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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

what is it about verifications? Does a list as long as your arm put you off? Why is there never anything negative said about anyone?

Do verifications actually mean anything? People refer to this is not notches on bed posts however you often see they have had 3/4 meets in one week is that not notches through verifcations.

Love to hear peoples thoughts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the meets could have been social meets as a lot of mine are, i choose not to display mine but are there if i want to show them

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

No-one would bother displaying a negative one so you would stuggle to find one of those

I got about 10 in one day,not due to fucking 10 people but because as Katie said they were from a social

This is a swinging site though,people do meet for sex

Some people meet more than others and would'nt see them as notches,they're there to show that they're active swingers

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

Sorry Katy I spelt you name wrong x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what is it about verifications? Does a list as long as your arm put you off? Why is there never anything negative said about anyone?

Do verifications actually mean anything? People refer to this is not notches on bed posts however you often see they have had 3/4 meets in one week is that not notches through verifcations.

Love to hear peoples thoughts

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Makes me laugh when some people say loads of verification put them off, its a swinging site after all its what we are all here for.

There is nothing negative because you have the option to display your verifications, no one is really going to display bad ones now are they.

Looked at alot of profiles since we have been on here and i cant say iv seen many that have 3 or 4 meets in one week other than social ones, but even they where play meets, so what? if its not to your liking, move on to the next. simples

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By *uckscouple2007Couple
over a year ago

Bucks

When perusing profiles more chance that someone with a long list of verifications is more gen than one with no verifys but a mile long list of friends

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By *ondafirestormMan
over a year ago

heckington

Well im glad all the women i have sleep with dont put verifications up otherwise would look like a right slag lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago


"Well im glad all the women i have sleep with dont put verifications up otherwise would look like a right slag lol."

You or the women?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

i totally agree with all that has been said so far , i find it interesting reading profiles, the verifications and sometimes the two just don't marry up.

I have been on.off the scene for 5 years both as a couple and now single i know what i want from it personly a long list of detailed verifications is a bit of a turn off for me -and move on It is good to get an overview of a person so social, phone and sexual verifcations gives that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry Katy I spelt you name wrong x"

Its cool i been called worse lol

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By *-and-KCouple
over a year ago

Back of Beyond

They work both ways....

1, Positive, they let prospective members see that you relly do turn up and meet people, which has to be good and is the reason we show them on our profile.

2, Negative, having so many on the list it's like the Encyclopaedia brittanica. Is just as you say, like notches on a bedpost and does in our case, put us off meeting people.

You have to strike a happy medium with how many you dispaly.

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By *ondafirestormMan
over a year ago

heckington

Im the one who would look like a slag not the women lol.

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By *ondafirestormMan
over a year ago

heckington

One thing is i havnt had a bad meet yet,some strange ones,but never bad!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont show all mine .. but then thats because a couple of them are way too over the top with the graphic detail and that puts me off let alone anyone else lol ... I used to be in the group that said too many put me off , now I just think live and let live

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

No-one really knows how many people your potential playmate has slept with,a list as long as your arm may only be half the story

The same with those with only a couple on display,they could have 100s but choose not to show them

What about those that meet people away from this site

Fabswingers is not the only way to meet other people

I take verifications with a pinch of salt,Im more than able to work out on my own whether or not I want to play with people regardless of verifications

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By *ondafirestormMan
over a year ago

heckington

I dont like seeing loads and loads of verifications as it puts me off.I have met a few people away from this site at work/chatrooms and other swingers sites so dont take it too seriously.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't show our verifications now because someone was using them to contact people we had met, saying that we had recommended them, which was not true

Whenever we have a meet now we ask if they would like us to leave feedback, if they say no or they aren't fussed, we don't. If someone leaves us feedback, we do the same for them.

At the end of the day, verifications or lack of them don't guarantee a successful future meet, simply because we don't all get on with the same people.

The goodlooking couple down the road might float our boat, but might sink yours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We don't show our verifications now because someone was using them to contact people we had met, saying that we had recommended them, which was not true

Whenever we have a meet now we ask if they would like us to leave feedback, if they say no or they aren't fussed, we don't. If someone leaves us feedback, we do the same for them.

At the end of the day, verifications or lack of them don't guarantee a successful future meet, simply because we don't all get on with the same people.

The goodlooking couple down the road might float our boat, but might sink yours "

Thats twisted contacting people you have met. Was it someone you know?

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

Lots of people trawl through verifications trying to find links to get meets

Thats just one of the reasons we don't show ours

I have noticed that if I leave one for someone else you can bet your life that the other people they have met will be having a nosy or getting in contact with us too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We don't show our verifications now because someone was using them to contact people we had met, saying that we had recommended them, which was not true

Whenever we have a meet now we ask if they would like us to leave feedback, if they say no or they aren't fussed, we don't. If someone leaves us feedback, we do the same for them.

At the end of the day, verifications or lack of them don't guarantee a successful future meet, simply because we don't all get on with the same people.

The goodlooking couple down the road might float our boat, but might sink yours

Thats twisted contacting people you have met. Was it someone you know?

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Yes, it was a so called friend!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love being a slut/slag thats why I am on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We don't show our verifications now because someone was using them to contact people we had met, saying that we had recommended them, which was not true

Whenever we have a meet now we ask if they would like us to leave feedback, if they say no or they aren't fussed, we don't. If someone leaves us feedback, we do the same for them.

At the end of the day, verifications or lack of them don't guarantee a successful future meet, simply because we don't all get on with the same people.

The goodlooking couple down the road might float our boat, but might sink yours

Thats twisted contacting people you have met. Was it someone you know?

Yes, it was a so called friend! "

Yewwww they are a sicko! It makes you think twice about displaying them.

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago


"I love being a slut/slag thats why I am on here."

Eeewwwww slag is an awful word I can't bare it,ill go with slut at a push from people I know very well in certain situations

No-one would ever get away with calling me a slag though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like a few people on here, I choose not to show my verifications, as I dont wish to. However, if a potential meet wanted to see them, to ensure I was genuine, I see no reason not to.

Its all about personal choice, like it is with your friends list, which is also hidden!

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By *ickmealloverWoman
over a year ago

a very plush appartment off junt 7 M5

WELL I am here to meet men

And I find that a long list of verifications mean that men email me because they know I ACTUALLY meet and it turns a lot of them on to know I fuck loads or men, so for me it works

And on another site I did post my negative feedback and the man that posted it begged me to take it off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I noticed when I got a verification from a certain lady (and I left one for her) all of a sudden there were straight blokes galore looking at my profile, didn't understand at the time but I guess people look at who has verified you and vice versa to get an idea of the type the object of their affections goes for?

Oh, and using the words slut and slag to describe a sexual partner is usually a no-no, unless they get a kick from that kind of thing. In which case it can be quite horny, in the heat of the moment....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just taken mine off now. its so confusing if you should leave them up and risk nutjobs or take them off and people think your hiding something or don't meet.

I guess i am being 2 faced now as i wouldn't meet a man who hides his as i would assume they are all webcam ones or something like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a lot is notches but if that's what they want its up to them.

We aint had a meet yet maybe we fussy who knows.

We like to fine someone we can have reg meets n plenty of fun with than one offs. X

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"Just taken mine off now. its so confusing if you should leave them up and risk nutjobs or take them off and people think your hiding something or don't meet.

I guess i am being 2 faced now as i wouldn't meet a man who hides his as i would assume they are all webcam ones or something like."

You could always ask them to show their verifications as you are speaking, then hide them again,, that is what we would do if they asked us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just taken mine off now. its so confusing if you should leave them up and risk nutjobs or take them off and people think your hiding something or don't meet.

I guess i am being 2 faced now as i wouldn't meet a man who hides his as i would assume they are all webcam ones or something like."

Don't worry about it at all, if a prospective meet wants to see your verifications you can always say that you will display them for an hour on a certain day so he can see them, then you can hide them again. It wont be a big problem as far as guy's are concerned xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I play my alter ego comes out and I love being a dirty slut.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

this really is a food for thought topic, i guess it boils down to own personal specifications thanks everyone for your responses.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The fact of the matter is regardless of this being a sex site we all have our own boundaries, way of playing and choice of playmates.

I find it amusing that people still believe that becausw this is a sex site everything goes - it doesn't.

Some people will happily play with anyone on offer regardless, some of us are more selective, we limit the time we play - because we have lives off FAB, and we don't feel the need to sleep with everyone that says pretty please.

Personally I find long graphic lists of verifications off putting, and it's my choice to not play with such people - forget condoms et al I'd feel the need to invest in a haz mat suit!!!!

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

In answer to the question though.....no.it wouldn't put us off to see people with a few veri's..after all, we are all on here to actually meet someone.

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By *ondafirestormMan
over a year ago

heckington

A few not loads lol

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

It has tended to put me off when someone has been on the site quite a long time, and hasnt got their green tick.

When i was meeting as a single fem i remember once reading a guys numerous verifications, they all amounted to the fact he had great sexual prowess , knew what he was doing etc.... we met up, and guess what, he didnt do anything for me whatsoever, sexually he was about as exciting as watching paint dry, i kinda wanted to say "what were those women talking about? Have i got the wrong guy?" Needless to say, i gave him a very ambiguous verification, he was a nice guy, afterall.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seen a profile the other day that must have had at least 50 showing, each to their own, but sadly not for us, happy not showing them unless asked, or two or three of the latest ones at most when we’re actively looking to meet, we might be swingers but we’re not all the same, some of us prefer more discretion than others.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I only have verifications on my profile from people ive met in person not phone or webcam. Some are from really good friends with that ive met up at socials with

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By *ollyWoman
over a year ago

aylesbury

I see verifications as part of a profile – to show that you’re genuine and actually meet people. It’s not a diary and I choose which if any I show. It’s nice to see a few for anyone I’m meeting but does anyone read through pages of them?

What I don’t really get are endless verifications from the same person – surely there are only so many ways you can say how wonderful you think someone is?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind if someone regards me as a notch on their bedpost as it would have meant that I'd been getting my leg over. I don't have a problem with that, honestly I don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never really thought about it to be honest, i dont really see it as notches on their bed post and if anyones put off by lots of verfications then maybe a swinging site isnt for them

To be honest i tend to go for guys with few or no verfications, not because lots put me off but because i think if they have met loads of women they alreasy have contacts so dont really need to meet me, i know that sounds daft but i suppose its just my way of getting they guys who are struggling to find meets a chance lol

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By *ickmealloverWoman
over a year ago

a very plush appartment off junt 7 M5

I tend to do the same naughty

Most of the guys I have met, have met few or no people at all

I like to give them a verification after meeting them of course and hope I have helped send them off on the start of their swinging journey

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

Given this a bit a thought, and went to look at our verifs.

We got 37, from 34 people (go figure, guess they must like us lol!), but only 12 we have played with. The rest are from socials and parties.

We started putting up our verifs to show we are genuine, and never stopped.

We verify ppl we meet in person to show they are genuine, (if we can remember who they are lol).

We show ours 'cos we look at others to get an idea of whether we might be compatible, so I guess we are just trying to show what others think of us so people can decide if they want to meet us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

verifications are good so other people know you are genuine and not time wasters. Does it matter if you had 100's of verifications, end of the day we are all on here to have sex and more of it the better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Verifications, I feel, need to be seen in context rather than on their own. We display many of ours and many were social meetings - it is about being reliable, turning up, not having hidden agendas etc.

We read verifications of others in context, we look if there is a common theme, for example " hospitable" or "friendly" or "entertaining" or "sexy or whatever.

We would not make too much of whether somebody has many verification or only one; it is a combination of their profile text, their verifications and our own interaction with the potential meet that determine whether we meet or not.

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By *ebzStarWoman
over a year ago

Notting

I used to get annyed having to read thru loads and loads of veri's.

But sometimes i like a good read for a good laugh.

I take em with a pinch of salt, and just take em as an overview of the whole profile.

Pics and person still have to count

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love my verifications

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I take them with a pinch of salt. You only see what the profile owner wants you to so they only say good things about them. I thin that they are more often used by nosey onlookers to see who you have playing with. But we have a choice so you can show or not.

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By *ebzStarWoman
over a year ago

Notting


"I take them with a pinch of salt. You only see what the profile owner wants you to so they only say good things about them. I thin that they are more often used by nosey onlookers to see who you have playing with. But we have a choice so you can show or not. "

Thats why i mostly only show the ones from socials,

Got a few personal ones on there too to show i do actually meet

((If they get to those after reading thru all the ones from the socials of course, lol ))

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