FabSwingers.com forum: Opinions on Kissing

By *Flackox OP Couple
over a year ago

London

Hi everyone we just wanted to know your thoughts on kissing as regards fullswap, we dont kiss when we swap but when the ladies play they are free to do what ever. We have previously met some good couples whom we had quality fun and this didnt seem to be a problem however recently we have had couples decline from meeting us as we do not kiss, question to all couples is it something all of you do???? x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No because that would mean me taking off my Balaclava

Johny Rotten

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By *utzzCouple
over a year ago

wrexham

Won't swap without it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We find kissing a part of the turn on and off us, it's a must. Respect to anyone that doesn't kiss but we wouldn't meet them either. We'd feel we were missing out and turning the sex cold n mechanical.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You do what suits you, if you want to kiss then kiss if you don't then don't.

There are plenty of couples with the same requirements as yourselves

As a single guy I wouldn't meet without kissing as it's part and parcel of the foreplay for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It all depends on the people the circumstances and so on but its not off limits we always think its strange someone wont kiss but they will suck cock and lick pussy but its what works for you that counts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are the same and have a no kissing rule. We like to keep it just for us as we feel it is an intimate act

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I wouldn't play without kissing, it's part of the sexual encounter for me and a big turn on

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

It's the best bit....well almost....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No defo no kissing each to there own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn't bother me either way. If they didn't want to kiss that's fine, I'd respect their wishes and still be happy to meet them.

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By *Flackox OP Couple
over a year ago

London

we just like to keep that to ourselves, i really dont mind if the wifey is kissing another lady but would never like to see her kiss another man as i would never wanna kiss anyone apart from my wife but oh well everyone to his own nice to hear all of your opinions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My husband is fine with not kissing the other woman, but I would not want to play with another man but not be able to kiss him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nowt beats that "Oh this shit is on!" feeling you get from the first kiss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We don't kiss other people with passion or love. I find the whole it's ok for women to kiss each other but not men and women thing hard to get my head round but everyone has their preferences.

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

We prefer not to kiss. It's not a rule but we just don't feel inclined to (especially me).

When Vince kisses me, the Earth moves and I just don't feel that with anyone else. So to ME, it is kissing that feels cold and mechanical...

As I said, it's not a rule but if we do kiss I just feel like I'm "going through the motions" (so to speak) for their sake. I do find sometimes that I will naturally turn away though. It just can't be helped.

I'd much rather have their teeth sunk into my neck/chest/thigh or vice versa.

That's if I'm not gagged.

- Amy. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We find kissing a part of the turn on and off us, it's a must. Respect to anyone that doesn't kiss but we wouldn't meet them either. We'd feel we were missing out and turning the sex cold n mechanical. "

Pretty much how we feel too

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By *Flackox OP Couple
over a year ago

London

"We don't kiss other people with passion or love. I find the whole it's ok for women to kiss each other but not men and women thing hard to get my head round but everyone has their preferences."

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By *Flackox OP Couple
over a year ago

London

"We prefer not to kiss. It's not a rule but we just don't feel inclined to (especially me).

When Vince kisses me, the Earth moves and I just don't feel that with anyone else. So to ME, it is kissing that feels cold and mechanical...

I'd much rather have their teeth sunk into my neck/chest/thigh or vice versa.

That's if I'm not gagged.

- Amy. x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Difficult to have gentle/normal sex without kissing. Many say they don't like to... but it's bloody hard...

Role play and using whilst partner watched, could manage without kissing...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think I could meet without it, I love kissing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

kissing and cuddling is the big lead on to whatever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would respect anyones choice whether to kiss or now but to me its an integral part of sex and plus......it gets me going ,so all good.

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By *W69Couple
over a year ago

Bournemouth

Love kissing, but respect others boundaries if they don't.

Must admit both find it tricky as to where your mouths go if you don't kiss during the sex part though...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gota kiss or no nookie

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By *osweet69Couple
over a year ago

portsmouth

Has to be kissing for us to fully enjoy the encounter.

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By *adyGardenWoman
over a year ago

LONDON (se)

"Hi everyone we just wanted to know your thoughts on kissing as regards fullswap, we dont kiss when we swap but when the ladies play they are free to do what ever. We have previously met some good couples whom we had quality fun and this didnt seem to be a problem however recently we have had couples decline from meeting us as we do not kiss, question to all couples is it something all of you do???? x"

Each to their own and I believe as a couple that swing you need something that is just yours. Don't change that for anyone.

I love kissing but won't if the other person saves that for thier partner only

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By *uietlykinkymeWoman
over a year ago

kinky land

"It doesn't bother me either way. If they didn't want to kiss that's fine, I'd respect their wishes and still be happy to meet them. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If i was approached by a guy on here and he said no kissing...i wouldnt meet, simples

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

We used to have a no MF kissing rule, but after a few meets where we both struggled not to kiss our playmates we re-thought things. I still won't kiss smokers of either gender and then there are the really bad, slobbery kissers

I am happy to meet people that don't kiss though, as I understand where they are coming from.

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By *Flackox OP Couple
over a year ago

London

"If i was approached by a guy on here and he said no kissing...i wouldnt meet, simples "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally think kissing can help you explore someone's body, it elevates any first meet nerves and definatly much more passionate, kissing I think is vital to enjoy sex and makes it intimate otherwise it's just awkward sex!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't want to kiss either of the couple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kissing is a must for us and i know its each to there own an all that but the girls can kiss but the girl wont kiss the man is a joke just dont understand it at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kissing is a must for me.

Sensual kissing is a real turn-on

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By *andp01Couple
over a year ago

here n there

"Personally I wouldn't play without kissing, it's part of the sexual encounter for me and a big turn on

We agree with this

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By *leasures4Couple
over a year ago

East midlands

We have a no kissing rule apart from fem on fem and it hasn't affected a single meet as yet...

If it ever did then they obviously aren't for us.

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By *leasurexxWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

I've met a couple that didn't kiss and found it really hard not to! When the guy was playing with me it seemed the natural thing to do but instead he just looked into my eyes with such desire I think that was more intense than a kiss would have been lol so no I don't understand it x

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By *leasures4Couple
over a year ago

East midlands

"Kissing is a must for us and i know its each to there own an all that but the girls can kiss but the girl wont kiss the man is a joke just dont understand it at all.

Just because you don't understand it doesn't mean its a "joke"

I'm sure there's things we might want to do to you that you'd say no to. We wouldn't say it was a joke. We would respect your preferences...

Each to their own and all that....

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Kissing is a must for us and i know its each to there own an all that but the girls can kiss but the girl wont kiss the man is a joke just dont understand it at all.

I don't think its a joke but it is a preference that I don't understand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each to there own said that u said u got a no kissing rule but the women can kiss hows that a no kissing rule an to me it is a joke but that's my opinion on it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iam not saying no kissing is joke that's fine but the whole we got a no kissing rule but the women are allowed now that's what iam talking about its just contradicting yourselves xx

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I can quite understand it from a couples point of view but for me as a single lady I could not have sex without kissing first

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By *leasures4Couple
over a year ago

East midlands

"Each to there own said that u said u got a no kissing rule but the women can kiss hows that a no kissing rule an to me it is a joke but that's my opinion on it."

Sorry, I struggled to understand that.

Did you say if we have a no kissing rule, and I kiss women, how is it a no kissing rule?

If so..

We say that we don't kiss apart from fem on fem. Its our preference.... we want to keep that "one thing" for each other and not share that "one thing" with the opposite sex. It might be funny to you but we matter to us. Our feelings come before anyone's else's. (We do care about other people hence why we make it clear and dont waste anyones time) This is about us at the end of the day and an extention of our sex life.

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By *ScotsmanMan
over a year ago

ayrshire

"I can quite understand it from a couples point of view but for me as a single lady I could not have sex without kissing first

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. i dont

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single female here but I must have kissing and with tongued too. Turns me on

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

"I can quite understand it from a couples point of view but for me as a single lady I could not have sex without kissing first

. i dont

You don't what? understand or have to kiss before sex?

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By *ScotsmanMan
over a year ago

ayrshire

"I can quite understand it from a couples point of view but for me as a single lady I could not have sex without kissing first

. i dont

You don't what? understand or have to kiss before sex?

"
.. i dont understand how some folk can watch there wife fuk someone.... . .. .and i dont understand why Thats less personal than a kiss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kissing is always great in meets, have done them without and not as intense and feel clinical and not as fun.

And at one meet the woman when her husband left the room to use the bathroom grabbed me and snogged me and said "that's better he doesn't like me doing it whilst he watches but wanted to do it since we met up"

good kisser too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kissing isn't a must with us, but we prefer it

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By *leasures4Couple
over a year ago

East midlands

"I can quite understand it from a couples point of view but for me as a single lady I could not have sex without kissing first

. i dont

You don't what? understand or have to kiss before sex?

.. i dont understand how some folk can watch there wife fuk someone.... . .. .and i dont understand why Thats less personal than a kiss

Its totally different connection for us. I love to see my man have sex with a woman and him to see me get fucked but we both don't like the kissing as that's mine and his intimacy.

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By *ScotsmanMan
over a year ago

ayrshire

"I can quite understand it from a couples point of view but for me as a single lady I could not have sex without kissing first

. i dont

You don't what? understand or have to kiss before sex?

.. i dont understand how some folk can watch there wife fuk someone.... . .. .and i dont understand why Thats less personal than a kiss

Its totally different connection for us. I love to see my man have sex with a woman and him to see me get fucked but we both don't like the kissing as that's mine and his intimacy. "
iknow its quite popular..everyone is different x X X

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By *leasures4Couple
over a year ago

East midlands

"I can quite understand it from a couples point of view but for me as a single lady I could not have sex without kissing first

. i dont

You don't what? understand or have to kiss before sex?

.. i dont understand how some folk can watch there wife fuk someone.... . .. .and i dont understand why Thats less personal than a kiss

Its totally different connection for us. I love to see my man have sex with a woman and him to see me get fucked but we both don't like the kissing as that's mine and his intimacy. iknow its quite popular..everyone is different x X X"

I think its a mix really. We have been to clubs and parties and never seen people who play kiss apart from fems. Either we are going daft or oblivious...lol!

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By *Flackox OP Couple
over a year ago

London

"Each to there own said that u said u got a no kissing rule but the women can kiss hows that a no kissing rule an to me it is a joke but that's my opinion on it.

Sorry, I struggled to understand that.

Did you say if we have a no kissing rule, and I kiss women, how is it a no kissing rule?

If so..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The keeping it for yourselves bit i understand but ur not if ur kissing the woman are u so what's the difference between that an kissing the bloke.

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By *Flackox OP Couple
over a year ago

London

A lot of difference in fact a whole lot of difference, the sight of my wife kissing another lady would be so erotic and sexy to me but the sight of her kissing another guy i would find repugnant and at the end of the day you dont really need to understand other peoples preference you just cant as long as youre not in their shoes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had this rule when we first started swinging and we soon dropped it as it felt awkward to us. Kissing gets you in the mood

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You wanted to know our thoughts on an u got it that's my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have exactly the same rule as the op. Fem on fem kissing but not opposite sex kissing. We keep it for ourselves as it is an intimate act. We see it as an intimate act because we do it so much like when we go out to work we kiss each other because we love each other. We aren't on here for intimacy we have each other for that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have exactly the same rule as the op. Fem on fem kissing but not opposite sex kissing. We keep it for ourselves as it is an intimate act. We see it as an intimate act because we do it so much like when we go out to work we kiss each other because we love each other. We aren't on here for intimacy we have each other for that. "

Absolutely!

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester

Christ, I'm going to have to rethink a lot of things if kissing is considered a more intimate act than sucking cock/pussy or shagging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Christ, I'm going to have to rethink a lot of things if kissing is considered a more intimate act than sucking cock/pussy or shagging. "

a cock doesn't kiss back

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By *ScotsmanMan
over a year ago

ayrshire

does that mean when you say goodbye you give the other couple a wee peck on the arshole . x x X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can quite understand it from a couples point of view but for me as a single lady I could not have sex without kissing first

. i dont

You don't what? understand or have to kiss before sex?

.. i dont understand how some folk can watch there wife fuk someone.... . .. .and i dont understand why Thats less personal than a kiss

Mine doesn't watch me

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

"Christ, I'm going to have to rethink a lot of things if kissing is considered a more intimate act than sucking cock/pussy or shagging. "

When you think about it kissing is more intimate as you are face to face with the other person, breathing their breath and so close, you cannot avoid eye contact, you don't that from doggy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People have their own boundaries and surely these should be respected without judgement?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kissing is a big turn on for me I couldn't play with anyone who can't or won't kiss

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By *leasurexxWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

"does that mean when you say goodbye you give the other couple a wee peck on the arshole . x x X

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester

"Christ, I'm going to have to rethink a lot of things if kissing is considered a more intimate act than sucking cock/pussy or shagging.

a cock doesn't kiss back "

No, but it can wink at you.

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester

"Christ, I'm going to have to rethink a lot of things if kissing is considered a more intimate act than sucking cock/pussy or shagging.

When you think about it kissing is more intimate as you are face to face with the other person, breathing their breath and so close, you cannot avoid eye contact, you don't that from doggy

So you're telling me if you're sitting chatting to a bloke and you end up snogging you'd find that a more intimate act than if he buried his face between your thighs and began lapping away?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I wouldn't meet anyone who didn't kiss... I love kissing, builds the anticipation and gets the blood flowing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we had this same rue in the early days and while i felt still quite comfortable i could see my hubby was struggling with not being able to kiss as like said above its all part of foreplay so we had a talk about t and agreed that it was for us an essential part of the fun, although that said sometimes i don't kiss sometimes i just don't feel the need to

we have found quite a few of our early rules have been adapted now what worked early on doesn't suit us anymore

we all have different requirements and you should never feel the need to justify it as you will always find peeps that suit your requirements

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do kiss on meets but some I wish I hadn't as they were not good at it.

Going straight in with a hard tongue is not nice kissing, ( I was grimacing at the memories as I wrote that lol)

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By *leasurexxWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

I think sometimes when couples want a bifem and there is no kissing makes you feel like a toy that don't need batteries! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I was to meet someone who didn't kiss I couldn't even think about getting into bed with them. For me its the biggest turn on , gentle build up and wonderous foreplay that can take place between two people. To me sex without foreplay and kissing would be cold and mechanical and very detached . I understand everyone has different views etc but do find it weird that someone can touch lick suck , fuck , insert fingers other objects and see you at your most excited levels yet not find that more intimate than kissing .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me personally, i'd have to kiss. I adore it and that's what really gets me going. Of course, if i did meet a couple or even a female who didn't prefer to kiss then i'd respect that.

..but kissing for me is a really huge turn on. Those who've met me know i do love to kiss lol

But, each to their own of course. Don't think to yourself that you'd have to change your own rules and boundaries to suit other couples. You're here for your own pleasure - so do that which you are both comfortable with and take it from there.

[not that i need to be telling you that. I'm still a baby lol]

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

The only way I can think of to describe it is I can seperate love and sex. - I can fuck someone to fulfil a primal urge that masturbation doesn't satisfy and not have feelings for them.

But I wouldn't kiss someone I didn't love. Even kissing fuck buddies in the past, just didn't do anything for me. I was attracted to them and enjoyed giving them pleasure but felt no inclination or desire to kiss them...

It's a weird one but yes, kissing to me IS more intimate than sucking/fucking/being licked by someone. It's not intentional, just how it feels.

- Amy. x

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

"Christ, I'm going to have to rethink a lot of things if kissing is considered a more intimate act than sucking cock/pussy or shagging.

When you think about it kissing is more intimate as you are face to face with the other person, breathing their breath and so close, you cannot avoid eye contact, you don't that from doggy

So you're telling me if you're sitting chatting to a bloke and you end up snogging you'd find that a more intimate act than if he buried his face between your thighs and began lapping away? "

Yes that's what I said

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By *uicylucy76Woman
over a year ago

thornton cleveleys

"Nowt beats that "Oh this shit is on!" feeling you get from the first kiss. "

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By *Flackox OP Couple
over a year ago

London

"The only way I can think of to describe it is I can seperate love and sex. - I can fuck someone to fulfil a primal urge that masturbation doesn't satisfy and not have feelings for them.

It's a weird one but yes, kissing to me IS more intimate than sucking/fucking/being licked by someone. It's not intentional, just how it feels.

- Amy. x"

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester

"Christ, I'm going to have to rethink a lot of things if kissing is considered a more intimate act than sucking cock/pussy or shagging.

When you think about it kissing is more intimate as you are face to face with the other person, breathing their breath and so close, you cannot avoid eye contact, you don't that from doggy

So you're telling me if you're sitting chatting to a bloke and you end up snogging you'd find that a more intimate act than if he buried his face between your thighs and began lapping away?

Yes that's what I said

Don't believe you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it all hinges on the teeth!

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