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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

When my old fuck buddy met a girlfriend outside of fab. He said we only had one thing in common. He and his girlfriend had sport in common.

He has since finished things with her and admitted to me they had too much in common.

Do you think its necessary to have things in common?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's good to have at least a common point of reference, something to talk about other than sex I think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When my old fuck buddy met a girlfriend outside of fab. He said we only had one thing in common. He and his girlfriend had sport in common.

He has since finished things with her and admitted to me they had too much in common.

Do you think its necessary to have things in common?"

Yes, about 75-80% in common and 25-20% different interests.

Hopefully, ones romance, passion and sex falls in the former.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's good to have at least a common point of reference, something to talk about other than sex I think. "

We had more than one thing in common...sex being one of them of course.

No I am not into triathlon's though or fishing.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

Yes, you need to be able to al least relate to one another in part.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes, you need to be able to al least relate to one another in part."

Yes I understand that totally but, proves you can also tooooo much in common.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have similar sense of humours like most things but have different hobbies with his golf and mine my horse. Think if you have lots in common it would get a bit boring xx

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"Yes, you need to be able to al least relate to one another in part.

Yes I understand that totally but, proves you can also tooooo much in common."
I spose it can depend on the dynamics, I know couples that are happy doing everything together, then again I know some that would kill each other if one or the other didn't work away from home so often.

I think though what can be a mistake is not remaining two individuals and focusing on being a couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my ex wife and myself had only one thing in common really and that was sex.

outside of the bedroom we where totally different, but in the bedroom exactly the same.

made for some fun arguments, and did last for 8 years, but that lack of common ground eventually destroyed the marriage.

agree that there should be at least 2/3 the same to keep a level playing field.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes, you need to be able to al least relate to one another in part.

Yes I understand that totally but, proves you can also tooooo much in common.I spose it can depend on the dynamics, I know couples that are happy doing everything together, then again I know some that would kill each other if one or the other didn't work away from home so often.

I think though what can be a mistake is not remaining two individuals and focusing on being a couple."

Agreed. I like the idea of being semi-detached Some shared interests, but still able to be an individual in one's own right as opposed to being just a component of a larger entity.

And I try never to be common

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"my ex wife and myself had only one thing in common really and that was sex.

outside of the bedroom we where totally different, but in the bedroom exactly the same.

made for some fun arguments, and did last for 8 years, but that lack of common ground eventually destroyed the marriage.

agree that there should be at least 2/3 the same to keep a level playing field."

perhaps she didn't like yer dirty habits

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

We have plenty in common but just as much not so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think so. I think you should show an interest in each other's sports or hobbies but for me it isn't necessary to do them together all the time. Sexual compatibility is more important for me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"my ex wife and myself had only one thing in common really and that was sex.

outside of the bedroom we where totally different, but in the bedroom exactly the same.

made for some fun arguments, and did last for 8 years, but that lack of common ground eventually destroyed the marriage.

agree that there should be at least 2/3 the same to keep a level playing field."
what other things do you think you should have in common?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't think so. I think you should show an interest in each other's sports or hobbies but for me it isn't necessary to do them together all the time. Sexual compatibility is more important for me "
I'd take an interest in someone's sports/hobbies but, as you said don't do them together.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

I think some common ground is needed but it's also important to have your own things as well.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think some common ground is needed but it's also important to have your own things as well. "
nice shoes!!

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

we all need to have things in common or its dull

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I've got a lot in common with my wife and we get on well. I usually chat for some length with the people I have sex with and in that time we find out if we have stuff in common.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think so. I think you should show an interest in each other's sports or hobbies but for me it isn't necessary to do them together all the time. Sexual compatibility is more important for me I'd take an interest in someone's sports/hobbies but, as you said don't do them together."

I like my own space, I don't want to spend all my free time with someone. Just occasional nights out are enough for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From personal experiences in the past week. Sometimes when you have too many things in common, it complicate things. And the things in common don't even have to be in terms or hobbies or activities but rather in both your personalities.

You both may share the same traits, the same viewpoint in life; so, although you may have a fantastic time together in each other's company. When push comes to shove - communication would break because you both know how each of you are.

So, having things in common is good to keep things going but it can also fuck things up.

(Not sure if all this makes sense).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

me and my hubby both like animals, walking in the forest, the same sort of music. we are both down to earth.

not that much in common really.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"me and my hubby both like animals, walking in the forest, the same sort of music. we are both down to earth.

not that much in common really."
we liked dogs, sex in the Forrest, eating out, takeaways, films

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"me and my hubby both like animals, walking in the forest, the same sort of music. we are both down to earth.

not that much in common really. we liked dogs, sex in the Forrest, eating out, takeaways, films"

That sounds good.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"me and my hubby both like animals, walking in the forest, the same sort of music. we are both down to earth.

not that much in common really. we liked dogs, sex in the Forrest, eating out, takeaways, films

That sounds good."
slightly annoyed when he said we only had one thing in common though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"me and my hubby both like animals, walking in the forest, the same sort of music. we are both down to earth.

not that much in common really. we liked dogs, sex in the Forrest, eating out, takeaways, films

That sounds good. slightly annoyed when he said we only had one thing in common though."

Maybe because what you had in common he thought were things most people had in common.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've found that if we have some interests it makes good talking points however I wouldn't want to have everything in common, have found a few guys on here that enjoy things I do but not others x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you can have too much in common with someone.

In a relationship you need a few things In common but you still need your separate interests to keep you feeling like an individual x

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By *ighland_RoseCouple
over a year ago

Brigadoon

I don't think it's that important to have shared interests, as long as you respect the other's interest. What I do think is important to share is the same values and beliefs and goals. And of course being sexually compatible!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't think it's that important to have shared interests, as long as you respect the other's interest. What I do think is important to share is the same values and beliefs and goals. And of course being sexually compatible!"
the sexual compatibility was amazing!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think you can have too much in common with someone.

In a relationship you need a few things In common but you still need your separate interests to keep you feeling like an individual x "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally it think it depends on the people and the dynamic of the relationship.

With a fb Id say similar sexual desires and attitudes to play and enough to chat about to pass an evening

Where as a relationship id say similar attitudes to life would probably be more important with some similar hobbies interests etc being a bonus.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need a balance. Share somethings, but still have some time apart.

However, I think an open mind and the ability to try new things that they enjoy is important.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But the opposites attract saying does not hold with me - opposite personalities often clash

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

You need something in common or it's all lost

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"But the opposites attract saying does not hold with me - opposite personalities often clash "

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