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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is It a fair assumption that someone who has been a member for over a year but doesn't have any verifications is a time waster.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"Is It a fair assumption that someone who has been a member for over a year but doesn't have any verifications is a time waster."
Is it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not really, they could of been taking a break.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

no. Assumptions are rarely fair.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

No.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

they might not be meeting, they might just be browsing the forums, unless they arranged a meet and didn't turn up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only of their own time?

Everyone must have their own reasons for being on here surely?

Maybe they meet and don't broadcast by way of verification?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They could just be an ugly fuck with no communication skill n dont know how to play the game

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No , they may be having the time of their lives meeting every night but decided that they don't need to whole of fab knowing who they have met.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No , they may be having the time of their lives meeting every night but decided that they don't need to whole of fab knowing who they have met. "

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

No. The time waster is someone who has arranged a confirmed meet, does not show nor communicate with you. There are lots of seasons people are on fab, and many of us use it to supplement our swinging lives, and it is not our primary life support system. It can especially take some single guys time to establish themselves too. Better an old profile sustained than someone perpetually creating new ones. If you have problems with people wasting your time, then report to admin. Idle speculation is wasted energy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is It a fair assumption that someone who has been a member for over a year but doesn't have any verifications is a time waster."

Not really some with lots of verifications can be timewasters others without very genuine. The real timewasters put up and delete profiles to get round being blocked. If you feel someone isn't right ignore them if your gut feeling says give them a chance go with it but putting faith in someone who penned a few lines isn't reliable in judging someone's attitude to meeting or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can't win, too many veris slag, not enough time wasters lol

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

I'd been here nigh on three years before I had a meet....

Also, not all meets verify you, for whatever reason - I dont like having loads of veris in my profile.

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By *eard-lincolnMan
over a year ago

near lincoln

I was on here a year without meeting I just used the old userplane chat rooms. Then one day I spoke to a local girl and never looked back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You can't win, too many veris slag, not enough time wasters lol "

You forgot the wrong sort of varies too! The fuck you met them!!! were not meeting you ones.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"I was on here a year without meeting I just used the old userplane chat rooms. Then one day I spoke to a local girl and never looked back "
By Jobe, that's good!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

NEWS FLASH!

Time wasters have verifications too!

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By *eard-lincolnMan
over a year ago

near lincoln


"I was on here a year without meeting I just used the old userplane chat rooms. Then one day I spoke to a local girl and never looked back By Jobe, that's good! "

It wasn't you was it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some of the folks on this site seem to be hung up on labelling other folks. If someone wants to chat and not meet means that they do not want to meet strangers and just chat!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No , they may be having the time of their lives meeting every night but decided that they don't need to whole of fab knowing who they have met. "

Very true. Ive met ppl who no veri's before. One ive met twice before. Dont matter whether ppl hv them or not. They cld still b a time waster even if they hv

loads.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, it's not fair, I wouldn't bother with them personally, because I'd assume they were not who they advertised to be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No , they may be having the time of their lives meeting every night but decided that they don't need to whole of fab knowing who they have met. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"no. Assumptions are rarely fair."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely not. You haven't got a time limit. Each to their own. Just be a bit cautious is what I would say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have quite a harsh selection process when chatting to people and we do generally make a negative judgement call against longterm unverified profiles. That said it's not necessarily a deal breaker although we would certainly not inconvenience ourselves massively in making arrangements to meet someone like that.

Would I label them a fake or time waster? No. Labelling other people or trying to define them is totally pointless and will achieve nothing. People should focus on how they select people and find a process that works for them rather than waste energy pigeon holing people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A timewaster by definition would be someone that wastes someone else's time. so if in that year they had been promising certain things to people then never following through without good reason and giving the impression they were looking to meet when they Actually have no intention therefore wasting people's time then yes you could say they were timewasters. but there are lots of reasons people have no veris after a year and as long as they are honest about why they are on here it's fine not everyone is on here to meet. we meet a couple socially a year ago and it took us a year to meet them again even though we kept in contact and had few arrangements fall through because of our family commitments, we could then have been acussed of being timewasters by some. everyone has different lives and expectations from the site and because they don't fit with yours doesn't make them timewasters, fakes or not genuine swingers !!!

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Is It a fair assumption that someone who has been a member for over a year but doesn't have any verifications is a time waster."

It's a possible indicator but not a given.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is It a fair assumption that someone who has been a member for over a year but doesn't have any verifications is a time waster.

It's a possible indicator but not a given."
So if you use the site solely for the chat rooms and forums your a time waster...........ok gotcha!

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By *nigmatic1Woman
over a year ago

A seaside town near you!


"No , they may be having the time of their lives meeting every night but decided that they don't need to whole of fab knowing who they have met. "

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

No.

They may be using the site how they want to.

Chat.

Cams.

Pics.

Don't waste your time wondering. Just leave them be.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Is It a fair assumption that someone who has been a member for over a year but doesn't have any verifications is a time waster.

It's a possible indicator but not a given.So if you use the site solely for the chat rooms and forums your a time waster...........ok gotcha!"

She said possible, not probable.

When a site gives us tools to choose our meets, some people would consider another who has been on the site a long time without verifications not serious about meeting. And people who do use the site solely for chatrooms and forums tend to put that on their profiles, thus making it easier for us looking for meets to avoid them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To me, a time waster is someone who has arranged a meet and no shows with either a poor excuse or nothing when you have taken the time to get ready and travelled to the meet. Then you truly have wasted your own personal time and money. If its a poor excuse or a genuine one the day before its frustrating but none of my time has really been wasted as I'd be on here chatting anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is It a fair assumption that someone who has been a member for over a year but doesn't have any verifications is a time waster.

It's a possible indicator but not a given.So if you use the site solely for the chat rooms and forums your a time waster...........ok gotcha!

She said possible, not probable.

When a site gives us tools to choose our meets, some people would consider another who has been on the site a long time without verifications not serious about meeting. And people who do use the site solely for chatrooms and forums tend to put that on their profiles, thus making it easier for us looking for meets to avoid them."
I know what the person said I was being somewhat ironic!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"To me, a time waster is someone who has arranged a meet and no shows with either a poor excuse or nothing when you have taken the time to get ready and travelled to the meet. Then you truly have wasted your own personal time and money. If its a poor excuse or a genuine one the day before its frustrating but none of my time has really been wasted as I'd be on here chatting anyway. "

That's my take on it too. I am quite able to waste my own time on here.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Is It a fair assumption that someone who has been a member for over a year but doesn't have any verifications is a time waster.

It's a possible indicator but not a given.So if you use the site solely for the chat rooms and forums your a time waster...........ok gotcha!

She said possible, not probable.

When a site gives us tools to choose our meets, some people would consider another who has been on the site a long time without verifications not serious about meeting. And people who do use the site solely for chatrooms and forums tend to put that on their profiles, thus making it easier for us looking for meets to avoid them.I know what the person said I was being somewhat ironic!"

Or just argumentative and obtuse. *shrug*

Sometimes people read what they want to read.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


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Only of their own time?

Everyone must have their own reasons for being on here surely?

Maybe they meet and don't broadcast by way of verification?"

^ This

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"Is It a fair assumption that someone who has been a member for over a year but doesn't have any verifications is a time waster."

if they wrote asking to meet, I would think they may be.

if I just came across their profile, then NO

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Is It a fair assumption that someone who has been a member for over a year but doesn't have any verifications is a time waster.

It's a possible indicator but not a given.So if you use the site solely for the chat rooms and forums your a time waster...........ok gotcha!

She said possible, not probable.

When a site gives us tools to choose our meets, some people would consider another who has been on the site a long time without verifications not serious about meeting. And people who do use the site solely for chatrooms and forums tend to put that on their profiles, thus making it easier for us looking for meets to avoid them."

Quite.

Plus a "timewaster" is someone who arranges meets and doesn't turn up.

Someone who doesn't want to meet in person and therefore doesn't arrange meets isn't a timewaster in my opinion.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Is It a fair assumption that someone who has been a member for over a year but doesn't have any verifications is a time waster.

It's a possible indicator but not a given.So if you use the site solely for the chat rooms and forums your a time waster...........ok gotcha!

She said possible, not probable.

When a site gives us tools to choose our meets, some people would consider another who has been on the site a long time without verifications not serious about meeting. And people who do use the site solely for chatrooms and forums tend to put that on their profiles, thus making it easier for us looking for meets to avoid them.

I know what the person said I was being somewhat ironic!"

I'm not sure that word means what you think it means.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To me, a time waster is someone who has arranged a meet and no shows with either a poor excuse or nothing when you have taken the time to get ready and travelled to the meet. Then you truly have wasted your own personal time and money. If its a poor excuse or a genuine one the day before its frustrating but none of my time has really been wasted as I'd be on here chatting anyway. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

why would it matter to you OP?

your a time traveller.

just go back in time and stop yourself from chatting to them

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By *uzzybeWoman
over a year ago

Darlington


"They could just be an ugly fuck with no communication skill n dont know how to play the game"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is It a fair assumption that someone who has been a member for over a year but doesn't have any verifications is a time waster.

It's a possible indicator but not a given.So if you use the site solely for the chat rooms and forums your a time waster...........ok gotcha!

She said possible, not probable.

When a site gives us tools to choose our meets, some people would consider another who has been on the site a long time without verifications not serious about meeting. And people who do use the site solely for chatrooms and forums tend to put that on their profiles, thus making it easier for us looking for meets to avoid them.

I know what the person said I was being somewhat ironic!

I'm not sure that word means what you think it means."
Indeed I do!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is It a fair assumption that someone who has been a member for over a year but doesn't have any verifications is a time waster.

It's a possible indicator but not a given.So if you use the site solely for the chat rooms and forums your a time waster...........ok gotcha!

She said possible, not probable.

When a site gives us tools to choose our meets, some people would consider another who has been on the site a long time without verifications not serious about meeting. And people who do use the site solely for chatrooms and forums tend to put that on their profiles, thus making it easier for us looking for meets to avoid them.I know what the person said I was being somewhat ironic!

Or just argumentative and obtuse. *shrug*

Sometimes people read what they want to read."
Indeed or I could be just lucky or lazy! Shrugs and walks away grinning!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is It a fair assumption that someone who has been a member for over a year but doesn't have any verifications is a time waster."

Time travelers shouldn't be too concerned with timewasters.

On a serious note, labelling someone a timewaster is often an unfair assumption made by the rejected in my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They could just be an ugly fuck with no communication skill n dont know how to play the game"

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