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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

After being on here for a few months and chatting to people I'm still surprised at the amount of horrid people there are when they find out a lassies big. Clearly states on profile etc

Anyway that's not what I'm asking, just wondering guys, gals and couples if your talking to a 'big girl' what size do you roughly think this is.

(My worst one was a bloke thinking a 12 was fat )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It truly is what's inside that really counts.

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By *tupidityDictatesWoman
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

For me I sort of imagine 'big girls' to be around 20+, so same size as me and bigger.

And also, surprisingly I've had nothing but positive comments about my body, I expect that a tonne of fat-shit is around the corner for me but so far it's be quite on that front.

Sorry you've had to deal with such pig headed arses.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love big girls,slap her ass and ride the ripples...

joking

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By *tupidityDictatesWoman
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's up to you what do with your profile but if you put a body picture in your prfile, people can make an informed choice weather to contact you or not. You can't hide your shape from people you want to target for meeting. Better than get chatting, waste your time and theirs then you get your feelings hurt when they go quiet once they know. The reason why I put as many info as I could in my profile.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I love big girls,slap her ass and ride the ripples...

joking "

You can slap my arse if you like, but ain't no ripple riding lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's up to you what do with your profile but if you put a body picture in your prfile, people can make an informed choice weather to contact you or not. You can't hide your shape from people you want to target for meeting. Better than get chatting, waste your time and theirs then you get your feelings hurt when they go quiet once they know. The reason why I put as many info as I could in my profile. "

It's in my profile and I always say to make sure they know. As I say it's not so much that but the ignorance as to what size a big girl is

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By *onnyforfunMan
over a year ago

Doncaster


"I love big girls,slap her ass and ride the ripples...

joking

You can slap my arse if you like, but ain't no ripple riding lol "
id love the chance to slap your arse i love big girls so much more to cuddle and play with

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I don't like skinny girls either, much prefer something to hold and play with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's up to you what do with your profile but if you put a body picture in your prfile, people can make an informed choice weather to contact you or not. You can't hide your shape from people you want to target for meeting. Better than get chatting, waste your time and theirs then you get your feelings hurt when they go quiet once they know. The reason why I put as many info as I could in my profile.

It's in my profile and I always say to make sure they know. As I say it's not so much that but the ignorance as to what size a big girl is"

I don't see a body pic or anything about your size in your profile!

I don't think guys here will tell you what they think is big or not. It may hurt someones feelings to put it that way in an open forum. What does it matter at the end of the day? It's the people you want to meet that matter if they find you attractive or not. A nbre (size) won't in any way tell that you are attractive or not in someones eyes. A body picture however speaks a lot.

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By *onnyforfunMan
over a year ago

Doncaster


"I don't like skinny girls either, much prefer something to hold and play with. "
mmm! id love to play with you 3sum with you and another big girl would my idea of heaven

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's up to you what do with your profile but if you put a body picture in your prfile, people can make an informed choice weather to contact you or not. You can't hide your shape from people you want to target for meeting. Better than get chatting, waste your time and theirs then you get your feelings hurt when they go quiet once they know. The reason why I put as many info as I could in my profile.

It's in my profile and I always say to make sure they know. As I say it's not so much that but the ignorance as to what size a big girl is

I don't see a body pic or anything about your size in your profile!

I don't think guys here will tell you what they think is big or not. It may hurt someones feelings to put it that way in an open forum. What does it matter at the end of the day? It's the people you want to meet that matter if they find you attractive or not. A nbre (size) won't in any way tell that you are attractive or not in someones eyes. A body picture however speaks a lot.

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It says right at the top of my profile I am a BBW it also had my size as fabulous

Yes I don't have a public body pic but I do have one to share

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't like skinny girls either, much prefer something to hold and play with. mmm! id love to play with you 3sum with you and another big girl would my idea of heaven "

Shame you weren't here tomorrow morning then damn that would make it a foursome then

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By *onnyforfunMan
over a year ago

Doncaster


"I don't like skinny girls either, much prefer something to hold and play with. mmm! id love to play with you 3sum with you and another big girl would my idea of heaven

Shame you weren't here tomorrow morning then damn that would make it a foursome then "
yea shame maybe i should add you to my hotlist so we can arrange something next time im coming up near you ? x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't like skinny girls either, much prefer something to hold and play with. mmm! id love to play with you 3sum with you and another big girl would my idea of heaven

Shame you weren't here tomorrow morning then damn that would make it a foursome then yea shame maybe i should add you to my hotlist so we can arrange something next time im coming up near you ? x "

Sounds like a decent idea

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By *onnyforfunMan
over a year ago

Doncaster


"I don't like skinny girls either, much prefer something to hold and play with. mmm! id love to play with you 3sum with you and another big girl would my idea of heaven

Shame you weren't here tomorrow morning then damn that would make it a foursome then yea shame maybe i should add you to my hotlist so we can arrange something next time im coming up near you ? x

Sounds like a decent idea"
ok ill add you to my hotlist and keep in touch with you and hopefully get up for some fun with you soon x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a size 18 and big I say so on profile but still tell people as most haven't read profile. It seems sometimes I'm sexy etc till I turn them down then I must suddenly turn into a whale.according to some messages .it used to worry be but now I just report abd block .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's all subjective really. I consider myself a big girl and so I think girls my size or bigger are "big girls" but everyone has a different idea as to where "average girl" ends and "big girl" begins. We had a friend who felt that a size 10 was pushing it. This is one of those questions that you just can't get a satisfactory answer to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been with a two ladies who were 18+ but looked gr8 with it. Think it says more about the nastiness of the person slating than anything. I was recently told by a female on here that and I quote " you've got a face of a model but a body of a barge" lmao thanks for that love.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

It is what it is....Im a fat fucker but I don't have any problems attracting the opposite sex...

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By *onnyforfunMan
over a year ago

Doncaster


"I'm a size 18 and big I say so on profile but still tell people as most haven't read profile. It seems sometimes I'm sexy etc till I turn them down then I must suddenly turn into a whale.according to some messages .it used to worry be but now I just report abd block ."
yovr beautiful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Must agree. Cheeky ur stunning

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well , Like big girls I must admit a big lady in leather or pvc is very erotic also I cant resist a very curvy arse .

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By *onnyforfunMan
over a year ago

Doncaster


"It is what it is....Im a fat fucker but I don't have any problems attracting the opposite sex... "
your lovely all you self confessed big girls are i just love you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think size is irrelavent. I'm a size 18 but don't think I look it. I had a guy message once stating no one over a 14 on his profile. When I told him I probably wasn't for him as I was way over his size preference he did some impressive back peddaling! Like age, dress size is just a number.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Amazing how many men back pedal when they think they r in lol . To me someone with a sense of humour is more important than dress size.

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By *onnyforfunMan
over a year ago

Doncaster


"I think size is irrelavent. I'm a size 18 but don't think I look it. I had a guy message once stating no one over a 14 on his profile. When I told him I probably wasn't for him as I was way over his size preference he did some impressive back peddaling! Like age, dress size is just a number. "
your lovely like mort of the so called big girls i see on here hope i meet somf of you at the socials and parties etc ive got my name down for ill be on the lookout for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

mmmm I like big girl mmmmm

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Amazing how many men back pedal when they think they r in lol . To me someone with a sense of humour is more important than dress size."

So very true, works both ways for me too. If you can make me laugh you're half way there

I would rather be me than have fake boobs, pumped up lips and bits sucked out here and there

Some like that, it's just not for me

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"It is what it is....Im a fat fucker but I don't have any problems attracting the opposite sex... your lovely all you self confessed big girls are i just love you "

lol self confessed...I've not confessed anything I've stated the obvious...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate being bigger

So much healthier smaller

I think it looks and feels horrible

I don't have any problems getting men though not that I actually do anythibg with them

But maybe I would if I was slimmer I would be confident

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think size is irrelavent. I'm a size 18 but don't think I look it. I had a guy message once stating no one over a 14 on his profile. When I told him I probably wasn't for him as I was way over his size preference he did some impressive back peddaling! Like age, dress size is just a number. "

Lol I think its because some men dont even know what size is what lol. But you don't look like a size 18 at all to me either. I would have guessed 12 or 14.

To Donny-thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not a fan of fake ness. As for sense of humour it's a must in my eyes.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"I hate being bigger

So much healthier smaller

I think it looks and feels horrible

I don't have any problems getting men though not that I actually do anythibg with them

But maybe I would if I was slimmer I would be confident

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being simmer does not mean you gain automatic confidence that comes from within you and you can have it at any size.. it took me years and an eating disorder to accept myself....now im in love with me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hate being bigger

So much healthier smaller

I think it looks and feels horrible

I don't have any problems getting men though not that I actually do anythibg with them

But maybe I would if I was slimmer I would be confident

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Confidence is a massive thing. I hate my body personally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I would certainly feel happier getting naked if thinner

For sure

Won't get naked now no way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hate being bigger

So much healthier smaller

I think it looks and feels horrible

I don't have any problems getting men though not that I actually do anythibg with them

But maybe I would if I was slimmer I would be confident

Confidence is a massive thing. I hate my body personally "

It makes all the difference for both men and women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is. U can tell someone everyday they r beautiful but until they feel it themselves it wouldn't matter

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I hate being bigger

So much healthier smaller

I think it looks and feels horrible

I don't have any problems getting men though not that I actually do anythibg with them

But maybe I would if I was slimmer I would be confident

Confidence is a massive thing. I hate my body personally "

Went to your profile for a nosey but canna see ye. From what I can see ye look great

But as ye say having a laugh and being confident in your own skin says volumes

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By *onnyforfunMan
over a year ago

Doncaster

i can only reapeat i think all you bigger beautiful are so much more fun more to cuddle and play with so beware i will be hunting you out on the socials and events etc that i have got my name down for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a big girl ...states in my user name, profile and photos ...I'm size 18/20 with curves, big boobs and round fat bum! !!! so I'd consider 18 plus to be big ..I've not had any awful messages about my size ..maybe I'm just lucky xx ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stunning pics bbw

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By *icklepinkWoman
over a year ago

london

BBW, Curvy, fabulous, are all great words however when using them to describe your body size they are very subjective words and not everyone will agree it means the same thing as you think it means. Perhaps if it really bothers you then you should just state your actual dress size on your profile, there is no confusion then and save u having to repeat talking about your body image all the time. Just a suggestion anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thank you sweetheart x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Another big girl checking in here and ive never come across any nasty comments about my size even if i turn a guy down after he's messaged, but although i need a little discretion due to my job i do have a good selection of body pics to give people a clear indication of my figure, i'm affraid just pictures of boobs are not the best for showing off the female form and usuing the term BBW will mean different things to different people, same as athletic and average etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"BBW, Curvy, fabulous, are all great words however when using them to describe your body size they are very subjective words and not everyone will agree it means the same thing as you think it means. Perhaps if it really bothers you then you should just state your actual dress size on your profile, there is no confusion then and save u having to repeat talking about your body image all the time. Just a suggestion anyway."

This isn't totally fool prove though. ..a 5'2" woman that's a size 20 would look totally different than a 5'9" size 20 woman! !! .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you sweetheart x "

No thank u x

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By *onnyforfunMan
over a year ago

Doncaster


"I'm a big girl ...states in my user name, profile and photos ...I'm size 18/20 with curves, big boobs and round fat bum! !!! so I'd consider 18 plus to be big ..I've not had any awful messages about my size ..maybe I'm just lucky xx ..."
wow! just looked at your pics and you look amazing great boobs and legs love to sef your bum ill be looking for your name on the guest list to the socials and events im going to so i can chat and get to know you

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By *uncpl2015Couple
over a year ago

Bridgend Area

Lol we had a first message last night from a guy with no pics that said 'I'm .... I'm looking for fat ladies and i'm not fussy...

Now I'm not skinny nowhere near YET..(working on it) but still was shocked at that and he thought I'd be so excited for a meet..

Have to say I'd be happier smaller hence why I'm doing something about it. And for me confidence does come with weight loss. 7 lb Down in a week and ..well the poor men that were out near us this weekend lol poor hubby has gone to work for a rest. Just has a crazy effect on me and even I started to feel like a lunatic lol can't get enough. Still long way to go but after only 7 lb down confidence and sex drive have rocketed.goodness knows what going to happen the more that drops. Roll on next weekend..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's up to you what do with your profile but if you put a body picture in your prfile, people can make an informed choice weather to contact you or not. You can't hide your shape from people you want to target for meeting. Better than get chatting, waste your time and theirs then you get your feelings hurt when they go quiet once they know. The reason why I put as many info as I could in my profile.

It's in my profile and I always say to make sure they know. As I say it's not so much that but the ignorance as to what size a big girl is"

I've just had a look, and its only in your headline sweet..perhaps a mention of your actual dress size in the main part would help as well as a full body shot...when im meeting my profile has all this and I've only ever had one fatty-basher, but he had a small penis, no meets after a year, and a face like a robbers dog so he doesn't count

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So it's ok to be rude about other people. But not ok to be rude about overweight people?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"After being on here for a few months and chatting to people I'm still surprised at the amount of horrid people there are when they find out a lassies big. Clearly states on profile etc

Anyway that's not what I'm asking, just wondering guys, gals and couples if your talking to a 'big girl' what size do you roughly think this is.

(My worst one was a bloke thinking a 12 was fat )"

We wouldn't even enter into a conversation with someone, about size. Our profile states bbw, just as a guideline, to keep the fat haters away. We have always been lucky, in the respect that nobody has ever been rude about Sandra's size/shape.

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By *icklepinkWoman
over a year ago

london


"BBW, Curvy, fabulous, are all great words however when using them to describe your body size they are very subjective words and not everyone will agree it means the same thing as you think it means. Perhaps if it really bothers you then you should just state your actual dress size on your profile, there is no confusion then and save u having to repeat talking about your body image all the time. Just a suggestion anyway.

This isn't totally fool prove though. ..a 5'2" woman that's a size 20 would look totally different than a 5'9" size 20 woman! !! . "

Perhaps that may be true but the height is already on the profile I believe so a guy can figure that out but either way a guy who is into the larger lady will want that size and those who are not will not like that size whether she is tall or short. But it's better than having them try and guess and then all involved get annoyed or feel misled or get feelings hurt etc. just be as upfront as possible and there can be no confusion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't like skinny girls either, much prefer something to hold and play with. "

Op. Some people are sizeist, most of us are to some degree. You state elsewhere in the thread that you don't have a body picture, don't mention a dress size. Terms like bbw and fabulous are not specific and mean very different things to different people.

If you're happy with yourself then be more transparent about your shape and size. People your speaking with are then less likely to feel misled. Having read the thread, the women who are more specific seem to get less negative vibes.

As you can see by some of the male responses being more specific about size does not put off men attracted to big women.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"So it's ok to be rude about other people. But not ok to be rude about overweight people?

"

People will be rude its fact of life....Its just the repeated size threads..that piss me off lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So it's ok to be rude about other people. But not ok to be rude about overweight people?

"

Tongue firmly in cheek Steel Heels, hence the

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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We wouldn't even enter into a conversation with someone, about size. Our profile states bbw, just as a guideline, to keep the fat haters away. We have always been lucky, in the respect that nobody has ever been rude about Sandra's size/shape."

It's not luck. You're avatar has a full body picture, nobody is going to feel misled.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a big girl ...states in my user name, profile and photos ...I'm size 18/20 with curves, big boobs and round fat bum! !!! so I'd consider 18 plus to be big ..I've not had any awful messages about my size ..maybe I'm just lucky xx ..."

I'm 5'7, a.18/20, I've never had criticism either about my size just from myself. think all us curvy ladies are lucky and the guy's who do criticise well they know what they can do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always make

Ale sure I mention my size when chatting I'm a 22 and very open about it. People can make their own minds up then and I don't take offence if they change their minds!!

G

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Size 16 is the UK average I think, but thats the skinniest I go for. Big girls rock!

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By *orth_Star74Man
over a year ago

london

bigger the better,and big guys also get a raw deal on here so it goes both ways

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"I don't like skinny girls either, much prefer something to hold and play with. "

I think slim ladies would think this is rude.

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

For me its how naughty a lady's mind is, not whether she is BBW, Fabulous, fuller figured, Athletic, Average or size number.

Rick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Society as a whole seems hellbent on depersonalising and objectifying people into groups, subsets and a set of physical parameters. There is less and less interest in 'Who we are' and far too much in 'What we are'. Defining if someone has 'The Gap', 'Dat Ass', 'Supersize', 'Superskinny' are now becoming the key in how we _iew people as society as a whole _iews social interactions in a far more ephemeral way. TV, media, the internet all have their part to play in this.

It encourages and promotes the objectification of people - this site is a microcosm of objectification, shameless self-promotion and self-satisfaction. In fact, for an increasing proportion of this site - they are the primary drivers for being here.

I've commented on many size threads - mostly because its the same thing every time - 'how do I pigeonhole someone into a objective subset which I can use to decide if I want to fuck them' and thereby turning them into an object. Dress size, cock size, body shape, skin colour. There is a marked difference between exercising personal choice (before someone jumps on that bandwagon) and reducing individual to objects. The former allows someone to still treat the other person as just that - a person with thoughts and feelings, emotions and intelligence. The latter allows you to exercise your id and ego with zero moral consequences.

Sadly society, the internet and the culture of 'sex on demand' is producing far more of the latter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If people have recent pics up, then people will know exactly what size they are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't like skinny girls either, much prefer something to hold and play with. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its true that a lot of men don't know a flying fig about women's dress sizes. Having said that, i don't care how big, small or whatever a woman is. Its attitude and a gsoh that count.

As long as she cant hide behind a lampost that is, if she can its a definite NO!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i can only reapeat i think all you bigger beautiful are so much more fun more to cuddle and play with so beware i will be hunting you out on the socials and events etc that i have got my name down for "
I bet lots of ladies will be crossing you off there social lists

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I have full body shots so you can see exactly what is on offer. I have a huge amount of confidence and will not allow complete strangers on a sex site to knock that...I am not going to be labelled nor do i want white knights syndrome..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't like skinny girls either, much prefer something to hold and play with.

I think slim ladies would think this is rude."

It's probably the only derogatory post on the thread.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"I don't like skinny girls either, much prefer something to hold and play with.

I think slim ladies would think this is rude.

It's probably the only derogatory post on the thread. "

that's a first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Society as a whole seems hellbent on depersonalising and objectifying people into groups, subsets and a set of physical parameters. There is less and less interest in 'Who we are' and far too much in 'What we are'. Defining if someone has 'The Gap', 'Dat Ass', 'Supersize', 'Superskinny' are now becoming the key in how we _iew people as society as a whole _iews social interactions in a far more ephemeral way. TV, media, the internet all have their part to play in this.

It encourages and promotes the objectification of people - this site is a microcosm of objectification, shameless self-promotion and self-satisfaction. In fact, for an increasing proportion of this site - they are the primary drivers for being here.

I've commented on many size threads - mostly because its the same thing every time - 'how do I pigeonhole someone into a objective subset which I can use to decide if I want to fuck them' and thereby turning them into an object. Dress size, cock size, body shape, skin colour. There is a marked difference between exercising personal choice (before someone jumps on that bandwagon) and reducing individual to objects. The former allows someone to still treat the other person as just that - a person with thoughts and feelings, emotions and intelligence. The latter allows you to exercise your id and ego with zero moral consequences.

Sadly society, the internet and the culture of 'sex on demand' is producing far more of the latter."

That's a very good post and worthy of its own thread as it raises a very interesting debate.

I agree with some much of what you have said, I do however point out that a scene based in no small part on no strings sex is likely to have sexual attraction and fantasy as its primary drivers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have full body shots so you can see exactly what is on offer. I have a huge amount of confidence and will not allow complete strangers on a sex site to knock that...I am not going to be labelled nor do i want white knights syndrome.."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At least its a bbw posting the thread lol but its strange how its never skinny girls as the poster put it never start forum threads ranting because guys get nasty because there to skinny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"After being on here for a few months and chatting to people I'm still surprised at the amount of horrid people there are when they find out a lassies big. Clearly states on profile etc

Anyway that's not what I'm asking, just wondering guys, gals and couples if your talking to a 'big girl' what size do you roughly think this is.

(My worst one was a bloke thinking a 12 was fat )"

A BBW/big girl to my mind is a size 16 and above. That being said in my experience they are some of the more interesting women out there and are amazing to Cwtch.

Don't take my word for it tho, I am obviously biased

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think its true that a lot of men don't know a flying fig about women's dress sizes. Having said that, i don't care how big, small or whatever a woman is. Its attitude and a gsoh that count.

As long as she cant hide behind a lampost that is, if she can its a definite NO! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have nothing to add ....

Its typical ....

I may do a thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all like what we like and have preferences for all sorts of things, size, colour, big/small boobs. Fact, we don't need to justify it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Society as a whole seems hellbent on depersonalising and objectifying people into groups, subsets and a set of physical parameters. There is less and less interest in 'Who we are' and far too much in 'What we are'. Defining if someone has 'The Gap', 'Dat Ass', 'Supersize', 'Superskinny' are now becoming the key in how we _iew people as society as a whole _iews social interactions in a far more ephemeral way. TV, media, the internet all have their part to play in this.

It encourages and promotes the objectification of people - this site is a microcosm of objectification, shameless self-promotion and self-satisfaction. In fact, for an increasing proportion of this site - they are the primary drivers for being here.

I've commented on many size threads - mostly because its the same thing every time - 'how do I pigeonhole someone into a objective subset which I can use to decide if I want to fuck them' and thereby turning them into an object. Dress size, cock size, body shape, skin colour. There is a marked difference between exercising personal choice (before someone jumps on that bandwagon) and reducing individual to objects. The former allows someone to still treat the other person as just that - a person with thoughts and feelings, emotions and intelligence. The latter allows you to exercise your id and ego with zero moral consequences.

Sadly society, the internet and the culture of 'sex on demand' is producing far more of the latter.

That's a very good post and worthy of its own thread as it raises a very interesting debate.

I agree with some much of what you have said, I do however point out that a scene based in no small part on no strings sex is likely to have sexual attraction and fantasy as its primary drivers. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No sure how you can go by dress sizes

Some women are tall & some short so if a woman is a size 16 but 5' 9" she will have a different body shape to a woman who is 5'1"

Same goes for men with waiste size I guess

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

It's well and good saying put your dress size on your profile but which dress size?

My bust, waist and hips are all different dress sizes!

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Plus it depends where you shop...Im a size 20 yet i can't fit into primarks size 20....so you can be different sizes...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We all like what we like and have preferences for all sorts of things, size, colour, big/small boobs. Fact, we don't need to justify it."

I totally agree we should not have to justify our preferences to anyone.

However, neither should we have to put up with abuse from others just because we don't meet theirs. Sadly, here as in the "real" world, there will always be those who feel the need to put others down for one reason or another - that says far more about them tho than the person they are making unkind, spiteful and/or derogatory remarks about.

Everyone will have their own yard stick by which they judge size and if that is part of their selection process so be it.

The one thing that usually becomes apparent when reading these threads about size/bbws is that for most men and women confidence/personality is what makes a person sexy rather than their body shape - we will all always have different _iews with regards to that, there is no right or wrong shape/size - that IS just a matter of personal preference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"After being on here for a few months and chatting to people I'm still surprised at the amount of horrid people there are when they find out a lassies big. Clearly states on profile etc

Anyway that's not what I'm asking, just wondering guys, gals and couples if your talking to a 'big girl' what size do you roughly think this is.

(My worst one was a bloke thinking a 12 was fat )"
I am a size 14 and not fat ...... 12 is not fat but on your profile you call yourself a BBW ? I think it not what others think its if your happy in your own skin ........ and I am .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So it's ok to be rude about other people. But not ok to be rude about overweight people?

Tongue firmly in cheek Steel Heels, hence the "

Tongue firmly in cheek... nice peachy arse profile pic... that cheered me up, thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't like skinny girls either, much prefer something to hold and play with. "

its ok for you to say you dont like 'skinny' girls but you dont want anyone saying they dont like fat women?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't matter what size you are there is fun for all sizes I'm into girls bigger then size 14 but that's just my preference I really HATE the word fat it's horried

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So it's ok to be rude about other people. But not ok to be rude about overweight people?

People will be rude its fact of life....Its just the repeated size threads..that piss me off lol "

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"It's well and good saying put your dress size on your profile but which dress size?

My bust, waist and hips are all different dress sizes!"

This is a serious question btw.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't like skinny girls either, much prefer something to hold and play with.

its ok for you to say you dont like 'skinny' girls but you dont want anyone saying they dont like fat women?

"

And there it is in a nutshell.

I don't think our profile could possibly be any clearer as to what we find attractive and what we don't.

But still, without fail we get contacted by the utterly deluded fools that waste ours and their time.

And when you point out (yet again) why your not interested they get all "offended".

Toughen up ffs!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think most people are more confident if they are slim but there are quite a few slim people who do lack confidence as well. i would rather be slim but there are lots of big people on here who dont seem to bothered about how they look so they must have a certain amount of confidence and they are having a lot of fun as you can see in some of their pictures.

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By *bbandflowCouple
over a year ago

South Devon


"Society as a whole seems hellbent on depersonalising and objectifying people into groups, subsets and a set of physical parameters. There is less and less interest in 'Who we are' and far too much in 'What we are'. Defining if someone has 'The Gap', 'Dat Ass', 'Supersize', 'Superskinny' are now becoming the key in how we _iew people as society as a whole _iews social interactions in a far more ephemeral way. TV, media, the internet all have their part to play in this.

It encourages and promotes the objectification of people - this site is a microcosm of objectification, shameless self-promotion and self-satisfaction. In fact, for an increasing proportion of this site - they are the primary drivers for being here.

I've commented on many size threads - mostly because its the same thing every time - 'how do I pigeonhole someone into a objective subset which I can use to decide if I want to fuck them' and thereby turning them into an object. Dress size, cock size, body shape, skin colour. There is a marked difference between exercising personal choice (before someone jumps on that bandwagon) and reducing individual to objects. The former allows someone to still treat the other person as just that - a person with thoughts and feelings, emotions and intelligence. The latter allows you to exercise your id and ego with zero moral consequences.

Sadly society, the internet and the culture of 'sex on demand' is producing far more of the latter."

Perhaps you could enlighten us as to when this golden age before the internet existed. Sexual objectification has always been part of our culture and society.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have a limit of size 14.wobbly bits and cellulite dont turn me on.

firm bodies are sexier to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i lost a lot of weight when i was 19 i was more confident but not that confident because i always found something else to worry about apart from my size.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I've never had a nasty message about my weight in seven years. I state my size on my profile and always have a body shot, they can see what they are getting , if they don't like then they don't message me.

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By *uncpl2015Couple
over a year ago

Bridgend Area


"i have a limit of size 14.wobbly bits and cellulite dont turn me on.

firm bodies are sexier to me."

Lol good for you for being honest..slight point though cellulite is not confined to people over a size 14 ! Some Trim slim can and do still have that lol

I have to agree to a degree would love to be smaller and it's happening. Typing dodgy as my two hours off today and everyday are spent working out...

I won't meet large guys either the thought of it is a real turn off.. lol my choice.

Happy swinging to all..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer being slim and am very aware my body, if I have put on weight. My only concern with size would be if i was healthy or not. I would hate to not be able to be active in bed (or out and about) I like to feel confident and sexy naked and if I have put on a few pounds I don't feel like that at all, and my sex life suffers. I love the confidence 'BBW' have, if they are truly comfortable within their body, it is inspiring x

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I like men who are toned and intelligent, (yes, I know I'm greedy )

So many of the beautiful people on here think they are God's gift but can hardly string a sentence together.

A lot of them claim to be intelligent too! Their profile usually gives them away within seconds.

I'm a fat woman and some don't like that. Big deal. There are plenty that do.

I also love the ones who tell me I have unrealistic expectations and as a fat woman, I only "deserve" the attention of fat or, at best, average men. This site can be irritating but sometimes it's a great source of amusement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like men who are toned and intelligent, (yes, I know I'm greedy )

So many of the beautiful people on here think they are God's gift but can hardly string a sentence together.

A lot of them claim to be intelligent too! Their profile usually gives them away within seconds.

I'm a fat woman and some don't like that. Big deal. There are plenty that do.

I also love the ones who tell me I have unrealistic expectations and as a fat woman, I only "deserve" the attention of fat or, at best, average men. This site can be irritating but sometimes it's a great source of amusement. "

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By *onnyforfunMan
over a year ago

Doncaster


"i can only reapeat i think all you bigger beautiful are so much more fun more to cuddle and play with so beware i will be hunting you out on the socials and events etc that i have got my name down for I bet lots of ladies will be crossing you off there social lists "
what makes you so special they wont be crossing you off ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i have a limit of size 14.wobbly bits and cellulite dont turn me on.

firm bodies are sexier to me."

That's personal preference and that's fine as we all have them but anorexic women can have cellulite, its not just for people over a certain size or weight. I'm nearly 15 stone and a size 18, was a competitive powerlifter and have trained all my adult life. Whilst I'm defo not slim, I'm pretty solid and don't have many wobbly bits (well not when I tense up anyway lol) All this dress size stuff just seems irrelevant to me but I'm aware people have preferences but they shouldn't be written in stone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think most people are more confident if they are slim but there are quite a few slim people who do lack confidence as well. i would rather be slim but there are lots of big people on here who dont seem to bothered about how they look so they must have a certain amount of confidence and they are having a lot of fun as you can see in some of their pictures."

Agreed, the sort of people that seem to see and treat their bodies as just some sort of transport system for their heads!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd love to do you Flamey

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"I think most people are more confident if they are slim but there are quite a few slim people who do lack confidence as well. i would rather be slim but there are lots of big people on here who dont seem to bothered about how they look so they must have a certain amount of confidence and they are having a lot of fun as you can see in some of their pictures.

Agreed, the sort of people that seem to see and treat their bodies as just some sort of transport system for their heads!!"

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Lmao this thread is hilarious we as adults cannot have a productive debate without throwing insults in the mix..

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Lmao this thread is hilarious we as adults cannot have a productive debate without throwing insults in the mix..

"

Same shit, different day.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"After being on here for a few months and chatting to people I'm still surprised at the amount of horrid people there are when they find out a lassies big. Clearly states on profile etc

Anyway that's not what I'm asking, just wondering guys, gals and couples if your talking to a 'big girl' what size do you roughly think this is.

(My worst one was a bloke thinking a 12 was fat ) I am a size 14 and not fat ...... 12 is not fat but on your profile you call yourself a BBW ? I think it not what others think its if your happy in your own skin ........ and I am . "

Yeah I am cause I'm a size 24, the reference for the 12 was a bloke saying that not me by any stretch xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I asked the original question as to what people thought was a big lassie, so far been told I should say on my profil my size, also the I should have a body shot for all to see, also the mention that I'm not particularly fond of skinny lassies.

Well why should I put my size on my profile? I do have a body shot in my private pics, I need discretion and have distinguishing tattoos so anyone that knows me would know it's me.

I can't say I don't particularly like skinny lassies but you can say you don't like anyone over a size 14? How does that work?

I personally wouldn't play with a really thin lassie cause I would be scared for a start if hurt her, that's all. Not for any other reason. Everyone whether a size 8, 16 or 32 is beautiful in their own way just cause the don't float our boat doesn't mean to say they won't float someone else's.

It wasn't my intention to start a debate or be slagged off cause of my profile but to those who have done cheers it must be wonderful being purer than the purified

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't like skinny girls either, much prefer something to hold and play with.

its ok for you to say you dont like 'skinny' girls but you dont want anyone saying they dont like fat women?

And there it is in a nutshell.

I don't think our profile could possibly be any clearer as to what we find attractive and what we don't.

But still, without fail we get contacted by the utterly deluded fools that waste ours and their time.

And when you point out (yet again) why your not interested they get all "offended".

Toughen up ffs!"

I wonder which deluded fools would ever contact you.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

Someone could have told me there was going to be a bun fight, I have no more buns.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I can't even bring myself to read any, I could second guess every comment

enjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I can't even bring myself to read any, I could second guess every comment

enjoy "

Ohhh go on read it all. It will be the best hour of your life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dress sizes and worded descriptions are vague at best. you have fcuk all to go on with them

better off sticking pics up that show whats there instead of a flash of tit or arese or the funniest one is a lone foot lmao

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"

I can't even bring myself to read any, I could second guess every comment

enjoy

Ohhh go on read it all. It will be the best hour of your life. "

no, Loose Woman is coming on./.... be similar shite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love big girls 18+

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By *onnyforfunMan
over a year ago

Doncaster


"Love big girls 18+"
dont say that ive had derogatory remarks sent to me for saying i like larger ladies and will be seeking them out at socials and events etc seems some people think we should all like the same things be a boring life if we did lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lmao this thread is hilarious we as adults cannot have a productive debate without throwing insults in the mix..

"

Some of us can, there will always be those who can't, just as there will always be those who deem it appropriate to be judgemental/rude/offensive just for the sake of it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't like skinny girls either, much prefer something to hold and play with.

its ok for you to say you dont like 'skinny' girls but you dont want anyone saying they dont like fat women?

And there it is in a nutshell.

I don't think our profile could possibly be any clearer as to what we find attractive and what we don't.

But still, without fail we get contacted by the utterly deluded fools that waste ours and their time.

And when you point out (yet again) why your not interested they get all "offended".

Toughen up ffs!

I wonder which deluded fools would ever contact you. "

Oh they do!

Ones with paunches, body hair and have don't have two bits hanging the right way!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More poignantly is the fact that big tits on a fat girl are as impressive as abs in a skinny guy.

This thread is hilarious!

If you don't like fatties say so, if you don't like thin people say so, if you don't like muscular people....guess what say so!

It's perfectly ok for someone that's fat to say they don't like someone that's slim or skinny but everyone jumps to someone's defence if they are fat and told that that person doesn't find fat people attractive.

PC hilarity!

Who care if somebody told you they don't find you attractive for whatever reason? What does it matter it's the internet.

You put yourself out there to be judged so toughen up ffs!

Christ almighty, group hug and pass the tissues, make the nasty people go away....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't like skinny girls either, much prefer something to hold and play with.

its ok for you to say you dont like 'skinny' girls but you dont want anyone saying they dont like fat women?

And there it is in a nutshell.

I don't think our profile could possibly be any clearer as to what we find attractive and what we don't.

But still, without fail we get contacted by the utterly deluded fools that waste ours and their time.

And when you point out (yet again) why your not interested they get all "offended".

Toughen up ffs!

I wonder which deluded fools would ever contact you.

Oh they do!

Ones with paunches, body hair and have don't have two bits hanging the right way!"

Kind or ironic that you say early in your profile that you are respectful!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my two cents worth is that a girl who is 6 - 10 is skinny. 10 -14 average. 14 - 18 curvy and 18 plus big.

wtf is fabulous? all are in their own way.

But personally i think those who say curvy and turn out to be massive...well its a bit wrong...that like a man saying i have a massive dick and its average..

and for the record average to curvy is mine. the odd well kept bbw is great on top and face sitting!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"my two cents worth is that a girl who is 6 - 10 is skinny. 10 -14 average. 14 - 18 curvy and 18 plus big.

wtf is fabulous? all are in their own way.

But personally i think those who say curvy and turn out to be massive...well its a bit wrong...that like a man saying i have a massive dick and its average..

and for the record average to curvy is mine. the odd well kept bbw is great on top and face sitting!"

I hate bloody labels.

1.someone contacts you after reading profile.

2. chat chat chat

3.meet

4....if you both like what you see you get down and dirty...end of.

simples

You shouldnt contact anyone that doesnt initially get your interest...

Labels have nowt to do with anything.

Its attraction .......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"my two cents worth is that a girl who is 6 - 10 is skinny. 10 -14 average. 14 - 18 curvy and 18 plus big.

wtf is fabulous? all are in their own way.

But personally i think those who say curvy and turn out to be massive...well its a bit wrong...that like a man saying i have a massive dick and its average..

and for the record average to curvy is mine. the odd well kept bbw is great on top and face sitting!

I hate bloody labels.

1.someone contacts you after reading profile.

2. chat chat chat

3.meet

4....if you both like what you see you get down and dirty...end of.

simples

You shouldnt contact anyone that doesnt initially get your interest...

Labels have nowt to do with anything.

Its attraction .......

"

Very well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have pictures on my profile which show im big and say im large in the size option,so people can see for themselves,if dont like they walk by,i have only ever had one rude profile say anything about my size in all the time i have been here

I find people ok on this site,but i am the type of person who dosent offend easily,also my attitude is not offensive so i dont get rudeness back,all i say is dont moan just groan at a meet with people that enjoy your bodytype and stop worrying about what other people think

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"So it's ok to be rude about other people. But not ok to be rude about overweight people?

"

This

Found myself doing this after reading some of OP and others comments. Was there any need for the comment about fake boobs, lips and bits sucked out?

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"So it's ok to be rude about other people. But not ok to be rude about overweight people?

This

Found myself doing this after reading some of OP and others comments. Was there any need for the comment about fake boobs, lips and bits sucked out?

"
Tis ok, it was a woman posting the OP.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Its my fault im fat i like jelly babies and vodka too much...However Im a contented soul regarding my size but don't let strangers make me feel crap about myself....I mean I've got photos that show me in all my naked glory and i know that i will not appeal to some but that's ok as i appeal to a few....Its the shame with being rude about simmer people its not on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is always going to come up on the forums,

If your happy with yourself who cares what size you are?

I'm a size 8 but I'm not skinny, I won't break and I still have curves!!

Everyone will have different opinions about what's classed as larger, and what's classed as smaller

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This is always going to come up on the forums,

If your happy with yourself who cares what size you are?

I'm a size 8 but I'm not skinny, I won't break and I still have curves!!

Everyone will have different opinions about what's classed as larger, and what's classed as smaller "

Thanks for posting this I've always been terrified that I would snap a skinny/thin girl if I was in that sort of situation.

This however has got out of hand to the point I wish I could delete this thread. I've had nothing but nasty mail since it started

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Report the abusive messages and block...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is always going to come up on the forums,

If your happy with yourself who cares what size you are?

I'm a size 8 but I'm not skinny, I won't break and I still have curves!!

Everyone will have different opinions about what's classed as larger, and what's classed as smaller

Thanks for posting this I've always been terrified that I would snap a skinny/thin girl if I was in that sort of situation.

This however has got out of hand to the point I wish I could delete this thread. I've had nothing but nasty mail since it started "

Lol how would you break a smaller woman? We aren't fragile you know

These sort of threads do tend to get out of hand normally, just report the abussive messages and then block that user..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think profiles should be honest - not leg shots taken at tall angles, stomach shots laying flat ( of course it looks flat !) high held camera face shots etc - all designed to make the person look thinner - better to have clear fair pics then guys n girls can make an informed decision and not end up in disappointment.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Have reported and blocked. What turned out to be an innocent question had gone mental :/ so strange how people get on their high horses xx

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"I think profiles should be honest - not leg shots taken at tall angles, stomach shots laying flat ( of course it looks flat !) high held camera face shots etc - all designed to make the person look thinner - better to have clear fair pics then guys n girls can make an informed decision and not end up in disappointment. "

trust me my belly ain't flat even when i lie down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have reported and blocked. What turned out to be an innocent question had gone mental :/ so strange how people get on their high horses xx"

Size threads will always be a contentious issue and will bring everyone out of the woodwork.

You are not the furst to start a thread and wish you hadnt.

Been there and got the t.shirt

Just ignore it and it will drop off the page

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*first/furst* kin fingers

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By *imply_SensualMan
over a year ago

warrington

It doesn't matter if its about size or shape, ANY preference that eta debated here will bring a whole host of people out who want to fight their corner and say that whatever they think, is the right way.

I am not into what is regularly termed a 'bigger' woman, but I won't make that decision based on a description from here, whether it be a dress size, body type or anything else. The only thing that will help me decide is an image.

I dont agree with the people who state "its on the inside what matters" because attraction will always be a factor for everyone, otherwise Fab might as well give out free paper bags when you register.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is. U can tell someone everyday they r beautiful but until they feel it themselves it wouldn't matter"

Ain't that the truth!

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By *ampWithABrainWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

I'm a larger lady (at the moment, for health reasons slimming n toning).

I used to be v slim and was no more confident then as I had v small boobs. I didn't feel sexy. I started gaining weight after having my daughter, my ex constantly made nasty digs (I was only a size 12 at my largest with him but I was a 6-8 when we met).

Since then I've fluctuated but definitely my confidence is more to do with how I'm feeling generally/how life is going than what size I am.

As for who I'm attracted to, it's definitely more a personality thing. I've been with men and women of varying sizes. If they're confident n feel sexy, that's what matters. Not attracted to everyone obviously but it's not dependant on their size.

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By *tupidityDictatesWoman
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

Can we all kiss and make up please?

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Can we all kiss and make up please? "

Unlikely. Any thread about women's size or body shape ends up like this, regardless of the initial point or whether it was supposed to be positive or negative.

Sad really, but it's one of the facts of fab.

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By *onnyforfunMan
over a year ago

Doncaster


"Can we all kiss and make up please? "
im up for that lifes too short lol xx

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"...definitely my confidence is more to do with how I'm feeling generally/how life is going than what size I am. "

^ this. I feel healthier and less tired when slimmer and I'm happier because it's easier to buy clothes and there's a larger range of pretty underwear available to me. My confidence, however, is more connected to my circumstances and how I am feeling.

Sometimes I feel on top of the world and at other times I feel like shit. It'll be the same when I'm slimmer again.

Anyone who doesn't find me attractive doesn't have to meet me. If they want to be abusive it says more about them than about me.

Forget it. Have fun. Be happy.

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By *onnyforfunMan
over a year ago

Doncaster


"Its my fault im fat i like jelly babies and vodka too much...However Im a contented soul regarding my size but don't let strangers make me feel crap about myself....I mean I've got photos that show me in all my naked glory and i know that i will not appeal to some but that's ok as i appeal to a few....Its the shame with being rude about simmer people its not on "
you like vodka shame your not near me ive a bottle of smirnoff we could share

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Few descriptive labels are going to have universal agreement on their meaning, so it is better not to rely on them to convey how you are. That said, any abuse is unforgiveable, anytime. With descriptions, it is clearer to use detailed information and photos to portray how you are physically. If you know something in others that you wish to avoid, drill down when youre communicating, till you get the info that you want. That way all parties are involved in sharing the explicit details that are wanted. If people are less bothered, then they need to seek less, as long as they own responsibility for sharing and getting the info that they want and never to abuse others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't put BBW on my profile., I don't feel it's me place to deem myself the second B, beauty is in the eye of the beholder

I do state I'm a fat lass

I'm a size 24

I don't hide it or cover over it with sweet sugary ambiguous language. Reubenesque and fabulous

I'm fat

It's just fat

I like cake

I have to die of something and no doubt it will be cake related heart disease

Or an accident on a frozen pond

But at least I enjoyed every mouthful getting there

Anyhoo.

Continue. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm far from fattest?

I love the curvier woman, they just don't love me hahaha

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia


"Its my fault im fat i like jelly babies and vodka too much...However Im a contented soul regarding my size but don't let strangers make me feel crap about myself....I mean I've got photos that show me in all my naked glory and i know that i will not appeal to some but that's ok as i appeal to a few....Its the shame with being rude about simmer people its not on "

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

Never had a nasty message on here... Never been negative towards others and never recieved it in any way.... I have always been a big gal! Never stopped me in any section of my life! Been beating men away with sharp sticks for years... Lol ... Be happy in ya own skin OP .. What ever size you are or aint ... you got it for life after all! No one here really needs justify their exsistance to no other .... Enjoy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think profiles should be honest - not leg shots taken at tall angles, stomach shots laying flat ( of course it looks flat !) high held camera face shots etc - all designed to make the person look thinner - better to have clear fair pics then guys n girls can make an informed decision and not end up in disappointment.

trust me my belly ain't flat even when i lie down "

But you sure have a pretty face x

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By *harliesteveCouple
over a year ago

selly oak


"After being on here for a few months and chatting to people I'm still surprised at the amount of horrid people there are when they find out a lassies big. Clearly states on profile etc

Anyway that's not what I'm asking, just wondering guys, gals and couples if your talking to a 'big girl' what size do you roughly think this is.

(My worst one was a bloke thinking a 12 was fat )"

If he thinks a 12 fat I must be a whale

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I haven't put BBW on my profile., I don't feel it's me place to deem myself the second B, beauty is in the eye of the beholder

I do state I'm a fat lass

I'm a size 24

I don't hide it or cover over it with sweet sugary ambiguous language. Reubenesque and fabulous

I'm fat

It's just fat

I like cake

I have to die of something and no doubt it will be cake related heart disease

Or an accident on a frozen pond

But at least I enjoyed every mouthful getting there

Anyhoo.

Continue. Lol"

You look amazing. I have no idea on sizes, in fact i adore a smile, its the eyes and the smile that switch on my ardour.

Big, i think size 32 is big, when they can't get up easily whenn laying down. A lady has to have passion and an ability to fuck ... Xx

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"I think profiles should be honest - not leg shots taken at tall angles, stomach shots laying flat ( of course it looks flat !) high held camera face shots etc - all designed to make the person look thinner - better to have clear fair pics then guys n girls can make an informed decision and not end up in disappointment.

trust me my belly ain't flat even when i lie down

But you sure have a pretty face x "

aww thank you very much!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I haven't put BBW on my profile., I don't feel it's me place to deem myself the second B, beauty is in the eye of the beholder

I do state I'm a fat lass

I'm a size 24

I don't hide it or cover over it with sweet sugary ambiguous language. Reubenesque and fabulous

I'm fat

It's just fat

I like cake

I have to die of something and no doubt it will be cake related heart disease

Or an accident on a frozen pond

But at least I enjoyed every mouthful getting there

Anyhoo.

Continue. Lol"

This just made my morning

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By *ichael123456Man
over a year ago

west midlands

I like my women with curves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are lots of guys on here who are attracted to larger women as this thread has demonstrated. There are also lots of guys who are not and don't want to feel misled.

Many of the women who have posted on here have never faced unpleasant messages because of their size and I would suggest it simply is because they are honest, upfront and transparent.

The Op said,

'Im still surprised at the amount of horrid people there are when they find out a lassies big'.

If they only find out after prolonged chatting and they feel in any way misled it may explain why. That said I'm certainly not condoning unsavory behaviour.

An honest profile will not put off anyone who is going to be genuinely attracted to you. It just makes it easier for them to find you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are lots of guys on here who are attracted to larger women as this thread has demonstrated. There are also lots of guys who are not and don't want to feel misled.

Many of the women who have posted on here have never faced unpleasant messages because of their size and I would suggest it simply is because they are honest, upfront and transparent.

The Op said,

'Im still surprised at the amount of horrid people there are when they find out a lassies big'.

If they only find out after prolonged chatting and they feel in any way misled it may explain why. That said I'm certainly not condoning unsavory behaviour.

An honest profile will not put off anyone who is going to be genuinely attracted to you. It just makes it easier for them to find you. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are lots of guys on here who are attracted to larger women as this thread has demonstrated. There are also lots of guys who are not and don't want to feel misled.

I

Many of the women who have posted on here have never faced unpleasant messages because of their size and I would suggest it simply is because they are honest, upfront and transparent.

The Op said,

'Im still surprised at the amount of horrid people there are when they find out a lassies big'.

If they only find out after prolonged chatting and they feel in any way misled it may explain why. That said I'm certainly not condoning unsavory behaviour.

An honest profile will not put off anyone who is going to be genuinely attracted to you. It just makes it easier for them to find you.

"

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

The thing is not allowing your size be an issue with yourself...as soon as that happens it becomes an issue with others. People are very good a ing out weak points and using that to their advantage. its about learning to make what you have and turn it into positives...life is about smiling and being happy not about getting upset at comments made by complete strangers...my family and friends love me for me if they ever told me they were concerned about my size i would of course do something....but for now i don't need a jcb to get me out of bed

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Being honest doesn't always work either though. I have never hidden the fact I am big. It was part of my profile and my pics reflect my size yet sometimes I get abusive mail from people who don't even want to meet me,they just want to be mean. On top of that there are also the messages from people who think I'm sex on legs until the moment I politely decline - the I suddenly become a fat slag.

I have even had someone get nasty towards me because I wasn't prepared to do all the Work for a meet - travel to Manchester, get the hotel room etc. When I pointed out that trains went both ways I got told that he wouldn't travel to meet someone like me when he could have models in Manchester

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"Being honest doesn't always work either though. I have never hidden the fact I am big. It was part of my profile and my pics reflect my size yet sometimes I get abusive mail from people who don't even want to meet me,they just want to be mean. On top of that there are also the messages from people who think I'm sex on legs until the moment I politely decline - the I suddenly become a fat slag.

I have even had someone get nasty towards me because I wasn't prepared to do all the Work for a meet - travel to Manchester, get the hotel room etc. When I pointed out that trains went both ways I got told that he wouldn't travel to meet someone like me when he could have models in Manchester "

oh I've had that....once i told him he had a small dick and where i could loose weight that is not much he could do and advised him penis pumps were on offer...childish i know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being honest doesn't always work either though. I have never hidden the fact I am big. It was part of my profile and my pics reflect my size yet sometimes I get abusive mail from people who don't even want to meet me,they just want to be mean. On top of that there are also the messages from people who think I'm sex on legs until the moment I politely decline - the I suddenly become a fat slag.

I have even had someone get nasty towards me because I wasn't prepared to do all the Work for a meet - travel to Manchester, get the hotel room etc. When I pointed out that trains went both ways I got told that he wouldn't travel to meet someone like me when he could have models in Manchester "

There are three types of people who behave in ways that fall outside of what most would consider reasonable behavior.

The jealous, they don't need any other excuse to attack those who they feel are doing better than they are, their attack often appears to be out of the blue and I would suggest has little with them wanting to meet you.

The rejected, commonly the ones who suffer from insecurity, often choose to lash out if they don't get what they want.

The third type are societies undesirables, they simply choose to attack anyone at anytime in a warped attempt at making them feel in some way better. I think for this group its often some kind of power thing.

My question is this, should you really be overly concerned about any of these three types of people if you're unlikely to meet them?

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"There are three types of people who behave in ways that fall outside of what most would consider reasonable behavior.

The jealous, they don't need any other excuse to attack those who they feel are doing better than they are, their attack often appears to be out of the blue and I would suggest has little with them wanting to meet you.

The rejected, commonly the ones who suffer from insecurity, often choose to lash out if they don't get what they want.

The third type are societies undesirables, they simply choose to attack anyone at anytime in a warped attempt at making them feel in some way better. I think for this group its often some kind of power thing.

My question is this, should you really be overly concerned about any of these three types of people if you're unlikely to meet them?"

I don't think Evie was saying she's concerned by them. She was merely pointing out that even when a person is completely honest in how they represent themselves and are clear about their size, it's not certain that they won't get abuse.

Sometimes people are abusive to a woman about her size no matter what. Yes, they are behaving like complete arseholes and no, nobody should let it get to them. However, this is a form of bullying and abuse and it isn't reasonable to either blame the victim (for not having a thick enough skin) or put the onus on the victim to take all the action to prevent it from happening.

Rudeness and insults over someone's size, be that fat, thin, tall, short or anything else, should be as unacceptable as insulting someone's disability, religion, race etc.

It's better to have a thick skin, of course, but it should not be entirely down to people being insulted to learn to ignore it.

If someone posted "I don't want to meet (insert ethnicity) people. Their disgusting (insert colour) skin makes me feel sick and they all absolutely stink" it would be seen as completely unacceptable. Nobody would say "oh well, it happens, grow a thicker skin and ignore it".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The fire keeps burning when we add more fuel to it ....

Im still FAT ... its Tuesday

Hello world - anymore crisps

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"The fire keeps burning when we add more fuel to it ....

Im still FAT ... its Tuesday

Hello world - anymore crisps "

I'm still fat and still on my diet so no crisps for me. It is Tuesday though. And I forgot to put the bin out. Drat!

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London

I would put size 20+ as a big girl. But I do find large ladies sexy. For me nothing nicer than the sight of a sexy thong on a nice big round ass. So I suppose it's a case of different strokes for different folks. J x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not just big girls who are fat, in fact I've seen big girls who do not look fat, they are all in proportion and have curves in the right places. My bloody curves are all over the place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think profiles should be honest - not leg shots taken at tall angles, stomach shots laying flat ( of course it looks flat !) high held camera face shots etc - all designed to make the person look thinner - better to have clear fair pics then guys n girls can make an informed decision and not end up in disappointment.

trust me my belly ain't flat even when i lie down "

Mine just spreads out further when I do that and my boobs dissappear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are lots of guys on here who are attracted to larger women as this thread has demonstrated. There are also lots of guys who are not and don't want to feel misled.

Many of the women who have posted on here have never faced unpleasant messages because of their size and I would suggest it simply is because they are honest, upfront and transparent.

The Op said,

'Im still surprised at the amount of horrid people there are when they find out a lassies big'.

If they only find out after prolonged chatting and they feel in any way misled it may explain why. That said I'm certainly not condoning unsavory behaviour.

An honest profile will not put off anyone who is going to be genuinely attracted to you. It just makes it easier for them to find you. "

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By *atWolfCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

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By *atWolfCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

I've had guys call themselves very well endowed but been really small. I've felt a bit annoyed as may well not have met if they'd been honest (shallow I know but again it's preference). Same with body size, be honest, post pics. However if you're someone who would be particularly put off by certain body features, it's also best to be upfront about that yourself if someone's profile is leaving you wondering or concerned about what you're letting yourself in for.

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

dress size 20 and above is what I would class as big

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

DAwns a bbw and wouldnt have her any other way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"After being on here for a few months and chatting to people I'm still surprised at the amount of horrid people there are when they find out a lassies big. Clearly states on profile etc

Anyway that's not what I'm asking, just wondering guys, gals and couples if your talking to a 'big girl' what size do you roughly think this is.

(My worst one was a bloke thinking a 12 was fat )"

Bugger them, their loss hunny. Big is Beautiful, I get the opposite.. Im slim so women think it's fine to rip the piss. Trust me slim ppl get lots of crap too on here, ppl are far too prejudice, I don't get it, if u don't like the look of someone then don't message them, simples xx

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