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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why is it so hard for single guys to arrange a meet let alone get a reply? Its the one thing that really annoys me about here is not getting a reply just a no thanks would do ha rant over

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By *tupidityDictatesWoman
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

Why do single guys always complain that they can't get laid on a sex site, it really annoys me ffs.

You have no better chance of getting a fuck on here than you would in a pub, just because we're on here it doesn't mean we owe you a seeing to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wondered when today's post would be up !!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it so hard for single guys to arrange a meet let alone get a reply? Its the one thing that really annoys me about here is not getting a reply just a no thanks would do ha rant over "
its because 9 times out of 10 so called single guys ....aint ....simples .. I know coz I had angry wifey on phone one day of cause it was all my fault not his ....nobhead

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

several reasons

1 your one of thousands on here

2 from our point of _iew replace 80% of your cock pics with other pics! most fems want to see more than a cock!!

3, 5 weeks is no time at all for single males on here

Hope this helps you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it so hard for single guys to arrange a meet let alone get a reply? Its the one thing that really annoys me about here is not getting a reply just a no thanks would do ha rant over its because 9 times out of 10 so called single guys ....aint ....simples .. I know coz I had angry wifey on phone one day of cause it was all my fault not his ....nobhead "
ermmm sorry wernt calling you a nob head

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

10 cock pics and a short profile isn't helping you mate, we look at the profile before reading the message and yours is one we would delete, sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it so hard for single guys to arrange a meet let alone get a reply? Its the one thing that really annoys me about here is not getting a reply just a no thanks would do ha rant over "

Because there's thousands of single guys and not as many people looking for them.

There's also a lot of angry unhelpful people on here. Don't let it annoy you.

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

Most women I know on here read a profile, before they read a message.

I'd personally delete your message based on your profile, unless it was amazingly inspiring and witty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe change the way you message, have patience .. Good things come to those who wait

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Been on here on and off for the past 4 or so years thanks lol and i was mainly meaning just to get replys from messages tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do single guys always complain that they can't get laid on a sex site, it really annoys me ffs.

You have no better chance of getting a fuck on here than you would in a pub, just because we're on here it doesn't mean we owe you a seeing to."
well said

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

This is stimulating !

I need to think of a reason.

Bloody good question.

Back soon xxxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I never ment it like that lol would just be nice to get a reply after youve taken the effort to message somone

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By *ittlewinkerMan
over a year ago

Llandudno

yeah c'man dude lay off with the cock pics lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never ment it like that lol would just be nice to get a reply after youve taken the effort to message somone "

Why ?

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Been on here on and off for the past 4 or so years thanks lol and i was mainly meaning just to get replys from messages tbh "

1) what is the real difference between a not reply and a no thank you?

if you see everything as a no until they get back... you dont get stressed over it

2) what do you what the reply to be?.... "no thank you... but way to go champ!!! woohoo!!!!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There us nothing appealing about your profile. It's not just about your message you need to sell yourself.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"Been on here on and off for the past 4 or so years thanks lol and i was mainly meaning just to get replys from messages tbh "

And that may hamper you, locally people get sick of the comings and goings of some, it is usually associated with drama.

Hide next time and you don't start again each time

Good luck

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By *eard-lincolnMan
over a year ago

near lincoln

Do what I do, lie back and wait for them to come messaging you. Much better that way saves all the typing. Just occasionally put an update on about beer or wine or doughnuts or coronation street and they can't help but message you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never ment it like that lol would just be nice to get a reply after youve taken the effort to message somone "

Just seen your latest status update.

So there's no point in me giving the advice I would have!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just delete your account like you're threatening to do and stay gone. Clearly you'll be happier.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"Why is it so hard for single guys to arrange a meet let alone get a reply? Its the one thing that really annoys me about here is not getting a reply just a no thanks would do ha rant over "

Regarding replies please read the FAQS.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Ask yourself if you're really interested in others' feedback, or just having a moan about not getting replies.

In the perfect world, people you'd messaged would invite you around for a cuppa and biscuit, possibly glass of wine or beer, and wish you all the very best of luck in your swinging.

In the fab world, I'm sitting here at home, looking after my new baby, who needs attention, and my lads back from school in a bit, and will want feeding before going for football training. I've logged into fab, as it's a release for a few moments from the housework that I've got to do. I've still got bills overdue, and my part time job is strict on lateness. So time's really constrained for me. My inbox has over a hundred messages, and I'm uncertain how many I can read, as well as _iew profiles, and replying to all of them would mean me giving up my job and going homeless, with my baby and kids, until social services are called.

Someone thinks I should reply to their message - who was it again? I can hardly think, without hearing noise from over the road, as well as my kid. I'm on fab because I want a meet, and I've got to arrange child care, if I'm going to come and meet at the cafe, down the road first, as well as have someone back.

Single guys would soon stop whinging if they had as much to do as the recipients who are getting their messages in overloading torrents.

Read the fab advice about not receiving replies as meaning 'no', your interest is not reciprocated. This despite all of our attempts to make the world a perfect place for everyone.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

I still cannot get my head around why anyone would want to log on and find an inbox full of no thanks messages.

I have recieved no thanks messages before and it's kinda disappointing because you see a message in your inbox from someone you've messaged and get excited that it's a good sign and get a no thanks!! I'd rather get no reply at all and be safe in the knowledge that my inbox contains only positive messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You paint a good picture, but suspect your opening sentence is correct given his status about leaving. He'll leave, come back after a few weeks when he's horny and have the same moan again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We can tell you exactly why. Because when you send a no thanks you get another message that says "why not" and then what? Reply and say youre not our cup of tea, then guess what... Another "why not"... FFS get a grip. Sorry to pick on this thread. But these threads and these messages drive us nuts. Why didn't you reply, what is wrong with me, wah wah. Brush yourself down, check if your profile is ok, and move on!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We can tell you exactly why. Because when you send a no thanks you get another message that says "why not" and then what? Reply and say youre not our cup of tea, then guess what... Another "why not"... FFS get a grip. Sorry to pick on this thread. But these threads and these messages drive us nuts. Why didn't you reply, what is wrong with me, wah wah. Brush yourself down, check if your profile is ok, and move on!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I've said many a time, the worst thing on this site is the Sent Messages function.

Get rid of that and half the heartache for these people goes away instantly, when they can't see what's happened to their message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We can tell you exactly why. Because when you send a no thanks you get another message that says "why not" and then what? Reply and say youre not our cup of tea, then guess what... Another "why not"... FFS get a grip. Sorry to pick on this thread. But these threads and these messages drive us nuts. Why didn't you reply, what is wrong with me, wah wah. Brush yourself down, check if your profile is ok, and move on!"

The odd time I get a thanks you but no thanks. I send I message back saying, okay no problem thank you for getting back to me. or something like it.

You do not have go all mad at them. Do they think been mean and bitch will help them at all shezz

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We can tell you exactly why. Because when you send a no thanks you get another message that says "why not" and then what? Reply and say youre not our cup of tea, then guess what... Another "why not"... FFS get a grip. Sorry to pick on this thread. But these threads and these messages drive us nuts. Why didn't you reply, what is wrong with me, wah wah. Brush yourself down, check if your profile is ok, and move on!

The odd time I get a thanks you but no thanks. I send I message back saying, okay no problem thank you for getting back to me. or something like it.

You do not have go all mad at them. Do they think been mean and bitch will help them at all shezz

"

Unfortunately you are in the minority. Another minority get angry if you reply with a no. In the main we have found that the best way is not to reply at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We can tell you exactly why. Because when you send a no thanks you get another message that says "why not" and then what? Reply and say youre not our cup of tea, then guess what... Another "why not"... FFS get a grip. Sorry to pick on this thread. But these threads and these messages drive us nuts. Why didn't you reply, what is wrong with me, wah wah. Brush yourself down, check if your profile is ok, and move on!

The odd time I get a thanks you but no thanks. I send I message back saying, okay no problem thank you for getting back to me. or something like it.

You do not have go all mad at them. Do they think been mean and bitch will help them at all shezz

Unfortunately you are in the minority. Another minority get angry if you reply with a no. In the main we have found that the best way is not to reply at all. "

Sad but true. Well that is red heads for you, in the minority. lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a hugely artificial environment matey ..and one that not particularly set up for single guys.

Most of us have been where you are mate - quietly (in my case) frustrated at the lack of replies or messages being deleted all the time. However, there's no point getting excited about it - just makes people avoid you even more I suspect.

This is a women's world here but you'll get yours if your patient ...alternatively try the real world ...I tend to be far more successful out there than in here...

Vanilla dating sites are particularly fruitful I find

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're*

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By *cottishrichMan
over a year ago

Here and there


"As I've said many a time, the worst thing on this site is the Sent Messages function.

Get rid of that and half the heartache for these people goes away instantly, when they can't see what's happened to their message."

Couldn't agree more!

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"As I've said many a time, the worst thing on this site is the Sent Messages function.

Get rid of that and half the heartache for these people goes away instantly, when they can't see what's happened to their message.

Couldn't agree more! "

I disagree. We'd just get more messages asking if the message got through. I already get these with ones I have chosen not to read yet. Seeing that it has been deleted or is unread should be an indicator that another message is not required.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do single guys always complain that they can't get laid on a sex site, it really annoys me ffs.

You have no better chance of getting a fuck on here than you would in a pub, just because we're on here it doesn't mean we owe you a seeing to."

Amen to this!

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