FabSwingers.com forum: Orgasm on command training offered

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What do I mean by Orgasm on command training you might ask if you haven't heard this before. it is the ability for the submissive to orgasm at their dominants command be it spoken, gesture or from a distance by text or email.

I first saw an example of this at a kinky party I held from one of my Guests you know who you are Mr and a most lovely well trained submissive who came on his command (great evening was had by all) I was intrigued and looked into this further before starting training with my own little misses and after having some great success with orgasm on command training with my little misses I tried the training on others at there request to great success.

When say orgasm on command I don't mean commanding "I would like you to cum" and you spend 5 minutes playing with your self to achieve orgasm I mean I give the command for you to come and you orgasm instantly with out touching or stimulation other than the command given.

Their are different kinds of orgasm that are achievable once the initial training has taken place and they respond to the command, these vary from clitoral, vaginal, anal and full body orgasms. once the individual is responding to the training it is possible to mix and match the orgasms to make different options like having all 4 of the individual orgasms happen at once so the submissive is in orgasmic rapture as everything explodes.

As every Submissive is different I have found that the effects can different some pick it up really quickly and are able to learn to differentiate the orgasms into different commands some respond to the training but I guess there will be submissive that will not respond still looking for the later as so far had great results.

The commands can be anything a sound, a look, a gesture, a click of the fingers or a tap n the small of the neck as long as the submissive learns this is the command that is being used for the desired orgasm then it will work. I have found that with great pleasure that a spoken word can be used in text to obtain the orgasm from a submissive without being present. as long as the submissive knows that the command words may not just be spoken but also in a text the submissive should respond accordingly.

With a few special submissives I have been able to give time delay commands so that after 60 breaths they will experience the orgasm so that should they be in company or work that they have time to control there breathing an make it a safe place to orgasm. after all you wouldn't want your submissive to get sacked for screaming out in pleasure sat at their desk or where they work. this is also for safety reasons if the submissive is driving they need time to pull over and the time delay of 60 breaths can give them 2 - 5 minutes easy if the submissive controls there breathing. the time delay command also heightens the orgasm as they know it is coming and so tends to explode with more vigour.

In learning the technique to teach a submissive this command I found after trial and error a way to make more submissives achieve and orgasm on command and it works rather affective I have even successfully trained a lady (who after speaking to her is a switch as we would call her on here with her regular partners not full submissive, as she is not in the kinky scene but saw Sirslittlemiss demonstrating it and was amazed and asked me to teach her) her training took place over Skype and in the hour and half while we were online she was left with 4 separate commands that she loves as it means that certain people she wants can now text her any time and make her cum as requested by text.

I must point out the speed that this skill is learned is down to the submissive the fastest ever being a 4 and half minute phone call which the lady was expecting and so more than a little horny but didn't know before the call I was going to try and see if it would work but agreed when I asked would she like to se if she could learn this was followed up by a few hours on Skype to bring her different commands into affect.

Her favourite command that she liked was best was a time delay but instead of 60 breaths it was a slow burning orgasm that started with a tickling sensation on the end of chin that wold slowly work its way down her neck and then spiral to her left nipple around her tit before spiralling in reverse to the other nipple and then down across her belly where her clit and pussy would get all warm and fuzzy and then start to build with each breath she took till she came. also the slow build up let her enjoy it where as the other orgasms can be instant without build up just like someone flicking a light switch as she described the sensation to me afterwards instant orgasm no build up just whole body tensed and woosh as she came.

With any gift like this power means responsibility as it can be great fun when your out and about and physical play is not possible, but during conversation in the presence of others the commands can be given without any one noticing and the submissive will react. they will do their best to hide the pleasure they are feeling or with a time delayed command excuse them selves to the ladies room and enjoy in private or if your feeling a little play stood in the queue at the shops can be immensely satisfying as no ones but the two of you what is happening.

I guess in theory the training should work for a male sub but not having tried the training on a male Sub I cant say for sure!

I'm always looking for more female Submissive to share this training with if any are interested in learning or any Dom's would like there submissives to learn then please feel free to get in touch.

Sir

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sounds like a variant on hypnotherapy? sounds like fun though hehe!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Not really submissives can be taught to not cum til you give them permission. So they have to wait for the release on your word it is just the next step in the trust and bond between a dominant and submissive that allows the training to work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

aha. the more I hear about this stuff the more fascinating it seems. don't think I'd be a good dom though, sub maybe. dunno. but looking this training idea ancient the whole time delay thing.. especially the one where once given it just unstoppably builds and builds outside of one's control.. nice..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

They are all nice the are orgasms just how fast and hard you feel they deserve to cum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

think I'd set the remote (hehe) for then to have 2 small instant ones, and a time delay big one when they really can't have one for some reason just to see what they do hehe

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I find i can stop little miss mid step and drop her to her knees any where with a single word in texting she is not close enough to hear or see me

But then i can be a cruel sir when i want lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been wondering how this can be done. Must be some sort of hypnosis

Even as an experienced sub, don't think it would work for me

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"I have been wondering how this can be done. Must be some sort of hypnosis

Even as an experienced sub, don't think it would work for me

It's not hypnotherapy it's just an association with a word and An action. A Dom I used go know used to use numbers for varying degrees of orgasm or sensations. I was neverhhypnotized just receptive to the suggestions I guess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I take it this is more specifically aimed at submissives and of course, those who are able to orgasm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's an interesting thing~must look into it some more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is a hypnotherapeutic technique known as 'anchoring'. Words, a touch, a look , a gesture can be associated to a state of being.

It is used to help to enable clients to access more positive states usually rather than a phobic response, or stage fright etc...

It is just a kinky use of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I take it this is more specifically aimed at submissives and of course, those who are able to orgasm"

As evie said, probably more receptive and being quite submissive would help, I would think.

And yes, being able to orgasm.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"I take it this is more specifically aimed at submissives and of course, those who are able to orgasm

As evie said, probably more receptive and being quite submissive would help, I would think.

And yes, being able to orgasm."

But orgasming isn't always the whole body screaming, gushing, squirting experience some films would have you believe. It can be used to trigger whatever sexual response you and your Dom want it to.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Or partner of not in a D/s relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sceptical and not at all submissive who rarely orgasms any more intrigued to know what this training entails? Surely this is not something every woman could experience?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A prerequisite I imagine would be being able to at least access an orgasmic state. Then the dom uses 'anchors' to access the state. In hypnotherapy the therapist can use a technique called chaining anchors for more deep rooted problems. So I assume something similar can be used to help in this case ????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A prerequisite I imagine would be being able to at least access an orgasmic state. Then the dom uses 'anchors' to access the state. In hypnotherapy the therapist can use a technique called chaining anchors for more deep rooted problems. So I assume something similar can be used to help in this case ????"

When I say rarely, I mean with others...myself, every time!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sceptical and not at all submissive who rarely orgasms any more intrigued to know what this training entails? Surely this is not something every woman could experience?"

I wouldn't have thought it was something everyone could do. I'm just really intrigued by it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I say rarely, I mean with others...myself, every time!

Glad to hear it

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

OP, not sure how you deem this to be a 'gift'..

one may be inclined to learn something a bit quicker than other's however calling it a gift sounds iffy..

btw understand the concept and have explored similar but it like any relationship requires time, trust and comunication..

good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I class it as a gift as it is something i have given them. The satisfaction that they can cum as and when i wish. For a submissive their is no greater pleasure than pleasing their Sir

To see their Sir smile and know they did it they made Sir happy is the greatest feeling.

I don't expect every one here to understand the dynamics of a D/S relationship.

But little miss wanted me to post it so those that we know on here who are kinky understand how well trained she is and how proud of the fact she does cum on command for Sir

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Quite frankly I consider the women gifted for the illusion they allow 'doms' to have.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

and vice versa for male subs

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"I class it as a gift as it is something i have given them. The satisfaction that they can cum as and when i wish. For a submissive their is no greater pleasure than pleasing their Sir

To see their Sir smile and know they did it they made Sir happy is the greatest feeling.

I don't expect every one here to understand the dynamics of a D/S relationship.

But little miss wanted me to post it so those that we know on here who are kinky understand how well trained she is and how proud of the fact she does cum on command for Sir "

with respect thats not what you said earlier, you refer to your gift and power/responsibility which is different than 'allowing' a sub to orgasm..

not all subs have a 'sir' btw, just in case your not that familiar with different elements and dynamics of sub dom..

i dont understand the dynamics of your relationship, thats between you and the sub but pretty au fait with the concept ty..

dont those who know you, know how well trained she is..?

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

I am very submissive, and my other half is dominant - he can make me cum on command - from touch (various places) and from certain words... but we are not in a D/S relationship - its just something we enjoy sexually.

The pleasure for me is not in pleasing my "sir" but in the connection we have that allows this to happen, and being able to reach orgasm in places where other more "manual" ways of achieving it would be inappropriate.

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

sorry that should realy typical D/S relationship... although I don't think there is a typical one really as it is what suits both people.

Too many "doms" are just sadistic bullying bastards in my experience - who get a power trip out of it... not real doms.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I agree that people can come through being touched in certain ways...

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"I agree that people can come through being touched in certain ways... "

absolutely agree..

its something very special and quite awesome to observe..

whether the none recipient party is 'gifted'or just knows the other person intimately is another matter i suppose..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have been wondering how this can be done. Must be some sort of hypnosis

Even as an experienced sub, don't think it would work for me

I found it works on most as they are made to orgasm then built from there if you can cum you can learn

Just need to trust the person your playing with.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have been wondering how this can be done. Must be some sort of hypnosis

Even as an experienced sub, don't think it would work for me

Your submission and willings to please your Dom on the day is all that is needed

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I take it this is more specifically aimed at submissives and of course, those who are able to orgasm"

I have yet to meet a woman who can't cum when Correctly simulated. See 4x4notts my single profile verifications

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Or partner of not in a D/s relationship

This is true i use it as a reward for good behaviour by we still fuck for every day

The slow build ones talking up to ten minutes are used during for play as a supplement not replacement

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I agree that people can come through being touched in certain ways...

absolutely agree..

its something very special and quite awesome to observe..

whether the none recipient party is 'gifted'or just knows the other person intimately is another matter i suppose.."

I can't accept the gift bit ...

I was being a bit tongue in cheek.

Don't all orgasms result from being touched in certain ways ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I class it as a gift as it is something i have given them. The satisfaction that they can cum as and when i wish. For a submissive their is no greater pleasure than pleasing their Sir

To see their Sir smile and know they did it they made Sir happy is the greatest feeling.

I don't expect every one here to understand the dynamics of a D/S relationship.

But little miss wanted me to post it so those that we know on here who are kinky understand how well trained she is and how proud of the fact she does cum on command for Sir

with respect thats not what you said earlier, you refer to your gift and power/responsibility which is different than 'allowing' a sub to orgasm..

not all subs have a 'sir' btw, just in case your not that familiar with different elements and dynamics of sub dom..

i dont understand the dynamics of your relationship, thats between you and the sub but pretty au fait with the concept ty..

dont those who know you, know how well trained she is..?

You don't need to be a sub in a ds relationship i have shown. Normal everyday woman the technique so they can self pleasure when with a slightly less entertaining lover

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just need to trust the person your playing with. "

That is the key though. Although Lee doesn't do any form of orgasm control with me as our ds side is pretty playful, he does know a suggestion or a certain touches give me an instant orgasm.. no matter where.. but I don't mean a screaming one.

I don't think I'd like someone to teach me though, more something that I feel should develop between partners.

Cali

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"I agree that people can come through being touched in certain ways...

absolutely agree..

its something very special and quite awesome to observe..

whether the none recipient party is 'gifted'or just knows the other person intimately is another matter i suppose..

I can't accept the gift bit ...

I was being a bit tongue in cheek.

Don't all orgasms result from being touched in certain ways ?

think there are plenty touched on here..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It certainly has traits of hypnotic suggestion.

As for the gift... we all know the sub giving/lending control is the gift the Dom receives.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I am very submissive, and my other half is dominant - he can make me cum on command - from touch (various places) and from certain words... but we are not in a D/S relationship - its just something we enjoy sexually.

Nothing better than looking into each others eyes spoof on the queue at tescos seeing her pleasure in her eyes

I agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It certainly has traits of hypnotic suggestion.

As for the gift... we all know the sub giving/lending control is the gift the Dom receives."

The gift I think is too way.. the sub gifts the submission and trust, the dominant gives the sub the protection, control and helps them to learn new things. But I have learnt that you can have all that and more without specifically being in a ds relationship. My submission used to be my all, now it's just a part of a much wider dynamic.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

You don't need to be a sub in a ds relationship i have shown. Normal everyday woman the technique so they can self pleasure when with a slightly less entertaining lover"

a ds relationship will have one submissive partner, that may be alternated between them but one will be as without its not a ds dynamic yes..?

think woman for years have learmt to self pleasure themselves in situations where the partner is less entertaining..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Sorry folks trying to answer every one at once.

Lot of messages since i nipped out at 9am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It certainly has traits of hypnotic suggestion.

As for the gift... we all know the sub giving/lending control is the gift the Dom receives.

I await for the reciprocation

. Oddly enough I felt I received that from my Ex and we weren't in a D/s relationship. He was the first guy I ever truly let into my inner sanctum.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It certainly has traits of hypnotic suggestion.

As for the gift... we all know the sub giving/lending control is the gift the Dom receives.

Being poly with 2 girls living here for over the last few years as they grow and expand the relationships change as you say my little misses are live in part of our family songs times there can be 3 or 4 living here some sometimes just little miss as we are not just Dom sub she is owned and collared we don't need a wedding ring she had her collar i have her

The fact we share a taste in ladies means that as subs com and go they leave better trained and know what to expect and what not to put up with in future as unacceptable Behaviour Dom. Usually they stay for 6 months and then add we are poly they are free to find Long term relationships as they wish and move on but they all cum back to play and train usually bring their new partners to play on the equipment and toys so they can learn safe use and Propper after care

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I await for the reciprocation

. Oddly enough I felt I received that from my Ex and we weren't in a D/s relationship. He was the first guy I ever truly let into my inner sanctum. "

Lol Lee will just say I'm a bratty bitch

I think that is what it is.. if you let someone in and take some control. I mean last year I wouldn't get naked, didn't orgasm on meets, didn't kiss erm and many other things. Lee helped me overcome big issues, yes sometimes with a kick up the arse but he has always been fair... Although he can wind me up in a moment because he's so deep in my head which is annoying for me, yet hilarious for him.

But the control is there when he chooses to exert it.. the op is good but I'm not sure many could learn with someone they weren't close to or trusting of.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I would say within an hour i think i could make any woman respond even if not a full blown shake the house down orgasm but a definitive orgasm.

If any one would like to take the challenge i have a meet up. For tomorrow night as little miss needs a pussy to practice on with her cunnilligus training as been showing her how to circular breath like with a digareedoo so she doesn't have to cum up for air when licking a nice pussy as i more you girls hate it when your just getting their and they stop to breathe and you lose the magic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say not all women can orgasm with a meet. I know I certainly can't. It's a rare thing for me.

And the more any one tells me that I will, the less likely I am.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Lol Lee will just say I'm a bratty bitch

Nothing wrong with being Bratty of you prepared to take the punishment you know will follow for it.

Just a different string in the relationship between you. I love a bratty sub really get to let the sadist out inventing ways to allow them selves to be them selves in a safe way.

We have a naughty step and one particular sub used to like creaping of so with her agreements we put nipple clamps on the wall next to the step so she could be clamped in for her stay and the other end of the clamps went to her hands so if she did as asked and stood still little or no pain twist and be a pain she pulled her own Nipples. Took 3 goes on the step for her to give up trying to get off even though she had been told 2 minutes just stay still and it wont hurt. But then she was a psin bunny who loved the cain lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'd say not all women can orgasm with a meet. I know I certainly can't. It's a rare thing for me.

And the more any one tells me that I will, the less likely I am. "

Hey you. Been a while. If your not coming at meets then at you really enjoying them?

If your enjoying what is Happening and the person your with is even half way talented. You should achive at least one but it depends what tickles your spot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like being punished. So I'm not bratty on purpose. I'm bratty when I'm scared or feel pushed to far.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't like being punished. So I'm not bratty on purpose. I'm bratty when I'm scared or feel pushed to far.

Then that is the doms fault not yours or the partner your playing with my taking your needs into account.

You know me from here and the other community to talk to you Will of scene that my little misses are happy

Just sorry your have not been so lucky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't like being punished. So I'm not bratty on purpose. I'm bratty when I'm scared or feel pushed to far.

Then that is the doms fault not yours or the partner your playing with my taking your needs into account.

You know me from here and the other community to talk to you Will of scene that my little misses are happy

Just sorry your have not been so lucky "

God no. Why would it be Lee's fault. He can reassure me as much as he likes but some demons from my last plague me. I have the most amazing play partner but I just happen to have a bratty side that shows itself no matter what.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't like being punished. So I'm not bratty on purpose. I'm bratty when I'm scared or feel pushed to far.

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oh and I'm actually not punished... Because Lee knows I dont do it on purpose. So we take one dark memory at a time, and have great fun in the meantime

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

you have blocked single males so I can't contact you re O training

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That's because single men can't read

If you could you would see the re is a way to contact me on my profile

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

From what I can see, a loss in ability to utilise the full stop often occurs. Nasty side effect, that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"From what I can see, a loss in ability to utilise the full stop often occurs. Nasty side effect, that. "

Well i never said i was giving grammar lessons did i couldn't arse with diction the phones screws more over enough with that as it fecking suto correct lol

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