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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

swinging, why do so many keep it secret?

this day and age is it not quite "fashionable" .....

why do you keep it secret....i don't, would you "come " out??

ps...i do understand why many don't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im not ashamed!!

most of my family know what we do x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im not ashamed of what i do , but for personal reasons i keep it to myself , a few people know about it , however professionally for me it would be a disaster and cost me a great deal .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"im not ashamed!!

most of my family know what we do x

"

i am open about it, but not to my family....hmmmm

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Were not ashamed or hiding, as shown by all our friends laughing as we spoke our "promise to be faithful line" during our weding vows :P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"swinging, why do so many keep it secret?

this day and age is it not quite "fashionable" .....

why do you keep it secret....i don't, would you "come " out??

ps...i do understand why many don't"

We wouldn't offer the information simply because a lot of people still "frown" upon those who swing and we see no need to discuss it with anyone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think we had a similar thread to this b4

I was part of a couple a few years back and had no choice but to tell my family as my ex was working his way round telling them one by one.

They supported me no matter what i do with my time.

But now i wouldnt class myself as a swinger anymore as i met single guys and my family have a giggle about it.

And really dont give a flying fook what anyone else thinks about the lifestyle i choose, its ok for guys to sleep with endless amounts of women but not ok for women, who get labeled a slag! but im very happy to stick 2 fingers up at that, call me what you want dont give a shit lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Were not ashamed.. far from, never yet done anything with anyone we'd say were ashamed of..

Why not.. well if we did it wouldn't be ours would it, our secret, our thing lol. We like the naughtiness in a way.. the secrecy.. In saying that if they found out, so what..

Its hardly fashionable, no more now than before.. its just sexuality is far more accepted now in my view..

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By *DSRMan
over a year ago

leicester

I think there is nothing wrong with it... However 100's of years ago it was not exceptable by the mass public, and still today there is a slight taboo within many peoples mind. therefore you have to be polite to other peoples feelings at times, while polite to your own at other times; You can't please everyone but you can do what is best and bit your tongue when it is needed.

Sound xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why would I want to tell my family that I love shagging other girls while Siren watches me? Seems quite bizarre to inform one's family about where and what one likes to do with one's cock.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My Uncle found out, only because I looked down while dogging one night in Newcastle carpark with a torch as he looked up...how we laughed!!!

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place


"My Uncle found out, only because I looked down while dogging one night in Newcastle carpark with a torch as he looked up...how we laughed!!!"

PMSL

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

We're not ashamed of anything we do,I don't expect to know what my vanilla friends sex lives(mostly boring because some insist on telling me) are like so why should I feel that they need to know about ours?

I would never tell anyone anything I was'nt happy about the whole world knowing so until the time I feel happy for everyone to know we are keeping quiet, plus its nice to have a little secret to ourselves

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By *teve_SoleilCouple
over a year ago

Malaysia

Why is there a need to tell other people about our sex life???even if we just monogamously have sex with each other..why should we tell people not involved in it???...:D...not ashamed but discretion...it's best for us...:D...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im not ashamed, just cautious .

and as its my sexlife and no one elses.

why should anyone else need to know ?

i hurt no one. I betray no one and as far as im aware, conduct myself correctly and with decurum unless otherwise occupied then stand back missus !!!

its my "wicked side" im pandering too....

And we all have those

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"im not ashamed of what i do , but for personal reasons i keep it to myself , a few people know about it , however professionally for me it would be a disaster and cost me a great deal . "

Same with me. As much as we might not like it some people will never understand or even accept it. Im more open about being bi than a swinger.......thats just the way it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"im not ashamed of what i do , but for personal reasons i keep it to myself , a few people know about it , however professionally for me it would be a disaster and cost me a great deal .

Same with me. As much as we might not like it some people will never understand or even accept it. Im more open about being bi than a swinger.......thats just the way it is"

We wouldn't mind betting that your the opposite to a lot of couples were the guy is bi.They could cope with being found out to be swingers but not if he was found out to be bi.So they keep it secret knowing that finding out about one would lead to the other.

While a few people may be ashamed of swinging, perhaps embarrassed would be a better word to describe many swingers secrecy.

XXXX

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By *on1Man
over a year ago

spain

frightened of wife finding out .lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not ashamed at all , if someone asked me I'd tell em . Never been ashamed of anything I've done , regretted a few things though .

Guess if anyones ashamed of anything they're doing , then maybe shouldn't be doing it !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For much the same reason as I don't tell the whole world and it's cousins how much money I have in my bank account or how often I have a wank.

Frankly it's none of their business. There are some things in life that people don't need to know

But are we ashamed ? - No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my mum and sisters know a little bit of what i do and i am glad my older sister knows a lot as when i was seeing a 'man' of here quite a while ago during a row i went for a walk to calm down and on coming back into the house i could hear him shouting at my sister telling her i force him to go swinging and dogging cos i am a craazy slut lol

she just told him she dont wanna hear it then me and her had a laugh about it after cos it was clear he thought i did not tell her anything lol

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"swinging, why do so many keep it secret?

this day and age is it not quite "fashionable" .....

why do you keep it secret....i don't, would you "come " out??

"

Do you tell all of your friends and family when you have had a wank, even when it was one of those really mind-blowing super wanks? Or do you take into consideration those who may find hearing the details of your masturbation habits distasteful and share the details only with those who will appreciate hearing about the event?

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By *enjoymore2Couple
over a year ago

Liverpool

I remember telling a close friend when I was a single female using the site...to which she thought was fine. But when I met my now husband on an adult site and we continued to swing together she cant understand how we can, as she says we cant truly love eachother if we can have sex with others!!!

Thats were I see it different and see it that we love eachother so much that we can and enjoy sex with others...no jealousy.

So needless to say we keep our swinging side of life to ourselves.

Quite amusing sometimes as we are close friends with a few of our swinging partners and our other friends know nothing.

Shhhhhhhhh!

xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if you wern't swingers would you discuss your sex life with your parents??

i know i wouldn't...so just because you choose an alternative to what a lot of people consider normal...doesnt mean every tom dick and harry have to hear all about it!

some things are just best kept private!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're not ashamed of what we get upto, though friends we've met through swinging have made comments on Facebook that we had to delete - we try to keep the two sides of life separate!! I even found a cpl I know quite well (but didn't know they swung) on this site recently and sent them a friendly msg, offered to verify them as genuine.. they deleted thier account the next day... I think they may have been a tad ashamed lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

proclaiming your lifestyle choices cause no end of problems.

Keep what you do in private to yourself and enjoy (if it's legal...) The world and their dog is not really interested in your life choices. Remember, there is a difference in lying and not telling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't adverte what i do because i have children, i have no shame in meeting others for sex but i don't want my children to be he traget of school yard bullying becaue of it, people who i know well and trust no to gossip and let it get back to my children know but thats all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"im not ashamed!!

most of my family know what we do x

i am open about it, but not to my family....hmmmm"

yout open about it then are you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my sister knows because we went to a social that turned out to be opposite her house. she cool with it. infact she asks lots of questions lol.

Ben joined a swinging group on face book and signed me up for it too. my other sister had a bag on and asked why we had joined such a group. saying it was not a good enviroment for my son. she obvoisly thought he was around when we do this which he isnt. she cant understand it. she the sort who will call social services convinced im a bad mum though. its people like that that make me keep it quiet. im doing nothing wrong so why should i get judged.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"snip... im doing nothing wrong so why should i get judged. "

Indeed your not, you just told someone who doesn't understand, which is why you are being judged...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i can understand that she doesnt understand. it took me some time to get my head round it. it just annoys me that people assume my child is at risk because of what i do. now if i was a single mum going out on the town every weekend got lashed and took home some strange bloke they wouldnt batter an eyelid. familys .... who'd have em.

mind you it was funny when she run the sister who knows and said guess what i think nickys wife swapping to which she replied .. what the tv program? really? oh wow. now thats a great sister lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i can understand that she doesnt understand. it took me some time to get my head round it. it just annoys me that people assume my child is at risk because of what i do. now if i was a single mum going out on the town every weekend got lashed and took home some strange bloke they wouldnt batter an eyelid. familys .... who'd have em.

mind you it was funny when she run the sister who knows and said guess what i think nickys wife swapping to which she replied .. what the tv program? really? oh wow. now thats a great sister lol"

We've found one of two reactions when people find out we're swingers.These reactions are predominantly from females.

The first and most common is one of great interest,usualy more so when the bi fem topic crops up.

The second and,thankfully,less common reaction is one of insecurity.They suddenly see a woman who swings as a threat and become very protective of their husband,as if your suddenly going to pounce on them in an uncontrolable sexual frenzy,lol.

Your sister could well fall into the second catagory.It may not be your kids she's worried about, more her partner.

Especialy if you get on well with him.Even more so if she knows her own sex life isn't all it could be.

By creating all the fuss she's trying to gather allies to get you back on the vanilla side or deride you.In this case,using your kid's as a lever.

That done,she'll probably feel a lot more comfortable and secure.

It's hard to explain but I think you'll get the drift.

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i can understand that she doesnt understand. it took me some time to get my head round it. it just annoys me that people assume my child is at risk because of what i do. now if i was a single mum going out on the town every weekend got lashed and took home some strange bloke they wouldnt batter an eyelid. familys .... who'd have em.

mind you it was funny when she run the sister who knows and said guess what i think nickys wife swapping to which she replied .. what the tv program? really? oh wow. now thats a great sister lol

We've found one of two reactions when people find out we're swingers.These reactions are predominantly from females.

The first and most common is one of great interest,usualy more so when the bi fem topic crops up.

The second and,thankfully,less common reaction is one of insecurity.They suddenly see a woman who swings as a threat and become very protective of their husband,as if your suddenly going to pounce on them in an uncontrolable sexual frenzy,lol.

Your sister could well fall into the second catagory.It may not be your kids she's worried about, more her partner.

Especialy if you get on well with him.Even more so if she knows her own sex life isn't all it could be.

By creating all the fuss she's trying to gather allies to get you back on the vanilla side or deride you.In this case,using your kid's as a lever.

That done,she'll probably feel a lot more comfortable and secure.

It's hard to explain but I think you'll get the drift.

XXXX"

that makes alot of sense. it wouldn't surprise me if her hubby has now been looking into swinging lol. he safe from me though we don't really get on. but then she probably thinks that all women find him irresistible lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i can understand that she doesnt understand. it took me some time to get my head round it. it just annoys me that people assume my child is at risk because of what i do. now if i was a single mum going out on the town every weekend got lashed and took home some strange bloke they wouldnt batter an eyelid. familys .... who'd have em.

mind you it was funny when she run the sister who knows and said guess what i think nickys wife swapping to which she replied .. what the tv program? really? oh wow. now thats a great sister lol

We've found one of two reactions when people find out we're swingers.These reactions are predominantly from females.

The first and most common is one of great interest,usualy more so when the bi fem topic crops up.

The second and,thankfully,less common reaction is one of insecurity.They suddenly see a woman who swings as a threat and become very protective of their husband,as if your suddenly going to pounce on them in an uncontrolable sexual frenzy,lol.

Your sister could well fall into the second catagory.It may not be your kids she's worried about, more her partner.

Especialy if you get on well with him.Even more so if she knows her own sex life isn't all it could be.

By creating all the fuss she's trying to gather allies to get you back on the vanilla side or deride you.In this case,using your kid's as a lever.

That done,she'll probably feel a lot more comfortable and secure.

It's hard to explain but I think you'll get the drift.

XXXX

that makes alot of sense. it wouldn't surprise me if her hubby has now been looking into swinging lol. he safe from me though we don't really get on. but then she probably thinks that all women find him irresistible lol"

Well if she told him,all it takes is for him to grin and say "Nice one" to start the ball rolling.

If she's insecure and is aware she's a bit dull in the sack then that's all it would take.

You never know.

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i can understand that she doesnt understand. it took me some time to get my head round it. it just annoys me that people assume my child is at risk because of what i do. now if i was a single mum going out on the town every weekend got lashed and took home some strange bloke they wouldnt batter an eyelid. familys .... who'd have em.

mind you it was funny when she run the sister who knows and said guess what i think nickys wife swapping to which she replied .. what the tv program? really? oh wow. now thats a great sister lol

We've found one of two reactions when people find out we're swingers.These reactions are predominantly from females.

The first and most common is one of great interest,usualy more so when the bi fem topic crops up.

The second and,thankfully,less common reaction is one of insecurity.They suddenly see a woman who swings as a threat and become very protective of their husband,as if your suddenly going to pounce on them in an uncontrolable sexual frenzy,lol.

Your sister could well fall into the second catagory.It may not be your kids she's worried about, more her partner.

Especialy if you get on well with him.Even more so if she knows her own sex life isn't all it could be.

By creating all the fuss she's trying to gather allies to get you back on the vanilla side or deride you.In this case,using your kid's as a lever.

That done,she'll probably feel a lot more comfortable and secure.

It's hard to explain but I think you'll get the drift.

XXXX

that makes alot of sense. it wouldn't surprise me if her hubby has now been looking into swinging lol. he safe from me though we don't really get on. but then she probably thinks that all women find him irresistible lol

Well if she told him,all it takes is for him to grin and say "Nice one" to start the ball rolling.

If she's insecure and is aware she's a bit dull in the sack then that's all it would take.

You never know.

XXXX"

lol i would like to have been a fly on the wall to that conversation.

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