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Coping with the death of a baby

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm heartbroken x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm heartbroken x"

Yours? xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Nieces

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By *rtemisiaWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

Is this recent?

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham

I'm so sorry to hear your devastating news. I lost a son in 1986 and can remember how bereft I felt as if it were only yesterday.

Sending my heartfelt condolences

Emm x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Saturday ,

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I shut my eyes and see him x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nieces "

Very sorry to hear premature? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

seek some guidance if it starts affecting ur everyday life...I have 6,I know how I would feel

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah 30 weeks 2lb 3 lovely x

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By *othingButCocoChanelWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

You dont

I lost my son in april and still not dealing with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah 30 weeks 2lb 3 lovely x"

Wow! I was a 1lb smaller at 23 week's and don't know how I survived! Very sorry to hear x

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By *tupidityDictatesWoman
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

The pain never goes away, you just slowly learn to deal with it better.

My daughter died 3 years ago, she was 2 weeks old. I kept it bottled up and developed bad anxiety issues. You will all learn to smile again one day but for now just take each day at it comes, remember there is no right or wrong way to grieve and try to find an outlet, where it be writing, talking or doing some proactive.

Things will get better, just be kind to yourself and those around you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You dont

I lost my son in april and still not dealing with it "

I'm so sorry to hear! I wish I could give you both a big hug! X

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By *othingButCocoChanelWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Yeah 30 weeks 2lb 3 lovely x

Wow! I was a 1lb smaller at 23 week's and don't know how I survived! Very sorry to hear x"

My son was 27 weeks and also 2lb 3

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By *othingButCocoChanelWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"You dont

I lost my son in april and still not dealing with it

I'm so sorry to hear! I wish I could give you both a big hug! X"

Thanks x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The pain never goes away, you just slowly learn to deal with it better.

My daughter died 3 years ago, she was 2 weeks old. I kept it bottled up and developed bad anxiety issues. You will all learn to smile again one day but for now just take each day at it comes, remember there is no right or wrong way to grieve and try to find an outlet, where it be writing, talking or doing some proactive.

Things will get better, just be kind to yourself and those around you xx"

I took up fire staff. 1. Because it's dangerous and 2. It was the only way to vent my anger after having an abortion due to no growth. I stopped washing myself, changing my clothes, going out, but I snapped out of it when I started my new job a month later, I still feel depressed but not as much

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I felt numb hurt anger pain

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I felt numb hurt anger pain

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I felt numb hurt anger pain

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah 30 weeks 2lb 3 lovely x

Wow! I was a 1lb smaller at 23 week's and don't know how I survived! Very sorry to hear x

My son was 27 weeks and also 2lb 3 "

This is why my chosen charity is tommy's, they specialise in research into the causes of premature births, I'm in the process of making dozens of hats for neonatal wards across the country

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It very sorry to hear bout ur loss it must b terrible, I'm a dad myself I know I'd b totally devastated

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Cheers

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By *tupidityDictatesWoman
over a year ago

Hertfordshire


"The pain never goes away, you just slowly learn to deal with it better.

My daughter died 3 years ago, she was 2 weeks old. I kept it bottled up and developed bad anxiety issues. You will all learn to smile again one day but for now just take each day at it comes, remember there is no right or wrong way to grieve and try to find an outlet, where it be writing, talking or doing some proactive.

Things will get better, just be kind to yourself and those around you xx

I took up fire staff. 1. Because it's dangerous and 2. It was the only way to vent my anger after having an abortion due to no growth. I stopped washing myself, changing my clothes, going out, but I snapped out of it when I started my new job a month later, I still feel depressed but not as much"

I was the same, I had a hellish year and a bit, I got a job and 'snapped out of it' but then quit that (due to the hours) and I've started sinking again, I couldn't even leave the house full stop before and I'm determined not to let it get to that this time, I need to keep myself busy x

Lisa Stars is a fab charity that needs people knitting clothing, tiny moses baskets and tiny teddies etc if anyone has some spare time and can knit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The pain never goes away, you just slowly learn to deal with it better.

My daughter died 3 years ago, she was 2 weeks old. I kept it bottled up and developed bad anxiety issues. You will all learn to smile again one day but for now just take each day at it comes, remember there is no right or wrong way to grieve and try to find an outlet, where it be writing, talking or doing some proactive.

Things will get better, just be kind to yourself and those around you xx

I took up fire staff. 1. Because it's dangerous and 2. It was the only way to vent my anger after having an abortion due to no growth. I stopped washing myself, changing my clothes, going out, but I snapped out of it when I started my new job a month later, I still feel depressed but not as much

I was the same, I had a hellish year and a bit, I got a job and 'snapped out of it' but then quit that (due to the hours) and I've started sinking again, I couldn't even leave the house full stop before and I'm determined not to let it get to that this time, I need to keep myself busy x

Lisa Stars is a fab charity that needs people knitting clothing, tiny moses baskets and tiny teddies etc if anyone has some spare time and can knit."

Ooh thank you for that! I crochet so I can make tiny hats in 10 minutes so I'll definitely see about doing that! X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for all your kind words x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

youtube.com/watch?v=YNoLJy68ZcE

Won't help but the words are quite moving.

Soo sorry for your loss.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Cheers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My heart's right out there for you dude; - I lost an unborn kiddie a long time ago, & now I'm feeling it again!!

Respect, dude!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks

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By *othingButCocoChanelWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"The pain never goes away, you just slowly learn to deal with it better.

My daughter died 3 years ago, she was 2 weeks old. I kept it bottled up and developed bad anxiety issues. You will all learn to smile again one day but for now just take each day at it comes, remember there is no right or wrong way to grieve and try to find an outlet, where it be writing, talking or doing some proactive.

Things will get better, just be kind to yourself and those around you xx

I took up fire staff. 1. Because it's dangerous and 2. It was the only way to vent my anger after having an abortion due to no growth. I stopped washing myself, changing my clothes, going out, but I snapped out of it when I started my new job a month later, I still feel depressed but not as much

I was the same, I had a hellish year and a bit, I got a job and 'snapped out of it' but then quit that (due to the hours) and I've started sinking again, I couldn't even leave the house full stop before and I'm determined not to let it get to that this time, I need to keep myself busy x

Lisa Stars is a fab charity that needs people knitting clothing, tiny moses baskets and tiny teddies etc if anyone has some spare time and can knit.

Ooh thank you for that! I crochet so I can make tiny hats in 10 minutes so I'll definitely see about doing that! X"

I tried to learn how to knit but its so hard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sad analogies

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By *ornyindian_male35Man
over a year ago

walsall

I'am sorry to hear your loss

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks

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By *leasures4Couple
over a year ago

East midlands

Sending big hugs to you and your family. Its an absolutely devastating time for you all. I lost my first son 10 years ago and it still hurts now. Then my niece...

In fact, big hugs to anyone who has suffered the loss of a child. Its the most painful thing to go through and live with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been there sadly. Supporting your niece will also help you.

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By *rinterestingMan
over a year ago

London

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By *rinterestingMan
over a year ago

London

My great condolences to you and your family. Loss of someone never really goes it just eases as you try to move forward.

I lost my best friend and grandfather during the Christmas holidays. Hardest time of my life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Losing a baby is heart breaking. I lost five babies. Not a day goes by when I dont think of them. Youneed to grieve the loss. The pain eases and you learn to cope with it.

So sorry to you and all your family at this sad time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't find the right words to say

So sending a hug and a promise, that although the pain will never go away, it will get easier to bear.

Xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im sorry to hear this, havent been through it myself but have a friend who has lost babies during pregnancy, still cant begin to imagine how you and your family feel. sending a hug to you all x

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By *otsoSnowWhiteWoman
over a year ago

My Ice Castle! South Wales

There are no words that can take away pain only time and there is no set time for it, it takes as long as it takes for it to get easier. Its important to grieve and go through the process for the heart to heal, and it does eventually. My thoughts go out to you and your family.

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By *irty RascalMan
over a year ago

Sutton Coldfield

Lost a son 16 years ago when ex wife was 8 months gone, watched his heartbeat slowdown and stop on monitor during check up. Never got over it, but not sure this is the place to talk about it.

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By *eminiman61Man
over a year ago

mansfield

Times a great healer,stay possitive

JMO but Id rather them die than suffer. I lost a 14 month old nephew to cancer,I even carried the little white coffin. I try not to mourn deaths,bein optimistic I celebrate their lives. PMA and chin up dude

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you for all your kind words x

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Take time and accept what you are feeling. Be aware of what the parents and grandparents are feeling. You all grieve but some will take longer to move through the stages. There is no right or wrong and time does work its healing powers.

This time of year I feel the loss of all of my babies. My very prem son was the only one born alive and 22 years on I still see his little face when I wake.

Yeats' The Cloths of Heaven is the poem that I turn to as it speaks of my grief that my hopes of losing the potential my son had was such a delicate thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The pain never goes away, you just slowly learn to deal with it better.

My daughter died 3 years ago, she was 2 weeks old. I kept it bottled up and developed bad anxiety issues. You will all learn to smile again one day but for now just take each day at it comes, remember there is no right or wrong way to grieve and try to find an outlet, where it be writing, talking or doing some proactive.

Things will get better, just be kind to yourself and those around you xx

I took up fire staff. 1. Because it's dangerous and 2. It was the only way to vent my anger after having an abortion due to no growth. I stopped washing myself, changing my clothes, going out, but I snapped out of it when I started my new job a month later, I still feel depressed but not as much

I was the same, I had a hellish year and a bit, I got a job and 'snapped out of it' but then quit that (due to the hours) and I've started sinking again, I couldn't even leave the house full stop before and I'm determined not to let it get to that this time, I need to keep myself busy x

Lisa Stars is a fab charity that needs people knitting clothing, tiny moses baskets and tiny teddies etc if anyone has some spare time and can knit.

Ooh thank you for that! I crochet so I can make tiny hats in 10 minutes so I'll definitely see about doing that! X

I tried to learn how to knit but its so hard "

Try crocheting, much easier and faster and I taught myself through YouTube

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

SANDS is another great organisation who give advice and help...

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"SANDS is another great organisation who give advice and help..."

Thanks for mentioning them. They are fantastic and don't have as high a profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So sad. Sorry for your loss

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

It never goes away however it does get easier...x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well hasn't this thread brought things into perspective.

It's so sad reading all your stories, and experiences, I can't come close to imagining how you all feel. I don't and god forbid, hope I never will. It's gut wrenching.

Sending much love x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've just had a 32 week baby.- we almost lost him 3 times in the first few days.

I can only imagine how you're feeling mate....

So sorry....

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

very sad indeed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"SANDS is another great organisation who give advice and help...

Thanks for mentioning them. They are fantastic and don't have as high a profile."

one of my friends lost her girl at 13 days old... She fundraises for them now...

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I never saw my baby I had a miscarriage but it's heart breaking one day you are pregnant the next day you are not but still having to deal with the side effects of being pregnant until the pregnancy hormones disappear...I've not been the same person since then but it's got easier

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So sorry to hear your sad news.

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By *inky pWoman
over a year ago

leicester

Sorry for ur whole family's loss.my boy was 11wks early 2lb 12.survived but was a very scary time for me.things happen for a

Reason .maybe his quality of life would have been limited.some prem babies suffer so much it's heart breAking.at least ur niece has a loving family to help her through this.think of him with angel wings,alwAys there to watch over his mum.big heartfelt hug to all who met him xx

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

so sad

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