FabSwingers.com forum: Rejection

By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Are you fearful of rejection or do you take it on the chin and move on??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are you fearful of rejection or do you take it on the chin and move on?? "

Depends what it is.

On here? No.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's that?....

...and fuck it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as it's polite then it's fine. Especially on here.

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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Are you fearful of rejection or do you take it on the chin and move on??

Depends what it is.

On here? No."

I suppose in every context but here included

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends what the circumstances are

On here... Not at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've always said that rejection is part of life. It's how you deal with it that matters. I like to think that I handle it well, and try to seek the positive from rejection as "what can I do better next time?"

On here? it's not real rejection. So I don't give a fuck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you watching first dates by any chance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No point sticking around.

Move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was married I wouldn't try to instigate sex as he would be nasty if he didn't want it. It's made me wary of approaching men now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Errrr... Wots rejection...???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not at all...we all have our type of person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah it's part of life, I'm a big girl I can take it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I was married I wouldn't try to instigate sex as he would be nasty if he didn't want it. It's made me wary of approaching men now"
I know that one, bad vibes hardly make you " the temptress"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I was married I wouldn't try to instigate sex as he would be nasty if he didn't want it. It's made me wary of approaching men now"

when i was married if i didn't instigate sex i didn't get any!!

got rid of him last year

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On here no....its a big shop window and im sometimes seen as the "value" range by some....their loss cos im a decent enough bloke blah blah......in real life maybe...

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

A rejection is only a rejection when the "rejectee" thinks it is. It could also simply be seen as "different strokes for different folks" ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A rejection is only a rejection when the "rejectee" thinks it is. It could also simply be seen as "different strokes for different folks" ? "

Wot you talkin 'bout Willis..???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Almost always let go and move on quickly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are you fearful of rejection or do you take it on the chin and move on?? "

its just part of life, carry on regardless

Nice new pic btw

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

No fear here.

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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Are you fearful of rejection or do you take it on the chin and move on??

its just part of life, carry on regardless

Nice new pic btw

Gee thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I was married I wouldn't try to instigate sex as he would be nasty if he didn't want it. It's made me wary of approaching men now

when i was married if i didn't instigate sex i didn't get any!!

got rid of him last year

I didn't get any either. He didn't sleep in my bed. Just me and the cat. Which he was allergic to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I give rejection so I should take it,then move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

move on..then message again...sometimes abusively but then pleadingly..its the only way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not fearful of rejection at all, whether that be on here or in real life. So it would be a just move on for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

doesnt bother me what so ever some will like me some wont. I cam across an expression today that i thought was quite amusing and suits this thread nicely.

"i'd rather be someone shot of the finest 18 year old whiskey, than everyones same cup to tea"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

doesnt bother me what so ever some will like me some wont. I cam across an expression today that i thought was quite amusing and suits this thread nicely.

"i'd rather be someone shot of the finest 18 year old whiskey, than everyones same cup to tea"

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester

"I've always said that rejection is part of life. It's how you deal with it that matters. I like to think that I handle it well, and try to seek the positive from rejection as "what can I do better next time?"

On here? it's not real rejection. So I don't give a fuck."

That's the definition of rejection on here... Not giving a fuck. Or getting one.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

That's the definition of rejection on here... Not giving a fuck. Or getting one."
That just about sums it up nicely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take it on the chin and move in, life's too short to worry about shit like that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would guess just about every guy still here after 12 mins is used to it but accepting it? I would say in reality it varies with each day sometimes its what a bugger others its hey ho and the odd time its relief but accepting it is never a problem that's life but I would be a liar if I said I wasn't disappointed at times as I only contact people I am attracted to.

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By *heshsteve1972Man
over a year ago

Prestbury

Used to worry me. But I am more confident now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are you fearful of rejection or do you take it on the chin and move on?? "
question is do you take it on the chin??

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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Are you fearful of rejection or do you take it on the chin and move on?? question is do you take it on the chin??"

I wear my big girls knickers of course I know myself and have confidence in myself

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By *my-blackTV/TS
over a year ago

Poole

rejection on here can take several forms from people blocking you to unpleasant emails. Luckily I havent suffered either yet (and no thats not a cue for you lot to send me a load of random dear johns

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on here its mostly just about 2 or more people having fun and doing what they all want to do. if someone doesnt want to play then thats cool and just walk on

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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Are you fearful of rejection or do you take it on the chin and move on?? question is do you take it on the chin??

I wear my big girls knickers of course I know myself and have confidence in myself

So yes I take rejection on the chin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I was married I wouldn't try to instigate sex as he would be nasty if he didn't want it. It's made me wary of approaching men now

when i was married if i didn't instigate sex i didn't get any!!

got rid of him last year

I didn't get any either. He didn't sleep in my bed. Just me and the cat. Which he was allergic to

LOL!

we might as well have been in bunk beds.

onwards and upwards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it would depend on what the rejection was to how I would take it. I'm quite a sensitive little soul at heart.

On here I'm not emotionally involved with anyone so can't see being rejected as an issue.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Generally it doesn't bother me as I seldom ask people for a meet, so it's not a factor. However, on the odd time I have requested a meet and feel that I strongly match what they are looking for and then get blown out, I do feel a bit puzzled and deflated. I just build a Voodoo Doll likeness and spend the rest of the week chucking darts at it and sitting on it when I need to fart.

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By *adyGardenWoman
over a year ago

LONDON (se)

From people on here most certainly not.

My heart is well guarded so you could say I am as I don't get close emotionally easily.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"When I was married I wouldn't try to instigate sex as he would be nasty if he didn't want it. It's made me wary of approaching men now"

Same for me. I was made to feel like I was attacking my ex if I started anything but the one time I rejected him as I was knackered after a really ling day at work I got it in the neck!!!

It still does affect my forwardness in instigating sex even though I know I won't get the same reaction as before.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't care about on this site. But I would never approach anyone in a club. And it is this reason why we have never played I assume. It's all to do with my lack of confidence and fear of rejection. I get so frustrated with myself for not approaching anyone but I just can't, even with a drink in me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have a few more then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you can't handle rejection then swinging is not for you

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

no man is worth crying over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm fearful of it but when it happens we have to get over it

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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"If you can't handle rejection then swinging is not for you"

I disagree we are on here for a reason where we don't appeal to some and they may reject it does not mean we don't appeal to others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On here? No... Life in general, sometimes! I suppose it depends what I am fearful off or what it is that I'm being rejected from!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you can't handle rejection then swinging is not for you

I disagree we are on here for a reason where we don't appeal to some and they may reject it does not mean we don't appeal to others "

I agree with Misscheeky... It depends on how you are rejected. Some ppl can be very cruel and vile when a polite no would surfice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Deal with it move on......til the times right to get revenge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't care about on this site. But I would never approach anyone in a club. And it is this reason why we have never played I assume. It's all to do with my lack of confidence and fear of rejection. I get so frustrated with myself for not approaching anyone but I just can't, even with a drink in me.

amber u can sit with me..I wont even grope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you can't handle rejection then swinging is not for you"

That's rubbish! You could say the same about dating, applying for jobs, all sorts, rejection is a part of everyday life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

amber u can sit with me..I wont even grope

*cough cough coBOLLOCKSugh cough*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes we float someone's boat sometimes we don't....it's not an issue. However if getting meets is important to your self esteem then you are likely to take it as a rejection and feel it more.

Being rejected when emotionally involved might make it more difficult to let go and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been shocked a couple of times, or maybe bemused but take it on the chin and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on context,

rejection for a mortgage = v upset,

rejection of a chat up line = fun.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Are you fearful of rejection or do you take it on the chin and move on?? "

Not fearful of anything. Miffed if rejected for a job as only apply for ones I really want. Upset but don't show it if girls *reject* me for their dad. On here? Oh please!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On here no. I used to be very afraid of rejection, but it was something I realised I needed to overcome, worked at it, and am much better these days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In real life I meant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On here its forgotten about within 5 seconds

In real life I was once rejected by someone I was crazy about, I now have no fear as I know that nothing will ever make me feel as shit as that did.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I take on chin its not nice just wish some folk would not turn vile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are you fearful of rejection or do you take it on the chin and move on?? "

take it on the chin and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just sulk. Cry . Have a tantrum . Then move on

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

On here it doesn't bother me. I wouldn't shag me so although I send messages, no thanks is the default setting for expectations. Interest is a positive rather than lack of interest being a negative.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In real life I was once rejected by someone I was crazy about, I now have no fear as I know that nothing will ever make me feel as shit as that did. "

^^^^ I know that feeling. I was in love with him and it still hurts!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to think I don't particularly like/fancy everybody so I think it's unreasonable for everybody to like/fancy me. (Even tho I'm gorgeous lol) Just part of life I suppose.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the time, especially as I'm job hunting at the moment. I think it will make me appreciate being accepted more xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing ventured, nothing gained.. Though I'm sure I've ignored the wisdom behind that many times and on occasion discovered that the fear of failure/rejection is far more crippling than the failure/rejection itself...

Sadly that knowledge probably won't make a massive difference to decisions about future endeavours!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

good god, been rejected so much not bothered now, move on and get over it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being Perfect i have never had the misfortune of being rejected, I should think it could be slightly humiliating though for those lesser Mortals

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