FabSwingers.com forum: Reading profiles

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ladies wonder why we don't read profiles!

When I first came on this site I read every profile because I thought I was common curtesy to find out exactly what they were interested in and whether I had the same interests! After spending the time to read and reply accordingly I think the least they could do is send a message back with " no thanks "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No reply = no thanks. It's not rude to not reply

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

The least they can do is not reply at all. That's less than sending a 'no thanks' message. Anyway, the site guidelines state that a no reply is a reply that says 'no thanks'.

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By *inkykoupleukCouple
over a year ago

southampton

Agree with ya there, however logging in and seeing over a 100 message and expecting to reply to all is a bit much. Plus on average 95% of them clearly haven't looked at anything but pics.

We try reply to those who have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not another i would like a reply to my mails.

Its simple if you dont get a reply back accept they are not interested. Why do you need written confirmstion. If they delete it tells ypu just the same.

They get lots of mails fro guys who just dont read their preferences. Lots of guys have cock in one hand pc in other and send out loads mails with total disregard as to what people want.

If guys mail us and show they have not read profile we delete as they dont deserve a reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd love to log in and see 10 messages let alone hundreds

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I'd love to log in and see 10 messages let alone hundreds"

You will....be patient.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd love to log in and see 10 messages let alone hundreds

You will....be patient. "

I hope your crystal ball isn't playing up

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

"No reply = no thanks. It's not rude to not reply"

if someone has made the effort to respond to your profile and not just given a "fancy a fuck" message, it's rude imo

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I'd love to log in and see 10 messages let alone hundreds

You will....be patient.

I hope your crystal ball isn't playing up

No, but my experienced balls will be laterz

You've been here a week, mate. It takes time.

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By *dam_TinaCouple
over a year ago

Hampshire

When I first came on this site I read every profile "

You read every profile ! Now that's commitment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd love to log in and see 10 messages let alone hundreds"

Another one who thinks this is instashag or dial-a-shag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No reply = no thanks. It's not rude to not reply"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No reply = no thanks. It's not rude to not reply

if someone has made the effort to respond to your profile and not just given a "fancy a fuck" message, it's rude imo"

Doesn't matter if you've sent 1 line or 10. If they don't reply they simply aren't interested. Why would you need written confirmation?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do you have to reply to unsolicited mail that arrives in your inbox.

Do all the single guys, who moan about not receiving replies, take the time to respond to all the junk mail that is delivered to their letter boxes? After all they are polite and well written.

So if we can assume they don't respond to this kind of unwanted mail then why should couples on here have to respond to all the messages they find in their inbox?

The short answer is they do not have to. No reply means no thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd love to log in and see 10 messages let alone hundreds

Another one who thinks this is instashag or dial-a-shag"

What is this instashag you talk of and how do you join?

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

"No reply = no thanks. It's not rude to not reply

if someone has made the effort to respond to your profile and not just given a "fancy a fuck" message, it's rude imo

Doesn't matter if you've sent 1 line or 10. If they don't reply they simply aren't interested. Why would you need written confirmation?"

It still doesnt stop it being rude. If they are not their taste, fair enough - but to disregard a message where effort has been put it. Is rude - It cant not be.

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Its like groundhog day.

Btw Im having Pizza for tea before anyone asks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No reply = no thanks. It's not rude to not reply

if someone has made the effort to respond to your profile and not just given a "fancy a fuck" message, it's rude imo

Doesn't matter if you've sent 1 line or 10. If they don't reply they simply aren't interested. Why would you need written confirmation?

It still doesnt stop it being rude. If they are not their taste, fair enough - but to disregard a message where effort has been put it. Is rude - It cant not be. "

It's not rude whether effort was made or not, they don't know if you've made the effort and then copied and pasted it to everyone in a 20 mile radius that takes their fancy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its slso rude to mail people without fully reading their profile and taking note of likes and dislikes. Alot guys just send mails regardless then complain its rude when they do not get a reply. Tough luck really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No reply = no thanks. It's not rude to not reply

if someone has made the effort to respond to your profile and not just given a "fancy a fuck" message, it's rude imo

Doesn't matter if you've sent 1 line or 10. If they don't reply they simply aren't interested. Why would you need written confirmation?

It still doesnt stop it being rude. If they are not their taste, fair enough - but to disregard a message where effort has been put it. Is rude - It cant not be. "

Of course it isn't rude. Do you reply to ever bit of junk mail you recieve through your letter box with thanks but not interested when clearly a lot of effort has been put in to print and post it. No you don't.

We don't reply to all mail we recieve on here. The reason why we don't is because we are on here for fun and sending loads of "sorry not interested" messages and getting abuse sent back isn't fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its like groundhog day.

Btw Im having Pizza for tea before anyone asks"

It sure is groundhog day

I hope that's a manly pizza lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd love to log in and see 10 messages let alone hundreds

Another one who thinks this is instashag or dial-a-shag"

Actually, it's more a low self esteem issue, but that's ok. I'm quite clearly a moron

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I had a cut n paste message once but the guy had 'personalised' it with names. Unfortunately, he had left the couples name in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd love to log in and see 10 messages let alone hundreds

Another one who thinks this is instashag or dial-a-shag

Actually, it's more a low self esteem issue, but that's ok. I'm quite clearly a moron"

You've been here a week. Give it time.I think the people who get '100's' of messages are maybe slightly exaggerating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you knew how many messages we get a day, you would realise why we can't reply to all. Seriously, this is fun, not a full time job! If your message stands out and grabs our attention, we would reply, otherwise, it's just spending time we haven't got replying to people we will never meet!

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

We don't reply to all mail we recieve on here. The reason why we don't is because we are on here for fun and sending loads of "sorry not interested" messages and getting abuse sent back isn't fun. "

But that's not the point of the thread. The thread is about people who actually make the effort to put more than one or two words into a message. Those that actually read profiles.

It's rude! It's like someone asking you how you are face to face (i.e taking a genuine interest), and you just ignoring them.

I am not saying people should reply to every single message received. I havent said that.

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By *indys loverCouple
over a year ago

Stratford on avon

"Its like groundhog day.

Btw Im having Pizza for tea before anyone asks"

Meat Feast ?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"If you knew how many messages we get a day, you would realise why we can't reply to all. Seriously, this is fun, not a full time job! If your message stands out and grabs our attention, we would reply, otherwise, it's just spending time we haven't got replying to people we will never meet!

How many messages today then? I've had 4

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always try and reply with a 'no thanks' message but some people then see that as an opening to engage in conversation with me so I either end up just ignoring them anyway or blocking them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had a cut n paste message once but the guy had 'personalised' it with names. Unfortunately, he had left the couples name in.

Wow

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

"Its like groundhog day.

Btw Im having Pizza for tea before anyone asks

Meat Feast ?"

No thanks

I'll stick to the pizza

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

alot of people just delete to avoid the

' why not ? ' ping pong mails

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im rude

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

"Im rude

So's your bottom. Rude as in bad, but good, wicked. The illest maybe. All positive remarks that the kidz say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No reply = no thanks. It's not rude to not reply

if someone has made the effort to respond to your profile and not just given a "fancy a fuck" message, it's rude imo"

I agree and I'm female!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always try and reply with a 'no thanks' message but some people then see that as an opening to engage in conversation with me so I either end up just ignoring them anyway or blocking them. "

A conversation requires 2 people. I reply with a no thanks. If they reply again then I don't reply. Doesn't matter if they ask why not or please please please or abuse or whatever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can only imagine how many messages single woman get, I've had experience myself on a single profile.

So if they answered them all, and the back and forthwith where the hint isn't taken, they would be here all day.

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always try and reply with a 'no thanks' message but some people then see that as an opening to engage in conversation with me so I either end up just ignoring them anyway or blocking them.

A conversation requires 2 people. I reply with a no thanks. If they reply again then I don't reply. Doesn't matter if they ask why not or please please please or abuse or whatever. "

If I get a further message I don't answer either. Why not should be obvious enough....because I don't want to. I don't need to give a reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If there profil's were not so angry and epic in length what they'll block you for or tellin us how to get there attention maybe we'd read more of them. Some really do think they are princesses believe the bollocks desperate men tell them to try an pull. Get over yourselves its a shaggers site not a high class date site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The guidelines the site has are the ones we have to go by - whether we 100% agree with them or not.

We either live with them or cancel our membership.

Simples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get it all of it. The trouble is if a message isn't read then deleted the sender can't tell. Unless that is no one is reading my messages and just leaving them in the inbox.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't reply to all mail we recieve on here. The reason why we don't is because we are on here for fun and sending loads of "sorry not interested" messages and getting abuse sent back isn't fun.

But that's not the point of the thread. The thread is about people who actually make the effort to put more than one or two words into a message. Those that actually read profiles.

It's rude! It's like someone asking you how you are face to face (i.e taking a genuine interest), and you just ignoring them.

I am not saying people should reply to every single message received. I havent said that."

Agree, that's rude. Takes 2 seconds to reply no thank you if someone has bothered to write a decent intro (not an intro you like maybe, just one they've taken time over). Then feel free to block to end the conversation and not have contact from the same person again in future.

Surely they're more likely to contact you again if you don't reply (because of the 10,

000 messages a day they might think you've missed their message)

We all have the ability to block all males and do the running ourselves but very few choose to, why is that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Replying with a polite no thanks is fine when the person can accept it but in my experience, many can't. I have had many guys spit out rude and unnecessary personal abuse or just keep pestering you more than if you just ignored them. And when do you say no thanks? Is it not rude to answer no thanks when someone has payed a compliment or just asked how you are? If then a conversation ensues isn't it just wasting time? Yes you wouldn't ignore someone in the street but chances are, they're not going to ask you for a shag (depending on what street and what city you are in lol)! Guys (and girls) just need to take it on the chin and move on. I'd rather someone not reply then I know for sure they're not interested and I move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Replying with a polite no thanks is fine when the person can accept it but in my experience, many can't. I have had many guys spit out rude and unnecessary personal abuse or just keep pestering you more than if you just ignored them. And when do you say no thanks? Is it not rude to answer no thanks when someone has payed a compliment or just asked how you are? If then a conversation ensues isn't it just wasting time? Yes you wouldn't ignore someone in the street but chances are, they're not going to ask you for a shag (depending on what street and what city you are in lol)! Guys (and girls) just need to take it on the chin and move on. I'd rather someone not reply then I know for sure they're not interested and I move on."

Just say no thanks and immediately hit the block button. Communication ends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just say no thanks and immediately hit the block button. Communication ends."

I know many do but personally I wouldn't block anyone unless they were rude or abusive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If there profil's were not so angry and epic in length what they'll block you for or tellin us how to get there attention maybe we'd read more of them. Some really do think they are princesses believe the bollocks desperate men tell them to try an pull. Get over yourselves its a shaggers site not a high class date site "

It's a swinging site actually not a shaggers site. Oh and some of us read profiles before opening messages and a status like yours, calling another woman a hippo would get an instant block

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"I'd love to log in and see 10 messages let alone hundreds

Another one who thinks this is instashag or dial-a-shag

Actually, it's more a low self esteem issue, but that's ok. I'm quite clearly a moron"

I can't comment on you being a moron as I don't know you.

We don't get 10 messages a day, most of the time not even in a week. (from new people that's not counting friends)

So chin up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Flogging a dead horse.

I find couples are more respectful than single ladies.

TBH - the majority of singles wouldn't get a shag down the local hence they are on here !

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Well, to be honest I'd rather be a princess than a knob.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well, to be honest I'd rather be a princess than a knob.....

Haha I'm ROFL, can someone help me up!!

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

"Well, to be honest I'd rather be a princess than a knob.....

Could be a new football chant

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston

"Flogging a dead horse.

I find couples are more respectful than single ladies.

TBH - the majority of singles wouldn't get a shag down the local hence they are on here !"

REALLY?????

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

"Flogging a dead horse.

I find couples are more respectful than single ladies.

TBH - the majority of singles wouldn't get a shag down the local hence they are on here !

I also beg to differ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like all the other couples we get between 9 and 11 billion unsolicited messages a day so cannot reply to them all. Yeah right!

We do try and respond if someone has made an effort but if the original message was entitled "Hi" and said "how r u?" we do not bother; just as they did not bother.

If you want to stand out then make the heading original and the message interesting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Flogging a dead horse.

I find couples are more respectful than single ladies.

TBH - the majority of singles wouldn't get a shag down the local hence they are on here !

I also beg to differ..."

Haha yes cos all us couples are utterly irresistible, why every time im in the pub strangers are tearing at my clothes. My husband takes a big stick everywhere we go, such is our magnetism.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"Well, to be honest I'd rather be a princess than a knob.....

Could be a new football chant"

It does have a certain ring to it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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We all have the ability to block all males and do the running ourselves but very few choose to, why is that?

I wonder if some people get a certain satisfaction from rejecting people but can't take rejection themselves...

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

We don't reply to all mail we recieve on here. The reason why we don't is because we are on here for fun and sending loads of "sorry not interested" messages and getting abuse sent back isn't fun.

But that's not the point of the thread. The thread is about people who actually make the effort to put more than one or two words into a message. Those that actually read profiles.

It's rude! It's like someone asking you how you are face to face (i.e taking a genuine interest), and you just ignoring them.

I am not saying people should reply to every single message received. I havent said that.

Surely they're more likely to contact you again if you don't reply (because of the 10,

000 messages a day they might think you've missed their message)

We all have the ability to block all males and do the running ourselves but very few choose to, why is that?

can't believe someone understood my point! I'm wowed and amazed. Going to sit here happy in myself for a moment

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"Ladies wonder why we don't read profiles!

I'll save you the bother of reading mine then .... No thanks!!

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"Flogging a dead horse.

I find couples are more respectful than single ladies.

TBH - the majority of singles wouldn't get a shag down the local hence they are on here !

I also beg to differ...

Haha yes cos all us couples are utterly irresistible, why every time im in the pub strangers are tearing at my clothes. My husband takes a big stick everywhere we go, such is our magnetism."

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

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We all have the ability to block all males and do the running ourselves but very few choose to, why is that?

I always wonder why more women and couples don't do this. It would stop so many of the bitching at single men threads you see on the forums.

If you know what you want, go and find it for yourself! I enjoy the searching and find it more fun than just waiting...

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