FabSwingers.com forum: so many racists!!!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think its a sad time when people who dont want to sleep with us black People (or in my case blackish) have to justify that they are not racist.

If I see the words "NO BLACK OR ASIAN" I think "fair enough" not "RACIST"

I dont generally dig black women... Oh hang on I need to Renew my kkk membership

Some people dont find members of a certain ethnicity unattractive, no one should have to justify that.

Just my ranty thoughts, what do you guys think? Should we have to Justify are ethnic sexual preferences?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not Racism its preference simple's x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Agreed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your in the KKK then your a hypocrit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I totally agree.

Every one has their own personal preference and that's the way the world and the human race work!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't justify any of my preference but to be fair I don't rule anyone out on appearance or race. If I did I wouldn't feel the need to say I'm not racist

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

"I think its a sad time when people who dont want to sleep with us black People (or in my case blackish) have to justify that they are not racist.

If I see the words "NO BLACK OR ASIAN" I think "fair enough" not "RACIST"

I dont generally dig black women... Oh hang on I need to Renew my kkk membership

Some people dont find members of a certain ethnicity unattractive, no one should have to justify that.

Just my ranty thoughts, what do you guys think? Should we have to Justify are ethnic sexual preferences?

I think you have to add in the factor that there are quite a few, that both dont care what they say to women in any respect... and also those that are too thick to know they are causing unease

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By *athylacyTV/TS
over a year ago

Maidstone

I like men of all colours - it's the man that counts - not his skin colour.

If you agree please post that you do!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Chainz the kkk thing was a joke as im black and they no longer exist.

I think some people justify to avoid being labelled as a result if simple sexusl preferences

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By *athylacyTV/TS
over a year ago

Maidstone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Chainz the kkk thing was a joke as im black and they no longer exist.

I think some people justify to avoid being labelled as a result if simple sexusl preferences"

Oh ok sorry. No wonder I can't find out where to join now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I kind of know how you feel, dude.

Many times I've been attracted to women on here, only to read on their profile; black men only.

Hey, I don't dwell on it but it doesn't exactly feel great! C'est la vie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What is KKK?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Correct, it is not racist. Question to op though. If you were at a club and apprached a woman who said 'sorry, not into black guys', would you not find that rude?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is KKK?

Ku klux klan. White supremacy group in america

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't want to meet other cultures. It isn't on my profile as I wasn't sure how to word it politely. Black men have looked at my profile but have not messaged me for their own reasons which is ok. Saves everyone awkwardness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't want to meet other cultures. It isn't on my profile as I wasn't sure how to word it politely. Black men have looked at my profile but have not messaged me for their own reasons which is ok. Saves everyone awkwardness. "

You did state it on your profile before? Did you take it out?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You did state it on your profile before? Did you take it out? "

I don't remember if I had it there before I rewrote. Possibly I did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You did state it on your profile before? Did you take it out?

I don't remember if I had it there before I rewrote. Possibly I did "

Yeah you did.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The KKK do still exist, and probably always will until the day racism dies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The KKK do still exist, and probably always will until the day racism dies."

I think they just call themselves the Republican Party now!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think its a sad time when people who dont want to sleep with us black People (or in my case blackish) have to justify that they are not racist.

If I see the words "NO BLACK OR ASIAN" I think "fair enough" not "RACIST"

I dont generally dig black women... Oh hang on I need to Renew my kkk membership

Some people dont find members of a certain ethnicity unattractive, no one should have to justify that.

Just my ranty thoughts, what do you guys think? Should we have to Justify are ethnic sexual preferences?

Why don't you generally dig black women?

Some would say that is sad but I am sure you have your reasons everybody does.

If you then think someone of another race is not allowed to think that way. Is that not double standards?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think its a sad time when people who dont want to sleep with us black People (or in my case blackish) have to justify that they are not racist.

If I see the words "NO BLACK OR ASIAN" I think "fair enough" not "RACIST"

I dont generally dig black women... Oh hang on I need to Renew my kkk membership

Some people dont find members of a certain ethnicity unattractive, no one should have to justify that.

Just my ranty thoughts, what do you guys think? Should we have to Justify are ethnic sexual preferences?

Why don't you generally dig black women?

Some would say that is sad but I am sure you have your reasons everybody does.

If you then think someone of another race is not allowed to think that way. Is that not double standards?"

He saying it is fine to think that way. I had to read op twice to work it out too lol

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By *ovely CummingsWoman
over a year ago

Peaky Nipples

I understand we all have preferences, but to discount a person, based solely on their race, how is that not racist?

Unless you've seen every person of a particular race/culture, how can you know you won't be attracted to them?

I don't understand racism though, or bigotry.

A person should be seen as that first, race,culture, class etc shouldn't come into it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think its a sad time when people who dont want to sleep with us black People (or in my case blackish) have to justify that they are not racist.

If I see the words "NO BLACK OR ASIAN" I think "fair enough" not "RACIST"

I dont generally dig black women... Oh hang on I need to Renew my kkk membership

Some people dont find members of a certain ethnicity unattractive, no one should have to justify that.

Just my ranty thoughts, what do you guys think? Should we have to Justify are ethnic sexual preferences?

Why don't you generally dig black women?

Some would say that is sad but I am sure you have your reasons everybody does.

If you then think someone of another race is not allowed to think that way. Is that not double standards?

He saying it is fine to think that way. I had to read op twice to work it out too lol"

It's late I read it once think it's bedtime lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I understand we all have preferences, but to discount a person, based solely on their race, how is that not racist?

Unless you've seen every person of a particular race/culture, how can you know you won't be attracted to them?

I don't understand racism though, or bigotry.

A person should be seen as that first, race,culture, class etc shouldn't come into it"

But then how would you explain a white woman asking for black or asian guys only? Is she being racist to her own race?

Also you never see guys saying no asians or blacks. Its 99 times out of 100 a female saying it. So does tgat mean only women are racists?

For me, it is not racist. It is a preference but I dont see the need to state it on profile. If you not interested, simply ignore message. I personally find it rude when those statements are made.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think its a sad time when people who dont want to sleep with us black People (or in my case blackish) have to justify that they are not racist.

If I see the words "NO BLACK OR ASIAN" I think "fair enough" not "RACIST"

I dont generally dig black women... Oh hang on I need to Renew my kkk membership

Some people dont find members of a certain ethnicity unattractive, no one should have to justify that.

Just my ranty thoughts, what do you guys think? Should we have to Justify are ethnic sexual preferences?

Why don't you generally dig black women?

Some would say that is sad but I am sure you have your reasons everybody does.

If you then think someone of another race is not allowed to think that way. Is that not double standards?

He saying it is fine to think that way. I had to read op twice to work it out too lol

It's late I read it once think it's bedtime lol."

Easy mistake to make

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I understand we all have preferences, but to discount a person, based solely on their race, how is that not racist?

Unless you've seen every person of a particular race/culture, how can you know you won't be attracted to them?

I don't understand racism though, or bigotry.

A person should be seen as that first, race,culture, class etc shouldn't come into it"

I agree to an extent and my choices are bssed on the person. But at the end of the day people have the right to choose based on height, weight and colour etc. Equal opps don't apply to shagging im afraid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer anyone tbh haha but mainly white...its my choice but oh well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I understand we all have preferences, but to discount a person, based solely on their race, how is that not racist?

Unless you've seen every person of a particular race/culture, how can you know you won't be attracted to them?

I don't understand racism though, or bigotry.

A person should be seen as that first, race,culture, class etc shouldn't come into it"

I agree with you. A person stating that on their profile may not be intrinsically racist, but to say that every single person of a race is unattractive to them is short sighted at best.

All black people do not look the same. All Asian people do not look the same. Even their skin colour varies, so the only thing they all share is their race. So what is it that people who say Black and/or Asian people aren't attractive to them mean, what is it that is unattractive about them?

The dictionary defines racism as :

The belief that all members of each race possess characteristics, abilities, or qualities specific to that race, especially so as to distinguish it as inferior or superior to another race or races.

Lumping all people into the category of "unattractive" because of their race surely falls under the first part of that definition.

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow

Everything black and white, is not racism.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Everything black and white, is not racism.

Your right, it's grey

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Is calling somebody from Pakistan a Paki racist ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Chainz the kkk thing was a joke as im black and they no longer exist.

I think some people justify to avoid being labelled as a result if simple sexusl preferences"

Though you were joking about the KKK, they sadly do still exist and there was a rally not far from us last year :-/

To say we were surprised is an understatement!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally agree, I was thinking this yesterday. No need to justify your preferences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The KKK do still exist, and probably always will until the day racism dies.

I think they just call themselves the Republican Party now! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If your in the KKK then your a hypocrit"

Sarcasm doesn't always come across well when written down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its not Racism its preference simple's x"

True

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By *easing_twoCouple
over a year ago

Bristol, Thornbury

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By *easing_twoCouple
over a year ago

Bristol, Thornbury

At the same time I see women that wint sleep with white guy's does it nake them racists. ..?

No its a preference personally I not a fan of people who don't speak good English am I being racist? No I just like to know what they are saying.

Im not saying there are no racist people here im sure there are but just don't generalise

Rant at rant over lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I understand we all have preferences, but to discount a person, based solely on their race, how is that not racist?

Unless you've seen every person of a particular race/culture, how can you know you won't be attracted to them?

I don't understand racism though, or bigotry.

A person should be seen as that first, race,culture, class etc shouldn't come into it"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't mention it on our profile as it's easy enough to say a polite no thank you to couples with a black male!

It's just sexual preference nothing more

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Skin colour and or ethnicity isn't one of the criteria I use. Idiots can be any colour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Correct, it is not racist. Question to op though. If you were at a club and apprached a woman who said 'sorry, not into black guys', would you not find that rude? "

it's happened to me many times - but it's depends how it's said. There's a polite way of making these things clear ...usually with subtly

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By *easing_twoCouple
over a year ago

Bristol, Thornbury

"Correct, it is not racist. Question to op though. If you were at a club and apprached a woman who said 'sorry, not into black guys', would you not find that rude?

it's happened to me many times - but it's depends how it's said. There's a polite way of making these things clear ...usually with subtly "

On a separate note do you have a face pic your bidy shots are nice...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So, by the same token, am I being ageist if I say that I'd prefer not to sleep with anyone under 30..???

Or showing a cultural discrimination if I say that tattoos turn me of..???

Or sexist if I say that I prefer women to men...?????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, by the same token, am I being ageist if I say that I'd prefer not to sleep with anyone under 30..???

Or showing a cultural discrimination if I say that tattoos turn me of..???

Or sexist if I say that I prefer women to men...?????

Yes,yes, and yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, by the same token, am I being ageist if I say that I'd prefer not to sleep with anyone under 30..???

Or showing a cultural discrimination if I say that tattoos turn me of..???

Or sexist if I say that I prefer women to men...?????

Yes,yes, and yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, by the same token, am I being ageist if I say that I'd prefer not to sleep with anyone under 30..???

Or showing a cultural discrimination if I say that tattoos turn me of..???

Or sexist if I say that I prefer women to men...?????

Yes,yes, and yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, by the same token, am I being ageist if I say that I'd prefer not to sleep with anyone under 30..???

Or showing a cultural discrimination if I say that tattoos turn me of..???

Or sexist if I say that I prefer women to men...?????

Yes,yes, and yes

Ohhhh - nine times "Yes"....!

Are you quite sure about that...?

I'd hate to feel that you weren't certain....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

While for many it is a preference it doesn't alter the fact that for some (and I suspect not actually that many) it also reflects a prejudice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, by the same token, am I being ageist if I say that I'd prefer not to sleep with anyone under 30..???

Or showing a cultural discrimination if I say that tattoos turn me of..???

Or sexist if I say that I prefer women to men...?????

Yes,yes, and yes

Ohhhh - nine times "Yes"....!

Are you quite sure about that...?

I'd hate to feel that you weren't certain....

I wouldn't mind hearing a woman say yes to me 9 times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Skin colour and or ethnicity isn't one of the criteria I use. Idiots can be any colour. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think its a sad time when people who dont want to sleep with us black People (or in my case blackish) have to justify that they are not racist.

If I see the words "NO BLACK OR ASIAN" I think "fair enough" not "RACIST"

I dont generally dig black women... Oh hang on I need to Renew my kkk membership

Some people dont find members of a certain ethnicity unattractive, no one should have to justify that.

Just my ranty thoughts, what do you guys think? Should we have to Justify are ethnic sexual preferences?

Like I mentioned in a previous post. Having a sexual preference to a race does not mean they are all racists. However, racism can fuel their sexual preference.

Since racism is about what they think and their beliefs, it is hard to know if they are or not. I prefer not to approach anyone who has no interest in Latinos. There is no need to question their beliefs or preferences. I prefer to find someone who doesn't care about race, skin colour or culture.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I understand we all have preferences, but to discount a person, based solely on their race, how is that not racist?

Unless you've seen every person of a particular race/culture, how can you know you won't be attracted to them?

I don't understand racism though, or bigotry.

A person should be seen as that first, race,culture, class etc shouldn't come into it"

A lot of people block all singlemen because of how a significant minority act. Similarly I suspect a lot of people say no black men because of how a significant minority market themselves solely on the myth of BBC

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, by the same token, am I being ageist if I say that I'd prefer not to sleep with anyone under 30..???

Or showing a cultural discrimination if I say that tattoos turn me of..???

Or sexist if I say that I prefer women to men...?????

If they believe they are superior and those who are inferior deserve less rights, then they are.

For example, a gender deserves higher pay?

That's a whole different topic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not into black guys as I'm just not attracted to them in that way, it doesn't make me racist, no more than someone who doesn't like bigger girls is sizist (if that's a word lol) its just a personal preference as others have said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

TBH I think the word "Racist" has been skewed so much since it's inception and some people use it too broadly to their own advantage. for example if I get into an arguement with a Muslim/Sikh/Black Person and I decide I do not like him or her for his or her opinions or they way they speak to me, I see it as making a decision based on the way I react to that person. now the other person could call the racism card. I think racism should be reserved for hatred towards someones Race. because we do not find Black people sexually attractive does not mean we hate on them because of their race/creed/colour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally colour doesnt make no nevermind to me. If there is an an attraction thats what matters. After all we are all pink in the middle !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"While for many it is a preference it doesn't alter the fact that for some (and I suspect not actually that many) it also reflects a prejudice.

The above is the perhaps the statement I agree with most.

I think not that starting a thread will force anyone to change their preferences or indeed any prejudices... Live and let live.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't consider it 'racist', but people's personal preference. It's ashamed that it's taken that way. Personally, I prefer black guys, but wouldn't rule out other races. As a previous poster said, 'it's the man that counts'.

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By *easing_twoCouple
over a year ago

Bristol, Thornbury

"So, by the same token, am I being ageist if I say that I'd prefer not to sleep with anyone under 30..???

Or showing a cultural discrimination if I say that tattoos turn me of..???

Or sexist if I say that I prefer women to men...?????

I want to complain now about you being tattooist I have 2 and feel discriminated. ADMIN!!!!!!!

Lol

(Purely joking I will add for anyone thinking im trying to be serious)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I understand we all have preferences, but to discount a person, based solely on their race, how is that not racist?

Unless you've seen every person of a particular race/culture, how can you know you won't be attracted to them?

I don't understand racism though, or bigotry.

A person should be seen as that first, race,culture, class etc shouldn't come into it"

Of corse you can discount someone from your sexual preferents due to race alone ! I will not have sex with guys under 5"5 sorry but they just don't turn me on and it wouldn't matter if he looked like brad pit I still wouldn't . Also to the people saying it rude to put " no blacks " why ? If it saves some guy wasting his time wrighting to them and them having to reply . I don't like sex with girls am I sexiest !

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"I think its a sad time when people who dont want to sleep with us black People (or in my case blackish) have to justify that they are not racist.

Firstly OP may I say well done for picking a popular theme and picking up the popular response gauntlet.

OK, on to the reply to the quoted bit:

They don't 'have to justify that they are not racist' - they choose to. No one is forced to explain.

And of those who feel they must defend the right to preferences.... there will be different motivators for doing so.

There is a difference between debating if a statement is racist and whether a person is a racists. Deciding the statement isn't doesn't always mean the person isn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I understand we all have preferences, but to discount a person, based solely on their race, how is that not racist?

Unless you've seen every person of a particular race/culture, how can you know you won't be attracted to them?

I don't understand racism though, or bigotry.

A person should be seen as that first, race,culture, class etc shouldn't come into it

This too for me but I did meet someone who was 5.5, was fun evening, till we spoke the next day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I understand we all have preferences, but to discount a person, based solely on their race, how is that not racist?

Unless you've seen every person of a particular race/culture, how can you know you won't be attracted to them?

I don't understand racism though, or bigotry.

A person should be seen as that first, race,culture, class etc shouldn't come into it

This too for me but I did meet someone who was 5.5, was fun evening, till we spoke the next day

I've nothing against shorter guy's but I would feel uncomfortable, thinking they were concious of the height difference. see I am nice really

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By *rs and Mr PandoraCouple
over a year ago

LUTTERWORTH

Do you mean you only want to meet people of your culture? If that's white English/British do you discount white people of other cultures lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all have our preferences and clarifying them by saying you would rather not meet with certain types of people is everyone's right and saves a lot of time. When that preference is skin colour that's no worse than saying I won't meet bald men, fat men, ugly men etc because it doesn't please my eye and that is what sexual attraction is all about. Colour of skin is a visual thing, its when that preference is expressed because misconceptions about certain types of people, maybe that's not so good, ie, all black men can dance and have big cocks, or all fat men are greedy and stuff their faces all day. If you were blind would colour make a difference?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Preference is preference, choice is choice. Simple as really.

If something doesn't go someone's way nowadays all to often the racism card or the discrimination, victimisation cards get played.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you mean you only want to meet people of your culture? If that's white English/British do you discount white people of other cultures lol

I'm not racist as I work in a school with all different cultures, if I was I wouldn't do the jobs I do. I think it stems from when I was a child. people were against black people then. Opinions rub off, also my dad, who is not with me anymore, told me not to bring home a black boyfriend. I do and will talk to black. people or any other culture. When you say other white people you mean what exactly?

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

I'm not racist as I work in a school with all different cultures... "

Yep that's cast iron proof... no racists could possibly work in a school.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Trouble is though that discrimination is judging a whole group of people as one. Not taking them on their individual merit. So technically it is racism to say that you don't like everyone in a bparticular group because you have not met everyone in that group.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been called all kinds of things on this site due to my preferences and that is simply all it is.

Worst I've had so far was a random message saying

"I hope you die of aids you n**** loving whore"

So out of me and him, who is the racist?

I do find guys of other races attractive but just not to the same extent, I don't know why and I can't explain it, but we are all made unique and I think that's important.

If all us ladies on here were attracted to the same kind of guys it'd be a nightmare.

I've come across profiles where the guys have stated they want slim women? Am I then entitled to message him either hoping he'll make an exception or maybe even hurling abuse at him purely because I'm bitter that I don't fit in to his preferences.

What is the point?

Just think we need to accept that any person has the right to choose who they are or aren't intimate with regardless of colour, size, age etc.

I mean jeez....I would rarely sleep with anyone shorter than me....does that make me a heightist too???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you mean you only want to meet people of your culture? If that's white English/British do you discount white people of other cultures lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't even explain yourself on here now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What does the colour of someone's skin really mean????

Nothing!!!!

It eludes me why racism has taken such a strangle hold over the generations

Just because someone's coloured, Asian, Indian, Caucasian,

Who really cares, we are all human and the same!!!

So why does racism still exist??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to admit that I don't really buy the "personal preference" thing. What's the underlying motivation beneath it. Surely there's some kind of social conditioning involved, no? In most instances it's not a physical thing, but a like or dislike for the cultural traits that are associated with that race.

Everyone is free to find their own definition of beauty. I'm just suspicious when it's racially motivated.

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By *extoysareusCouple
over a year ago

kinky heaven

People shouldn't have to explain themsselves here, if they don't want to have sex with a particular colour, race or creed, they don't have to.

simples,

Its just preference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can't even explain yourself on here now "

to explain that you aren;t racist you said you work in a school, speak to black people and probably my favourite bit:

" people were against black people then. Opinions rub off, "

So sorry if my use of emoticons offended but they were pretty much the only polite response to your post I could think of.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have to admit that I don't really buy the "personal preference" thing. What's the underlying motivation beneath it. Surely there's some kind of social conditioning involved, no? In most instances it's not a physical thing, but a like or dislike for the cultural traits that are associated with that race.

Everyone is free to find their own definition of beauty. I'm just suspicious when it's racially motivated. "

So do you think I dislike the cultural traits associated with my own race then?

No-one can ever justify or have to justify their character or traits to anyone and I believe sexual attraction just falls in to those categories in my opinion.

I am who I am in every way and I make no apologies for that at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As an individual, you can be as racist, sexist, ageist, gingerist, blondeist, tallist, shortist fatist, skinnyist or any other ist you can think of.

You can choose who, what or where you do your business with as an individual.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can't even explain yourself on here now

to explain that you aren;t racist you said you work in a school, speak to black people and probably my favourite bit:

" people were against black people then. Opinions rub off, "

So sorry if my use of emoticons offended but they were pretty much the only polite response to your post I could think of."

You didn't offend if you want to be honest in your reply to me then say what you feel it's a free country

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By *extoysareusCouple
over a year ago

kinky heaven

Everyone is free to find their own definition of beauty. I'm just suspicious when it's racially motivated. "

You don't have to be suspicious at all.

Its a sex site, people can do what they want with their own bodies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone is free to find their own definition of beauty. I'm just suspicious when it's racially motivated.

So do you think I dislike the cultural traits associated with my own race then?

No-one can ever justify or have to justify their character or traits to anyone and I believe sexual attraction just falls in to those categories in my opinion.

I am who I am in every way and I make no apologies for that at all."

I don't know, have you ever thought about it?

There's a sackful of cultural traits I dislike about my own race and specifically my nationality.

I wasn't asking for an apology. I'm happy for you to continue doing what you do.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

there will be a handful, just dont let a minority spoil your fun.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People like different things. I haven't got the time or urge to work out why someone doesn't want to sleep with black people. That's their choice surely. I do find it helpful when wrote on their profile though, saves us all time - I just add them to the block list so I don't message them in the future and move on. Life's too short !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If your in the KKK then your a hypocrit

Sarcasm doesn't always come across well when written down"

I would like a large version of your profile pic please thank you

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By *RS79Man
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

"I like men of all colours - it's the man that counts - not his skin colour.

If you agree please post that you do!"

Exactly - I treat as I find

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like men of all colours - it's the man that counts - not his skin colour.

If you agree please post that you do!"

This,

and woman!! Don't forget gender!!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

The way the 'preference' is couched IS racist.

All the straw arguments, red herrings, blind justifications , allusions to preferences, confusions with culture do nothing to hide it.

Sometimes it 'aint what you say it's the way that you say it.'

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"The way the 'preference' is couched IS racist.

All the straw arguments, red herrings, blind justifications , allusions to preferences, confusions with culture do nothing to hide it.

Sometimes it 'aint what you say it's the way that you say it.' "

100%

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, by the same token, am I being ageist if I say that I'd prefer not to sleep with anyone under 30..???

Or showing a cultural discrimination if I say that tattoos turn me of..???

Or sexist if I say that I prefer women to men...?????

I belong to these isms.... Cept the last one x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone is free to find their own definition of beauty. I'm just suspicious when it's racially motivated.

So do you think I dislike the cultural traits associated with my own race then?

No-one can ever justify or have to justify their character or traits to anyone and I believe sexual attraction just falls in to those categories in my opinion.

I am who I am in every way and I make no apologies for that at all.

I don't know, have you ever thought about it?

There's a sackful of cultural traits I dislike about my own race and specifically my nationality.

I wasn't asking for an apology. I'm happy for you to continue doing what you do.

Not something I've ever had to think about as I know I'm not racist to my own race and I merely have a sexual attraction to black men.

Have you ever thought that those cultural traits you dislike are the ones demonstrated by actually a small minority of our nation but sadly tarnish the whole country.

The benefits row is a perfect example. There are a lot of people who abuse the system therefore a lot of other people have the opinion that everyone on benefits are scum and scroungers, so what about the people who actually can't survive without government help, do they have to just accept that the nation label them as scroungers?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No it isnt, pakis are from Pakistan simple.

And lm not racist iv got a colour tele!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you mean you only want to meet people of your culture? If that's white English/British do you discount white people of other cultures lol

Excellent point. Some profiles state "white people only". Does that mean white Asian, white African, or any white non-English race?

And like the word 'racist' can be abused, so can the word 'preference'. "Our preference" can be interpreted as "our prejudice".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And personally, I think it's rude to include racial 'preferences / prejudices' on a profile. What's wrong with a polite 'no thank you' without any reason?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you mean you only want to meet people of your culture? If that's white English/British do you discount white people of other cultures lol

Excellent point. Some profiles state "white people only". Does that mean white Asian, white African, or any white non-English race?

And like the word 'racist' can be abused, so can the word 'preference'. "Our preference" can be interpreted as "our prejudice"."

White English. That should clear that up hopefully

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

"As an individual, you can be as racist, sexist, ageist, gingerist, blondeist, tallist, shortist fatist, skinnyist or any other ist you can think of.

You can choose who, what or where you do your business with as an individual.

You beat me to it but my sentiments exactly, you can have an ism about lots of things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not racist as I work in a school with all different cultures...."

Almost like saying "I'm not racist - I've got black mates"!

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By *extoysareusCouple
over a year ago

kinky heaven

Do you mean you only want to meet people of your culture? If that's white English/British do you discount white people of other cultures lol

Excellent point. Some profiles state "white people only". Does that mean white Asian, white African, or any white non-English race?

And like the word 'racist' can be abused, so can the word 'preference'. "Our preference" can be interpreted as "our prejudice"."

Just like you may interpret that.

at the same time I wouldn't force people to have sex. and say its racist if you don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And personally, I think it's rude to include racial 'preferences / prejudices' on a profile. What's wrong with a polite 'no thank you' without any reason?"

Despite what my profile says I still get a barrage of messages from white guys, asian guys etc etc.

If I didn't state what I'm looking for there is no way I could reply to so many saying a polite "no thank you" doesn't it avoid any further time wasting for us all?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Do you mean you only want to meet people of your culture? If that's white English/British do you discount white people of other cultures lol

Excellent point. Some profiles state "white people only". Does that mean white Asian, white African, or any white non-English race?

And like the word 'racist' can be abused, so can the word 'preference'. "Our preference" can be interpreted as "our prejudice".

Just like you may interpret that.

at the same time I wouldn't force people to have sex. and say its racist if you don't.

no one is forcing people to have sex with people they dont want to but the blanket 'no blacks' statement is, at its base level, racist. discounting a whole group of people for no reason other than their skin colour is racist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ill fuck who I want,when I want because no one on this earth has any right what so ever to tell me who I should and should'nt open my legs to

Not anyone on a swinging site

Not the police

Not the government

Not the Queen

Not even masters of the bloody universe

Im happy,im polite,im respectful of everyone elses preferences,I expect the same for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And personally, I think it's rude to include racial 'preferences / prejudices' on a profile. What's wrong with a polite 'no thank you' without any reason?

Despite what my profile says I still get a barrage of messages from white guys, asian guys etc etc.

If I didn't state what I'm looking for there is no way I could reply to so many saying a polite "no thank you" doesn't it avoid any further time wasting for us all?"

You're right - I did actually forget to say "what's wrong with a no thank you, or just no reply at all?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ill fuck who I want,when I want because no one on this earth has any right what so ever to tell me who I should and should'nt open my legs to

Not anyone on a swinging site

Not the police

Not the government

Not the Queen

Not even masters of the bloody universe

Im happy,im polite,im respectful of everyone elses preferences,I expect the same for me

Couldn't have said it better myself

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By *extoysareusCouple
over a year ago

kinky heaven

Do you mean you only want to meet people of your culture? If that's white English/British do you discount white people of other cultures lol

Excellent point. Some profiles state "white people only". Does that mean white Asian, white African, or any white non-English race?

And like the word 'racist' can be abused, so can the word 'preference'. "Our preference" can be interpreted as "our prejudice".

Just like you may interpret that.

at the same time I wouldn't force people to have sex. and say its racist if you don't.

Maybe it just filters out some they are not attracted to on a virtual way, yet boundaries are lowered on reality.

We are quite ageist the virtual side, but could lower them on meets, clubs etc.

Its our choice.

And ideally we are looking for an ffm which could be deemed sexist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And personally, I think it's rude to include racial 'preferences / prejudices' on a profile. What's wrong with a polite 'no thank you' without any reason?

Despite what my profile says I still get a barrage of messages from white guys, asian guys etc etc.

If I didn't state what I'm looking for there is no way I could reply to so many saying a polite "no thank you" doesn't it avoid any further time wasting for us all?

You're right - I did actually forget to say "what's wrong with a no thank you, or just no reply at all?"

Personally I think no reply at all is a bit rude but I have to do that sometimes.

If someone states they are only looking for blondes, or matured women (of which I am neither) am I justified to call them ageist for example? No I just accept the fact that they are on here to either fulfil fantasies or seek out their ideal type and I don't fit in to that and I move on.

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By *extoysareusCouple
over a year ago

kinky heaven

"Ill fuck who I want,when I want because no one on this earth has any right what so ever to tell me who I should and should'nt open my legs to

Not anyone on a swinging site

Not the police

Not the government

Not the Queen

Not even masters of the bloody universe

Im happy,im polite,im respectful of everyone elses preferences,I expect the same for me

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"And personally, I think it's rude to include racial 'preferences / prejudices' on a profile. What's wrong with a polite 'no thank you' without any reason?

Despite what my profile says I still get a barrage of messages from white guys, asian guys etc etc.

If I didn't state what I'm looking for there is no way I could reply to so many saying a polite "no thank you" doesn't it avoid any further time wasting for us all?

You're right - I did actually forget to say "what's wrong with a no thank you, or just no reply at all?"

Personally I think no reply at all is a bit rude but I have to do that sometimes.

as age is a protected characteristic then yes you would be justified in doing so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its not Racism its preference simple's x"

Sorry it is racism. You are putting a group in a box and publicly stating your exclusion of said group..

Have sex with pink spotted aliens if you like. Just dont reply to.mail from the green ones

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Do you mean you only want to meet people of your culture? If that's white English/British do you discount white people of other cultures lol

Is white a culture now?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And personally, I think it's rude to include racial 'preferences / prejudices' on a profile. What's wrong with a polite 'no thank you' without any reason?

Despite what my profile says I still get a barrage of messages from white guys, asian guys etc etc.

If I didn't state what I'm looking for there is no way I could reply to so many saying a polite "no thank you" doesn't it avoid any further time wasting for us all?

You're right - I did actually forget to say "what's wrong with a no thank you, or just no reply at all?"

Personally I think no reply at all is a bit rude but I have to do that sometimes.

as age is a protected characteristic then yes you would be justified in doing so."

You think I have the right to ask for justification of another person's fantasies?

Isn't the whole point of this site and the scene to be able to explore and experiment with our own sexual preferences and boundaries in a safe, relaxed environment amongst like minded and liberal people?

Maybe I've misunderstood the whole thing if I can question and interrogate someone for having the desires that they do....bizarre!

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By *quirrelMan
over a year ago

East Manchester

We have a culture based on the equality of all its people, no one's allowed by law to discriminate against anyone on the basis of a large number of personal attributes.

But, personal freedom to make any decision or make any statement is always done looking over your shoulder in case a do-gooder reports you to the law for discrimination, because the law is so vengeful and people are so judgemental they have people living in fear of making any statement which could offend another and lead to a prosecution.

And it's for that reason people feel they have to make a declaration that they are not racist to justify their choice of sexual partner, individual freedom and the right to free speech can be exercised but it has to be politically correct.

Personally I think the OP has become a little oversensative to the " not a racist" statement on profiles, if you look at other womens profiles there are lots with BBC only and no posts from anyone complaining about that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is white a culture now?"

Only in the land of the ignorant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The fact that people feel they need to state they aren't racist says a lot about finger pointing people

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

If calling me racist makes someone feel better about rejection, so be it.

They don't know me and it doesn't make it true.

The world still turns. I'll still only fuck people I am attracted to.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

as age is a protected characteristic then yes you would be justified in doing so."

in real life where discrimination occur's and has real consequences then yes all discrimination has to and should be addressed..

and folks should be challenged and thankfully are when on here they are derogatory about other folks for many of the various different charasteristics we all possess..

recognise someone from pedantic moi may leap upon the use of the word characteristics..

think when folks start saying 'yeh but your ageist' cos your profile stipulates x,y or z then its all getting a bit up its own fundament..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it worrying that some people feel that they have the need to state "I'm not Asian" on their profile, just because they have a darker complexion.

What does that say about so-called "preferences"?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whatever preference we make will be a sensitive issue to those not in that group. Whether those preferences are racist or not is only known to the person stating it. I do know racism does occur here, as I'm aware of unkind comments being made to some of my friends. For myself, I do love dark skin, but it's about the person too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is calling somebody from Pakistan a Paki racist ?

Lets face it majority of people that using thst term are not aware of the persons country of origin.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is calling somebody from Pakistan a Paki racist ?

Lets face it majority of people that using thst term are not aware of the persons country of origin."

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By *easing_twoCouple
over a year ago

Bristol, Thornbury

I'm going to put my last point in now. I will fuck ir rslk to who I like. If you are black White thin fat ugly pretty disabled athlete Asian short tall tattooed pierced cathlic Muslim ect ect ect. If I dont want to fuck you because you fall into a bracket and you don't like it. Tough.Its my choice im not being prejudice. If I cant get hard for one of thoes reasons it cant wont and will never happen. We are all here looking for something. If you have a problem with people's choices its you that has the issue. Leave it at the door and get over it. Or deal with your own issues first (end if my full rant on this)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is a man who doesn't want sex with another man homophobic?

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

People forget the fact of an "ism" is usually the power dynamics that go with the lumping together of a block of people.

Everyday racism is prevalent among people I don't think of as being particularly aware if their language and behaviour. Dropping my dry cleaning off I had to give my name. I just gave my first name and The response was "at least you've got a proper English name not like some of the foreigners around here." There is no response to something like that. Racism is often casual.

How you post your preference says a lot. I have had messages on here from men who say no black/Asian on their profile and when I have said no, pointing out I am black I have had everything from abuse that I should be grateful that a white man took an interest in them through to the rather sheepish "I'd like to try one" or just a block.

Festishising a colour is just as racist as far as I am concerned - we're people not toys.

There was a South African comedian on R4 a couple of weeks ago who did a set on how you define yourself. He is dual heritage but as he pointed out he doesn't actually get to choose white on the tick boxes even though that is exactly half of his heritage. As for his culture I would judge listening to him it's probably white since that appears to be a cultural grouping now.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Is white a culture now?

Only in the land of the ignorant."

I saw the clarification that it means White English only. The white Scots, Irish and Welsh that contact better be careful.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Is a man who doesn't want sex with another man homophobic?"

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"People forget the fact of an "ism" is usually the power dynamics that go with the lumping together of a block of people.

Festishising a colour is just as racist as far as I am concerned - we're people not toys.

There are plenty of white people I have no desire to be lumped into any sort of group with, and many whose culture seems to have little in common with mine.

There are also some black/asian/mixed heritage/non-white people who are a joy to spend time with.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you mean you only want to meet people of your culture? If that's white English/British do you discount white people of other cultures lol

Working with and talking with people of other races does not mean someone is not racist.

You mean in the 35 years or so since leaving childhood you have not developed the ability to think for your self?

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Is a man who doesn't want sex with another man homophobic?"

Fuck whomever you wish if they are mutually consenting. It's how you convey your wants and desires that sets out whether you are homophobic/sexist/racist about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im an equal opportunities racist I hate everyone equally... haha

Now if I see dont meet black or asian I think... ok fair enough but also shouldn't there be a don't meet gingers too haha

See equal opportunity racist lmfao

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By *ovely CummingsWoman
over a year ago

Peaky Nipples

"The way the 'preference' is couched IS racist.

All the straw arguments, red herrings, blind justifications , allusions to preferences, confusions with culture do nothing to hide it.

Sometimes it 'aint what you say it's the way that you say it.' "

i think preference is used when actually prejudice should be.

Discrimination and inequality based on racism and sexism is so ingrained that many really don't see their prejudices for what they are.

Positive discrimination, is still discrimination and you don't only have to be white to be racist or prejudiced

If you have a preference, it means there wont be a blanket ban in place, just that you will choose a certain type more often but if there is a blanket ban in place, how is this not a prejudice?

The motivation behind that prejudice is then the ism, race, cultural, sex,size , class

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Wow. I went to bed with 9 replies, woke up to a long and interesting debate of opinions.

It's a sensitive subject, but for me... Having suffered real racism (being beaten up went I was younger several times Really badly because of the colour of my skin) I really don't find it offensive when people don't find certain types of people attractive.

If I was in a club and some one said "No black people please" I wouldn't be offended just wondering if it could be put a cross less rudely xD. Like "I'm sorry sur, u don't wish to bed a gentleman of your complexion, I am sure you a lovely person though"

It terms of not digging black girls, I just rarely find them attractive, but not always. I have seen a good few black girls who look stunning. I also have a thing for Chinese and Japanese girlS. Not because I am racist to other cultures, it's just a weird preference I have. Weird is the right word here I think

I just think as a society we are so quick to play the race card, so scared of what people might say that we don't feel like we can viably have an opinion on the matter with out being labelled.

Racism is, for me, when people want to cause hurt and pain to those (physically and emotionally) because of their race.

I do agree though that it's a grey area, lots of fantastic opinions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The way the 'preference' is couched IS racist.

All the straw arguments, red herrings, blind justifications , allusions to preferences, confusions with culture do nothing to hide it.

Sometimes it 'aint what you say it's the way that you say it.'

i think preference is used when actually prejudice should be.

Discrimination and inequality based on racism and sexism is so ingrained that many really don't see their prejudices for what they are.

Positive discrimination, is still discrimination and you don't only have to be white to be racist or prejudiced

If you have a preference, it means there wont be a blanket ban in place, just that you will choose a certain type more often but if there is a blanket ban in place, how is this not a prejudice?

The motivation behind that prejudice is then the ism, race, cultural, sex,size , class "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if someone says they want a bbc are they being racist against us whites , no pc has gone too far.

PS speaking from experience ageism is a much bigger problem

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Personally colour doesnt make no nevermind to me. If there is an an attraction thats what matters. After all we are all pink in the middle !"

I haven't heard that phrase 'make no nevermind' for a long time. Not since I lived in Lincolnshire, in fact.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I totally agree.

Every one has their own personal preference and that's the way the world and the human race work!"

THIS

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally colour doesnt make no nevermind to me. If there is an an attraction thats what matters. After all we are all pink in the middle !

I haven't heard that phrase 'make no nevermind' for a long time. Not since I lived in Lincolnshire, in fact.

we are simple backward folk up here lol

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I seem to speak with a lot more white men than I do black men...I only dated black men until my late 20's when I then went in to marry a Mexican man...along with life things change including my preferences..to me it's attraction and I don't tend to look at the colour as to me that's not the issue...the issue is there has to be an attraction for me...

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Prejudice is based on a cognitive decision.

Attraction is physical, chemical and far more base. We don't decide to whom we are attracted.

How, therefore, can attraction be prejudiced.

If someone won't fuck (insert race) because they consider them lesser beings/dirty/stupid etc. then that is prejudiced.

Not finding someone attractive on a physical level then it can't be prejudice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Prejudice is based on a cognitive decision.

Attraction is physical, chemical and far more base. We don't decide to whom we are attracted.

How, therefore, can attraction be prejudiced.

If someone won't fuck (insert race) because they consider them lesser beings/dirty/stupid etc. then that is prejudiced.

Not finding someone attractive on a physical level then it can't be prejudice. "

I think that's a great point. I'm not denying that racism occurs on he re as it does everywhere.

I just don't think it's always best to jump to that assumption and take offence.

The great thing about this place is we can explore our sexuality with like minded people with out fear of being judged.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone won't fuck (insert race) because they consider them lesser beings/dirty/stupid etc. then that is prejudiced. "

Of course. Which is why, in my opinion, the "no blacks/asians" or "whites only" caveats are prejudicial, because they target an entire culture, or skin colour, across the board.

I'll also say that I'm a memnbe of another site, where racial caveats are banned from use. Suffice to say, it creates a far better atmosphere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Prejudice is based on a cognitive decision.

Attraction is physical, chemical and far more base. We don't decide to whom we are attracted.

How, therefore, can attraction be prejudiced.

If someone won't fuck (insert race) because they consider them lesser beings/dirty/stupid etc. then that is prejudiced.

Not finding someone attractive on a physical level then it can't be prejudice.

I think that's a great point. I'm not denying that racism occurs on he re as it does everywhere.

I just don't think it's always best to jump to that assumption and take offence.

The great thing about this place is we can explore our sexuality with like minded people with out fear of being judged. "

Sadly the like minded people we expect to come across are hugely judgemental from my experience

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Prejudice is based on a cognitive decision.

Attraction is physical, chemical and far more base. We don't decide to whom we are attracted.

How, therefore, can attraction be prejudiced.

If someone won't fuck (insert race) because they consider them lesser beings/dirty/stupid etc. then that is prejudiced.

Not finding someone attractive on a physical level then it can't be prejudice.

I think that's a great point. I'm not denying that racism occurs on he re as it does everywhere.

I just don't think it's always best to jump to that assumption and take offence.

The great thing about this place is we can explore our sexuality with like minded people with out fear of being judged. "

The forums is like an episode of Judge Judy

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Prejudice is based on a cognitive decision.

Attraction is physical, chemical and far more base. We don't decide to whom we are attracted.

How, therefore, can attraction be prejudiced.

If someone won't fuck (insert race) because they consider them lesser beings/dirty/stupid etc. then that is prejudiced.

Not finding someone attractive on a physical level then it can't be prejudice.

I think that's a great point. I'm not denying that racism occurs on he re as it does everywhere.

I just don't think it's always best to jump to that assumption and take offence.

The great thing about this place is we can explore our sexuality with like minded people with out fear of being judged.

The forums is like an episode of Judge Judy

Ya think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, by the same token, am I being ageist if I say that I'd prefer not to sleep with anyone under 30..???

Or showing a cultural discrimination if I say that tattoos turn me of..???

Or sexist if I say that I prefer women to men...?????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No it isnt, pakis are from Pakistan simple.

And lm not racist iv got a colour tele!"

That is a racist term. Its a derogatory term used against not just people from Pakistan, but asians in general.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"If someone won't fuck (insert race) because they consider them lesser beings/dirty/stupid etc. then that is prejudiced.

Of course. Which is why, in my opinion, the "no blacks/asians" or "whites only" caveats are prejudicial, because they target an entire culture, or skin colour, across the board.

I'll also say that I'm a memnbe of another site, where racial caveats are banned from use. Suffice to say, it creates a far better atmosphere."

I have yet to meet an Asian man I am physically attracted to. I therefore, as the time I have for meets is limited, concentrate on those I am most likely to be attracted to. That, to me is common sense.

I don't think all Asian (Indian subcontinent) men are dirty/arrogant/stupid or anything else. I just know, from experience, I am far less likely to be attracted to them on a physical level.

I can't meet everyone.

Prejudiced? I don't think so. You are free to disagree but it won't change anything.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Prejudice is based on a cognitive decision.

Attraction is physical, chemical and far more base. We don't decide to whom we are attracted.

How, therefore, can attraction be prejudiced.

If someone won't fuck (insert race) because they consider them lesser beings/dirty/stupid etc. then that is prejudiced.

Not finding someone attractive on a physical level then it can't be prejudice.

I think that's a great point. I'm not denying that racism occurs on he re as it does everywhere.

I just don't think it's always best to jump to that assumption and take offence.

The great thing about this place is we can explore our sexuality with like minded people with out fear of being judged.

The forums is like an episode of Judge Judy

No way. There are no arguments in her court room. What she says goes. Case dismissed!

her

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I think its a sad time when people who dont want to sleep with us black People (or in my case blackish) have to justify that they are not racist.

Firstly OP may I say well done for picking a popular theme and picking up the popular response gauntlet.

OK, on to the reply to the quoted bit:

They don't 'have to justify that they are not racist' - they choose to. No one is forced to explain.

And of those who feel they must defend the right to preferences.... there will be different motivators for doing so.

There is a difference between debating if a statement is racist and whether a person is a racists. Deciding the statement isn't doesn't always mean the person isn't.

and

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

It's not what She says goes though.

It's what statute says.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"It's not what She says goes though.

It's what statute says. "

She's the one to judge who is telling the truth etc though.

There would be no dispute about whether not wanting to fuck black men is racist or not replying is rude in her court. Neither are defined by statute so it's her call.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"Prejudice is based on a cognitive decision.

Attraction is physical, chemical and far more base. We don't decide to whom we are attracted.

How, therefore, can attraction be prejudiced.

If someone won't fuck (insert race) because they consider them lesser beings/dirty/stupid etc. then that is prejudiced.

Not finding someone attractive on a physical level then it can't be prejudice. "

Tosh!

If you state you will not find someone attractive before you have seen them is that not prejudice?

Prejudice = prejudgment. Forming an opinion before becoming aware of the relevant facts.

I do demonstrate prejudice when I state that Asian guys shouldn't bother messaging me as they are not my cup of tea. I have prejudged the outcome before even seeing the person. It makes no odds that I have yet to see an Asian guy who makes me go "phwoar yes please" - I have prejudged.

The motivation for my prejudice is a different matter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Prejudice is based on a cognitive decision.

Attraction is physical, chemical and far more base. We don't decide to whom we are attracted.

How, therefore, can attraction be prejudiced.

If someone won't fuck (insert race) because they consider them lesser beings/dirty/stupid etc. then that is prejudiced.

Not finding someone attractive on a physical level then it can't be prejudice.

I think that's a great point. I'm not denying that racism occurs on he re as it does everywhere.

I just don't think it's always best to jump to that assumption and take offence.

The great thing about this place is we can explore our sexuality with like minded people with out fear of being judged.

The forums is like an episode of Judge Judy

No way. There are no arguments in her court room. What she says goes. Case dismissed!

her"

Ok the forums are as judgemental as the Old Bailey then

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Tosh! ......how divinely hoity toity.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Prejudice is based on a cognitive decision.

Attraction is physical, chemical and far more base. We don't decide to whom we are attracted.

How, therefore, can attraction be prejudiced.

If someone won't fuck (insert race) because they consider them lesser beings/dirty/stupid etc. then that is prejudiced.

Not finding someone attractive on a physical level then it can't be prejudice.

I think that's a great point. I'm not denying that racism occurs on he re as it does everywhere.

I just don't think it's always best to jump to that assumption and take offence.

The great thing about this place is we can explore our sexuality with like minded people with out fear of being judged.

The forums is like an episode of Judge Judy

No way. There are no arguments in her court room. What she says goes. Case dismissed!

her

Ok the forums are as judgemental as the Old Bailey then

That makes me sick. Just give me a Martell .... no rocks.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Prejudice is based on a cognitive decision.

Attraction is physical, chemical and far more base. We don't decide to whom we are attracted.

How, therefore, can attraction be prejudiced.

If someone won't fuck (insert race) because they consider them lesser beings/dirty/stupid etc. then that is prejudiced.

Not finding someone attractive on a physical level then it can't be prejudice.

Tosh!

If you state you will not find someone attractive before you have seen them is that not prejudice?

Prejudice = prejudgment. Forming an opinion before becoming aware of the relevant facts.

The motivation for my prejudice is a different matter."

I wasn't referring to people saying they won't meet anyone of a certain race. I was commenting on the claim that not finding an individual of a certain race attractive is prejudiced. You're either attracted or you aren't, physically speaking.

On the matter of ruling out all Asian men...

My profile says specifically that I don't wish to meet Asian men because I have yet to find one attractive. I realise I may find some attractive but I also know I am far more likely to find other races attractive. It's a practical decision to do with how I manage my time and using an approach more likely to yield positive results.

My decision not to meet Asian men is not based on any sort of prejudice against them and I recognise I may find some attractive. I am using my previous experience, to maximise my chance of meeting men I want to fuck (and who want to fuck me).

Do I take exception to "no fat birds" on profiles? No because I've already clicked onwards. Do I feel discriminated against? No. They think they are unlikely to fancy me. They know what they tend to like.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Prejudice is based on a cognitive decision.

Attraction is physical, chemical and far more base. We don't decide to whom we are attracted.

How, therefore, can attraction be prejudiced.

If someone won't fuck (insert race) because they consider them lesser beings/dirty/stupid etc. then that is prejudiced.

Not finding someone attractive on a physical level then it can't be prejudice.

I think that's a great point. I'm not denying that racism occurs on he re as it does everywhere.

I just don't think it's always best to jump to that assumption and take offence.

The great thing about this place is we can explore our sexuality with like minded people with out fear of being judged.

The forums is like an episode of Judge Judy

No way. There are no arguments in her court room. What she says goes. Case dismissed!

her

Ok the forums are as judgemental as the Old Bailey then

That makes me sick. Just give me a Martell .... no rocks."

Are you being rockist?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

chocolatist......oops

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Theres a Thread just been started on the forum that has the word BLACKS in the title, started by a non white English person...just a thought

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Speaking of Asians

I was once locked in a heavily sexual embrace with Imran Khan ..

All the pleading and begging couldn't break the sweaty, crotch lunging, genital grabbing desparation .....

It took two huge hench men a whole lotta force and a brutal wall collision to break the grip .....

He managed to get away in the end tho ..

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By *arveygirthycockMan
over a year ago

town

"I kind of know how you feel, dude.

Many times I've been attracted to women on here, only to read on their profile; black men only.

Hey, I don't dwell on it but it doesn't exactly feel great! C'est la vie"

Agreed. Loads of women on here with profiles that say black men only

Ah well that's her preference. Move on, get over it comes to mind..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like the brown M&Ms best.

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By *punkloverCouple
over a year ago

hatfield

People always have their own likes etc, same as men or women stating they don't meet fat or skinny women. I think people state what they enjoy so not to waste anyone's time. Me personally , i like all types ! lol

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

My decision not to meet Asian men is not based on any sort of prejudice against them...."

No being interested in meeting one person because of your previous experiences of meeting other people is prejudice.... you have prejudged the outcome.

Embrace your prejudice!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like the brown M&Ms best."

Whoops, wrong thread.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Speaking of Asians

I was once locked in a heavily sexual embrace with Imran Khan ..

All the pleading and begging couldn't break the sweaty, crotch lunging, genital grabbing desparation .....

It took two huge hench men a whole lotta force and a brutal wall collision to break the grip .....

He managed to get away in the end tho .."

Which Imran Khan?

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

My decision not to meet Asian men is not based on any sort of prejudice against them....

No being interested in meeting one person because of your previous experiences of meeting other people is prejudice.... you have prejudged the outcome.

Embrace your prejudice!"

I see it differently to you but I understand your point.

It doesn't matter much to me because I've made my decision and that's all there is to it. Whether it's prejudiced or not, or fair or not, I'm still not meeting Asian men. I embrace my choices and my right to make them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you mean you only want to meet people of your culture? If that's white English/British do you discount white people of other cultures lol

Working with and talking with people of other races does not mean someone is not racist.

You mean in the 35 years or so since leaving childhood you have not developed the ability to think for your self?"

Yes. I don't want to meet black men or Asian men. Enough thought ability there for you?

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

My decision not to meet Asian men is not based on any sort of prejudice against them....

No being interested in meeting one person because of your previous experiences of meeting other people is prejudice.... you have prejudged the outcome.

Embrace your prejudice!

I see it differently to you but I understand your point.

But you can see how that is conveyed could (I'm not saying is) be racist?

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