just had 4 days in a row now that 4 different people have chatted to me and wasted my time with arranging meets etc, please people share your tips and tricks on how to spot them from afar so the genuine people here don't waste time with them.

Maybe i'm too nice and trusting. "

I would say its far from time wasters more something you are doing to put them off. you have to accept just because peopel chat with you then there is no guarantee on meeting far from it if you expect people to commit to meeting in a 34 hour period then you are going to fail epically with many.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

try to chat on the phone to them before the meet ..

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Four in four days?

That's either epically bad luck - or possibly very poor selection criteria!

A

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Four in four days?

That's either epically bad luck - or possibly very poor selection criteria!

A"

bit of both i'm guessing, one was for an FFM in birmingham i went there any everything to meet up, i had her number so i thought i could trust her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did you ring her for a quick chat first?

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Did you ring her for a quick chat first?"

Would have been my question.

A number is no use unless there's been verbal confirmation that 'Jenny' isn't actually 'Kenny' !

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Did you ring her for a quick chat first?"

yeah i did, then once i went where we were going to meet i got no response.

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By *ScotsmanMan
over a year ago

ayrshire

by the amount of time they waste

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Did you ring her for a quick chat first?

yeah i did, then once i went where we were going to meet i got no response."

The I'd suggest reporting them as 'arranged a meet - did not show'.

We're they verified and a long standing member - or a newbie with no track record?

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ok 4 in 4 days is bad luck, but if one of those had to cancel last minute for some reason it doesn't always mean they're a timewaster. it's possible that was genuine. i have a young munchkin and have had to reschedule meets due to childcare falling through once and getting a phone call from the school twice.... once as i was leaving got the meet! it can't be helped, sometimes. but good luck in future.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

youve only been on a couple of weeks and to have 4 possible meets in that time is pretty darn good if i go by the single men comments here - take a bit more time to get to know who you are meeting - its not a sex guaranteed site yanno

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

to you they appear as time wasting as your obviously disappointed. but they may have genuine reasons and if im honest if 4 diffent people backed out in 4 days id take a look at yourself as it may just be something about you thats putting them off. you call it time wasting they may consider it a lucky escape...different perspective thats all

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By *an and wifeyCouple
over a year ago

n lincs

Check how long they been in the site, any verifications may help you decide if they have any at all lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" i had her number so i thought i could trust her."

Was it actually her number?...did you speak to her or communicate in any way?...

But you've been on the site 2 weeks and 4 potential meets, I would be questioning if that's true and/or the meets were legitimate...to be fair.

It took me a month to get my first meet.

$0.02

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By *lassyandadventurousMan
over a year ago

England and Wales

he did not get let down four times...hes dreaming

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"so i've just had 4 days in a row now that 4 different people have chatted to me and wasted my time with arranging meets etc, please people share your tips and tricks on how to spot them from afar so the genuine people here don't waste time with them.

Maybe i'm too nice and trusting. "

Four people in four days? Perhaps change your selection process. Invest in getting to know someone via messages, phone conversations then no pressure social meet?

A woman agreeing to meet after exchanging a couple of messages is rare I'd wager. So think with the head above your waist: better luck next time!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Four in four days?

That's either epically bad luck - or possibly very poor selection criteria!

A"

My thought too.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"he did not get let down four times...hes dreaming"

Hmmmm...have to admit to thinking the same thing.

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