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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So I received a message off a guy yesterday afternoon. Recently signed up but had been on the site before, a past meet had left a verification plus it stated he had been on the site before also.

Very local to me, ticked my most important boxes so I messaged back.

A really nice conversation started about all sorts and not just sex or swinging.

After a while the messages got a little flirty and little comments were made about meeting for a drink at some point. We hadn't exchanged face pictures as he hadn't had chance to upload any so I politely said I wouldn't send one of me until he was able to send one back.

We'd been chatting for a good few hours and we were getting on great. I sent a message and went offline briefly, logged back in but hadn't received a reply. I clicked on my sent mail and I was faced with "user no longer on site" my last message hadn't even been read. So in the space of time from him sending his last message he'd completely deleted his account.

I'm totally baffled! Deleting your account on here isn't something that can be done by accident, and he'd even paid to be a Gold Site Supporter too so that makes me more confused.

Just can't understand why someone would pay to join any kind of site then delete their account within 24 hours.

I'm just glad I hadn't sent a face picture and then he'd deleted it, otherwise I'd either be worried that he knew me or I'd be booking myself in for some cosmetic surgery lol!

Anyone got any thoughts on the matter?

Has anyone else experienced this before?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens!Usually on a Friday or Saturday night when they've had a few down the pub!Just think to yourself 'what a tit' and concentrate on all the genuine folk you'll find on here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, could be married or attached then they get that guilty feeling and they're off. Being a site supporter means nothing. It's £5 (great value for money) but not a fortune.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its always happening!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It happens!Usually on a Friday or Saturday night when they've had a few down the pub!Just think to yourself 'what a tit' and concentrate on all the genuine folk you'll find on here! "

Not many local guys who tick my boxes but I'll keep searching

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is a profile that keeps getting set up by a couple. Always has face pics on view. It gathers a few friends then lasts no more than ten hours and is deleted. This happens a few times a week!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There is a profile that keeps getting set up by a couple. Always has face pics on view. It gathers a few friends then lasts no more than ten hours and is deleted. This happens a few times a week! "

Now that is very odd!

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Split up with his gf, joined here. They patched things up and so he left

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

There are many reasons, as others point alot of them out here. I guess the thing that jumps out for me is that he's not been a sustained member before, having left and rejoined, so he's not 100% committed to swinging or sex in our kind of way. This could be because he's got a regular partner or he's somehow not quite who he presents himself as, doesn't have the confidence after things going wrong etc.

Track record doesn't bode well, so I'd recommend that you stick to meeting longer term members for a while. It's a pain when we're left wondering, but it speaks volumes about the others who are lightweight in some way. It's not about us.

Good luck!

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I get a message from UNLOS every couple of weeks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had this a few times with hot single guys ... Torso pics etc... All looks great , until you ask for a face pic with the intention of meeting .... Nothing until the user has left site .

Sometimes it really is the case that when something looks too good to be true , it usually is !

Could be the male equivalent of bobfoc ... Or guilty conscience , who knows ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps his wife came home unexpectedly and deleted it on his behalf after wrapping the frying pan round his cranium.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bobfoc lol thought i was the only one who knew what that was

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I wouldn't not chat to someone who'd been on the site before and left and came back coz I've done that myself. I had some personal issues and on a whim I deleted my account which in hindsight was stupid, I should have just hidden my profile.

But I definitely agree that if it appears too good to be true then it most likely is.

It's a head scratcher though lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

UNLOS and bobfoc???

Scratching my head again lol

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

had a guy i was chatting to asked for a face pic...he sent me one of some famous dude can't remember his name...asked him why is he sending me a pic of a celebrity and wooosh UNLOS lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had one earlier she was looking for a meet like you she was local to me and had paid for gold membership. sent about 4 messages then got unlos dont think she was on the site for more then a hour

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just got the UNLOS one....jeez my intelligence knows no bounds lol

Still trying to decipher bobfoc though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Body off bay watch face off crime watch

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Body off bay watch face off crime watch "

Omfg that hilarious hahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Body off bay watch face off crime watch

Omfg that hilarious hahaha "

Could have been a lucky escape huh ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I had one earlier she was looking for a meet like you she was local to me and had paid for gold membership. sent about 4 messages then got unlos dont think she was on the site for more then a hour"

Well me and this guy had been chatting for over 4 hours, nearly 50 messages sent between us and then....UNLOS!

I'm going to use that so much now lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Body off bay watch face off crime watch

Omfg that hilarious hahaha

Could have been a lucky escape huh ? "

For me or him?

Lol

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I had one earlier she was looking for a meet like you she was local to me and had paid for gold membership. sent about 4 messages then got unlos dont think she was on the site for more then a hour

Well me and this guy had been chatting for over 4 hours, nearly 50 messages sent between us and then....UNLOS!

I'm going to use that so much now lol"

You get them on their day off too, they just want someone to talk to while they whack off sometimes!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Body off bay watch face off crime watch

Omfg that hilarious hahaha

Could have been a lucky escape huh ?

For me or him?

Lol"

You of course

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Body off bay watch face off crime watch

Omfg that hilarious hahaha

Could have been a lucky escape huh ?

For me or him?

Lol

You of course "

Phew lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've become acclimatised to the fact that some people on here behave in ways I wouldn't. Whatever their reasons are only they know. The most I hope for is mutual respect. Anything more is a bonus.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Had it a few times, but then a lot of straight guys get hang ups about telling a TG what they'd like to do to them.

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By *anatee175Couple
over a year ago

Sunderland

It seems to be quite common that people are joining for only a few hours or so. we often get message's from them.

bobfoc love it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Body off bay watch face off crime watch "

Coffee all over my kitchen after reading that x

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