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The value of a compliment

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Think its fair to say with a website such as this there is a lot of verbal seduction that takes place and for a lot of people its all taken with a pinch of salt and not too seriously.

Are there compliments and words used that you perhaps value more from people you actually know and who understand you, rather than from people who are typing from behind a keyboard?

To use myself as an example, id prefer to be called 'Beautiful' over 'Gorgeous'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being called gorgeous by someone who had got to know me well was the nicest compliment I've ever received. It brought tears to my eyes because it was genuine.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Beautiful or gorgeous, you have fantastic eyes, either way.

On here, I'm fairly easy. I'd rather be praised for how I look, than my figure, though. One is easy, the other is harder. Being praised for being out and about is nice, too. The particular words used matter less.

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By *anny PepperoniMan
over a year ago

Matlock

For it to mean something you have to get to know them. A compliment from someone who you know and who you know means it can be very moving.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's in a name? That which we call a rose by any other name would smell as sweet. (I didn't write that myself btw).

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By *octor DeleriumMan
over a year ago

Wellingborough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Beautiful or gorgeous, you have fantastic eyes, either way.

On here, I'm fairly easy. I'd rather be praised for how I look, than my figure, though. One is easy, the other is harder. Being praised for being out and about is nice, too. The particular words used matter less. "

I agree Tina. The words chosen are less important than the person saying them and the sentiment behind them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When you get called gorgeous,stunning and beautiful all the time it's difficult to know who is being sincere. I've had people say to me,in person, you have a pretty face,including women. I tend to believe those people as they are either already in bed with me or aren't trying to get into bed with me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When you get called gorgeous,stunning and beautiful all the time it's difficult to know who is being sincere. I've had people say to me,in person, you have a pretty face,including women. I tend to believe those people as they are either already in bed with me or aren't trying to get into bed with me"

i feel the same.. compliments with no hidden agenda's

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By *octor DeleriumMan
over a year ago

Wellingborough

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By *octor DeleriumMan
over a year ago

Wellingborough

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By *octor DeleriumMan
over a year ago

Wellingborough

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"Think its fair to say with a website such as this there is a lot of verbal seduction that takes place and for a lot of people its all taken with a pinch of salt and not too seriously.

Are there compliments and words used that you perhaps value more from people you actually know and who understand you, rather than from people who are typing from behind a keyboard?

To use myself as an example, id prefer to be called 'Beautiful' over 'Gorgeous'"

As a gentleman (please read the definition), I will reply to all messages and introduce myself to anyone that views my profile, as long as they meet my stated criteria.

In response to you'r question; yes.

A compliment from a friend or colleague, whom you know and share a spatial and frequent contact with, always tops an online reply from someone that you have never met.

That's why I tip in restaurants, if the service has been attentive but not intrusive; always say 'thank you' after an interaction, and always begin my complaint letters 'Without Prejudice'.

Doctor Nasty

Proprietor of The King Herod The Great Hotel, Bristol

This is a non-smoking establishment, pets welcomed, no infants under two years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

mostly all compliments about someones appearance on here are only said in order to get a bit closer to getting into someones nickers or pants, like the saying goes "flattery will get you everywhere" more fool the person who believes it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most compliments I receive go in one ear and out the other even more so at the moment but off site there's a few people who when they pay me a compliment I know they mean it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't take compliments seriously on here and never will, unless they know me in person

sounds strange but why should i believe what someone is saying to me when he/she is saying it to others too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most compliments I receive go in one ear and out the other even more so at the moment but off site there's a few people who when they pay me a compliment I know they mean it "

this x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Compliments on here have a cash value of £0.01

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't take compliments seriously on here and never will, unless they know me in person

sounds strange but why should i believe what someone is saying to me when he/she is saying it to others too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't take compliments well because I never believe there sincerity but twice now, in person, people have said how my photos on here don't do me any justice. It was lovely to hear and I believed it as it felt honest.

Hope it was.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

but in reality this is s swinging/sex site, some will say anything to get a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't take components well at all although my self confidence is improving. I'll sort of accept them from people who know me and if I feel they're sincerely meant. I always take the Hi beautiful / Sexy / Gorgeous ones I get on here with a tonne of salt. Lets face it, how can they tell that from a picture of my legs

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Compliments on here have a cash value of £0.01"

Does that go for all the ones you've given out on here then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Compliments on here have a cash value of £0.01"

No one told me I could cash in my unwanted compliments

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Compliments on here have a cash value of £0.01

Does that go for all the ones you've given out on here then? "

Especially the ones I given out all 5 of them lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Compliments on here have a cash value of £0.01

No one told me I could cash in my unwanted compliments "

Always read the small print.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"but in reality this is s swinging/sex site, some will say anything to get a meet"
exactly my point

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Think its fair to say with a website such as this there is a lot of verbal seduction that takes place and for a lot of people its all taken with a pinch of salt and not too seriously.

Are there compliments and words used that you perhaps value more from people you actually know and who understand you, rather than from people who are typing from behind a keyboard?

To use myself as an example, id prefer to be called 'Beautiful' over 'Gorgeous'"

A compliment from someone you know who is sincere is always worth more, and of course some words are better than others!

Having said that, if someone messages me hoping to get to meet and says they love my pics, I still take that as a compliment and receive with good grace!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

On here, strangely my favourite compliments are about my profile and the ones from straight females with no hidden agenda and from the guys that have already got into my knickers.

In everyday life I love all kinds of compliments

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if someone says i look nice thats good enough for me, if they say i look beautiful then they are bullshiting me because not that many women are beautiful, attractive or pretty maybe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if its someone thats not trying to get into my frillies then i take it graciously and thank them

if it is someone trying to get in my frillies i take it graciously, thank them and understand it is to them a means to an end and if i like the idea of getting to that end too then what the hey surely there is a half truth to it cause who seriously wants to get to that end point with someone they don't find attractive?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Darn it. I sent a picture and the reply came back 'wow, your gorgeous' was it just a ploy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I take no notice of compliments on here,all bluff and bullshit

When someone I know says something nice it can make me glow and it will also make me think too,not all compliments have to be about looks and as those compliments are 10 a penny on here I tend to take no notice of those type away from here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is why its always hard to compliment someone on here....a lot if folk are very jaded and youll send someone a compliment and mean it but in the back of your mind you'll just know they're thinking your just trying to weasel your way into bed with them....

But then if you don't say anything nice about them what does that say about you? Your damned if you do or damned I'd you don't really and I think that's a little bit sad

I've come to the conclusion that if I want to compliment someone I will and its their choice to believe it or not....I won't curb my thoughts regarding people just to worry if they're reading it with jaded hearts....ill say what's on my mind and let the chips fall where they may

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

good for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to be very sparing in my compliments on here, as I'm well aware of just how freely they get bandied about - those who DO receive praise from me on the other hand, can be sure that its genuine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I get a compliment I accept it, why would someone be talking to me if they had to lie to me about finding me pig ugly....I think there are so many nice honest folk on here its a shame to become jaded by the few who reckon themselves as wordsmiths that can just weave a few sentances together and win you over....

It's quite a negative way of thinking that everyone is just running about on here lying about how what they think of you just to get their rocks off.

Let's become a little more savvy...most folk on here are reasonably intelligent worldly wise people and should be able to tell the bullshitters from the nice folk so let's not let the few spoil it for the rest eh? Take the compliments and the positivity because really, isn't everyone beautiful to someone?

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

"You'll do".....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would rather a compliment about who I am and how I come across rather than physical appearance. You cant control the way you look (well you can to some degree but you get what I mean) but the person you are is a product of your life's work.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would rather a compliment about who I am and how I come across rather than physical appearance. You cant control the way you look (well you can to some degree but you get what I mean) but the person you are is a product of your life's work."

That was more the point of the thread.. which kinda things mean more to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like compliments they make me smile, I tend to get more in here referring to my humour and manners, the ones that mean most to me are about what a good job I've done bringing up my children.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i personally hate compliments but with the baking and crafting and now photography i do i have grown to accept them

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"i personally hate compliments but with the baking and crafting and now photography i do i have grown to accept them

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In regards to photography on here the mask pics go down well.. when i uploaded them to facebook it was like 'wtf were you bored'..

Showing a creative flare for something is something to be complimented on.. i accept those compliments too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i personally hate compliments but with the baking and crafting and now photography i do i have grown to accept them

In regards to photography on here the mask pics go down well.. when i uploaded them to facebook it was like 'wtf were you bored'..

Showing a creative flare for something is something to be complimented on.. i accept those compliments too "

creative flare i have and over time its coming back slowly x

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

i'm not sure i could call someone beautiful from just looking at their avatar pic .. that seems to be a much more personal compliment only to be given in person when actually face to face

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