FabSwingers.com forum: Sometimes - it isn't what is being said

By *oe_Steve_NWest OP Couple
over a year ago

Bolton

that bugs me but the WAY in which it's said - do you react adversely more in a debate if the way in which information is supplied is put forward in a smug 'i'm better than you' way than if it's straightforward and heartfelt!? Z

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

I think everyone does, and why sometimes things get too heated as people get offended.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"that bugs me but the WAY in which it's said - do you react adversely more in a debate if the way in which information is supplied is put forward in a smug 'i'm better than you' way than if it's straightforward and heartfelt!? Z"

Totally true - which is why messages on MSN or via text can so easily be misread as they lack body language , pitch, intonation etc. The same statement in a meeting can be said with irony, sarcasm, cynicism, humour, as a question/ statement... etc.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

absolutely.... but the problem is that some people will always think they are "better than others" its just the way life is...

I would rather hear someones actual opinion in there own words rather then tow the line of a certain newspaper or copy an article word for word.....

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By *oe_Steve_NWest OP Couple
over a year ago

Bolton

Yes - thats exactly true - but some dudes just come over bad all the time! Z

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't stand one-upmanship!

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By *oe_Steve_NWest OP Couple
over a year ago

Bolton

absolutely.... but the problem is that some people will always think they are "better than others" its just the way life is...

I would rather hear someones actual opinion in there own words rather then tow the line of a certain newspaper or copy an article word for word....."

you know where i am with this! Z

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By *oe_Steve_NWest OP Couple
over a year ago

Bolton

"Can't stand one-upmanship!

Nope - us neither! Z

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one likes being condescended to!

There will always be something you don't know and someone who's an expert or armchair expert.

Some people have a natural affinity of sharing information/views without making you feel stupid or brow beaten.

Others can't help themselves: puffed up with their own self importance they'll spue out their views ad nauseum and become offensive if you don't agree with them.

I tend to avoid these types of people as they're usually 24 carot bores to boot!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is about being yourself in a conversation and remaining respectful to the other person, irrespective of their status and ability to express themselves?

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

I think you should say what is true to your own beliefs and not what someone else (Political party/Newspaper/News programme) has told you is the way to think.

As my grandad always said...."speak from your heart and not from your arse"

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By *oe_Steve_NWest OP Couple
over a year ago

Bolton

"No one likes being condescended to!

There will always be something you don't know and someone who's an expert or armchair expert.

Some people have a natural affinity of sharing information/views without making you feel stupid or brow beaten.

Others can't help themselves: puffed up with their own self importance they'll spue out their views ad nauseum and become offensive if you don't agree with them.

I tend to avoid these types of people as they're usually 24 carot bores to boot!

Def Sassy - cou;dn't agree more! I'm not thick but admit to not being the brightest bulb either at times - sometimes I think I know something but don't say anything - discretion is the better part of valour? or have i got that wrong too!!!! Z xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No one likes being condescended to!

There will always be something you don't know and someone who's an expert or armchair expert.

Some people have a natural affinity of sharing information/views without making you feel stupid or brow beaten.

Others can't help themselves: puffed up with their own self importance they'll spue out their views ad nauseum and become offensive if you don't agree with them.

I tend to avoid these types of people as they're usually 24 carot bores to boot!

Agreed - also, if you dont agree with somebody there is no need to be offensive. After all, diversity of opinions is what makes life (and the forums) fun IMHO

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

Plus what a boring world it would be if we all agreed about everything?

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By *ig badMan
over a year ago

Up North :-)

absolutely.... but the problem is that some people will always think they are "better than others" its just the way life is...

I would rather hear someones actual opinion in there own words rather then tow the line of a certain newspaper or copy an article word for word....."

Its often interesting how two different editors give a totally different angle on an event. It shows how things can be portrayed differently with the use of slightly different words.

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By *oe_Steve_NWest OP Couple
over a year ago

Bolton

"Plus what a boring world it would be if we all agreed about everything?"

I disagree - i think if we all agreed to disagree except for when we agree - and even then we could just pretend to agree but actually disagree - then - oh - can I have an aspirin? Z

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

"Plus what a boring world it would be if we all agreed about everything?

I disagree - i think if we all agreed to disagree except for when we agree - and even then we could just pretend to agree but actually disagree - then - oh - can I have an aspirin? Z"

agreed.....

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

oh I disagree with that !

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

Only because you never signed the agreement...

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Oh I never sign anything until the small print has been read at least three times

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By *oe_Steve_NWest OP Couple
over a year ago

Bolton

Only because you never signed the agreement...

That Ruggers is a right trouble maker - we all agree on that!? Z

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

I agree ! might have to ban myself

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By *oe_Steve_NWest OP Couple
over a year ago

Bolton

"I agree ! might have to ban myself

yep - good idea! Z xx

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By *ig badMan
over a year ago

Up North :-)

Only because you never signed the agreement...

That Ruggers is a right trouble maker - we all agree on that!? Z"

Ohhh no she isn't as long as she keeps that stick duster in her closet!

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Nothing is coming out of our closet bigbad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No one likes being condescended to!

There will always be something you don't know and someone who's an expert or armchair expert.

Some people have a natural affinity of sharing information/views without making you feel stupid or brow beaten.

Others can't help themselves: puffed up with their own self importance they'll spue out their views ad nauseum and become offensive if you don't agree with them.

I tend to avoid these types of people as they're usually 24 carot bores to boot!

No Zoe, you're spot on!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can't stand one-upmanship!

I can't stand two-upmanship.

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

"Can't stand one-upmanship!

I can't stand two-upmanship.

Don't knock it!

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By *oe_Steve_NWest OP Couple
over a year ago

Bolton

"Can't stand one-upmanship!

I can't stand two-upmanship.

Don't knock it!"

I've tried it and it's great! Z xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guess what I can fuck my own arse do you want to see lol

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"Guess what I can fuck my own arse do you want to see lol"
noooooooooooooo i aint watching you as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ment to post it on the other one hold on a sec. Im blonde

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