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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How do you get over a broken heart . Really could do with a little help here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It just takes time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It just takes time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Change number and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ahhhhh happens to us all. Want to mail feel free to do so. A problem shared is a problem half ed

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just every time I think I am ok some thing happens and I think " o ... Would find that funny I will tell him . O hang on no I won't as he's moved on "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ahhhhh happens to us all. Want to mail feel free to do so. A problem shared is a problem half ed "
there is no cure unfortunately but time WILL heal it trust me been there before its horrible but hang in there soon u will wonder what all the fuss was about and the forums here are fabulous to get back into the "swing" of meeting/chatting to new people YOU WILL BE FINE IN NO TIME AT ALL have courage and strength xoxoxo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ahhhhh happens to us all. Want to mail feel free to do so. A problem shared is a problem half ed there is no cure unfortunately but time WILL heal it trust me been there before its horrible but hang in there soon u will wonder what all the fuss was about and the forums here are fabulous to get back into the "swing" of meeting/chatting to new people YOU WILL BE FINE IN NO TIME AT ALL have courage and strength xoxoxo"

This

Time is the great healer, - just keep talking to people & don't deal with it on your own; I know an idiot who did that once - 'erhem'!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I feel like I am wolling in self pitty and just need to SUCK IT UP BUTTER CUP !!!! But when I do some thing knocks me down and I am back at my own pitty party

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is just the old cliché of time is a healer and all that. Took me a long time after my last long term relationship and then one day when nothing different had happened, I met him and felt nothing. That's sort of sad too that someone who was such a massive part of your life can end up jut another person on the street.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel like I am wolling in self pitty and just need to SUCK IT UP BUTTER CUP !!!! But when I do some thing knocks me down and I am back at my own pitty party "
thats all normal for sum1 in ur situation dont beat urself up 4 it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel like I am wolling in self pitty and just need to SUCK IT UP BUTTER CUP !!!! But when I do some thing knocks me down and I am back at my own pitty party "

In time you'll be fine, - at least you're here chatting about it, that's a good start!!

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Find something else to keep you busy and distract you from dwelling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel like I am wolling in self pitty and just need to SUCK IT UP BUTTER CUP !!!! But when I do some thing knocks me down and I am back at my own pitty party "

I felt like this for a long time after my wife left me, but time really does heal, you'll never be the same person again but you will be a better person.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

This is silly he and I were only together 6 month I don't get why this hurts so much more than being dumped after 7 years of marriage !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suggest that you talk to a professional therapist. It has helped me in the past and is helping now. It can make the process less traumatic..

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By *tressfreeMan
over a year ago

Northampton


"This is silly he and I were only together 6 month I don't get why this hurts so much more than being dumped after 7 years of marriage !"

No way to explain except for me my last love was much deeper than my married partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesnt matter if it was years or months, you had a relationship him. Dont beat yourself up over how you feel. Take your time. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It takes time but you will get over it. Cut off all contact and concentrate on your future. It's not easy and you will have good and then bad days but you'll get there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It takes time but you will get over it. Cut off all contact and concentrate on your future. It's not easy and you will have good and then bad days but you'll get there. "

This.

You must avoid ALL contact. The no contact rule is paramount. It's sad because you almost don't want to get over people you have loved. But in time you'll realise there are other special people who can offer just as much and more in a lot of circumstances. Lots of socialising, and sex will help. Just get into a 'their loss' mentality, how much they will regret losing such a kindred spirit etc and you'll be ready to move on in months rather than the years it feels like its going to be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like others have said, time will allow you to heal. Allow yourself to feel sad sometimes, but also give yourself a new focus! I started running - that helped. One day you'll look back and wonder what the fuss was all about. Keep talking too, as keeping a lid on your feelings does no-one any good.

Hope you feel better about it all soon.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"It just takes time "

This and find other interests to keep you occupied.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"but also give yourself a new focus! I started running - that helped."

This. Running is fantastic, don't know why, but not only is it by far the most rewarding and beneficial exercise, it also seems to manifest a physical feeling of separation.

Try it. Serious.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok so I have never run for more than a bus pmsl but I think I might give it a go as someone elas has said it as well . Thanks you guys its nice to here other people say they have felt the same , I have felt silly that we were only together 6 months and I have taken it so bad .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask yourself was it real ? Yes you have feelings but was it all one side your side. ? Most of us at sometime in our life been here and it hurts as your dreams and hopes are smashed . Only time will help you get over this and the next man who comes into your life maybe different but only you will know if its a risk worth taking after this . We live and learn and at times that can hurt . xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok runnings not for me lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok runnings not for me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The house, my business and £250k seemed to do the trick for my ex wife!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The house, my business and £250k seemed to do the trick for my ex wife! "

Lol well I got a washing machine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok runnings not for me lol "

Yet you have running in your name... Ironic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You will be just fine!!!

Lots of good advice on here and attention from some lovely men to give your ego a boost.

You keep smiling and it will get better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get your glad rags on

Brush yourself off

Get yourself out and have a blast

On the come down the next day go have lunch with a friend

Oh and make sure his number is deleted so you don't d*unk text lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A broken heart takes X amount of time to heal. It is a different amount of time for all of us. Allow yourself to grieve.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks guys x I think last night I was just holding my self a pitty party . As found out he's started seeing someone elas . I just need to suck it up buttercup !!! Or chin up and tits out . Think your right some male attention is a good distraction any offeres lol

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By *utumnWoman
over a year ago

leeds

I had two sayings that I looked at every morning

"Our wounds don't hurt the inflictor"

All the hurt you are feeling is only hurting you, he may be the cause of the pain but he has moved on and your time spent hurting is only affecting you, don't let it.

The second,

"If your past calls, don't answer, it has nothing new to say"

What's happened has happened, there is nothing you can do to change it, nothing you could have done differently, nothing that can bring it back. Look at him as a part of your life you needed at that time, not a part that has to stay with you to cause you pain.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Thanks guys x I think last night I was just holding my self a pitty party . As found out he's started seeing someone elas . I just need to suck it up buttercup !!! Or chin up and tits out . Think your right some male attention is a good distraction any offeres lol "

Yea, get you some hot sex with some hot tottie!! It may be only a brief distraction, but it works for however long it works!!

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"You will be just fine!!!

Lots of good advice on here and attention from some lovely men to give your ego a boost.

You keep smiling and it will get better "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Listen to Jeff Buckley, Watch The Notebook or Crazy Stupid Love and eat a couple of Milk Trays.

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