FabSwingers.com forum: ex husbands

By *usty OP Woman
over a year ago

inverclyde

now i know why called ex husbands, mine is a total git, he dont see his only daughter too often only when he feels like it and still waiting for the settlement, oh cant wait to be shot of him for good then i can get on with my life again.

anyone else had probs with ex hubbys would be good to hear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nah sorry mines been a dimond lol

Has my little one for me regular, we have her ever other weekend each so we can both go out and he has her thro week as well, helps me out with money when the kids need stuff, hes even coming to help decorate my kitchen tonight, infact we get on better now than we have ever done, wouldnt get back together tho, i think we get on now cause we not on top of each other any more, i just see him as a friend now and its nice for the little one that we get on and its better for us and hate is a emotion thats not good for anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get on better with my ex husband now than we did when we were married..

When kids were smaller he had them every weekend,never had to chase him for money we even spend part of xmas day together with the kids,some of our friends used to find it weird but our kids have benefited from it,they are happy secure kids.

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By *ooty and suuCouple
over a year ago

barnsley

as a exhusband

would love to see my kids

let her have everything so my kids where looked after

although she told her 3rd husband i was dead

no idea what she told the forth

not all exhusband are bad

we had two girls

what did i do wrong

oh yes i couldnt give her a son

men who wont see there kids or support them need shooting

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

We're not all bad you know - and time helps, a lot.

Had my kid every weekend since she left, nearly ten years ago. Now have him 50% of the time, wouldnt have it any other way.

The divorce cost me well into 6 figures and nearly busted me - still suffer the financial consequences today - but we're both much happier apart than we ever were together. she's now married to the guy she was shagging, and he's welcome to her.

Nothing worse than being in a crap marriage, SO glad i'm out of it.

"although she told her 3rd husband i was dead - no idea what she told the forth" - i know it's a serious topic (i live it every day), but that was funny as fcuk!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ex hubby put me and daughter on the street when we split, called social work, my sisters etc and told them i was a swinger and a domme, head butted me a cpl times when i went along to sort stuff out and doesnt see his daughter , she 19 but has special needs so not really my favourite person on the planet lol

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By *ickmealloverWoman
over a year ago

a very plush appartment off junt 7 M5

its nice to see someone say something nice about the ex

Mine is fine as long as he stays away

I gave him open access to my daughter, now she lives with him she is told she cannot see me as often as she wants

He is a gitbag of the first order and I hope he gets the pox

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my ex partner is a dream......if nightmares are your thing!!

8 year never paid a penny for kiddo or seen her or bought her a christmas present or birthday card!

then bitches to his workmates he doesnt get to see her........

luckily my friends man told them all straight!

best thing i ever did was get the csa involved he now pays 80 quid a wk and still doesnt see her or have any contact his choice not mine xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine chose his girlfriend over his daughter

Long story but thats the way it is , he never see's her and she doesn't want to see him.

Its nice if it can be amicable but sadly its not always the way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

mine tols the courts that i was on a swinging site and i often have men over at my flat (can i just say my flat)no one ever somes to MY FLAT when my daughter is home only when she is not here on a weekend,and my brife said in the 60's it was called free love!!!!! it has now just changed its name..... my ex got no where with that one

plus it maybe because i was sleeping with my brife.... wow he was fit lol xoxoxox

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston

I only speak to mine through text and only about shorty, but have to admit he really is the most brilliant devoted father that I know and would alway put shorty before himself.

However, he is still an arsewipe, lol

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By *usty OP Woman
over a year ago

inverclyde

mine put his job and small business before his only daughter and is a total git as still waiting for my settlement from the divorce so meantime making my life a misery..... oh but he cant travel to spend time with his daughter but he can travel to spend time with new lady.. he lives oxon she is in yorkshire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None what-so-ever with mine. In fact, we continue to be in very good terms, and he is one of the 3 people I would ring should I be in any trouble etc...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would just love to bitch about my ex-husband but I can't.

If I need bulb changing, drains clearing he does it. If it's something he can't do he knows a man that can.

Whenever I fancy Jamaican cooking or fish frying I ask him and he cooks up a storm.

He paid for the girls driving lessons, still pays my daughter's cello lessons and bought her a new cello: I got the hard case. Buys her phones pays the bill.

Has never missed a birthday, as a family attend graduations etc and uni visits.

My youngest spends every weekend with him and every week he sends me Mars bars lol!

We spend bank holidays by the coast with the girls and they build sand castles while I watch and tut. Our girls are 18, 22 and 27, happy to be out and about with the old foggies.

Nope, I nearly killed him when we were married, was married for 24 years, known each other for 30.

To this day the only man I trust, shame drink and drugs drove us apart. Cleaned up his act the day I left!

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"now i know why called ex husbands, mine is a total git, he dont see his only daughter too often only when he feels like it and still waiting for the settlement, oh cant wait to be shot of him for good then i can get on with my life again.

anyone else had probs with ex hubbys would be good to hear"
not husbands but two exes that are currently at equal stakes in the people id most like to poke a blunt instrument into an orifice repeatedly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

anyone else had probs with ex hubbys would be good to hearnot husbands but two exes that are currently at equal stakes in the people id most like to poke a blunt instrument into an orifice repeatedly

would you like to borrow my large steel baseball bat

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

Oooppss missed a bit out in last version! lol

Have to say that ex wives can be just as bad if not worse and get away with a hell of a lot more from the courts than the dads do

And on another wee note they wouldn't be your EX if they were still the love of your life now would they? An ex is an ex for a reason!

Just my tuppence worth as usual lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get on great with my ex-wife too.... that's mostly down to the fact that she isn't around to leave her stubble in the sink after she's shaved and the toilet seat is always up.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

anyone else had probs with ex hubbys would be good to hearnot husbands but two exes that are currently at equal stakes in the people id most like to poke a blunt instrument into an orifice repeatedly

would you like to borrow my large steel baseball bat

xx"
for starters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll tell you about the b*stard of an ex husband i had was with him from basically childhhood had never been with another guy apart from him had the house a child of 3 and he decided to open his own business selling tools etc then tool trade went down the pan and ended up with him sitting around all day doing nothing but moan and bitch then out of the blue he says im leaving WTF !! that was 2 days after xmas taking all my sons toys and selling them to a secondhand shop for money to buy a car come the new year i end up in court for the house and the money owed to the tool people to the tune of £46,000 as he forged my signature on everything having to move back in to mums then being a bankrupt then he had the cheek to pick our son up and drop at his mums while he went out on day trips with his mates all over the uk used to be nasty to son all the time telling horrid stories about me.

Fast forward 2 months walking out of the local shops 1 day came across an old boyfriend from school when about 12 yr old invited me to a family party went and been together ever since,bought my son all the presents that his real father took the day after not to be the good guy but so my son wouldnt realise his toys had been stolen been through some real bad times but mostly good times as for my ex his name is never mentioned and my son changed his name years ago so that he wouldnt be associated with him.

Hate is an awfully strong word but i hate him with every breath in my body til i die he is lower than scum, Hubby 2 would love to run into him 1 day just for a "chat" as he puts it but i never want them to see each other because my husband woud end up in prison and i wouldnt want that to happen.

God i cant believe after all these years i'm telling people i have never met something i have kept hidden all this time, even a lot of my family dont know what a horrid person he was to me with hitting me and my son at times and the mental abuse i suffered at his hands but i feel somewhat at ease with it a bit more now

Sorry xxx Lois xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I so genuinely feel for any woman (and man, who are vastly under-reported) who has been at the receiving end of domestic abuse which includes not only physical violence, but all aspects of bullying, control be it financial, emotional or whatever.

There are great agencies who can help get out of such relationships, find shelter and support.

They can also help with the post trauma stress people experienced, with the difficulties of ever trusting another person.

Also, and this will be hard to see for somebody who has been abused, in the long term hatred (all forms of hatred) and thoughts of revenge are using up your own energy - the moment you can let go of those feelings (I am not suggesting for one moment that is easy) but that moment you are truly free and likely to find happiness again.

If anybody wants to know more please pm me

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By *ebzStarWoman
over a year ago

Notting

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By *ebzStarWoman
over a year ago

Notting

"I'll tell you about the b*stard of an ex husband i had was with him from basically childhhood had never been with another guy apart from him had the house a child of 3 and he decided to open his own business selling tools etc then tool trade went down the pan and ended up with him sitting around all day doing nothing but moan and bitch then out of the blue he says im leaving WTF !! that was 2 days after xmas taking all my sons toys and selling them to a secondhand shop for money to buy a car come the new year i end up in court for the house and the money owed to the tool people to the tune of £46,000 as he forged my signature on everything having to move back in to mums then being a bankrupt then he had the cheek to pick our son up and drop at his mums while he went out on day trips with his mates all over the uk used to be nasty to son all the time telling horrid stories about me.

Sorry xxx Lois xxx "

Hey Lois my lovely,

What a strong person to get this far.

And sometimes its easier to talk to a bunch of strangers whose opinions count but cant hurt so, unlike family and close friends.

Family are the ones who can hurt us the most - even Ex's cant get that far under the skin,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry xxx Lois xxx "

You have nothing to say sorry for Lois,am so glad things worked out for you,

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By *exeteraWoman
over a year ago

Bridgend

I worship the ground mine has coming to him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We're not all bad you know - and time helps, a lot.

Had my kid every weekend since she left, nearly ten years ago. Now have him 50% of the time, wouldnt have it any other way.

Nothing worse than being in a crap marriage, SO glad i'm out of it.

"although she told her 3rd husband i was dead - no idea what she told the forth" - i know it's a serious topic (i live it every day), but that was funny as fcuk!!!

Sounds like you are not bitter even though you can still feel the effects financially today - I think that is why you come across as a happy and grounded balanced person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

anyone else had probs with ex hubbys would be good to hear"

String them all up with a boot lace round their balls! Some men just can't show any loyalty at all.

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By *ebzStarWoman
over a year ago

Notting

"I worship the ground mine has coming to him

i got some room left under this patio - gotta move again soon tho so ya gotta be quick, hehehe

Get your orders in Ladies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am I alone in thinking that hatred and ill feelings, although very understandable for a (possibly) extended period of time eventually should make way to forgiveness and peace?

I really believe that hatred and feelings of revenge only hurt the person who is harbouring them as they are preoccupied with the hatred.

Also, the venom, the hatred and thoughts of revenge may well not even be noticed by the other person as they carry on living happily - so is not a complete waste of energy and would it not be so much better to move on?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ex was, and still is a total tosser! I spent 15 years being lied to, cheated on, being told what to wear, where I could go, who I could talk to. Yet I stayed out of some stupid loyalty to my wedding vows and for the sake of our son. The day me and my son moved out he threatened to petrol bomb our flat whilst we slept. But since splitting my son has blossomed and has never been so happy. Now with my soulmate who I love completely and who makes me so happy. I watch him sometimes as he sleeps next to me and feel so loved and safe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am I alone in thinking that hatred and ill feelings, although very understandable for a (possibly) extended period of time eventually should make way to forgiveness and peace?

I really believe that hatred and feelings of revenge only hurt the person who is harbouring them as they are preoccupied with the hatred.

Well if you haven't had your partner shag dollybirds behind your back it will be easy to say that.

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"We're not all bad you know - and time helps, a lot.

Had my kid every weekend since she left, nearly ten years ago. Now have him 50% of the time, wouldnt have it any other way.

Nothing worse than being in a crap marriage, SO glad i'm out of it.

"although she told her 3rd husband i was dead - no idea what she told the forth" - i know it's a serious topic (i live it every day), but that was funny as fcuk!!!

Sounds like you are not bitter even though you can still feel the effects financially today - I think that is why you come across as a happy and grounded balanced person

Don't be fooled - unlike the Murphys, i AM bitter - but it took me years to learn tht all i was oing was tearing myself up about it. I'll never forgive her, but we get on really well now. It took until last year before she could comprehend the effect the whole thing will have on the rest of my life - and once she understood that, it was much easier to communicate. She even fired ME some money when i was skint last year!

Happy & Grounded? I'm a single guy on a swingers site!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My ex was, and still is a total tosser! I spent 15 years being lied to, cheated on, being told what to wear, where I could go, who I could talk to. Yet I stayed out of some stupid loyalty to my wedding vows and for the sake of our son. The day me and my son moved out he threatened to petrol bomb our flat whilst we slept. But since splitting my son has blossomed and has never been so happy. Now with my soulmate who I love completely and who makes me so happy. I watch him sometimes as he sleeps next to me and feel so loved and safe "

That is so awful - it really is. And yet you have started a new life and you are happy today. That was what I was trying to say earlier - it is possible to be happy but you one needs to let go of what went on before.

My marriage was not that bad - we got on well but drifted apart. I did not like how the separation affected my children and there was a lot of anger during this time - but hey, I am a very happy bunny today and I believe it is because I am with the right man AND because I have truly let go of the previous baggage.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We're not all bad you know - and time helps, a lot.

Had my kid every weekend since she left, nearly ten years ago. Now have him 50% of the time, wouldnt have it any other way.

Nothing worse than being in a crap marriage, SO glad i'm out of it.

"although she told her 3rd husband i was dead - no idea what she told the forth" - i know it's a serious topic (i live it every day), but that was funny as fcuk!!!

Sounds like you are not bitter even though you can still feel the effects financially today - I think that is why you come across as a happy and grounded balanced person

Happy & Grounded? I'm a single guy on a swingers site!

There is nothing wrong with being bitter if you feel that way. Its how we all express our self if we are annoyed at something. I hate mine he was a lazy sod.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree there is nothing wrong with being angry, sad and upset... and even having feelings of hatred and revenge. They are part of the natural progression through loss and trauma.

I am saying though, that after a certain period of time and this will vary from one person to another and will also depend a lot on the support network somebody has through separation and divorce, surely there has to come a day when the negative feelings ease and make way to a more positive life?

A happy person sends positive vibes.. and attracts people - a bitter one will not form healthy relationships.

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

Well my ex wife has been a total pain for the last 20 years.

She moved out of our home and in with the fella she had been shagging whilst i was working away and took everything with her including every penny we had and ran up debts of over £47,000.

2 weeks later i moved out the house so she and her boyfriend could move in cos i wanted my son to live in a nice house.

i paid her £70 a week right from the off but she still took me to court 4 times for more but the judge said i was paying more than he would award her.

I took her to court 3 times to be allowed access to my son and until she was under the threat of going to prison she would not let me see him.

over many years she has told him lies about why we split and said it was all my fault. all this time i never told him the real reason but finally i proved it all to him when he was 17.

The list of shit things she did was endless but me and my lad are still great mates so his mother is the looser in all this.

Am i bitter naaaa am i hell it just makes me realise how lovely Zoe is all the more and that i had a very lucky escape.

Steve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree there is nothing wrong with being angry, sad and upset... and even having feelings of hatred and revenge. They are part of the natural progression through loss and trauma.

A happy person sends positive vibes.. and attracts people - a bitter one will not form healthy relationships.

Sorry but your being more than a little condescending here. It’s a website! We can have a rant now and again! It’s a little presumptuous to think we are angry all the time. Some of us really do not like being preached at!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree there is nothing wrong with being angry, sad and upset... and even having feelings of hatred and revenge. They are part of the natural progression through loss and trauma.

A happy person sends positive vibes.. and attracts people - a bitter one will not form healthy relationships.

Of course you can, rant and be angry. That is your choice as it is my choice not to be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i was angry at my ex for putting us out and making us homeless but am so over him and have moved mine and our daughters life forward.i dont hate him , that takes up time and he not worth any of mine,i look forward now, not back xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i was angry at my ex for putting us out and making us homeless but am so over him and have moved mine and our daughters life forward.i dont hate him , that takes up time and he not worth any of mine,i look forward now, not back xxx

Sounds great and so positive

xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am I alone in thinking that hatred and ill feelings, although very understandable for a (possibly) extended period of time eventually should make way to forgiveness and peace?

I really believe that hatred and feelings of revenge only hurt the person who is harbouring them as they are preoccupied with the hatred.

Couldn't agree more. Never had to chase my ex for money, left him the house he gave me enough to start again plus £500 a month for five years.

There was no one else involved in our break up, we managed that ourselves hence no need for long term animous.

We're both happy with our lives and make sure the girls can share their lives with both parents. Not for one second do they feel they have to choose or hide the time they spend with us individually.

Our daughter's don't have any daddy issues and have healthy relationships with the opposite sex.

We couldn't make it work but we didn't screw up our kids in the process either...I don't think!

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By *ebzStarWoman
over a year ago

Notting

"Well my ex wife has been a total pain for the last 20 years.

She moved out of our home and in with the fella she had been shagging whilst i was working away and took everything with her including every penny we had and ran up debts of over £47,000.

2 weeks later i moved out the house so she and her boyfriend could move in cos i wanted my son to live in a nice house.

i paid her £70 a week right from the off but she still took me to court 4 times for more but the judge said i was paying more than he would award her.

I took her to court 3 times to be allowed access to my son and until she was under the threat of going to prison she would not let me see him.

over many years she has told him lies about why we split and said it was all my fault. all this time i never told him the real reason but finally i proved it all to him when he was 17.

The list of shit things she did was endless but me and my lad are still great mates so his mother is the looser in all this.

Am i bitter naaaa am i hell it just makes me realise how lovely Zoe is all the more and that i had a very lucky escape.

Steve

Its hard enough for kids when the parents split uup - but for the mother to tell lies is downright nasty.

My mother did that to me about my father - and in all those years he never said a bad word about my mum, even to this day.

But as us kids grow older - we learn the truths for ourselves, shame to havge to make up for lost time tho.

Glad you are happy with the delectable Zoe - and if you ever need a rest

wink wink hehehehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ex-hubby and I had no children or pets to fight over, and he was and still is a true gentleman with a very big heart!

When I told him I was leaving him, he thought I was so unhappy with him that I would rather be on my own than share my life with him.

It pained me to see him so unhappy, so I told him the truth that I was leaving him for someone else, and he breathed a big sigh of relief! I really thought I was doing the right thing not to tell him about meeting another person! However, I was wrong.

He said he felt bad for not being able to make me happy, and was glad I had found someone who could, and would step aside so that I could be freed.

To this day, I regret I hurt such a great man!

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By *xccvvMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire North East

After being married for 17 years and being together for 25 years me and wife decided to split, no one else involved we had just ran our course

We had two young sons aged 15 and 12 at the time and we presumed they would stay with mum so I should leave, on telling the kids they said we would like to leave with dad, the next few months were horrendous she would verbally abuse us daily and physically attack me and kids, then call the police and say we attacked her

The kids didn't speak to their mum for a good few years, when the youngest son was aged 15 he broke his arm in a fight this was caught on CCTV as it was on the hight street, the lad he fighting was aged 18 and was arrested and charged.

18 months later ex wife reported me to social services saying that I had broken his arm, social services went to his school and was going to take him into care, as on medical records only showed he had broken his arm

It was only my 16 year old telling them, in his words, "to do one" that they came to see me, did explain how he broke his arm to social services and were to find out how, they came back few weeks later and were very sorry

Did ask social service's if the incident wasn't caught on CCTV if police were not involved, lets say he fell out of bath and done it were would I be now, they didn't really have an answer for me, but they were upset on how their time was waisted and how much all this had cost, not upset with me but ex wife and how it makes their job harder

Have tried many times through the old CSA to get maintenance but not won, was told ( by a woman)who involved, the system is to catch absent fathers only, hence were hear the chant, get the absent fathers, take their passports of the absent fathers, tag the absent fathers and so on

Not all ex husbands are bad, and there are some ex wife's and mothers who are not so good

Kids still with me aged 22 and 20

cant wait until they bugger off and give me some peace and quiet lol

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By *ickmealloverWoman
over a year ago

a very plush appartment off junt 7 M5

are ex

YAYYYYYYY

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