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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I feel like I want to give up. I am on my second instructor and still doing rubbish. Is there anyone else who is having lessons who can tell me the sorts of things they do wrong, to make me feel better. My instructors say I am the same as everyone else, but I am not so sure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go on recommendation for an instructor

Keep practising

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By *leasurexxWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

I've tried lots over the yrs lol and always gave up! Only just have I found someone that has got me further than before and I'm almost ready for my test

) xx he's based in Tamworth where are you? xx

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

"I feel like I want to give up. I am on my second instructor and still doing rubbish. Is there anyone else who is having lessons who can tell me the sorts of things they do wrong, to make me feel better. My instructors say I am the same as everyone else, but I am not so sure. "

I learnt with the AA.

They have to pass advanced driving courses to qualify. They're great IMO. They dont waste your time and are more interested in teaching you than puling you over and showing how an internal combustion engine works

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By *ucsparkMan
over a year ago

dudley

Well I passed on 17 birthday but they stopped me driving. Heard that the intense course can be good

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Its a long time since either of us learned to drive but I do remember reading about a woman who was so nervous and gripped the steering wheel so tightly that she pulled it off in her hands. Over 30 years ago my friend took her test and was so nervous that she started to sob as she got in the car and was delivered back to work with us still sobbing hysterically test having been abandoned

. Mr N's mum drove into a field when she was a learner. I used to take what felt like hours reversing round corners painstakingly trying to keep the car in a smooth line. We all get it wrong when we're learning...blimey I see experienced drivers unable to follow lanes on a roundabout every night!

Driving is one of those things that will suddenly fall into place. Don't lose heart

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I learnt with the AA.

Alcoholics Anonymous teach you to drive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if you dont my mind me asking how many lessons have you had with each instructor ?

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

I learnt with the AA.

Alcoholics Anonymous teach you to drive

haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Relax and listen to what instructor wants you do,don't panic if you make a mistake,talk to yourself in your head run through what you have do.

And all instructors pass the same test and register with same body or they can't take money from you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am a driving instructor, happy to answer any questions, you may have just Message me. Just remember each person is different so what might be right for someone ! May be different for you, people learn at different rates! I have had students pass in under 20 hours and some take considerably longer ! The DSA say the average is 50 hours paid and 20 hours private !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just get a guy on your test and offer him a bj....aint that what most women do....

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Just get a guy on your test and offer him a bj....aint that what most women do....

Hope that's a joke.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just get a guy on your test and offer him a bj....aint that what most women do....

Hope that's a joke."
Take it anyway you like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im nearly ready for both tests. What's up? I've only done 2 hours a week. Only had 2 crap lessons and that crew because I had too much going on and didn't concentrate... Pm me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am a driving instructor, happy to answer any questions, you may have just Message me. Just remember each person is different so what might be right for someone ! May be different for you, people learn at different rates! I have had students pass in under 20 hours and some take considerably longer ! The DSA say the average is 50 hours paid and 20 hours private ! "

The DSA would wouldn't they?

OP, why not choose a quiet period and go on a long leisurely drive, under supervision, to say the coast, limiting the technical aspects and just enjoying the flow of driving? Get some confidence in. Rinse and repeat till you're more comfortable and it's almost second nature.

And remember, we're all brilliant faultless drivers. It's the other pillocks on the road who can't drive.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

if you dont my mind me asking how many lessons have you had with each instructor ?

Hi. I have had 42 with one and 7 with this one. Don't practise outside of lessons. I do things like take my foot off the clutch to fast sometimes. Don't pay attention to Road signs as concentrating on driving.

Thank you everyone for your help. Have not had chance to reply to all yet. But I will

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

luton

Just take things easy and go at your own pace,it's like swinging you will get the any of it lol,p's will be parked up Ona45 near dunchurh if you want any more advice lol

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

It took a long time before I felt I was driving the car and it wasn't driving me. I couldn't reverse round corners. Roundabouts were a nightmare.

11 years after my test I've driven dozens of different vehicles from a tiny car through to a DB9 and a huge mini bus. And I've driven in12 different countries in both manual and automatic cars.

Don't give up. Persevere. I was just 3 days past my 40th birthday when I passed my test.

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City

Stick with the same instructor and don't give up.

I watched my friends chop and change instructors all the time, took them forever to pass.

I stayed with the same one, stuck to 2 hours a week and passed first time.

Have faith in yourself and relax and enjoy the lessons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I learnt with the AA.

Alcoholics Anonymous teach you to drive

It's enough to drive you to drink

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By *ustfun7788Man
over a year ago

Nearby

My ex took those calms stuff just to calm her nerves, help her concentrate, took her a while to pass, she had private practise though, it helps a lot, even if its someone who can take you somewhere off road or something, and just keep practicing, don't give up

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By *O LEE FUKMan
over a year ago

Midlothian

When i was 17 i spent £300 on a ford escort to get my confidence up and had a mate with licence next to me.

I was always the nominated driver when out and about.

Done that for 6 months had 4 lessons and passed first time.

My dad passed after me he would be the driver when out with the L plates and had 6 lessons and passed.

I'd highly recommend getting wee run around car to get confidence and experience before taking proper lessons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had 5 instructors before I found one I could learn with. They all have the same skills but personality clashes can mean you don't get on and I found once I had someone I got on with I was fine..

I don't take not being good at something very well... I didn't want to drive either being a biker as I saw car drivers as ignorant idiots that were mindless... But my final instructor was a biker too... So it helped.

I also had my own car that people took me out In..

I had 30 lessons and passed first time.

Cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me and my sister started to learn to drive at roughly the same time. I was lucky enough to be able to buy and insure a car so it enabled me to drive with my mum in between lessons, my sister wasn't able to do that straight away. We are all different granted but I think being able to practice privately gave me more confidence. I passed my test first time after about 4 months whereas my sister took over 9 months of lessons.

To just be able to drive without any pressure or specific instructions I think is invaluable so I would highly recommend this.

I also wouldn't swap instructors as I think this will put you back to the starting point as they will all do things slightly different and if you are nervous already it may confuse you which could lead to a further loss of concentration.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

A lot of what you guys are saying rings true for me. The bit about Road signs especially because I am really nervous. My new driving instructor says I don't breath for ages which I never noticed but it's because I am concentrating sooo much. I will get sam to take me out in our car. Just a bit difficult with children. But could practise manoeuvres I suppose.

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By *udie_GirlTV/TS
over a year ago

Rochdale

Driving is in large part a manipulative skill, in terms of controlling the vehicle. The key to that is repetition. At the risk of repeating myself, it's repetition, repetition, repetition.

Smoothness comes with time, so don't push it. It'll come eventually. Eventually the body will remember the action sequences of, say, changing gear, without any concious input from you other than to initiate the action. Eventually, the need to change gear will be decided subconciously.

Slightly different case with judging what goes on outside the vehicle, i.e hazard perception. Newer drivers (not just younger ones) tend to have a kind of tunnel vision when it comes to their attention, or as I prefer to think of it, a lack of moment to moment awareness of their surroundings. This can range from remembering where that bollard was that you saw when reversing into a parking bay, to wondering what happened to that motorcyclist you saw 4 seconds ago in your mirror.

Instructors. All should in theory teach to the same standards, but there's a world of difference between knowing the knowledge and theory behind driving/teaching, and competently imparting those skills and knowledge to a student. At the very least, there needs to be some form of rapport between yourself and your tutor. If he or she comes across to you as cold and distant, you should seriously think about moving on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just make sure you are insured on the family car, as i know many people that overlook this side of things and you dont want points on a licence before you get it.

dont forget, not everyone can just get something straight away.

its like everything, practice makes perfect.

i passed 1st time after 5 lessons, no idea how.

over concentrating can be just as bad as not concentrating at all, as you miss loads of things you should be seeing, such as signs and pedestrians (dont forget, a mobile phone to the ear makes pedestrians invincible).

try to relax, my ex used calms too, and she said they helped immensley.

once you 'get it' it will become second nature.

that said, im sorry to say, but not everyone does 'get it'.

good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if you dont my mind me asking how many lessons have you had with each instructor ?

Thank you everyone for your help. Have not had chance to reply to all yet. But I will

If you find you get along well with your instructor stick with him/her maybe take a full lesson and just do clutch control ?

You take your foot of the clutch too fast dont worry it will come. It could be worse you could be pullong out dangerously on other motorists even speeding.

if your going to practice with your other half just be careful not to pick up on any bad habits.

talk to your self in your head of course talk your self thru what your doing it might help you calm down a little and not panic as much.

Lots of good advice so far hope all goes well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clutch will come, treat each move away as a hill start nice and gentle and you will soon be away ! Remember the basics and the rest will follow, and get your MSPSL working for you in plenty of time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol the AA have to pass advanced driving course's lol what bolox who told you that?

I know a guy who works for them now on a trainee licence! !

Pink badge not green for those who dont know. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its MSMPSL!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You learn to drive after you pass for the moment you have to focus on what you have to do too pass,, every lesson should from now on be on the course you will drive on a test,, learn the road,, the hazzards,, the signs on posts & the tarmac,, memories the traffic light sequence,, in time the route will hold no fear,, sweet now take control the instructor wants to get from a2b in one piece,, dress so you feel top dollar,, relax & understand you can & will pass if it takes 10 tests or 1 more,,

Enjoy driving its a pass to every where.. Its the modern equivalent off the pill in the sixty's for a woman,, you want it you can go get it

& passing as a man who cares your just adding to the potential arseholes on the road full of ego lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

& yes that makes Mr a potential arsehole on the road,,, the ego is under control... x

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Just to throw a curved ball at the situation, I'm good at driving people round the bend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its MSMPSL!!"
err no it's not !

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