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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just suppose:

You're married/attached and you have never cheated before, but you have fancied someone for ages and finally told them and had sex with them. But then the guilt sets in, quite bad. My question is, how would you respond to that person the next time you saw them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Serious awkward moment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok its a hypothetical question but if I was and if I did then felt guilty I would garotte them with a cheese wire then buy an industrial mincer of ebay and sell the meat to a dodgy Iceland burger supplier.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ok its a hypothetical question but if I was and if I did then felt guilty I would garotte them with a cheese wire then buy an industrial mincer of ebay and sell the meat to a dodgy Iceland burger supplier. "

Very funny lol. Would you avoid eye contact or talking to them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok its a hypothetical question but if I was and if I did then felt guilty I would garotte them with a cheese wire then buy an industrial mincer of ebay and sell the meat to a dodgy Iceland burger supplier.

Very funny lol. Would you avoid eye contact or talking to them? "

I would tackle them from behind avoiding eye contact and grunt a bit whole doing the garotting. I might ask them if they had had a nice had and comment on how nice the weather is if they didn't struggle too much.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ok its a hypothetical question but if I was and if I did then felt guilty I would garotte them with a cheese wire then buy an industrial mincer of ebay and sell the meat to a dodgy Iceland burger supplier.

Very funny lol. Would you avoid eye contact or talking to them?

I would tackle them from behind avoiding eye contact and grunt a bit whole doing the garotting. I might ask them if they had had a nice had and comment on how nice the weather is if they didn't struggle too much. "

I'm going to re-post when i can get some sensible responses lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn't piss on them if they were on fire. If I fancied someone it wouldn't go as far as that. If I was unhappy I would leave, I wouldn't bullshit out of my ass and say I loved them etc

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By *he GriswaldsCouple
over a year ago

Manchester


"Just suppose:

You're married/attached and you have never cheated before, but you have fancied someone for ages and finally told them and had sex with them. But then the guilt sets in, quite bad. My question is, how would you respond to that person the next time you saw them?"

Was the 'other' person attached as well?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be honest with him, explain what's going though in your mind. Also, think about why you bedded the person, was it just lust or an outlet for something deeper going on?

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Are we responding to the partner or the partner-in-crime?

If the latter I would speak to them and make it clear it was a on-off, give them some space and then carry on as before.

If the former I would want to confess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just suppose:

You're married/attached and you have never cheated before, but you have fancied someone for ages and finally told them and had sex with them. But then the guilt sets in, quite bad. My question is, how would you respond to that person the next time you saw them?"

Just totally pretend it never happened. Don't mention it. Act normal. He will do same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are we responding to the partner or the partner-in-crime?

If the latter I would speak to them and make it clear it was a on-off, give them some space and then carry on as before.

If the former I would want to confess.

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No that's crap advice don't listen to this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The guilt is yours not theirs

A useless emotion too x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just suppose:

You're married/attached and you have never cheated before, but you have fancied someone for ages and finally told them and had sex with them. But then the guilt sets in, quite bad. My question is, how would you respond to that person the next time you saw them?"

Have sex with them again Helenann

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By *ampWithABrainWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Been there... Don't confess it doesn't assuage the guilt in fact u feel worse seeing your partner dealing with the knowledge n why should your partner suffer your mistake? (That is assuming it was safe sex)

As for partner in crime just behave as u did before or as normally as u can manage.

But yes if you've cheated you either need to figure out why so you don't do it again, or leave marriage as if u don't sort it it will happen again.

As I said...been there from all 3 sides of equation.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm not the married person, the guy is. He is the one who pursued me and then felt guilty afterwards. He still wants to be friends and I find that quite strange. I thought he would avoid me if he felt that bad about it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just suppose:

You're married/attached and you have never cheated before, but you have fancied someone for ages and finally told them and had sex with them. But then the guilt sets in, quite bad. My question is, how would you respond to that person the next time you saw them?

Was the 'other' person attached as well?"

no the other person is me and i'm single

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not the married person, the guy is. He is the one who pursued me and then felt guilty afterwards. He still wants to be friends and I find that quite strange. I thought he would avoid me if he felt that bad about it "
Maybe he said he felt guilty as just wish it to be a shag and no more .. as could be doing a lot of this and a player ... x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just suppose:

You're married/attached and you have never cheated before, but you have fancied someone for ages and finally told them and had sex with them. But then the guilt sets in, quite bad. My question is, how would you respond to that person the next time you saw them?

Was the 'other' person attached as well?

no the other person is me and i'm single "

So how did he react when he next saw you then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i would of course have a conversation with them.

although the conversation would be along the lines of what happened must never happen again

apologise and tell them i realised i made a mistake

insist it is nothing to do with them, if they are a friend, say they are still as such (although that would depend on how awkward it continued to be) and hope we can continue on a level at which we were both comfortable.

however, if the guilt was that great, then i would probably have to confess to the OH anyway, and so the other partner would have to prepare to any fall out that may come from it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not the married person, the guy is. He is the one who pursued me and then felt guilty afterwards. He still wants to be friends and I find that quite strange. I thought he would avoid me if he felt that bad about it "

Do you know his wife? if so do you feel guilty when you see her? if so that is probably the same way he feels.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How well do you know him ... I know you say never cheated before how do you know its the truth. I find some you meet here tell you what you wish to here to make you feel special .. Sorry but I have come across some very BIG story tellers in my time of sites like this .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm not the married person, the guy is. He is the one who pursued me and then felt guilty afterwards. He still wants to be friends and I find that quite strange. I thought he would avoid me if he felt that bad about it

Do you know his wife? if so do you feel guilty when you see her? if so that is probably the same way he feels. "

No i dont know his partner

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just suppose:

You're married/attached and you have never cheated before, but you have fancied someone for ages and finally told them and had sex with them. But then the guilt sets in, quite bad. My question is, how would you respond to that person the next time you saw them?

Was the 'other' person attached as well?

no the other person is me and i'm single

So how did he react when he next saw you then? "

We havent seen each other since, but are likely to bump into each other at some point. I actually gave him an easy way out by saying i understood if he preferred to avoid eye contact or any conversation but he insists that i mean a lot to him and will always be friends.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"How well do you know him ... I know you say never cheated before how do you know its the truth. I find some you meet here tell you what you wish to here to make you feel special .. Sorry but I have come across some very BIG story tellers in my time of sites like this ."

I've known him for a couple of years but not from any site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How well do you know him ... I know you say never cheated before how do you know its the truth. I find some you meet here tell you what you wish to here to make you feel special .. Sorry but I have come across some very BIG story tellers in my time of sites like this .

I've known him for a couple of years but not from any site "
Just take care as come across this and its not been nice .. xx Men some there cocks rule there heads and looking for the next fix and you think friends, But one of a number .. sorry but after meeting one or two who lied about stuff its makes me now see things different I don't trust people easy now that's me .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"How well do you know him ... I know you say never cheated before how do you know its the truth. I find some you meet here tell you what you wish to here to make you feel special .. Sorry but I have come across some very BIG story tellers in my time of sites like this .

I've known him for a couple of years but not from any site Just take care as come across this and its not been nice .. xx Men some there cocks rule there heads and looking for the next fix and you think friends, But one of a number .. sorry but after meeting one or two who lied about stuff its makes me now see things different I don't trust people easy now that's me .

I'm quite happy to just be friends, or not. He knows i'm non pushy and will respect his wishes, he doesnt need to lie to me, thats why i'm confused.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How well do you know him ... I know you say never cheated before how do you know its the truth. I find some you meet here tell you what you wish to here to make you feel special .. Sorry but I have come across some very BIG story tellers in my time of sites like this .

I've known him for a couple of years but not from any site Just take care as come across this and its not been nice .. xx Men some there cocks rule there heads and looking for the next fix and you think friends, But one of a number .. sorry but after meeting one or two who lied about stuff its makes me now see things different I don't trust people easy now that's me .

I'm quite happy to just be friends, or not. He knows i'm non pushy and will respect his wishes, he doesnt need to lie to me, thats why i'm confused.

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Maybe over time you will not be confused .. Just see things clear . I hate that feeling too . Real friends are hard to find I know that much . x

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