FabSwingers.com forum: People who died on your Facebook friends

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Has this happened to you?

Feel bad deleting them, but makes me feel sad that their account will always be there, pics and what they wrote.

It's not a loved one but someone I was friends with years ago who commited suiside last year.

Just wondered if anyone else has had this situation and if so, what did you do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've still got phone numbers from people who have died years ago. Just can't bring used to delete them.

Only got one Facebook profile of someone who died, it's still there and I've kept them as a friend. They were bonkers and have great pics

That's just me tho

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By *entfootloverMan
over a year ago

Sevenoaks

"Has this happened to you?

Feel bad deleting them, but makes me feel sad that their account will always be there, pics and what they wrote.

It's not a loved one but someone I was friends with years ago who commited suiside last year.

Just wondered if anyone else has had this situation and if so, what did you do?"

There's a form that you can fill on Facebook that turns their account to a memorialised account, or whatever the term they use is.

I like to think a FB profile is a nice memento of someone's life, but I guess it depends on how close you were to that person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very often, families of a loved one can convert a page into a shrine of sorts.

I think it's a lovely thing to do.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Very often, families of a loved one can convert a page into a shrine of sorts.

I think it's a lovely thing to do. "

Maybe that's why it bothers me.

I knew him from in his teens, he was adopted and always seemed a lost sole, there's nobody turned his account into a memorial, it just hangs there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is something that only you can choose as its a very personal thing, and will depend upon the relationship between you.

I have a little experience of this, not so long ago a lad who was a school friend of my sister and i had known for around 20 years passed away in tragic circumstances.

Ask yourself whether seeing his page will bring you more happy memories than sad ones, it may not give you the answer but should help you get there.

best of luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's lots on mine, I tend to have a peek when they've died.

I will never delete. I pop back now and again, expecting a post, and a giggle with them, of course there never is, nor a giggle its hard but very, surreal!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"This is something that only you can choose as its a very personal thing, and will depend upon the relationship between you.

I have a little experience of this, not so long ago a lad who was a school friend of my sister and i had known for around 20 years passed away in tragic circumstances.

Ask yourself whether seeing his page will bring you more happy memories than sad ones, it may not give you the answer but should help you get there.

best of luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take your time leave the page alone for now, in time if you want to delete, then do so. I have left Fbk pages for 3yrs. When I felt ready I looked, made me smile with tears! But I'm so glad I never deleted. Only you can choose.

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By *onnyforfunMan
over a year ago

Doncaster

one of my best pals who was a very good pool player and who improved my game immensley is still one of my facebook friends i look at his profile every tuesday for inspiration before i go play all my team mates knew him where winning league for your memory this year johnny roe R I P xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah can't force myself to delete them! A young ex of mine was killed in a horrific car crash! Don't have many pictures of her so keep her Facebook account!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes my late bf page is still on there and id never delete it. I go on now and again brings tears and smiles from the amazing memories .. Know a few of my friends still have him as a friend too. It is hard its been nearly 6 yrs since he died but deep down inside its like ive got yet another piece of his memory to stay with me. Ive a video of him and my dauggter on a old phone something else id never get rid of. Comforting to hear is voice , we deal with it in our way and I think only you will know whats right for you.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

One of my old school friends committed suicide a few years ago and i still have her as a friend...she was such a lovely person....

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Yes two of my friends who have died are still there. There will always be reminders of our friends who've died, Facebook is just one more I feel and I've kept them as friends, one of them has a tree planted in her memory that I pass daily I think it's the same kind of thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep the profiles. I still wish happy birthday to the ones I have or share pics I find. The ones family loves that people still remember them

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Yes I have 2, one was a very good friend of mine who commuted suicude 16 months ago and another was a friend who I've known since I was 11 who was found dead in his bed by his parents last week totally unexpected. As I don't have contact details for his family I'm waiting for the funeral details to be posted on there. It's nice reading all the messages from mutual friends and memories from school trips and nights out since. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of my closest school friends paased away last year, her and her husband had a great open honest and trusting relationship with each other, so her knew her passwords for most things. He's now turned her page into a very fitting and honourable memorial page and will occasionally post on her behalf when he knows how she'd respond to certain things, it always make me smile to see it and i do think oh thats so amy, makes it feel like she still lives on, but i can see why some would find it upsetting and cant bear the loss so its easier to delete the profile and move on with the memories you do have.

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By *eryBigGirlWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

I've a friend who passed at 21 and my cousin who I lost 2 years ago very tragically and both still have pages which I'll never delete. Their pages keep them alive a little for me which especially with my cousin I still need

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I still have my boyfriend who passed away in 2007 (I still have his mobile number and all his text messages in my phone too) and two of my friends...i would never delete them as its my only link left to them...two have been made into memorial pages but its only family members who can do that as far as I know x I think later down the line keeping your friend will be a comfort to you so don't act hastily xxx

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City

I have my 2 brothers still on there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of sad stories here. hugs to you all.

One of my son's old school friends, committed suicide last year, only 26, he did have issues all his young life but wonderful grandparents who brought him up. Was a shock to read that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A lot of sad stories here. hugs to you all.

One of my son's old school friends, committed suicide last year, only 26, he did have issues all his young life but wonderful grandparents who brought him up. Was a shock to read that.

I meant to add re fb, don't know if he had a page but hopefully they kept it open, so yes keep it open for yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a friend who is terminally ill. Her treatment has stopped and she has been offered a place in her local hospice. She still regularly keeps us all updated on her battle on facebook. I hope her family dont delete her account when she eventually loses her battle as her strength and determination is an inspiration. Something I would like to look back on and remember after she has passed. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have a friend who is terminally ill. Her treatment has stopped and she has been offered a place in her local hospice. She still regularly keeps us all updated on her battle on facebook. I hope her family dont delete her account when she eventually loses her battle as her strength and determination is an inspiration. Something I would like to look back on and remember after she has passed. X"

My friend did this and now shes gone...her daughter posts all the time telling her mum about her day, its heart wrenching stuff but nice to think that Sue is up there reading those posts in heaven and being proud of her x

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

A lovely girl I used to work with sadly passed on. I deleted her as she is still alive within my memories.

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By *umpkinMan
over a year ago

near the sounds of the wimborne quarter jack!

Another, now dufunkt swinger`s forum I used to frequent had two members pass away. Their accounts stayed live until the site closed and it brought back many happy memories to read their posts.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Yes. The account was memorialised and a member of their family started a remembrance page.

I still have them friended because I want the memories. If you defriend you can refriend the profile if you change your mind.

Was the death reported in the news? If there is an online article it may be worth contacting FB and explaining, with the link. It's usually a family member who has to memorialise, I think, but if it's just been sitting there for a while and you can provide an article for them to check, you may be able to get them to do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My Dad's was memorialised after he died, my friend committed suicide a month ago and hers isn't yet I don't think. But I certainly won't be deleting it, its lovely to look at the pictures of her happy. I don't go on my Dad's as much as I should, it hurts too much.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

I had a mate who went a bit awol and died of a very early heart attack connected to his prediliction for stimulants. His fb hung in the ether was for ages. Was kind of strange. Its gone now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only have one friend that has diwd on my Facebook. She'll never be deleted, just because she's not around anymore doesn't mwan she's no longer my friend

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By *oulou45Woman
over a year ago

Bucks

I knew mu friend sue for 25 yrs. We hadn't seen each other in a while. I then found sue and her hubby on fabs.sue died a year ago I cant bear to delete her.

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

Yes I have a few people that have died still on my FB , a young fireman killed whist rescuing others. just weeks before his son was born and a skating friend who died 2 days before her baby was born. little one is 5 now.They have made both into a memorials and we all pop in and post pictures and comments or memory's. I cant delete

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By *imwildWoman
over a year ago

around

Sad post doing rounds on fb. A family are trying to get their sons fb page reinstated. He died and according to family fb closed it down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only one on my friends list that died was my mum .. My sister and I deleted her facebook account from her laptop..I still have phone numbers in my mobile of loved ones who have passed away though

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By *LFB.Woman
over a year ago

Farnborough.

My nephew died unexpectedly two years ago, I was very close to him and have to say I do visit his FB page to wish hin happy christmas and birthday wishes, he will always be a big part of my life and as time goes on i find it easier to look at his page without crying, but you have to do whats you feel is right for you. Personally i couldnt delete him.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Sad post doing rounds on fb. A family are trying to get their sons fb page reinstated. He died and according to family fb closed it down. "

They only ever memorialise them which means people can still post on them but no new friends can be added and it's not possible for anyone to log into the account.

It's to protect the privacy of the deceased. There may be content on there that is friends only that wasn't intended for his family and pms he wouldn't have wanted them to see.

That's Facebook policy. A person who has died cannot have an active profile. Once they know the person has died, they memorialise the account.

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By *uietlykinkymeWoman
over a year ago

kinky land

I had this conversation a few weeks ago with a friend.

A mutual childhood friend of ours died and the page is still on Fb. Its on my list but my friend removed the dead friend.

I can't bring myself to remove him as a friend. We didn't fall out.... He died.

But when others post stuff on his wall or on his account its just freaky.

I don't like getting updates from a dead person because there are no updates. I wish his family would shut it down. Each of us that knew him have to either delete him or have 'his updates' come through.

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By *imwildWoman
over a year ago

around

"Sad post doing rounds on fb. A family are trying to get their sons fb page reinstated. He died and according to family fb closed it down.

They only ever memorialise them which means people can still post on them but no new friends can be added and it's not possible for anyone to log into the account.

It's to protect the privacy of the deceased. There may be content on there that is friends only that wasn't intended for his family and pms he wouldn't have wanted them to see.

That's Facebook policy. A person who has died cannot have an active profile. Once they know the person has died, they memorialise the account."

You misunderstand the account was deleted by fb.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When my sister-in-law died suddenly the children kept her facebook going but after a few years the photo's disappeared and also some of the status'es. So i think when a profile just sits there doing nothing it will be deleted in the end anyway.

The children ended up setting up a memorial on "Gone to Soon" it was lovely and we go there to leave messages and photo's etc...Ruby

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By *unseeker34Couple
over a year ago

Newcastle

My late husbands Facebook is still active........his photos & posts about the kids etc are still there and I have a look sometimes......I also post pics of our kids to his wall as a kind of 'update' to him and his friends/family xx

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By *rynewMan
over a year ago

warrington

Unfortunately I have far too much experience in this area. Over the past 3 years I have lost 8 friends through a vast expanse of scenarios, or some through cancer another through war. There are numerous memorial pages for the individuals created from their profile pages, however and the biggest unfortunate thing is that if the page lays dormant for a period of time it is removed by Facebook.

My biggest suggestion is if you or someone close to the person in question arranged to have the profile page turned into a memorial one then you have the choice in the long run to keep it open or close it. If you this isn't done then the situation may be taken out of your hands by the powers that be ie Facebook.

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

I deleted a relatives facebook account when she died but I find it weird that the mother has her profile pic as her daughters spooks me out

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By *opping_candyWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

A friend died in a tragic accident a few years ago, and to my knowledge his account is still 'normal'. It is sad but also a happy reminder.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Sad post doing rounds on fb. A family are trying to get their sons fb page reinstated. He died and according to family fb closed it down.

They only ever memorialise them which means people can still post on them but no new friends can be added and it's not possible for anyone to log into the account.

It's to protect the privacy of the deceased. There may be content on there that is friends only that wasn't intended for his family and pms he wouldn't have wanted them to see.

That's Facebook policy. A person who has died cannot have an active profile. Once they know the person has died, they memorialise the account.

You misunderstand the account was deleted by fb. "

The family should have memorialised it to prevent that then. It must have been dormant for quite a while.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Still not sure what I think about this. I understand people's need to have something to remember their friend/ family member by. But also I feel very strongly about the privacy of the deceased person.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"Still not sure what I think about this. I understand people's need to have something to remember their friend/ family member by. But also I feel very strongly about the privacy of the deceased person.

it sends shivers down my spine if I am honest.

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