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By *uby0000 OP   Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

if you like someone do you send the first message?

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Yes,....life's to short to fuck about

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes absolutely and I'm so glad I did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

too right we do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes - why wait.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I did twice today

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By *0hnnyBrav0Man
over a year ago

Great Wyrley


"if you like someone do you send the first message?"

Maybe, maybe not but yes, life is too short

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

You never know what may happen

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By *uby0000 OP   Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

the only time ive contacted is if I read something on the forum and can help in any way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes of course, why wouldn't you?

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

I've no problem sending the first message . If the profile and person interests me then why wouldn't i ! Who knows what might come from it ..well lol hopefully me lol !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. No point in beating around the bush.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I used to often but lately I've grown tired of getting messages back from guys who clearly feel they shouldn't say no thanks. So they say yes, then piss about or vanish or goodness knows what.

I'm a grown woman ffs, I can deal with a no thanks, or a you're not my type, or a there wasn't a spark!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok I'm starting freshh? Her

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village


"if you like someone do you send the first message?"

Not always. Sometimes i do but most the time it dawns on me that i'm punching above my weight so i don't

Have messaged people from the forums and thats worked well for me

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By *elsh_lass74Woman
over a year ago

South Wales

I wink, cos I'm shy!!!!

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"I wink, cos I'm shy!!!! "

Just send a "fancy a fuk?" message. It works for the guys.

Oh, wait...

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village


"I wink, cos I'm shy!!!! "

I do that too but i normally get blockes lol

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

Yes, if they take my fancy and I'm in their interests/age limits/sexual preferences etc.

I see quite a lot of couples profiles that say NO SINGLE MALES NO SINGLE MALES NO SINGLE MALES yet they have verifications from single males.

I don't contact them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always mail first. I'm not a sitting duck.

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By *anny PepperoniMan
over a year ago

Matlock

If I didn't I might as well be a monk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes if someone catches my eye I'm happy to message them first.

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By *heBirminghamWeekendMan
over a year ago

here

I don't

Too shy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't we're both too shy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes you do so and don't make it an essay just say hello

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

If its someone I really fancy in all honesty no never but I have ppl from the forum but purely as someone has said above only if I think I can help with somthing or by way of a joke or something. An not because im shy or lacking in confidence the only reason id never mail 1st is because I hate the stigma atched to single male on here an come to that most site's. If someone's really is interested in me as the posts from most females above prove im sure they'll have no problem mailing me 1st. Having said that I'm also a very firm believer in the old saying if you look you'll never find.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes,never gets me anywhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely. The worst they can say is no thankyou. Life's too short to wait for things to come to us, if you want something like everything in life, you gotta go for it yourself...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Life is too short, so enjoy it and make the most of it, unless you send the message you will never know

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By *lay4RealCouple
over a year ago

London


"if you like someone do you send the first message?"

Absolutely will do. Sometimes it works and some other times it dos not but at least you know the feeling is mutual or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Okay okay, go on then, message me if you want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Life is too short, so enjoy it and make the most of it, unless you send the message you will never know"

Exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I message first quite a lot and have met the last 3 guys I messaged and have a meet planned with another I made first contact with next Sunday. I had a spate of blocking everyone while I looked so as not to be disturbed and that worked quite well. Overall it seems more successful than when guys have made the first contact so go for it, what's the worst that can happen??!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if you like someone do you send the first message?"

In view of a meet? Not yet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have to say ive done it twice and on both occassions

So glad I did .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Used to, don't send nearly as many messages as I used to. Unsure why?

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