FabSwingers.com forum: 40 & 26

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok .... So I've done something I never thought I'd do on here and I've met somebody and we've both agreed that we want more than sex (yay!). He's 40 and I'm 26 ... I've always set my higher age range on here as 43 (because sex is sex). But now that we are borderline relationship .... What are everyone's opinions on the age gap? Personally it doesn't bother me, but I know a few friends etc will have a lot to say!

And before the trolls show up ... I am well aware that this isn't a dating site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're both adults, if it works for you…

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

If it works for you that is fine. Have fun, enjoy the relationship and good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Theres a 12 year gap between us, met 7 years ago and we have never been so happy. age means nowt!

Drs x x x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Friends that criticise you about the age gap are not real friends, real friends will be happy your happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its not that big an age gap my hubbys 20 years older than me. older men are more grateful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Firstly congratulations. I would say, does it really matter what anyone else thinks? It's your life. Do what makes you happy and stuff anyone that has a problem with it. People will only know the age gap if you make a big deal about it.

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By *leasures4Couple
over a year ago

East midlands

Age is just a number. Its how you feel about each other that matters. Enjoy!

Fem x

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Well, if they say anything tell them its your relationship and not there's and your very happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

does it matter what people think!

long as you are both happy who cares what people think x

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By *illwill69uMan
over a year ago

moston

If you're both happy that is all that matters, and if there are people in your life that do not approve thats their problem not yours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go for it girl.

Age has nothing to do with it imo.

If you get along (and it sounds like you do) then give it a try.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

10 years between us, and it works. It doesn't feel like there is that much at times! He's a big kid at heart!

I find that he is more gentlemanly than any other man I've ever known, which I quite like!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am 42 and jonie is 21 and we've been married for 5 years come August so if you are happy with each other sod other people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok .... So I've done something I never thought I'd do on here and I've met somebody and we've both agreed that we want more than sex (yay!). He's 40 and I'm 26 ... I've always set my higher age range on here as 43 (because sex is sex). But now that we are borderline relationship .... What are everyone's opinions on the age gap? Personally it doesn't bother me, but I know a few friends etc will have a lot to say!

And before the trolls show up ... I am well aware that this isn't a dating site"
20 years younger than greg and bee together ten years have two gorgouse kids together ouldnt be hapier so i say good luk anx sod what any one else thinks xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

42 and 29 here. Go for it, it might work, it might not - only one way too find out!

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By *ichaelangelaCouple
over a year ago

notts

why worry what other people think ???

its your life & happiness that really matters, so if you are both happy with the age gap, you go right ahead and enjoy YOUR life

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks guys and girls

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

if you are happy go for it but remember he will be a pensioner long before you!!!! but be happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

could I get away with it and 22 year old man . lol yes I could .

age is a number ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's only 14 years. Concentrate on something that matters xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go for it and enjoy each other. when I was 40 I had a boyf of 24, the age gap waas immaterial.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My dad was 39 when he married my mum, she was 20, go for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"if you are happy go for it but remember he will be a pensioner long before you!!!! but be happy"

thats the down side he will die before you too.

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By *oulou45Woman
over a year ago

Bucks

If your both happy I would say sod others opinions. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"if you are happy go for it but remember he will be a pensioner long before you!!!! but be happy

thats the down side he will die before you too."

Not necessarily.

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City

thats lovely to hear. Age gaps don't bother me, my friend is 64 and we have been seeing each other for 6 years. My current club buddy is 57. I just have a weakness for the more mature, distinguished guy and at the moment having a riot with my buddy.

Best wishes to you x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"if you are happy go for it but remember he will be a pensioner long before you!!!! but be happy

thats the down side he will die before you too."

Not everyone dies of old age ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"if you are happy go for it but remember he will be a pensioner long before you!!!! but be happy

thats the down side he will die before you too.

Not everyone dies of old age ....

no but its more likely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"if you are happy go for it but remember he will be a pensioner long before you!!!! but be happy

thats the down side he will die before you too.

Not everyone dies of old age ....

no but its more likely."

Not really.

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

"if you are happy go for it but remember he will be a pensioner long before you!!!! but be happy

thats the down side he will die before you too.

Not everyone dies of old age ....

I hope they don't but just pointing it out as my hubby is a pensioner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're both happy then go for it, if your friends are true friends then they'll support you whatever.

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By *onnyforfunMan
over a year ago

Doncaster

unfortunately my wife died of cancer 3 years ago she was 11 years older than me i wouldnt swop a second of the time i had with her go for it and i wish you lots of happiness

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

Go for it... Your life and yes , some you know may tut tut and judge... That will change once they see that it obvi isn't an issue for you both! Enjoy! Live it and let others see you have no problems re age yourself ... (think. Often , age issues happen when the youger partner very young etc )Our age gap never been an issue for us or anyone.... And we still going strong!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You both enjoy it...I have just moved in with a man off here who is 8 years older than me...makes no difference at all so long as you are happy. Life is too short. Good luck...be as happy as me..xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been looking at this tv show on sky ... some woman 70s and men 20s and in love ... so I think if your happy it don't matter .. xx

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

"You both enjoy it...I have just moved in with a man off here who is 8 years older than me...makes no difference at all so long as you are happy. Life is too short. Good luck...be as happy as me..xx"
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enjoy!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been looking at this tv show on sky ... some woman 70s and men 20s and in love ... so I think if your happy it don't matter .. xx"

I echo this, but when I was in my 20s it would have to be a 70 yr old like Honnor Blackman or Helen Mirren to have me fall in love.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Age is a number if you are both happy then go for it I say. xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

disgraceful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was 24 I dated someone aged 38. Didn't last long but remained friends. Good luck. Can work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And before the trolls show up ... I am well aware that this isn't a dating site"

If you are happy then go with it. You're 26 so youve done a lot of your growing and 14 years is nothing.

Good luck

We met on AFF 14 years ago, so people so sometimes fall head over heals for a casual encounter.

xxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" What are everyone's opinions on the age gap? "

I can't think if anything I care less about at this moment in time ... Thanks for asking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"disgraceful"

Why is it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Friends that criticise you about the age gap are not real friends, real friends will be happy your happy"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And before the trolls show up ... I am well aware that this isn't a dating site"
its up to you but personally 26 is the very lowest age i would be interested in anything below wouldnt appeal to me no matter what but hey if he a good guy and u happy tare on and good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

" What are everyone's opinions on the age gap?

I can't think if anything I care less about at this moment in time ... Thanks for asking"

You obviously cared enough to comment?

*cough* troll *cough*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

imo nothing wrong with the age gap. like has said before your both adults, wouldnt be askin on here thats for sure

but if yous plan on making the relationship more,then maybe yous should come off here and give it a go?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" What are everyone's opinions on the age gap?

I can't think if anything I care less about at this moment in time ... Thanks for asking

You obviously cared enough to comment?

*cough* troll *cough*"

Comment ? care

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"disgraceful

Why is it?

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it won't last and he will be too old to find someone new

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When you find true love...grab it and embrace it! If its meant to be, nothing else matters.

All the comments about dying young etc.....NO ONE knows what will happen TOMORROW! So why waste the precious time you have together now, worrying about what might or might not happen???

You have just met and embarking on a journey that might work out or might not.....just like any relationship! Its a bit premature for people to start thinking of what will happen in old age!

I wish you both a lot of love and happiness and with a sprinkling of magic fairy dust, who knows? You might have a wonderful future ahead! And even if you don't, you will have some happy wonderful memories. Lots of luck! Enjoy this time!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" What are everyone's opinions on the age gap?

I can't think if anything I care less about at this moment in time ... Thanks for asking

You obviously cared enough to comment?

*cough* troll *cough*

Comment ? care

That question mark is supposed to be a does not equal sign ... Why does that not show up?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our rule of thumb is

(Age/2)+7

Which in his case is 27

But hell, you're almost there so if it makes you happy and he treats you right enjoy! And congratulations

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Our rule of thumb is

(Age/2)+7

Which in his case is 27

But hell, you're almost there so if it makes you happy and he treats you right enjoy! And congratulations

You use a mathematical equation to decide your romantic fate???

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

"When you find true love...grab it and embrace it! If its meant to be, nothing else matters.

All the comments about dying young etc.....NO ONE knows what will happen TOMORROW! So why waste the precious time you have together now, worrying about what might or might not happen???

You have just met and embarking on a journey that might work out or might not.....just like any relationship! Its a bit premature for people to start thinking of what will happen in old age!

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So agree with this!!

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

"disgraceful

Why is it?

it won't last and he will be too old to find someone new"
wow!! Ray of sunshine today aint we! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"disgraceful

Why is it?

it won't last and he will be too old to find someone new"

can you use your crystal ball for positive things? Or just negative?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Age is just a number, it's the chemistry that counts. Others may advised against it but they may be jealous of what you've got.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't over think it.

Don't worry what strangers and random people think.

Life is too short not to be happy.

So, in short, crack on!

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Go for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"disgraceful

Why is it?

it won't last and he will be too old to find someone new wow!! Ray of sunshine today aint we! Lol

Best mate and wife 15 years age gap. Married 12years.

His parents 16 year age gap, married until death parted them (35+ years)

My sis and first husband, same age, divorced in 3.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"disgraceful

Why is it?

it won't last and he will be too old to find someone new"

she might be too old to find someone new too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am 42 and jonie is 21 and we've been married for 5 years come August so if you are happy with each other sod other people

So that means you got married when yous were 37/38 year old and a16/17 year old. That doesn't seem right what so ever to us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am 42 and jonie is 21 and we've been married for 5 years come August so if you are happy with each other sod other people

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is that legal?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"disgraceful

Why is it?

it won't last and he will be too old to find someone new"
what a load of tripe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Our rule of thumb is

(Age/2)+7

Which in his case is 27

But hell, you're almost there so if it makes you happy and he treats you right enjoy! And congratulations

You use a mathematical equation to decide your romantic fate???

Hahah no not at all! It's just something that hung around from school days I think for 'socially acceptable' age gaps (please note the "air finger quotations" around this!) Tbh I've never had to test it....but if you think about it works....14 year old with 14 year old and then age gaps increasing as you get older!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"disgraceful

Why is it?

it won't last and he will be too old to find someone newwhat a load of tripe

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7/8 years we've been together he's 71 and I'm 48, so stick that in your pipe and smoke it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why bother what others think it is your life you have found someone that makes you happy so enjoy x

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester

"Friends that criticise you about the age gap are not real friends, real friends will be happy your happy"

I disagree. A real friend tells you when they think you're making a mistake and then supports you after you realise they were right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is an 18 year gap between me and my partner and we have managed 3 years so far

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op - it's only 14 years and you're both adults. Enjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your HAPPY go for it and good luck x

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

Ive removed posts and can those people posting just to stir please give it a rest. Thanks.

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester

"I am 42 and jonie is 21 and we've been married for 5 years come August so if you are happy with each other sod other people

Any 37 year old blokes sniffing around my daughters when they're 16 won't be around long enough to propose.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Age is nothing in a relationship. If you're both happy, and you can make each other happy, everything else is immaterial.

Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nearly 22 years between Sam and me .. getting married later this year and blissfully happy

A soul mate is a soul mate regardless of age!

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

youre both adults ... enjoy each other ..xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am 42 and jonie is 21 and we've been married for 5 years come August so if you are happy with each other sod other people

Any 37 year old blokes sniffing around my daughters when they're 16 won't be around long enough to propose."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think I've got the answers I was looking for

thanks guys xxx

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

"I think I've got the answers I was looking for

thanks guys xxx"

congratulations?

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By *eavenNhellCouple
over a year ago

carrbrook stalybridge

"I think I've got the answers I was looking for

thanks guys xxx"
good luck which ever way you choose to go its your life and your happiness .

25 years between us lots of tuting etc when we got together been together nearly 6 years getting married soon

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Go for it. Just don't forget his presents at Xmas come from M&S.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am 42 and jonie is 21 and we've been married for 5 years come August so if you are happy with each other sod other people

Any 37 year old blokes sniffing around my daughters when they're 16 won't be around long enough to propose."
yeah whatever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And before the trolls show up ... I am well aware that this isn't a dating site"

Good for you ! I think a lot of single younger women are missing out if they havent dated an older man . I know I have so much more to give now than I did in my 20,s .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nearly 22 years between Sam and me .. getting married later this year and blissfully happy

A soul mate is a soul mate regardless of age!"

your so right . x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nearly 22 years between Sam and me .. getting married later this year and blissfully happy

A soul mate is a soul mate regardless of age!

your so right . x"

Thanks fellow horsey lover

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its all great and very well age gap relationships that work out but in all honesty can you truly say you would be comfortable if you're teenage daughter was going out with a guy in his 30s our 40s

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its all great and very well age gap relationships that work out but in all honesty can you truly say you would be comfortable if you're teenage daughter was going out with a guy in his 30s or 40s

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

jusr remember, when you turn 40 and want your life to start again because you get that second wind, lol, he will have already had his midlife crisis and want to slow it down.

is ti right or wrong?

thats nobody elses problem than your own, just enjoy being in love while it lasts.

the post about friends telling you your wrong then being there to support you is about right.

just enjoy it.

not everyone can find a feeling that closely represents love, and if you have, then who cares what others think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You do not need approval..

Get on with it...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

doesnt bother me

do what ur doing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Main thing is as long as your happy. That's what matters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"its all great and very well age gap relationships that work out but in all honesty can you truly say you would be comfortable if you're teenage daughter was going out with a guy in his 30s our 40s"

30s is still quite young, 40s if he had plenty of money.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Friends that criticise you about the age gap are not real friends, real friends will be happy your happy

I disagree. A real friend tells you when they think you're making a mistake and then supports you after you realise they were right."

And just because a friend doesn't agree with it, it doesn't make them not a true friend

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

Congratulations,just relax and enjoy. Whatever age life is too short not to grab any chance to be happy.

12 years between us, doesn't bother me a jot, he makes me unbelievably happy.

Good luck, Ruby xxx

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