FabSwingers.com forum: Lowering our standards

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

In seems in this recession every guy that wants to meet us is doing it on the cheap ,

Now as a couple we like nice bars restaurants and hotels . We like to socialise with prospective single guys at least 2 times

So the question is do others on here feel they have to lower their standards to meet people

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

No, I employ a bit of give and take. If someone fancies a meet and they look ok, I'll suggest something and see how it works. If it doesn't I'll see what they suggest.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No, I employ a bit of give and take. If someone fancies a meet and they look ok, I'll suggest something and see how it works. If it doesn't I'll see what they suggest.

Where do you suggest then ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In seems in this recession every guy that wants to meet us is doing it on the cheap ,

Now as a couple we like nice bars restaurants and hotels . We like to socialise with prospective single guys at least 2 times

So the question is do others on here feel they have to lower their standards to meet people "

Is something stopping you from paying for the hotel?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How about a tent and a bottle of cider?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How about a tent and a bottle of cider?"

That's classier than some offers we have had

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How about a tent and a bottle of cider?"

sounds good to me haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure I understand what your getting at?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"In seems in this recession every guy that wants to meet us is doing it on the cheap ,

Now as a couple we like nice bars restaurants and hotels . We like to socialise with prospective single guys at least 2 times

So the question is do others on here feel they have to lower their standards to meet people

Is something stopping you from paying for the hotel?"

Do you expect your meets to pay your expenses then . ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How about a tent and a bottle of cider?

That's classier than some offers we have had "

Some moonshine out in the open then?

That actually sounds quite nice...

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By *aceytopWoman
over a year ago

from a town near you

"In seems in this recession every guy that wants to meet us is doing it on the cheap ,

Now as a couple we like nice bars restaurants and hotels . We like to socialise with prospective single guys at least 2 times

So the question is do others on here feel they have to lower their standards to meet people

Is something stopping you from paying for the hotel?

Do you expect your meets to pay your expenses then . ?"
not sure what you mean by this,are you saying you expect your meet to pay for your drinks,meals and hotel???

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not sure I understand what your getting at?"

We have just had a run of can't I just come to yours as I can't afford a night out or I can't text as I have no credit but you can ring me so I can wank when your speaking to me lol

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

"No, I employ a bit of give and take. If someone fancies a meet and they look ok, I'll suggest something and see how it works. If it doesn't I'll see what they suggest.

Where do you suggest then ? "

Suggest somewhere equidistant rather than close to me, or if I'm meeting someone who is on the TG scene, someplace we'd both be anyway, like BNO or LFF

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"In seems in this recession every guy that wants to meet us is doing it on the cheap ,

Now as a couple we like nice bars restaurants and hotels . We like to socialise with prospective single guys at least 2 times

So the question is do others on here feel they have to lower their standards to meet people

Is something stopping you from paying for the hotel?

Do you expect your meets to pay your expenses then . ?not sure what you mean by this,are you saying you expect your meet to pay for your drinks,meals and hotel???"

No way we are expecting them to pay their own drinks and food etc . Simply paying their way ,

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By *aceytopWoman
over a year ago

from a town near you

"In seems in this recession every guy that wants to meet us is doing it on the cheap ,

Now as a couple we like nice bars restaurants and hotels . We like to socialise with prospective single guys at least 2 times

So the question is do others on here feel they have to lower their standards to meet people

Is something stopping you from paying for the hotel?

Do you expect your meets to pay your expenses then . ?not sure what you mean by this,are you saying you expect your meet to pay for your drinks,meals and hotel???

No way we are expecting them to pay their own drinks and food etc . Simply paying their way , "
oh I see,sorry I thought you meant for them to pay for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe they don't think the night is going to be worth spending a shed load of money on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lower my standards or go without.

i wouldnt want to meet them twice before we had sex, maybe once would be ok.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is something stopping you from paying for the hotel?

Do you expect your meets to pay your expenses then . ?"

I didn't start a thread that seems to suggest others should pay to maintain your standards. How does what I expect from my meets come into you appearing to expect others to pay to maintain your standards?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In seems in this recession every guy that wants to meet us is doing it on the cheap ,

Now as a couple we like nice bars restaurants and hotels . We like to socialise with prospective single guys at least 2 times

So the question is do others on here feel they have to lower their standards to meet people

Is something stopping you from paying for the hotel?

Do you expect your meets to pay your expenses then . ?not sure what you mean by this,are you saying you expect your meet to pay for your drinks,meals and hotel???

No way we are expecting them to pay their own drinks and food etc . Simply paying their way , "

Well surely u have to take into account that some people just cant afford the same things as you can.

Is it lowering ur standards ? Or

Is it compromising to meet not only ur desires/ wants/needs but the desires/wants /needs of the people you are meeting too

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How about a tent and a bottle of cider?

That's classier than some offers we have had

Some moonshine out in the open then?

That actually sounds quite nice..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your meeting them for sex not to start a new relationship for a husband if you don't click straight away there not for you

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I don't really understand when people say they might have to lower their standards, in this hobby if you have standards its quite easy to stick to them by saying "no thank you" to the people who don't meet them.

We're not in our most comfortable period financially at the moment but we manage to have some pretty good social outings that don't cost a fortune, it isn't where you meet and what you drink it's who you meet to drink it with.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Your meeting them for sex not to start a new relationship for a husband if you don't click straight away there not for you "

Exactly we are meeting them for sex. Not to have another dependant or freeloader to pay for

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Your meeting them for sex not to start a new relationship for a husband if you don't click straight away there not for you

Exactly we are meeting them for sex. Not to have another dependant or freeloader to pay for "

we've never met a single man who wanted us to pay for him they have always been happy to pay their way. In fact we often feel that they get the raw end of the deal as there are two of us and only one of them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single guy I've never had a problem meting for a social somewhere or paying my way however on more than one social or play meet it has been the case that I was expected to pay for everything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stick to meeting people of your own calibre. You don't deserve anyone less

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Your meeting them for sex not to start a new relationship for a husband if you don't click straight away there not for you

Exactly we are meeting them for sex. Not to have another dependant or freeloader to pay for

We unfortunately have not found that lately , ass on as we mention a night out to see if we get on , we always find they go quiet or ask to come to ours for a quicky

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By *hitedukeMan
over a year ago

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I love nice hotels, champers & all the trimmings as much as i love a night on the pop and a premier inn, or a night at my place.

I always like to go with whatever suits all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just stick to swinging instead of meeting men on their own? That way you can find like minded couples who can pay their half. You won't get lumbered with poor people then either

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Your meeting them for sex not to start a new relationship for a husband if you don't click straight away there not for you

Exactly we are meeting them for sex. Not to have another dependant or freeloader to pay for

We unfortunately have not found that lately , ass on as we mention a night out to see if we get on , we always find they go quiet or ask to come to ours for a quicky "

We make it clear in our profile that we meet socially only first and in any messages we exchange, some men go quiet but most are happy to share a few drinks in a bar somewhere with us and we always (nearly) have a great time. I think you have been very unlucky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"lower my standards or go without.

i wouldnt want to meet them twice before we had sex, maybe once would be ok."

And that's once more than we would be ok with lol !

Hotels , drinks , food , that's all very nice for us to share with each other .

Would never dream of sharing all that with a prospective meet .

Don't get me wrong , each to their own , but if I was a single guy looking for a meet with a couple , I wouldn't want to entertain the wallet busting expense of 2 socials like this before getting a shag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My standards are quite low as I like all kinds of girls lol x.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I love nice hotels, champers & all the trimmings as much as i love a night on the pop and a premier inn, or a night at my place.

I always like to go with whatever suits all."

Giving the champers and premier inn a miss the rest sounds ok though.

Even the camping and cider is better than some of our offers lately

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your meeting them for sex not to start a new relationship for a husband if you don't click straight away there not for you

Exactly we are meeting them for sex. Not to have another dependant or freeloader to pay for

How would they lose out if your all paying your own way?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a single guy I've never had a problem meting for a social somewhere or paying my way however on more than one social or play meet it has been the case that I was expected to pay for everything"

Your a single guy on a couples profile?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think its simple - if you want a fella to be able to pay his way at a nice hotel/foodie place and thats part of your criteria to meet someone - thats fine - each to their own - i just think a lot of people cant afford that lifestyle - we offer a lovely brew at our home and happy to pay our way at a coffee shop - more likely to go for a meal with people weve already made good friends with and meeting up with again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In seems in this recession every guy that wants to meet us is doing it on the cheap ,

Now as a couple we like nice bars restaurants and hotels . We like to socialise with prospective single guys at least 2 times

So the question is do others on here feel they have to lower their standards to meet people

Is something stopping you from paying for the hotel?

Do you expect your meets to pay your expenses then . ?not sure what you mean by this,are you saying you expect your meet to pay for your drinks,meals and hotel???

No way we are expecting them to pay their own drinks and food etc . Simply paying their way ,

Well surely u have to take into account that some people just cant afford the same things as you can.

Is it lowering ur standards ? Or

Is it compromising to meet not only ur desires/ wants/needs but the desires/wants /needs of the people you are meeting too"

This exactly, not everyone can afford fancy restaurants, and hotels. We can't most of the time. So if people arrange to meet us, are they lowering their standards?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you can make up your mind after one social then you must have doubts. So because of that im out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How about a tent and a bottle of cider?"

That sounds ace. We have marshmallows too

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

if someone wanted me to pay for everything it would be a swift hello and goodbye...

as for meeting in hotels and restaurants... I don't see why meeting in for example in a quiet pub would be seen as "lowering standards" after all, i assume you are using the social to get to know the person... does it matter the setting?

I've met people in starbucks for a coffee (a frap in my case)... i dont use the setting as some sort of fancy "dick swinging" exercise....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How about a tent and a bottle of cider?

sounds good to me haha"

That sounds like the Welsh Fab Camping Social to me

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Even I wouldn't expect 2 social meets! And that is saying something lol

I normally take time before hand and normally know on the first meet if there is anything there, I don't need 2 meets!

And most of time I have an idea if play is on the cards, it's only the one's I was a bit unsure due to dodgy blurred pics that I insist on a social first, Maybe you just need to redefine your criteria of what you are looking for??? Two social meets is a bit excessive in my eyes x

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By *hitedukeMan
over a year ago

derby

"i think its simple - if you want a fella to be able to pay his way at a nice hotel/foodie place and thats part of your criteria to meet someone - thats fine - each to their own - i just think a lot of people cant afford that lifestyle - we offer a lovely brew at our home and happy to pay our way at a coffee shop - more likely to go for a meal with people weve already made good friends with and meeting up with again "

You had me at "A lovely brew" x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We must be cheap dates, we wouldn't want to go to a fancy restaurant or a fancy wine bar with a potential meet, we are quite happy with a quick drink in a pub, and we only need one social meet to know if we want to go on and play.

We've never met anyone that can't pay their own way

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"? Two social meets is a bit excessive in my eyes x "

We say that as we can't always play on first meet owing to nosey teenagers. And can only play Saturday night and we like to go out first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We must be cheap dates, we wouldn't want to go to a fancy restaurant or a fancy wine bar with a potential meet, we are quite happy with a quick drink in a pub, and we only need one social meet to know if we want to go on and play.

We've never met anyone that can't pay their own way

i live on very little money - a coffee out is a treat some months - lucky if you can afford treats - if a social meet was going to cost me more than i could afford i would have to say no - a meal out at a restuarant would rarely be on the cards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've never met anyone that can't pay their own way

sorry i misread and didnt mean to be rude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've even met one young lady in a phone box

although we didn't spend the entire time Insitu!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You had me at "A lovely brew" x"

haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In seems in this recession every guy that wants to meet us is doing it on the cheap ,

Now as a couple we like nice bars restaurants and hotels . We like to socialise with prospective single guys at least 2 times

So the question is do others on here feel they have to lower their standards to meet people "

The standard of the person(s)eclipses all the matching bath robes, underfloor heating and nicely mixed mojitos so if the person is worth it I don't perceive any standards have been lowered, the frills will soon fade in the memory, the thrills won't.

We'd never look for a meet based on background or finances so once we're at the point where we're arranging something we have a chat to establish what the other party is comfortable in terms of the type of meet and the location. That could be a wide range from a cozy boozer to a posh hotel or a Costa even.

If we want a night of fun in a nice hotel, we pay for the hotel.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We've never met anyone that can't pay their own way

sorry i misread and didnt mean to be rude "

I think a lot of people just misunderstood my badly written replies and posts.

I was moaning that it seems. Lately single guys as soon as we mention meeting socially usually suggest a car park meet or other such classy place .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think what you say is fair enough. We like to go for a drink as well first off and from what I have gathered, most people on here do that too. I think it's common sense not to take a complete stranger back to your house. At least you can get to know them a bit by having a drink. If they can't afford it though. To bad for them I say. It's just one of those things. Don't worry about it. Not quite sure what you mean about standards being lowered. Most pubs charge about the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"if someone wanted me to pay for everything it would be a swift hello and goodbye...

I've met people in starbucks for a coffee (a frap in my case)... i dont use the setting as some sort of fancy "dick swinging" exercise...."

Hahaha! Cappuchino with swinging dick on the side please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jeez whatever happened to hooking, fucking, chucking?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Now as a couple we like nice bars restaurants and hotels . We like to socialise with prospective single guys at least 2 times "

2 social meets in 'nice bars and restaurants' followed by a play meet in a hotel sounds like £300 over three separate Saturday nights to me.

There's a word for this kind of activity. The word is dating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

depends on ur standards

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By *uitar_antiheroMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

We've never met anyone that can't pay their own way

I'm the same, I earn next to nothing atm. I bought myself a coffee day then felt guilty cos u couldn't really afford. I agree with the person who said about living within ones means. Currently I couldn't afford a hotel meet, maybe some other time I would be able to. The most amazing person I ever met on here was always skint, we never did anything fancy but always had a wonderful time because at the end of the day, it's the company that makes it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think what you say is fair enough. We like to go for a drink as well first off and from what I have gathered, most people on here do that too. I think it's common sense not to take a complete stranger back to your house. At least you can get to know them a bit by having a drink. If they can't afford it though. To bad for them I say. It's just one of those things. Don't worry about it. Not quite sure what you mean about standards being lowered. Most pubs charge about the same. "

I don't think they're talking about run of the mill pubs. Some bars in London charge £15 for a vodka and . A round of drinks for 4 people can come to £60

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We won't lower our standards for anyone !

This is about fun and that's what it should be .

We tend to meet for a drink and if all happy then we are happy to play .

But we still seem to get loads of people outside our age range and from the other side of the country wanting to meet us !!

And guys can't understand we are not going to meet up in a field somewhere for a quickie !!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

As I said previously

It seems a lot of single guys lately as soon as we suggest meeting socially suggest a car park or other such classy place

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By *ubybabyCouple
over a year ago

lincoln ish

Im always skint i dont quote conditions for meets but still no one wants to meet

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By *extoysareusCouple
over a year ago

kinky heaven

We've never met anyone that can't pay their own way

sorry i misread and didnt mean to be rude

I think a lot of people just misunderstood my badly written replies and posts.

I was moaning that it seems. Lately single guys as soon as we mention meeting socially usually suggest a car park meet or other such classy place .

Just do what you want to do!!!

Should be old enough to make your own decisions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As I said previously

It seems a lot of single guys lately as soon as we suggest meeting socially suggest a car park or other such classy place "

you must be unlucky with the men you're talking to. I know things are bad for some people but a car park?? That's not a social meet that's dogging

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By *extoysareusCouple
over a year ago

kinky heaven

And as for having teenage kids, can't really think that should come into play too.

Sure they are old enough to look after themselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now as a couple we like nice bars restaurants and hotels . "

^That's not what your profile says...

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Your meeting them for sex not to start a new relationship for a husband if you don't click straight away there not for you

Exactly we are meeting them for sex. Not to have another dependant or freeloader to pay for

How would they lose out if your all paying your own way?"

because if they buy a round they're buying for two other people, if we buy a round we're buying for one other person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Now as a couple we like nice bars restaurants and hotels . We like to socialise with prospective single guys at least 2 times

2 social meets in 'nice bars and restaurants' followed by a play meet in a hotel sounds like £300 over three separate Saturday nights to me.

There's a word for this kind of activity. The word is dating. "

I agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your meeting them for sex not to start a new relationship for a husband if you don't click straight away there not for you

Exactly we are meeting them for sex. Not to have another dependant or freeloader to pay for

How would they lose out if your all paying your own way?

because if they buy a round they're buying for two other people, if we buy a round we're buying for one other person

Sod that bit unfair on the singleton should each buy one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only time I lower my standards is when a member of the royal family die.

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By *extoysareusCouple
over a year ago

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"Your meeting them for sex not to start a new relationship for a husband if you don't click straight away there not for you

Exactly we are meeting them for sex. Not to have another dependant or freeloader to pay for

How would they lose out if your all paying your own way?

because if they buy a round they're buying for two other people, if we buy a round we're buying for one other person

But surely 3 people is three rounds,

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By *hitedukeMan
over a year ago

derby

"In seems in this recession every guy that wants to meet us is doing it on the cheap ,

Now as a couple we like nice bars restaurants and hotels . We like to socialise with prospective single guys at least 2 times

So the question is do others on here feel they have to lower their standards to meet people

If we want a night of fun in a nice hotel, we pay for the hotel.

And this is exactly why we must meet

You two are the best x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my town we have a good bikers pub and some little cheap cafes that would do me,im A classy chick and one social be anough for me to know if we click

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In seems in this recession every guy that wants to meet us is doing it on the cheap ,

Now as a couple we like nice bars restaurants and hotels . We like to socialise with prospective single guys at least 2 times

So the question is do others on here feel they have to lower their standards to meet people

If we want a night of fun in a nice hotel, we pay for the hotel.

And this is exactly why we must meet

You two are the best x

You sly old dog, trying to get a night in the Savoy out of us pmsl. Ibis Bordesley Circus do ya? lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your meeting them for sex not to start a new relationship for a husband if you don't click straight away there not for you

Exactly we are meeting them for sex. Not to have another dependant or freeloader to pay for

How would they lose out if your all paying your own way?

because if they buy a round they're buying for two other people, if we buy a round we're buying for one other person

But surely 3 people is three rounds,"

That's how it works in are Friday night group!!Shouldn't just be a free night out for peoples partners!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If i got the chance to meet someone from here i would lavish them with gifts!!

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By *hitedukeMan
over a year ago

derby

"In seems in this recession every guy that wants to meet us is doing it on the cheap ,

Now as a couple we like nice bars restaurants and hotels . We like to socialise with prospective single guys at least 2 times

So the question is do others on here feel they have to lower their standards to meet people

If we want a night of fun in a nice hotel, we pay for the hotel.

And this is exactly why we must meet

You two are the best x

You sly old dog, trying to get a night in the Savoy out of us pmsl. Ibis Bordesley Circus do ya? lol."

Damn. Rumbled !!

I think ive stayed there before, lol, for a few hours at least

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bloody hell,we buy 2 rounds the guy buys one...thats fair,and then we all go off and split hairs for a laugh

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By *unnyfunCouple
over a year ago

Carmarthenshire

"I don't really understand when people say they might have to lower their standards, in this hobby if you have standards its quite easy to stick to them by saying "no thank you" to the people who don't meet them.

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over a year ago

"In seems in this recession every guy that wants to meet us is doing it on the cheap ,

Now as a couple we like nice bars restaurants and hotels . We like to socialise with prospective single guys at least 2 times

So the question is do others on here feel they have to lower their standards to meet people

If we want a night of fun in a nice hotel, we pay for the hotel.

And this is exactly why we must meet

You two are the best x

haha our lovely brew not good enough now eh

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By *hitedukeMan
over a year ago

derby

"If i got the chance to meet someone from here i would lavish them with gifts!!

Be careful what you wish for .......

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over a year ago

"In seems in this recession every guy that wants to meet us is doing it on the cheap ,

Now as a couple we like nice bars restaurants and hotels . We like to socialise with prospective single guys at least 2 times

So the question is do others on here feel they have to lower their standards to meet people

If we want a night of fun in a nice hotel, we pay for the hotel.

And this is exactly why we must meet

You two are the best x

haha our lovely brew not good enough now eh

I'll have your lovely brew. Nowt like a good Manchester cuppa!

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over a year ago

"Bloody hell,we buy 2 rounds the guy buys one...thats fair,and then we all go off and split hairs for a laugh

3 drinks? I'd be useless after that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your meeting them for sex not to start a new relationship for a husband if you don't click straight away there not for you

Exactly we are meeting them for sex. Not to have another dependant or freeloader to pay for

How would they lose out if your all paying your own way?

because if they buy a round they're buying for two other people, if we buy a round we're buying for one other person

But surely 3 people is three rounds,"

That's how I would see it!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I'm a cheap date me. Pint of beer, bag of chips, and a quick fumble after. Sorted.

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By *ombshellWoman
over a year ago

islington

never lower your standards ...

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over a year ago

"In seems in this recession every guy that wants to meet us is doing it on the cheap ,

Now as a couple we like nice bars restaurants and hotels . We like to socialise with prospective single guys at least 2 times

So the question is do others on here feel they have to lower their standards to meet people

If we want a night of fun in a nice hotel, we pay for the hotel.

And this is exactly why we must meet

You two are the best x

haha our lovely brew not good enough now eh

I'll have your lovely brew. Nowt like a good Manchester cuppa!"

he makes a better cup of tea -

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over a year ago

"Bloody hell,we buy 2 rounds the guy buys one...thats fair,and then we all go off and split hairs for a laugh

3 drinks? I'd be useless after that "

Haha, me too after three I'd be at the write her name on a used bus ticket and put her in a taxi stage.

This girl can't hold her liquor! *insert cunnilingus joke here*

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By *hitedukeMan
over a year ago

derby

"In seems in this recession every guy that wants to meet us is doing it on the cheap ,

Now as a couple we like nice bars restaurants and hotels . We like to socialise with prospective single guys at least 2 times

So the question is do others on here feel they have to lower their standards to meet people

If we want a night of fun in a nice hotel, we pay for the hotel.

And this is exactly why we must meet

You two are the best x

haha our lovely brew not good enough now eh

I'll have your lovely brew. Nowt like a good Manchester cuppa!"

Step away from the brew arrangements !!

The "lovely brew" deal is still on !!

And no "devilinside" you cant nick my cuppa until weve had that night in the savoy you promised me

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over a year ago

"Bloody hell,we buy 2 rounds the guy buys one...thats fair,and then we all go off and split hairs for a laugh

3 drinks? I'd be useless after that

Haha, me too after three I'd be at the write her name on a used bus ticket and put her in a taxi stage.

This girl can't hold her liquor! *insert cunnilingus joke here*"

There are such things as soft drinks you know

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over a year ago

"Bloody hell,we buy 2 rounds the guy buys one...thats fair,and then we all go off and split hairs for a laugh

3 drinks? I'd be useless after that

Haha, me too after three I'd be at the write her name on a used bus ticket and put her in a taxi stage.

This girl can't hold her liquor! *insert cunnilingus joke here*

There are such things as soft drinks you know

soft.........drinks?? What manner of witch craft is that?

Kidding, I would only ever have one drink and I do need it, because I'm a nervous wreck before meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As I said previously

It seems a lot of single guys lately as soon as we suggest meeting socially suggest a car park or other such classy place "

You must be unlucky with the single guys then, not once has it been suggested to us to meet in a car park or other such classy places, all the ones we have met have been happy with a quick social to see if we are all happy to play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bloody hell,we buy 2 rounds the guy buys one...thats fair,and then we all go off and split hairs for a laugh

3 drinks? I'd be useless after that

Haha, me too after three I'd be at the write her name on a used bus ticket and put her in a taxi stage.

This girl can't hold her liquor! *insert cunnilingus joke here*

There are such things as soft drinks you know

soft.........drinks?? What manner of witch craft is that?

Kidding, I would only ever have one drink and I do need it, because I'm a nervous wreck before meets."

It's rare I drink or eat before a meet. I like an empty stomach

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok 3 points...

meeting twice?- nope, I have better things to do with my time, other meets to arrange, than go for two social meets.sorry, no hoop jumping from me.

I'm sure there are plenty of men with 'meet' status's that dont include too much cyber verifies.

not profile critiquing.. but the profile does sound a bit male written, it would lead me to believe most of my conversations before I even get to a meet will be with the male half..I might even want a vocal chat with the female half............I'd hope that wouldnt be assumed I want a wankchat.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Your meeting them for sex not to start a new relationship for a husband if you don't click straight away there not for you

Exactly we are meeting them for sex. Not to have another dependant or freeloader to pay for

How would they lose out if your all paying your own way?

because if they buy a round they're buying for two other people, if we buy a round we're buying for one other person

But surely 3 people is three rounds,"

well the guys we've met insist on two rounds.

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over a year ago

" Now as a couple we like nice bars restaurants and hotels . We like to socialise with prospective single guys at least 2 times

2 social meets in 'nice bars and restaurants' followed by a play meet in a hotel sounds like £300 over three separate Saturday nights to me.

There's a word for this kind of activity. The word is dating. "

Fuck me £300 for 3 dates

even in dating that is excessive x

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over a year ago

" Now as a couple we like nice bars restaurants and hotels . We like to socialise with prospective single guys at least 2 times

2 social meets in 'nice bars and restaurants' followed by a play meet in a hotel sounds like £300 over three separate Saturday nights to me.

There's a word for this kind of activity. The word is dating.

Fuck me £300 for 3 dates

even in dating that is excessive x"

it would be a cheap holiday for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am guessing the op may be somewhat regretting the question now ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've stopped doing social meets for a while now - I focus more on clubs now as you can do all the socialising you want there - or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Now as a couple we like nice bars restaurants and hotels . We like to socialise with prospective single guys at least 2 times

2 social meets in 'nice bars and restaurants' followed by a play meet in a hotel sounds like £300 over three separate Saturday nights to me.

There's a word for this kind of activity. The word is dating.

Fuck me £300 for 3 dates

even in dating that is excessive x"

In London, it doesn't really take much for 3 nights out and a hotel stay to exceed £300.

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over a year ago

" Now as a couple we like nice bars restaurants and hotels . We like to socialise with prospective single guys at least 2 times

2 social meets in 'nice bars and restaurants' followed by a play meet in a hotel sounds like £300 over three separate Saturday nights to me.

There's a word for this kind of activity. The word is dating.

Fuck me £300 for 3 dates

even in dating that is excessive x

In London, it doesn't really take much for 3 nights out and a hotel stay to exceed £300."

i knew there was some good reason for living where i do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems like some people need to feel that prospective meets are social friends to justify sex with them...

solid I wasn't sure on meet one, socially there wouldn't be a second...

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over a year ago

" Now as a couple we like nice bars restaurants and hotels . We like to socialise with prospective single guys at least 2 times

2 social meets in 'nice bars and restaurants' followed by a play meet in a hotel sounds like £300 over three separate Saturday nights to me.

There's a word for this kind of activity. The word is dating.

Fuck me £300 for 3 dates

even in dating that is excessive x

In London, it doesn't really take much for 3 nights out and a hotel stay to exceed £300."

Come and date in Norwich

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

I've never had anyone ask to meet in a car park I don't think...My first social meets are all either in my local in Arse End (if it's 25 miles or less for the guy to travel) or I'm happy to drive a max of half hour either north or south to a pub if they're within an hour...I've turned down many offers of "I'll come to you, it's only 100 miles" as I would not want to feel obligated cos someone had driven 2 hours...however, anyone who gets invited to Arse End from further away than 25 miles is pretty much guaranteed a shag or three

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The hotel meets I've had the guy has paid I have offered to pay towards it but they say no. On socials I will buy drink or coffee for us. If I go to a guy's house i will take something to munch on and take wine too sometimes. Does depend how flush i am but I try not to go empty handed

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over a year ago

" Now as a couple we like nice bars restaurants and hotels . We like to socialise with prospective single guys at least 2 times

2 social meets in 'nice bars and restaurants' followed by a play meet in a hotel sounds like £300 over three separate Saturday nights to me.

There's a word for this kind of activity. The word is dating.

Fuck me £300 for 3 dates

even in dating that is excessive x

In London, it doesn't really take much for 3 nights out and a hotel stay to exceed £300.

Come and date in Norwich

Who says I haven't?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not earning at all ATM so any sort of meet is going to be difficult

Living in the middle of nowhere a 100 mile round trip is the norm. That costs enough on its own I usually only do social meets in a coffee bar when I'm already heading that direction. I've even been known to have a social in ikea using the family card free for free coffee

I've also met in car parks to take a walk along the beach, no big deal. Can chat and flirt just as well walking as you can across a table

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Now as a couple we like nice bars restaurants and hotels . We like to socialise with prospective single guys at least 2 times

2 social meets in 'nice bars and restaurants' followed by a play meet in a hotel sounds like £300 over three separate Saturday nights to me.

There's a word for this kind of activity. The word is dating.

Fuck me £300 for 3 dates

even in dating that is excessive x

In London, it doesn't really take much for 3 nights out and a hotel stay to exceed £300.

Come and date in Norwich

Who says I haven't?

Not me you haven't

I'd remember

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over a year ago

"In seems in this recession every guy that wants to meet us is doing it on the cheap ,

Now as a couple we like nice bars restaurants and hotels . We like to socialise with prospective single guys at least 2 times

So the question is do others on here feel they have to lower their standards to meet people "
No but I am flexible, and usually depends on the other person/people too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on what you're classing as a social...a coffee or a drink in a pub somewhere then fine, but a full on meal and night out is something my budget just wouldn't stretch to...I often have to turn down nights out with friends because of finances so not a chance I'd be able to splurge on 2 socials to even be considered for play. I do think 2 socials is a bit much, but I don't always bother with a social to be honest (unless you count a brew before play!).

However if someone is suggesting a car park or layby then I'd simply pass them by and look for the next willing victim as I'm not looking for a quick grope in a car, so I guess that's me not lowering my standards. Suppose it depends on your standards and whether they are reasonable or just demands for someone to jump through hoops...if you are asking to be wined and dined though on 2 nights out then chances are you are going to have to look harder for meets as we're not all as financial secure as you may be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lmao like I said in my profile can't we all just get it on? I've read a few replies this seems to go from one extreme to another!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If i got the chance to meet someone from here i would lavish them with gifts!!

Be careful what you wish for .......

"
im thinking you maybe right lol probably spend £300 just to get a handshake

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I am guessing the op may be somewhat regretting the question now ....

Not really the replies have actually been an eye opener

As we Are looking for a long term arrangement with a proper single guy to include nights out etc etc which is what we want.

We are going to stick to our guns and only meet single guys on nights out if we find a guy that we like we will let them know where w will be if they turn up they do if they don't they obviously were not for us .

I definitely don't think we should lower our standards and meet single guys first time at a our home or hotels or even car parks for safety reasons no matter what they say about costs

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I've met socially more than once before playing and was happy to do so. The first was coffee in Cafe Nero the second dinner in a local Italian restaurant.

My meet declined my offer to go Dutch. I think my meet was wise in requesting two meets. Whilst he obviously liked me and was excited at what I had planned for him he was going to come into my home where he would be restrained, blindfolded and hung from hooks by a woman twice his size who enjoyed extreme bdsm play. You need to feel comfortable with who you're meeting.

I've yet to meet anyone who suggested car parks!

Plus, I only meet people who can accommodate too so it's not all on me.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

The phrase "lowering your standards" is like red rag to a bull, some people think you mean that they personally aren't good enough. What you do mean I think is that you won't compromise the way you play and I agree that you shouldn't, we won't and get fewer meets because of it. Compromise isn't going to work in this sort of activity so stick to your guns I say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The only time I lower my standards is when a member of the royal family die."

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By *oulcakeMan
over a year ago

Gornal

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over a year ago

"I am guessing the op may be somewhat regretting the question now ....

Not really the replies have actually been an eye opener

As we Are looking for a long term arrangement with a proper single guy to include nights out etc etc which is what we want.

I definitely don't think we should lower our standards and meet single guys first time at a our home or hotels or even car parks for safety reasons no matter what they say about costs "

ahh this...a proper single guy..that should become...non-single...and not get the rewards of being in a proper relationship.that never really sits well with me.

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over a year ago

"I am guessing the op may be somewhat regretting the question now ....

Not really the replies have actually been an eye opener

As we Are looking for a long term arrangement with a proper single guy to include nights out etc etc which is what we want.

I definitely don't think we should lower our standards and meet single guys first time at a our home or hotels or even car parks for safety reasons no matter what they say about costs "

Perhaps the terminology is the issue here ?

When you say 'lowering your standards' , there is an immediate knee jerk reaction , and the essence if your desire is the quality of surroundings and affluence more than standards of a person .

We won't have anyone to our house , nor meet in a car park , so in some ways we are more fussy than you !

But that's our circumstances ( kids at home ) , but we will happily meet at a coffee shop or a pub first to ascertain suitability for all 3 of us .

You have received a fair amount of criticism for your way of choosing , primarily as most people can't see why money has to be a factor .

But it's a part of your selection process , and you are entitled to have fun with whoever you like .

For most of us , your way is not for us , and comes across somewhat pompous . But that doesn't mean it's wrong , so good luck to you both

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over a year ago

"In seems in this recession every guy that wants to meet us is doing it on the cheap ,

Now as a couple we like nice bars restaurants and hotels . We like to socialise with prospective single guys at least 2 times

So the question is do others on here feel they have to lower their standards to meet people "

Yes you are very correct op single guys who can not acc , day time meets, carnt send photo because of high profile job the list is endless

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over a year ago

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