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"im not ashamed!! most of my family know what we do x " i am open about it, but not to my family....hmmmm | |||
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"swinging, why do so many keep it secret? this day and age is it not quite "fashionable" ..... why do you keep it secret....i don't, would you "come " out?? ps...i do understand why many don't" We wouldn't offer the information simply because a lot of people still "frown" upon those who swing and we see no need to discuss it with anyone else. | |||
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"My Uncle found out, only because I looked down while dogging one night in Newcastle carpark with a torch as he looked up...how we laughed!!!" PMSL | |||
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"im not ashamed of what i do , but for personal reasons i keep it to myself , a few people know about it , however professionally for me it would be a disaster and cost me a great deal . " Same with me. As much as we might not like it some people will never understand or even accept it. Im more open about being bi than a swinger.......thats just the way it is | |||
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"im not ashamed of what i do , but for personal reasons i keep it to myself , a few people know about it , however professionally for me it would be a disaster and cost me a great deal . Same with me. As much as we might not like it some people will never understand or even accept it. Im more open about being bi than a swinger.......thats just the way it is" We wouldn't mind betting that your the opposite to a lot of couples were the guy is bi.They could cope with being found out to be swingers but not if he was found out to be bi.So they keep it secret knowing that finding out about one would lead to the other. While a few people may be ashamed of swinging, perhaps embarrassed would be a better word to describe many swingers secrecy. XXXX | |||
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"swinging, why do so many keep it secret? this day and age is it not quite "fashionable" ..... why do you keep it secret....i don't, would you "come " out?? " Do you tell all of your friends and family when you have had a wank, even when it was one of those really mind-blowing super wanks? Or do you take into consideration those who may find hearing the details of your masturbation habits distasteful and share the details only with those who will appreciate hearing about the event? | |||
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"im not ashamed!! most of my family know what we do x i am open about it, but not to my family....hmmmm" yout open about it then are you? | |||
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"snip... im doing nothing wrong so why should i get judged. " Indeed your not, you just told someone who doesn't understand, which is why you are being judged... | |||
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"i can understand that she doesnt understand. it took me some time to get my head round it. it just annoys me that people assume my child is at risk because of what i do. now if i was a single mum going out on the town every weekend got lashed and took home some strange bloke they wouldnt batter an eyelid. familys .... who'd have em. mind you it was funny when she run the sister who knows and said guess what i think nickys wife swapping to which she replied .. what the tv program? really? oh wow. now thats a great sister lol" We've found one of two reactions when people find out we're swingers.These reactions are predominantly from females. The first and most common is one of great interest,usualy more so when the bi fem topic crops up. The second and,thankfully,less common reaction is one of insecurity.They suddenly see a woman who swings as a threat and become very protective of their husband,as if your suddenly going to pounce on them in an uncontrolable sexual frenzy,lol. Your sister could well fall into the second catagory.It may not be your kids she's worried about, more her partner. Especialy if you get on well with him.Even more so if she knows her own sex life isn't all it could be. By creating all the fuss she's trying to gather allies to get you back on the vanilla side or deride you.In this case,using your kid's as a lever. That done,she'll probably feel a lot more comfortable and secure. It's hard to explain but I think you'll get the drift. XXXX | |||
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"i can understand that she doesnt understand. it took me some time to get my head round it. it just annoys me that people assume my child is at risk because of what i do. now if i was a single mum going out on the town every weekend got lashed and took home some strange bloke they wouldnt batter an eyelid. familys .... who'd have em. mind you it was funny when she run the sister who knows and said guess what i think nickys wife swapping to which she replied .. what the tv program? really? oh wow. now thats a great sister lol We've found one of two reactions when people find out we're swingers.These reactions are predominantly from females. The first and most common is one of great interest,usualy more so when the bi fem topic crops up. The second and,thankfully,less common reaction is one of insecurity.They suddenly see a woman who swings as a threat and become very protective of their husband,as if your suddenly going to pounce on them in an uncontrolable sexual frenzy,lol. Your sister could well fall into the second catagory.It may not be your kids she's worried about, more her partner. Especialy if you get on well with him.Even more so if she knows her own sex life isn't all it could be. By creating all the fuss she's trying to gather allies to get you back on the vanilla side or deride you.In this case,using your kid's as a lever. That done,she'll probably feel a lot more comfortable and secure. It's hard to explain but I think you'll get the drift. XXXX" that makes alot of sense. it wouldn't surprise me if her hubby has now been looking into swinging lol. he safe from me though we don't really get on. but then she probably thinks that all women find him irresistible lol | |||
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"i can understand that she doesnt understand. it took me some time to get my head round it. it just annoys me that people assume my child is at risk because of what i do. now if i was a single mum going out on the town every weekend got lashed and took home some strange bloke they wouldnt batter an eyelid. familys .... who'd have em. mind you it was funny when she run the sister who knows and said guess what i think nickys wife swapping to which she replied .. what the tv program? really? oh wow. now thats a great sister lol We've found one of two reactions when people find out we're swingers.These reactions are predominantly from females. The first and most common is one of great interest,usualy more so when the bi fem topic crops up. The second and,thankfully,less common reaction is one of insecurity.They suddenly see a woman who swings as a threat and become very protective of their husband,as if your suddenly going to pounce on them in an uncontrolable sexual frenzy,lol. Your sister could well fall into the second catagory.It may not be your kids she's worried about, more her partner. Especialy if you get on well with him.Even more so if she knows her own sex life isn't all it could be. By creating all the fuss she's trying to gather allies to get you back on the vanilla side or deride you.In this case,using your kid's as a lever. That done,she'll probably feel a lot more comfortable and secure. It's hard to explain but I think you'll get the drift. XXXX that makes alot of sense. it wouldn't surprise me if her hubby has now been looking into swinging lol. he safe from me though we don't really get on. but then she probably thinks that all women find him irresistible lol" Well if she told him,all it takes is for him to grin and say "Nice one" to start the ball rolling. If she's insecure and is aware she's a bit dull in the sack then that's all it would take. You never know. XXXX | |||
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"i can understand that she doesnt understand. it took me some time to get my head round it. it just annoys me that people assume my child is at risk because of what i do. now if i was a single mum going out on the town every weekend got lashed and took home some strange bloke they wouldnt batter an eyelid. familys .... who'd have em. mind you it was funny when she run the sister who knows and said guess what i think nickys wife swapping to which she replied .. what the tv program? really? oh wow. now thats a great sister lol We've found one of two reactions when people find out we're swingers.These reactions are predominantly from females. The first and most common is one of great interest,usualy more so when the bi fem topic crops up. The second and,thankfully,less common reaction is one of insecurity.They suddenly see a woman who swings as a threat and become very protective of their husband,as if your suddenly going to pounce on them in an uncontrolable sexual frenzy,lol. Your sister could well fall into the second catagory.It may not be your kids she's worried about, more her partner. Especialy if you get on well with him.Even more so if she knows her own sex life isn't all it could be. By creating all the fuss she's trying to gather allies to get you back on the vanilla side or deride you.In this case,using your kid's as a lever. That done,she'll probably feel a lot more comfortable and secure. It's hard to explain but I think you'll get the drift. XXXX that makes alot of sense. it wouldn't surprise me if her hubby has now been looking into swinging lol. he safe from me though we don't really get on. but then she probably thinks that all women find him irresistible lol Well if she told him,all it takes is for him to grin and say "Nice one" to start the ball rolling. If she's insecure and is aware she's a bit dull in the sack then that's all it would take. You never know. XXXX" lol i would like to have been a fly on the wall to that conversation. | |||
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