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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

If someone arranged a week ago to meet you at a given place and time and you haven't heard from him since, would you still go? Is it reasonable to assume some confirmation the day before would be in order? This is how I am with family and friends so I apply the same logic /rules to dates.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't you just ask?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I hadn't heard the day before I wouldn't go x

Sara

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

If I haven't heard from them at all in a week? Nope, I would not go! x

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I wouldn't personally go....as I like to make sure it's still on usually with a text or phone call before hand....

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By *nigmatic1Woman
over a year ago

A seaside town near you!

If I hadn't heard anything by now I'd assume it was off too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I haven't heard from them at all in a week? Nope, I would not go! x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's a long time with no contact. I would have forgotten about them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't turn up but I would send a message to see if it is still on x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't go if I hadn't had any contact with them for a week.

Have you tried making contact with them yourself?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I would expect that,no confirmation then id think its off,this does work both ways though,you could just as easily send a text asking if its still on if you're really bothered

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to be in contact up until the arranged meet, if no contact within a few hours of the meet I assume it's off.

I don't chase, but I am happy to text to ask if things are still on if they have been chatty leading up to the meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I haven't heard from them at all in a week? Nope, I would not go! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah, if someone loses contact prior to a meet. That's a bit daft. And me, personally i wouldn't go.

But, then again. I'm always in touch with those i meet and those i plan to meet. I like to keep in touch so they know that i am interested.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

No contact for a week? I wouldnt go either. A couple of days is ok but the closer I got to the meet, I'd like some contact and confirmation and saucy messages and then 17 mins before I was due to arrive, a selfie with a vibe in _iew and a message saying 'hey big boy stevie, I can't wait...cum and get me'

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"Yeah, if someone loses contact prior to a meet. That's a bit daft. And me, personally i wouldn't go.

But, then again. I'm always in touch with those i meet and those i plan to meet. I like to keep in touch so they know that i am interested.

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That's exactly how I expect to be treated

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Well i would contact them to see if its still on

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Well i would contact them to see if its still on"

Yes this. I always turn up too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know I'm not your favourite person, but I'd try messaging them and if you don't get an answer then they can't blame you.

No answer - no show.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I like to be in contact up until the arranged meet, if no contact within a few hours of the meet I assume it's off.

I don't chase, but I am happy to text to ask if things are still on if they have been chatty leading up to the meet."

Yes, exactly this, I will ask once for confirmation, but in my experience they get MORE chatty just before a meet, not less so. A lady likes to feel desired - if I had not heard anything for a week I'd have pretty much lost interest myself, wandered off to find a more engaging toy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well i would contact them to see if its still on"

It's up to you both to keep in touch, not just the guy.

If no response then don't go. Find someone that does want to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Works both ways doesn't it? You haven't heard from him, he hasn't heard from you. What's stopping you from messaging him?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone arranged a week ago to meet you at a given place and time and you haven't heard from him since, would you still go? Is it reasonable to assume some confirmation the day before would be in order? This is how I am with family and friends so I apply the same logic /rules to dates. "

I like to hear on the day regardless of previous arrangements...if i had not had a positive confirmation then i would assume its off.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I was meeting you I'd be getting very excited as it got nearer. You would be receiving plenty of messages and also checking everything was ok with you. I would imagine he's got cold feet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That depend how far it is, if its more than 7 miles then they have to keep in touch the day before, but if its one mile or so from me, then I would still go and see if they are there and they wouldnt need to keep in contact lol.

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By *uro anchorMan
over a year ago

Coventry

i wouldnt meet him...

if i was you id come to mine...

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By *r tickle 22Man
over a year ago

Sheffeld

Don't waste your time don't go .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah, if someone loses contact prior to a meet. That's a bit daft. And me, personally i wouldn't go.

But, then again. I'm always in touch with those i meet and those i plan to meet. I like to keep in touch so they know that i am interested.

That's exactly how I expect to be treated "

is this where I ask you for your number? Or am I reading the wrong signs? I can never tell haha

(joking by the way)

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By *aceytopWoman
over a year ago

from a town near you

I think its fair to say that ship has sailed,but if you haven't heard from him,then its fair to say he hasn't heard from you either,so I assume you aren't that bothered anyway

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

dont waste your time try messaging and if you don't hear back don't go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh. And it definately works both ways. Sometimes if i'm doing all the initial messagges it seems like its only me who is interested and I don't want to seem pushy for the meet if I always message.

So, sometimes I might go quiet just to see if they are interested in me. But, what gets annoying is when you'd see a status update or a post saying something along the lines 'they ask to meet but then no longer stay in touch. That's why they don't meet younger

guys' etc etc.

erm, hello?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well i would contact them to see if its still on

It's up to you both to keep in touch, not just the guy.

If no response then don't go. Find someone that does want to meet. "

If you haven't been in touch he may not have wanted to pester. I do think it's odd there has been no contact, but he might be thinking you've changed your mind too if he hasn't heard from you. A quick text might answer your question much quicker than we could

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oooh no lol

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Look I waited to week on that corner my bits have frozen off your not getting off the hook that easy iv told ya

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No only if I had a call or post from them saying its on . People change there minds and life gets in the way at times and plans go out the window .

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"Can't you just ask? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

So, sometimes I might go quiet "

Liar

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well I like to have some contact beforehand too. Always helps in building chemistry, etc.....

As it happens I decided to send a text today. I received a reply 2 hours later saying he had assumed we were still meeting. It isn't how I usually like things to be but I decided to give him the benefit of the doubt and went.

For anyone concerned. ..this was not a FAB meet. Just a regular guy I met in a bar who asked me out.

He was actually very sweet and just not a great communicator via text. Anyway...nice guy but not for me.

But appreciate the _iewpoints.

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