FabSwingers.com forum: Friend requests

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Wondering is that puts off if you ask someone (woman/couple) "can I add you here" after chatting for a while?

One woman blocked me for asking, 2 couples just blanked me

Is that rude to ask? Am I doing wrong? help me please

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By *andyblokeMan
over a year ago

birmingham

nowt so queer as folk

frustrating even annoying but its a request and they dont have to say yes and accept it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would much rather be asked politely after a few messages than receive random ones, just do as you are and don't worry about the ones who say no

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"nowt so queer as folk

frustrating even annoying but its a request and they dont have to say yes and accept it."

Cheers bud

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no problem with being asked..in fact I don't mind random...they are easy enough to ignore and make me feel popular

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I would much rather be asked politely after a few messages than receive random ones, just do as you are and don't worry about the ones who say no

Thanks for the help missmo66 much appreciated.

This afternoon when I asked one woman she just replied 'PK' and blocked me. I was like what have I asked?? Strange.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not impolite to ask,i chat to alot men,woman and couples they sometimes ask,i say sorry i dont add till met,then they disapear so no need for blocking

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks Scarlettseduction and Adoresblackmen I think it's just that woman then x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't accept requests unless we've actually met them so our list keeps growing day by day

Silk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It says on my profile I only add those I intend getting jiggy with

but Id rather be asked politely than be sent a random invite from a stranger. I find that rude. Carry on with being polite and asking first OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After I have been talking to people on here for a while I ask do they want to be friends would only block if really needed to

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We don't accept requests unless we've actually met them so our list keeps growing day by day

Silk"

I'm totally agree with you but if someone ask you do you block them?

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By *eerobCouple
over a year ago

solihull

"Wondering is that puts off if you ask someone (woman/couple) "can I add you here" after chatting for a while?

One woman blocked me for asking, 2 couples just blanked me

Is that rude to ask? Am I doing I wrong? help me please

Definately not rude to ask. Ask yourself do you actually want to meet someone who has that attituse. Well not us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We don't accept requests unless we've actually met them so our list keeps growing day by day

Silk

I'm totally agree with you but if someone ask you do you block them? "

Block them? No. We wouldn't do that but everyone is different.

Many people still ask us to accept the request assuming we'll add them, only for us to tell them that will not be the case.

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By *ev and TrevCouple
over a year ago

cardiff

I find It happens mostly in chat and I do sometimes find it slightly annoying as the first line of our profile states we only add people we've met.

That said its not a blocking offence for us and like others have said I'd rather be asked politely than be sent random requests from people we've never spoken to.

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By *errynjuneCouple
over a year ago

Barnsley

"We don't accept requests unless we've actually met them so our list keeps growing day by day

Silk"

Same here

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It says on my profile I only add those I intend getting jiggy with

but Id rather be asked politely than be sent a random invite from a stranger. I find that rude. Carry on with being polite and asking first OP

Cheers legs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Getting random requests I think are the most amnoying for people on here. For me if I get asked after just a few exchanges the answer is" not an option"

I have explained in the past on my profiles how you get to be added to the list but gave up as it got ignored anyway.

Only way you get on list is if we have had a chat on the phone and both still wish to meet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"After I have been talking to people on here for a while I ask do they want to be friends would only block if really needed to"

Fair enough

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester

"I have no problem with being asked..in fact I don't mind random...they are easy enough to ignore and make me feel popular

One random request sent. If I'm ignored we'll be falling out

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Wondering is that puts off if you ask someone (woman/couple) "can I add you here" after chatting for a while?

One woman blocked me for asking, 2 couples just blanked me

Is that rude to ask? Am I doing I wrong? help me please

Definately not rude to ask. Ask yourself do you actually want to meet someone who has that attituse. Well not us. "

Definitely not

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By *ymph and ManicCouple
over a year ago

North East

We get sick of the lazy single guy syndrome .. send friends request without even common decency to message at all .. I know some single guys do put effort into initial messages and we always reply even if its a thanks but no thanks ... curteousy costs nothing and sometimes reap rewards ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have no problem with being asked..in fact I don't mind random...they are easy enough to ignore and make me feel popular

One random request sent. If I'm ignored we'll be falling out

It's not that random really.....check your friend list

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester

"We get sick of the lazy single guy syndrome .. send friends request without even common decency to message at all .. I know some single guys do put effort into initial messages and we always reply even if its a thanks but no thanks ... curteousy costs nothing and sometimes reap rewards ... "

Well for your information I get quite a few friends requests from couples who don't message first who are just as guilty as committing the same atrocities as the much maligned single male.

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester

"I have no problem with being asked..in fact I don't mind random...they are easy enough to ignore and make me feel popular

One random request sent. If I'm ignored we'll be falling out

It's not that random really.....check your friend list

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well for your information I get quite a few friends requests from couples who don't message first who are just as guilty as committing the same atrocities as the much maligned single male. "

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

dont find it a huge drama ...if i dont want to add them i just delete the request

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I might be sitting on a bench alone here but it doesn't bother me. I just ignore them

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"dont find it a huge drama ...if i dont want to add them i just delete the request "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think I might be sitting on a bench alone here but it doesn't bother me. I just ignore them "

I'm still here lol thanks for the help. Many people said the same thing so I know where i stand now. And I think it was just one strange woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think I might be sitting on a bench alone here but it doesn't bother me. I just ignore them

I'm still here lol thanks for the help. Many people said the same thing so I know where i stand now. And I think it was just one strange woman

Just out of interest......what's the motivation behind the friends request?

To see more pics? If so - just ask if they'd PM some.

So you can see when they're online easier? Add them to your hotlist - does the same job.

Or was a meet likely?

If not the latter - then a friends request can seem a bit presumptuous to some who'll assume you just want to see additional photos.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only polite to ask first.

We don't usually ask or accept until we think it's going somewhere, but wouldn't block someone just because they've asked and we weren't ready.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had two friend requests, One i accepted she removed me after a couple of months and one of a gay man which i said no thanks, I have one friend on here now i sent a request to her after chatting for a few weeks, If i send one and am ignored i will just move on

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think I might be sitting on a bench alone here but it doesn't bother me. I just ignore them

I'm still here lol thanks for the help. Many people said the same thing so I know where i stand now. And I think it was just one strange woman

Just out of interest......what's the motivation behind the friends request?

To see more pics? If so - just ask if they'd PM some.

So you can see when they're online easier? Add them to your hotlist - does the same job.

Or was a meet likely?

If not the latter - then a friends request can seem a bit presumptuous to some who'll assume you just want to see additional photos.

It's just I'm a non member here and my inbox can only hold certain amount of messages. I thought if I add her I wouldn't loose her cos we were discussing to meet in April. But I found out what actually 'hotlist' does only before so I will hotlist them in the future. Thanks for your help bud

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Only polite to ask first.

We don't usually ask or accept until we think it's going somewhere, but wouldn't block someone just because they've asked and we weren't ready."

Funny thing is she replied 'PK' I didn't even knew what it means. I googled it to find out hahha it come up as player kill or something

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By *imwildWoman
over a year ago

around

I dont accept friend requests nor do I block. Im great at ignoring...lol. I use the hotlist for anyone I like to chat to.

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By *ymph and ManicCouple
over a year ago

North East

Well for your information I get quite a few friends requests from couples who don't message first who are just as guilty as committing the same atrocities as the much maligned single male.

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... and as you will see in middle of message we extol the single guys who do put efforts un .. hence not tarring every single guy with same brush ....

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