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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi all

Lady's and men do you think it's rude not to reply to a message even if it's just no thanks?

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

Nope.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couples and singles that don't reply either do that because they have way too much mail or because they have received hate mail and abuse after saying "no thanks" or lots of follow up messages saying why not etc.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Wow really get hate mail I always reply even to say no thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Used to reply to all messages... Not so these days... Unless they are either from someone we know... Or someone who has actually, had the incling to find out what we seek.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having seen some of the shit women and couples have to deal with on here and the sheer volume of messages some get, it is perfectly understandable that they just delete rather than reply. If they don't read it or read it and don't delete there may be other reasons for no reply. Because of the volume of messages they receive messages can get lost like a needle in haystack.

In short I don't think they are being rude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would rather not get a reply than a no thanks

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

if it is a well crafted message that meets everything that you are seeking, then I do think it is rude.

if it is a load of 4 word nonsense, then NO

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reply if I can tell they have read my profile and supplied a face pic but if not then no reply

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Nope I'm not being rude as I didn't ask for the message and most don't bother with a profile

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"if it is a well crafted message that meets everything that you are seeking, then I do think it is rude.

if it is a load of 4 word nonsense, then NO

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This!

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By *exiSlutBabeWoman
over a year ago

Stoke

I have a profile, it states my meeting criteria and what will assist in people contacting me having mutual fun with me.

If people don't read that profile or worse read it and ignore what it says I don't reply to them.

I don't reply to unsolicited junk mail in my letterbox and I doubt anyone else does so mail that has no resemblance to what my profile says is just junk mail and gets no response except in the worst cases a move to my block list.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not again !!!!

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

It's in a pub. When if you got a message having your pint. You wouldn't reply in the pub at the stranger. You would delete it and order some pork scratchings. In a pub.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not rude at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rather have my message deleted rather then a sorry no thanks...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a profile, it states my meeting criteria and what will assist in people contacting me having mutual fun with me.

If people don't read that profile or worse read it and ignore what it says I don't reply to them.

I don't reply to unsolicited junk mail in my letterbox and I doubt anyone else does so mail that has no resemblance to what my profile says is just junk mail and gets no response except in the worst cases a move to my block list."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One liners and the ones that are obvious they haven't read our profile just get deleted, we do reply to all that we consider have taken the time to write and meet our criteria

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Rather have my message deleted rather then a sorry no thanks..."

I agree

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

No.

Especially if they clearly haven't read my profile and do not match what I'm looking for, are obvious fantasists and chancers, are crass or just send "hi how are u?" or txtspk messages.

They choose how they use their time, (in writing a message). I choose how I use my time (whether I reply to that message). Nobody else has any entitlement to my time.

I think it's rude to think you can dictate what someone else should do based on a choice you made.

If you hadn't wanted to send a message, you wouldn't have. The recipient of the message should have the same right to choose to reply if they want to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Rather have my message deleted rather then a sorry no thanks...

I agree "

Me too I don't even mind being blocked

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I'll reply to everything, but then I'm at work, so in a sense I'm being paid to be on here. I'm not having to squeeze it all in (ooer!).

I don't think it rude not to reply, a bit discourteous, but I wouldn't hold it against someone unless I'd gone to a lot of trouble. xxx

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

Is it rude to send a message like 'wanna fuck' or 'wanna chat', with no picture and, when you look at their profile it may say 'fill this in later' or 'looking for nsa'?

Those are the messages I tend not to answer. Others simply get lost in the shuffle. I try to reply to all well thought out ones even if I'm not interested.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks all Bit of mixed _iews then more towards not rude ....... Suppose we are all different

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

If you check the FAOs it does say it is not rude not to answer messages.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

FAQs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there should be a thanks but no thanks button

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would rather not get a reply than a no thanks "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't reply to every message I get, I just don't have the time. I reply to people who have definitely read the profile and have supplied a face picture and I think there is a possibility of it going somewhere.

unfortunately when i have said no thanks in the past i have been grilled as to why? then you have to tell them quite honestly you dont fancy them...why make it so awkward for everyone?

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Case in point...

Frequent "I'm in your area and want a meet now/tonight" messages with an hour or two of notice.

A bit hopeful at best BUT when my profile specifically says I'm not looking for one-offs so if you're just passing through I am not interested, is it rude to waste my time?

They are looking for instant gratification, completely on their terms, so can't be arsed to read "War and Peace" which I put a lot of time and effort into in order that they wouldn't waste my time. Rude?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would be nice to delete a message rather then having one i sent deleted

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

I am not sure why people get so het up about whether or not messages they receive are to their liking or not, can someone please explain it to me, as I see it, you just ignore and concentrate on the ones that you do like? Or am I missing something here?

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By *uzzybeWoman
over a year ago

Darlington


"I reply if I can tell they have read my profile and supplied a face pic but if not then no reply "

I agree.

It's common that majority of people on the site don't read profiles and it gets moaned about, so I feel that if someone has read my profile and has written a nice message then they deserve a response.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well costs nothing to reply no thanks even if u get loads of messages lol

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By *uzzybeWoman
over a year ago

Darlington


"there should be a thanks but no thanks button"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am not sure why people get so het up about whether or not messages they receive are to their liking or not, can someone please explain it to me, as I see it, you just ignore and concentrate on the ones that you do like? Or am I missing something here?"

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"I am not sure why people get so het up about whether or not messages they receive are to their liking or not, can someone please explain it to me, as I see it, you just ignore and concentrate on the ones that you do like? Or am I missing something here?"

I don't get it either. They aren't getting a meet out of a no thanks just the same as a no reply so I don't see the issue.

I suppose it's a huff about "I spent time writing to you therefore I deserve...". I can't see why they are owed anything.

I've had rejections and I've had messages ignored. If it happened the majority of the time I might question my approach. It's always easier to blame someone else though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its just polite to reply even if not your type or not read ya profile

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By *randmrsminxyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

if the message is just a hi or hello and they ask for a picture then we just delete it as they have not taken the time or courtesy to fully read all are profile . After all the profile should say your wishes in regards to who you wish to meet of chat too .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Some seem to be getting het up

I'm not moaning just a question as some people do some don't and agree you should never expect a reply

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"well costs nothing to reply no thanks even if u get loads of messages lol "

It costs time. Strangers have no automatic entitlement to my time.

When on here I want to be chatting to friends and people who interest me, finding people who intetest me and spending time on the fora. I don't want to be sending out numerous no thanks messages, mostly to men who clearly don't fit what my profile says I am looking for.

I think you underestimate what "loads of messages" can mean sometimes too.

Do you spend time messaging people who don't interest you? Neither do I.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope."

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over a year ago

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

No.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Some seem to be getting het up

I'm not moaning just a question as some people do some don't and agree you should never expect a reply "

This is asked a *lot*. Many do think they are entitled to a reply. Some even seem to think that any woman on here should automatically guarantee a meet to anyone who sends a message.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"its just polite to reply even if not your type or not read ya profile "

Rubbish.

It's polite not to waste people's time by messaging them when you've not bothered to read their profile.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Sorry not seen it before..... Wish I had now lol

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"Some seem to be getting het up

I'm not moaning just a question as some people do some don't and agree you should never expect a reply "
I think this has been done so many times before people get impatient, wouldn't worry about it, do your thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"well costs nothing to reply no thanks even if u get loads of messages lol

It costs time. Strangers have no automatic entitlement to my time.

When on here I want to be chatting to friends and people who interest me, finding people who intetest me and spending time on the fora. I don't want to be sending out numerous no thanks messages, mostly to men who clearly don't fit what my profile says I am looking for.

I think you underestimate what "loads of messages" can mean sometimes too.

Do you spend time messaging people who don't interest you? Neither do I."

well yea i do understand that but still like i keep saying (boring i know lol ) polightness costs nothing i always reply to the 2 or 3 messages i get a day a good day that is lol

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Some seem to be getting het up

I'm not moaning just a question as some people do some don't and agree you should never expect a reply "

1. Someone wants you = they reply

2. Someone doesn't want you = they don't reply

3. Someone replies NO = they don't want you.

focus on number 1. The last 2 won't get you anywhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely not.

We used to receive 70 plus messages per day mostly from guys who couldn't be bothered to READ our profile & didn't meet any our preferences.

Why do they deserve the courtesy of a polite response?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally find it rude and demoralizing In some ways, but its commendable with respects to the amount of messages single females get.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks thought I was in trouble then.........off to the naughty step again lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"its just polite to reply even if not your type or not read ya profile

Rubbish.

It's polite not to waste people's time by messaging them when you've not bothered to read their profile. "

all u have to say is read the profile if u get crappy questions mind some profiles miles to long anyway.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Now focused lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id prefer to get a reply even if it just a no thanks, i just think it polite

But its understandable with the people who dont take no for an answer, and send follow up message after follow up message

I suppose it depend on what the message is, as if its just "wana fuck"

Then y reply if not interested but if somone has took time read profile and you can tell then a polite no thatnks i think us the best thing just to be polite

Were all here for the same thing y not be polite about it

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"Some seem to be getting het up

I'm not moaning just a question as some people do some don't and agree you should never expect a reply "

A question which is already answered in the FAQs.

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"there should be a thanks but no thanks button"

Yeah... then those that moan about getting no reply will just moan about getting an auto reply..

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"well costs nothing to reply no thanks even if u get loads of messages lol

It costs time. Strangers have no automatic entitlement to my time.

When on here I want to be chatting to friends and people who interest me, finding people who intetest me and spending time on the fora. I don't want to be sending out numerous no thanks messages, mostly to men who clearly don't fit what my profile says I am looking for.

I think you underestimate what "loads of messages" can mean sometimes too.

Do you spend time messaging people who don't interest you? Neither do I.

well yea i do understand that but still like i keep saying (boring i know lol ) polightness costs nothing i always reply to the 2 or 3 messages i get a day a good day that is lol "

And as I keep saying, it's not rude not to reply.

Replying costs time that people may wish to spend doing other things.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"its just polite to reply even if not your type or not read ya profile

Rubbish.

It's polite not to waste people's time by messaging them when you've not bothered to read their profile.

all u have to say is read the profile if u get crappy questions mind some profiles miles to long anyway."

Why waste my time saying that when they wouldn't spend theirs checking if I want to hear from them?

It's still a no. They don't read my profile, they don't deserve my time.

My profile may be long but it tells people exactly what I am looking for. I spent a lot of time on it. It enables them not to be rude and waste my time.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Id prefer to get a reply even if it just a no thanks, i just think it polite

But its understandable with the people who dont take no for an answer, and send follow up message after follow up message

I suppose it depend on what the message is, as if its just "wana fuck"

Then y reply if not interested but if somone has took time read profile and you can tell then a polite no thatnks i think us the best thing just to be polite

Were all here for the same thing y not be polite about it

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We're NOT all here for the same thing, which is why some of us write profiles clearly stating what we are here for!

That we are "all here for the same thing" seems to be a common misconception amongst men on the site and is part of the reason they think they are owed a reply.

I've lost count of the number of times I've been told that simply being here is soliciting messages. It isn't. It's soluciting messages from the people our profiles say we are looking for.

Too many men think all women here seem to automatically assume all women here are after exactly the same as they want and get right stroppy when it's not delivered on a plate with a bow round it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all

Lady's and men do you think it's rude not to reply to a message even if it's just no thanks? "

do you think its rude to tell people they are ugly fookers anyway if you do send a no thanks?

I get that a lot when I do send a no thanks, that's why I stopped, so if me not replying is rude its the reactions to my replies that stopped me, so who's really the rude ones

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Funny that it's nearly always the men who think it's polite to reply.

I repeat... nobody would spend their time messaging someone who doesn't interest them so they shouldn't expect anyone else to do so. Be that an initial message or a reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"its just polite to reply even if not your type or not read ya profile "

It's impolite to send a message to people who have clearly stated they have no interest in you...as we have on our profile...if people choose to ignore that we owe them nothing...

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Nope. It's perfectly reasonable not to reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"well costs nothing to reply no thanks even if u get loads of messages lol "

Would you shift through and reply to 500 messages just to say 'no thanks'? It does cost - it costs time which is very valuable! Also the potential to miss those messages that you would like to take further - again valuable. Thank god for filters! So no I dont reply to all messages. If you haven't read the profile you don't get a reply. States so on the profile and it's in the fab FAQ's. Simples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can see where you're coming from but as a single lady on here you get inundated which makes it virtually impossible to reply to every message with even a simple 'no thanks'.

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

Well heres my thoughts,

Your profile you manage it how you choose

Their profile they manage it how they choose,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get 1000s of messages a day . I can't possibly reply to them all . So sorry ladies but if I don't get back to you its because I'm inundated with . Fancy a fuck messages . Please read my profile

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle


"I get 1000s of messages a day . I can't possibly reply to them all . So sorry ladies but if I don't get back to you its because I'm inundated with . Fancy a fuck messages . Please read my profile "

Fancy a fuck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get 1000s of messages a day . I can't possibly reply to them all . So sorry ladies but if I don't get back to you its because I'm inundated with . Fancy a fuck messages . Please read my profile

Fancy a fuck "
oh go on then yer sweet talking minx

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I don't think its rude not to reply, I have a "not looking for new meets" message on my profile yet I still get mail, some I do manage to send a no thanks to, other times I have so many that the messages off friends get lost amongst them which is the annoying part for me

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle


"I get 1000s of messages a day . I can't possibly reply to them all . So sorry ladies but if I don't get back to you its because I'm inundated with . Fancy a fuck messages . Please read my profile

Fancy a fuck oh go on then yer sweet talking minx "

I cut to the chase

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get 1000s of messages a day . I can't possibly reply to them all . So sorry ladies but if I don't get back to you its because I'm inundated with . Fancy a fuck messages . Please read my profile

Fancy a fuck oh go on then yer sweet talking minx You've pulled

I cut to the chase "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Think you have made yourself clear lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Manners are free if someone had taken the time to message you it would be fucking rude not to say at least no thanks

I mean message not just put wanna fuck that A BLOCK BUTTON. For their lack of manners in failing to string a complete sentence together lol

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside


"Hi all

Lady's and men do you think it's rude not to reply to a message even if it's just no thanks? "

No

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside


"there should be a thanks but no thanks button"

Admin tried a thanks but no thanks button. People complained it was impersonal and it would only take a minute to actually type no thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"there should be a thanks but no thanks button

Admin tried a thanks but no thanks button. People complained it was impersonal and it would only take a minute to actually type no thanks. "

Can we request a fuck off now we said no the first time button

I made a typo on the first try lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"there should be a thanks but no thanks button

Admin tried a thanks but no thanks button. People complained it was impersonal and it would only take a minute to actually type no thanks. "

Funny!

If you get deleted, block and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Case in point...

Frequent "I'm in your area and want a meet now/tonight" messages with an hour or two of notice.

A bit hopeful at best BUT when my profile specifically says I'm not looking for one-offs so if you're just passing through I am not interested, is it rude to waste my time?

They are looking for instant gratification, completely on their terms, so can't be arsed to read "War and Peace" which I put a lot of time and effort into in order that they wouldn't waste my time. Rude?"

I am in Norwich right now, fancy a fuck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Id prefer to get a reply even if it just a no thanks, i just think it polite

But its understandable with the people who dont take no for an answer, and send follow up message after follow up message

I suppose it depend on what the message is, as if its just "wana fuck"

Then y reply if not interested but if somone has took time read profile and you can tell then a polite no thatnks i think us the best thing just to be polite

Were all here for the same thing y not be polite about it

We're NOT all here for the same thing, which is why some of us write profiles clearly stating what we are here for!

That we are "all here for the same thing" seems to be a common misconception amongst men on the site and is part of the reason they think they are owed a reply.

I've lost count of the number of times I've been told that simply being here is soliciting messages. It isn't. It's soluciting messages from the people our profiles say we are looking for.

Too many men think all women here seem to automatically assume all women here are after exactly the same as they want and get right stroppy when it's not delivered on a plate with a bow round it."

Fancy a fuck though!!

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By *ScotsmanMan
over a year ago

ayrshire

its abit of a cunt gettin a thanks but no thanks from someone else Thats nice then i send a thanks for the no thanks they they text and thanks for the thanks for the no thanks then i text thanks for the thanks for the thanks for the no thanks,it god on for weeks.

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By *ogistical NightmaresCouple
over a year ago

Manchester Area

We tend to reply out of politeness... however. if its quite clear sender hasn`t read our profile eg contact from single males, barebackers, separate room, caucasians only profiles .... why should we waste our time. Theres only 1440 minutes in a day, spend 2 mins replying to a msg from someone that cant be bothered to read before sending is time wasted and diverted from enjoyable things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I reply if I can tell they have read my profile and supplied a face pic but if not then no reply "

Ditto!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Rather have my message deleted rather then a sorry no thanks..."

Really? Why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"there should be a thanks but no thanks button"

Good idea!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No.

Especially if they clearly haven't read my profile and do not match what I'm looking for, are obvious fantasists and chancers, are crass or just send "hi how are u?" or txtspk messages.

They choose how they use their time, (in writing a message). I choose how I use my time (whether I reply to that message). Nobody else has any entitlement to my time.

I think it's rude to think you can dictate what someone else should do based on a choice you made.

If you hadn't wanted to send a message, you wouldn't have. The recipient of the message should have the same right to choose to reply if they want to."

Hear hear!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I reply if I can tell they have read my profile and supplied a face pic but if not then no reply

I agree.

It's common that majority of people on the site don't read profiles and it gets moaned about, so I feel that if someone has read my profile and has written a nice message then they deserve a response."

Yes, I agree!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"its just polite to reply even if not your type or not read ya profile

Rubbish.

It's polite not to waste people's time by messaging them when you've not bothered to read their profile. "

Totally agree!

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"its just polite to reply even if not your type or not read ya profile

Rubbish.

It's polite not to waste people's time by messaging them when you've not bothered to read their profile.

all u have to say is read the profile if u get crappy questions mind some profiles miles to long anyway.

Why waste my time saying that when they wouldn't spend theirs checking if I want to hear from them?

It's still a no. They don't read my profile, they don't deserve my time.

My profile may be long but it tells people exactly what I am looking for. I spent a lot of time on it. It enables them not to be rude and waste my time."

Exactly!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"well costs nothing to reply no thanks even if u get loads of messages lol

It costs time. Strangers have no automatic entitlement to my time.

When on here I want to be chatting to friends and people who interest me, finding people who intetest me and spending time on the fora. I don't want to be sending out numerous no thanks messages, mostly to men who clearly don't fit what my profile says I am looking for.

I think you underestimate what "loads of messages" can mean sometimes too.

Do you spend time messaging people who don't interest you? Neither do I."

You don't own your profile, it's just an add, anyone can message you, here is a concept, block all sine guys then find the 'time' to find suitable people and message them . See how you get on

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"if it is a well crafted message that meets everything that you are seeking, then I do think it is rude.

if it is a load of 4 word nonsense, then NO

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^^^^^This!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if it is a well crafted message that meets everything that you are seeking, then I do think it is rude.

if it is a load of 4 word nonsense, then NO

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"there should be a thanks but no thanks button"

I wouldn't use it if there was. Why would I want to thank late night chancers or someone who hadn't bothered reading my profile in the first place?

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"well costs nothing to reply no thanks even if u get loads of messages lol

It costs time. Strangers have no automatic entitlement to my time.

When on here I want to be chatting to friends and people who interesting me, finding people who intetest me and spending time on the fora. I don't want to be sending out numerous no thanks messages, mostly to men who clearly don't fit what my profile says I am looking for.

I think you underestimate what "loads of messages" can mean sometimes too.

Do you spend time messaging people who don't interest you? Neither do I.

You don't own your profile, it's just an add, anyone can message you, here is a concept, block all sine guys then find the 'time' to find suitable people and message them . See how you get on"

I'll decide how I manage my profile and what filters I use thanks. You can use the site as you choose, as can I. I am perfectly fine with ignoring messages I don't want to reply to.

You seem to have missed what this thread is about, and what my posts are about but to clarify, what I've said explains why I don't think it's rude not to reply to messages.

I don't block all men because polite messages from men who match what I am looking for are welcome. The rest I'll happily ignore, whether that suits anyone else or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"well costs nothing to reply no thanks even if u get loads of messages lol

It costs time. Strangers have no automatic entitlement to my time.

When on here I want to be chatting to friends and people who interesting me, finding people who intetest me and spending time on the fora. I don't want to be sending out numerous no thanks messages, mostly to men who clearly don't fit what my profile says I am looking for.

I think you underestimate what "loads of messages" can mean sometimes too.

Do you spend time messaging people who don't interest you? Neither do I.

You don't own your profile, it's just an add, anyone can message you, here is a concept, block all sine guys then find the 'time' to find suitable people and message them . See how you get on

I'll decide how I manage my profile and what filters I use thanks. You can use the site as you choose, as can I. I am perfectly fine with ignoring messages I don't want to reply to.

You seem to have missed what this thread is about, and what my posts are about but to clarify, what I've said explains why I don't think it's rude not to reply to messages.

I don't block all men because polite messages from men who match what I am looking for are welcome. The rest I'll happily ignore, whether that suits anyone else or not."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"well costs nothing to reply no thanks even if u get loads of messages lol

It costs time. Strangers have no automatic entitlement to my time.

When on here I want to be chatting to friends and people who interesting me, finding people who intetest me and spending time on the fora. I don't want to be sending out numerous no thanks messages, mostly to men who clearly don't fit what my profile says I am looking for.

I think you underestimate what "loads of messages" can mean sometimes too.

Do you spend time messaging people who don't interest you? Neither do I.

You don't own your profile, it's just an add, anyone can message you, here is a concept, block all sine guys then find the 'time' to find suitable people and message them . See how you get on

I'll decide how I manage my profile and what filters I use thanks. You can use the site as you choose, as can I. I am perfectly fine with ignoring messages I don't want to reply to.

You seem to have missed what this thread is about, and what my posts are about but to clarify, what I've said explains why I don't think it's rude not to reply to messages.

I don't block all men because polite messages from men who match what I am looking for are welcome. The rest I'll happily ignore, whether that suits anyone else or not."

And your missing my point, I was suggesting that your opinion on replies might change if you had to the donkey work , sending messages with out acknowledgment can be frustrating. Try it,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always reply to nice messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"well costs nothing to reply no thanks even if u get loads of messages lol

It costs time. Strangers have no automatic entitlement to my time.

When on here I want to be chatting to friends and people who interest me, finding people who intetest me and spending time on the fora. I don't want to be sending out numerous no thanks messages, mostly to men who clearly don't fit what my profile says I am looking for.

I think you underestimate what "loads of messages" can mean sometimes too.

Do you spend time messaging people who don't interest you? Neither do I.

You don't own your profile, it's just an add, anyone can message you, here is a concept, block all sine guys then find the 'time' to find suitable people and message them . See how you get on"

If we pay to upgrade, which is our choice, then we must own it up to a point? But regardless of paying or not paying, as the lady said earlier we can use it how we wish

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"well costs nothing to reply no thanks even if u get loads of messages lol

It costs time. Strangers have no automatic entitlement to my time.

This

When on here I want to be chatting to friends and people who interesting me, finding people who intetest me and spending time on the fora. I don't want to be sending out numerous no thanks messages, mostly to men who clearly don't fit what my profile says I am looking for.

I think you underestimate what "loads of messages" can mean sometimes too.

Do you spend time messaging people who don't interest you? Neither do I.

You don't own your profile, it's just an add, anyone can message you, here is a concept, block all sine guys then find the 'time' to find suitable people and message them . See how you get on

I'll decide how I manage my profile and what filters I use thanks. You can use the site as you choose, as can I. I am perfectly fine with ignoring messages I don't want to reply to.

You seem to have missed what this thread is about, and what my posts are about but to clarify, what I've said explains why I don't think it's rude not to reply to messages.

I don't block all men because polite messages from men who match what I am looking for are welcome. The rest I'll happily ignore, whether that suits anyone else or not.

And your missing my point, I was suggesting that your opinion on replies might change if you had to the donkey work , sending messages with out acknowledgment can be frustrating. Try it, "

How do you know I don't? Big assumption to make. I do actually send out first messages to people that interest me quite often.

What I don't do is send one word or one line messages or message people who have a profile clearly stating they won't be interested in me.

If you want frustrating, try numerous - really numerous - messages from men who couldn't be bothered to read my profile but believe they are entitled to something from me.

Apparently my profile is too long to bother to read. That's because it's very clear on what I am and am not looking for. If they can't be bothered to read my profile then perhaps they shouldn't bother to message me.

It's frustrating to want to chat to friends or post on the forum but to be frequently contacted by people who are nothing like what I am looking for. I have to spend my time reading their message and their profile to ascertain this because they couldn't be bothered. And then I'm expected to spend even more time sending a polite no thanks? Oddly I don't feel even slightly inclined to be polite to people who waste my time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We used to reply to all messages but found we were spending more time replying to people we were not interested in than the ones we were. It now depends on the mood we are in at the time one day we may reply to a one liner or a copy and paste other days we may only reply to people who interest us. We don't think it's rude not to reply to people who have made no effort in their message, who have obviously not read our profile or direct messages at Morrigan only.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"We used to reply to all messages but found we were spending more time replying to people we were not interested in than the ones we were."

This ^ Absolutely this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"well costs nothing to reply no thanks even if u get loads of messages lol

It costs time. Strangers have no automatic entitlement to my time.

This

When on here I want to be chatting to friends and people who interesting me, finding people who intetest me and spending time on the fora. I don't want to be sending out numerous no thanks messages, mostly to men who clearly don't fit what my profile says I am looking for.

I think you underestimate what "loads of messages" can mean sometimes too.

Do you spend time messaging people who don't interest you? Neither do I.

You don't own your profile, it's just an add, anyone can message you, here is a concept, block all sine guys then find the 'time' to find suitable people and message them . See how you get on

I'll decide how I manage my profile and what filters I use thanks. You can use the site as you choose, as can I. I am perfectly fine with ignoring messages I don't want to reply to.

You seem to have missed what this thread is about, and what my posts are about but to clarify, what I've said explains why I don't think it's rude not to reply to messages.

I don't block all men because polite messages from men who match what I am looking for are welcome. The rest I'll happily ignore, whether that suits anyone else or not.

And your missing my point, I was suggesting that your opinion on replies might change if you had to the donkey work , sending messages with out acknowledgment can be frustrating. Try it,

How do you know I don't? Big assumption to make. I do actually send out first messages to people that interest me quite often.

What I don't do is send one word or one line messages or message people who have a profile clearly stating they won't be interested in me.

If you want frustrating, try numerous - really numerous - messages from men who couldn't be bothered to read my profile but believe they are entitled to something from me.

Apparently my profile is too long to bother to read. That's because it's very clear on what I am and am not looking for. If they can't be bothered to read my profile then perhaps they shouldn't bother to message me.

It's frustrating to want to chat to friends or post on the forum but to be frequently contacted by people who are nothing like what I am looking for. I have to spend my time reading their message and their profile to ascertain this because they couldn't be bothered. And then I'm expected to spend even more time sending a polite no thanks? Oddly I don't feel even slightly inclined to be polite to people who waste my time."

This

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By *hameleons69Woman
over a year ago

good ship lollipop

We need to alter our profile as we say we reply to all, since coming back we are inundated with messages and we have seen a lot more from people who just don't fit our profile at all. As a result we are struggling to reply to all and we don't want this turning into 'evening admin'. From now on we will reply if there is some possibility of a meet.

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By *utterflywingsWoman
over a year ago

Creswell Derbyshire


"Hi all

Lady's and men do you think it's rude not to reply to a message even if it's just no thanks? "

I cant be bothered to answer those that haven't read my profile so why should i bother replying to them ???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"well costs nothing to reply no thanks even if u get loads of messages lol

It costs time. Strangers have no automatic entitlement to my time.

This

When on here I want to be chatting to friends and people who interesting me, finding people who intetest me and spending time on the fora. I don't want to be sending out numerous no thanks messages, mostly to men who clearly don't fit what my profile says I am looking for.

I think you underestimate what "loads of messages" can mean sometimes too.

Do you spend time messaging people who don't interest you? Neither do I.

You don't own your profile, it's just an add, anyone can message you, here is a concept, block all sine guys then find the 'time' to find suitable people and message them . See how you get on

I'll decide how I manage my profile and what filters I use thanks. You can use the site as you choose, as can I. I am perfectly fine with ignoring messages I don't want to reply to.

You seem to have missed what this thread is about, and what my posts are about but to clarify, what I've said explains why I don't think it's rude not to reply to messages.

I don't block all men because polite messages from men who match what I am looking for are welcome. The rest I'll happily ignore, whether that suits anyone else or not.

And your missing my point, I was suggesting that your opinion on replies might change if you had to the donkey work , sending messages with out acknowledgment can be frustrating. Try it,

How do you know I don't? Big assumption to make. I do actually send out first messages to people that interest me quite often.

What I don't do is send one word or one line messages or message people who have a profile clearly stating they won't be interested in me.

If you want frustrating, try numerous - really numerous - messages from men who couldn't be bothered to read my profile but believe they are entitled to something from me.

Apparently my profile is too long to bother to read. That's because it's very clear on what I am and am not looking for. If they can't be bothered to read my profile then perhaps they shouldn't bother to message me.

It's frustrating to want to chat to friends or post on the forum but to be frequently contacted by people who are nothing like what I am looking for. I have to spend my time reading their message and their profile to ascertain this because they couldn't be bothered. And then I'm expected to spend even more time sending a polite no thanks? Oddly I don't feel even slightly inclined to be polite to people who waste my time."

Waste your time? If it's such a bind Maybe you should alter your profile and sort out your filters, they are obviously not working.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Before I begin my epic profile, a word to the wise: if you contact someone and they don't respond, it's a simple fact of no attraction, NOT personal rejection. So don't go throwing your toys out of the pram :p. Think of the saying "one man's meat is another man's poison"."

^The top of my profile... it's my disclaimer .

I actually find humour in this subject and often change my stance on responding according to my mood. My response can be the sarcastic "thanks for reading my profile" (they don't match my preferences). I've had one guy who had sent a two worded text message, then tell me I was rude considering the effort he had made contacting me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very rude not to reply.manners cost nothing but in todays society most people forget to be civil.if you put a profile up for people to read a respond to then you should reply to any message no matter how ville the message is, manners and civility cost nothing.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"well costs nothing to reply no thanks even if u get loads of messages lol

It costs time. Strangers have no automatic entitlement to my time.

This

When on here I want to be chatting to friends and people who interesting me, finding people who intetest me and spending time on the fora. I don't want to be sending out numerous no thanks messages, mostly to men who clearly don't fit what my profile says I am looking for.

I think you underestimate what "loads of messages" can mean sometimes too.

Do you spend time messaging people who don't interest you? Neither do I.

You don't own your profile, it's just an add, anyone can message you, here is a concept, block all sine guys then find the 'time' to find suitable people and message them . See how you get on

I'll decide how I manage my profile and what filters I use thanks. You can use the site as you choose, as can I. I am perfectly fine with ignoring messages I don't want to reply to.

You seem to have missed what this thread is about, and what my posts are about but to clarify, what I've said explains why I don't think it's rude not to reply to messages.

I don't block all men because polite messages from men who match what I am looking for are welcome. The rest I'll happily ignore, whether that suits anyone else or not.

And your missing my point, I was suggesting that your opinion on replies might change if you had to the donkey work , sending messages with out acknowledgment can be frustrating. Try it,

How do you know I don't? Big assumption to make. I do actually send out first messages to people that interest me quite often.

What I don't do is send one word or one line messages or message people who have a profile clearly stating they won't be interested in me.

If you want frustrating, try numerous - really numerous - messages from men who couldn't be bothered to read my profile but believe they are entitled to something from me.

Apparently my profile is too long to bother to read. That's because it's very clear on what I am and am not looking for. If they can't be bothered to read my profile then perhaps they shouldn't bother to message me.

It's frustrating to want to chat to friends or post on the forum but to be frequently contacted by people who are nothing like what I am looking for. I have to spend my time reading their message and their profile to ascertain this because they couldn't be bothered. And then I'm expected to spend even more time sending a polite no thanks? Oddly I don't feel even slightly inclined to be polite to people who waste my time.

Waste your time? If it's such a bind Maybe you should alter your profile and sort out your filters, they are obviously not working. "

There's no way to filter people who haven't read my profile from those who have, or those who match my criteria from those who don't. And how would altering my profile help when the part of the problem is people who don't bother to read it? It already contains specific information about the type of people I seek.

Besides, as I've already pointed out, I don't need to change anything as I am perfectly happy to ignore messages I don't want to reply to.

I could equally well say to you, if you don't want messages ignored, don't send any.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Very rude not to reply.manners cost nothing but in todays society most people forget to be civil.if you put a profile up for people to read a respond to then you should reply to any message no matter how ville the message is, manners and civility cost nothing. "

No they don't which is why nobody should be sending vile messages. A profile is not an invitation for absolutely anyone to message, unless it says looking for absolutely anyone or states no criteria. That it's possible for anyone to message doesn't entitle anyone to a response.

Reading a profile costs nothing also

I'll spend my time on the people who interest me. You can spend yours as you choose.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Very rude not to reply.manners cost nothing but in todays society most people forget to be civil.if you put a profile up for people to read a respond to then you should reply to any message no matter how ville the message is, manners and civility cost nothing. "

Its also very rude when you have taken the time to say a polite no thanks to then have abuse hurled at you. I'm not on here to have childish immature people (fortunately the minority) tell me to go fuck myself, tell me I'm fat, ugly, etc etc when I've been civil. The majority just say thanks or don't reply back but as always, the minority spoil it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can empathise with you totally VV, and anyone who cannot get it into their heads what you are stating, have problems.

Bottom line: no reply IS a polite way of saying no thanks. Bear in mind this doesn't attack all those fragile egos like an actual no thanks!

Those who wish to empathise how discourteous a non-reply is, your task is to contact all the senders of junk mail you receive through your letter box!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"well costs nothing to reply no thanks even if u get loads of messages lol

It costs time. Strangers have no automatic entitlement to my time.

This

When on here I want to be chatting to friends and people who interesting me, finding people who intetest me and spending time on the fora. I don't want to be sending out numerous no thanks messages, mostly to men who clearly don't fit what my profile says I am looking for.

I think you underestimate what "loads of messages" can mean sometimes too.

Do you spend time messaging people who don't interest you? Neither do I.

You don't own your profile, it's just an add, anyone can message you, here is a concept, block all sine guys then find the 'time' to find suitable people and message them . See how you get on

I'll decide how I manage my profile and what filters I use thanks. You can use the site as you choose, as can I. I am perfectly fine with ignoring messages I don't want to reply to.

You seem to have missed what this thread is about, and what my posts are about but to clarify, what I've said explains why I don't think it's rude not to reply to messages.

I don't block all men because polite messages from men who match what I am looking for are welcome. The rest I'll happily ignore, whether that suits anyone else or not.

And your missing my point, I was suggesting that your opinion on replies might change if you had to the donkey work , sending messages with out acknowledgment can be frustrating. Try it,

How do you know I don't? Big assumption to make. I do actually send out first messages to people that interest me quite often.

What I don't do is send one word or one line messages or message people who have a profile clearly stating they won't be interested in me.

If you want frustrating, try numerous - really numerous - messages from men who couldn't be bothered to read my profile but believe they are entitled to something from me.

Apparently my profile is too long to bother to read. That's because it's very clear on what I am and am not looking for. If they can't be bothered to read my profile then perhaps they shouldn't bother to message me.

It's frustrating to want to chat to friends or post on the forum but to be frequently contacted by people who are nothing like what I am looking for. I have to spend my time reading their message and their profile to ascertain this because they couldn't be bothered. And then I'm expected to spend even more time sending a polite no thanks? Oddly I don't feel even slightly inclined to be polite to people who waste my time.

Waste your time? If it's such a bind Maybe you should alter your profile and sort out your filters, they are obviously not working.

There's no way to filter people who haven't read my profile from those who have, or those who match my criteria from those who don't. And how would altering my profile help when the part of the problem is people who don't bother to read it? It already contains specific information about the type of people I seek.

Besides, as I've already pointed out, I don't need to change anything as I am perfectly happy to ignore messages I don't want to reply to.

I could equally well say to you, if you don't want messages ignored, don't send any. "

Yes you can, block single guys. If your perfectly happy why are you moaning about 'wasting' your te reading and checking profiles from people who don't suit. Your methods don't work, and my messages don't get ignored, i get replies, even if it's a no thanks, it's called manners

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Very rude not to reply.manners cost nothing but in todays society most people forget to be civil.if you put a profile up for people to read a respond to then you should reply to any message no matter how ville the message is, manners and civility cost nothing.

Its also very rude when you have taken the time to say a polite no thanks to then have abuse hurled at you. I'm not on here to have childish immature people (fortunately the minority) tell me to go fuck myself, tell me I'm fat, ugly, etc etc when I've been civil. The majority just say thanks or don't reply back but as always, the minority spoil it. "

True, but don't stoop to their level, rise above it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Yes you can, block single guys. If your perfectly happy why are you moaning about 'wasting' your te reading and checking profiles from people who don't suit. Your methods don't work, and my messages don't get ignored, i get replies, even if it's a no thanks, it's called manners"

Cos she won't know until she's spent the time doing the reading, jeez

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Very rude not to reply.manners cost nothing but in todays society most people forget to be civil.if you put a profile up for people to read a respond to then you should reply to any message no matter how ville the message is, manners and civility cost nothing. "

Do you chat to every tellesales person, write back to every junk mail sender because if you believe in what you say then surly you do which I somewhat doubt. The facts are guys mail without reading profiles and a lack of reply is only the same as not responding to non reinvent junk mail.

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over a year ago


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Yes you can, block single guys. If your perfectly happy why are you moaning about 'wasting' your te reading and checking profiles from people who don't suit. Your methods don't work, and my messages don't get ignored, i get replies, even if it's a no thanks, it's called manners

Cos she won't know until she's spent the time doing the reading, jeez "

That's my point, jeez

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry I just delete

Or block

If I reply then they reply

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over a year ago


"Very rude not to reply.manners cost nothing but in todays society most people forget to be civil.if you put a profile up for people to read a respond to then you should reply to any message no matter how ville the message is, manners and civility cost nothing.

Its also very rude when you have taken the time to say a polite no thanks to then have abuse hurled at you. I'm not on here to have childish immature people (fortunately the minority) tell me to go fuck myself, tell me I'm fat, ugly, etc etc when I've been civil. The majority just say thanks or don't reply back but as always, the minority spoil it.

True, but don't stoop to their level, rise above it"

I never do, I'm always civil back which tends to annoy them more. I like to thank them for showing their true colours and confirming my decision to not want to meet them as the correct one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You woman on this site are too fussy. Always got to moan about something lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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True, but don't stoop to their level, rise above it

I never do, I'm always civil back which tends to annoy them more. I like to thank them for showing their true colours and confirming my decision to not want to meet them as the correct one "

High five, civil sarcasm is sometimes the way to go.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"well costs nothing to reply no thanks even if u get loads of messages lol

It costs time. Strangers have no automatic entitlement to my time.

This

When on here I want to be chanting to friends and people who interesting me, finding people who intetest me and spending time on the fora. I don't want to be sending out numerous no thanks messages, mostly to men who clearly don't fit what my profile says I am looking for.

I think you underestimate what "loads of messages" can mean sometimes too.

Do you spend time messaging people who don't interest you? Neither do I.

You don't own your profile, it's just an add, anyone can message you, here is a concept, block all sine guys then find the 'time' to find suitable people and message them . See how you get on

I'll decide how I manage my profile and what filters I use thanks. You can use the site as you choose, as can I. I am perfectly fine with ignoring messages I don't want to reply to.

You seem to have missed what this thread is about, and what my posts are about but to clarify, what I've said explains why I don't think it's rude not to reply to messages.

I don't block all men because polite messages from men who match what I am looking for are welcome. The rest I'll happily ignore, whether that suits anyone else or not.

And your missing my point, I was suggesting that your opinion on replies might change if you had to the donkey work , sending messages with out acknowledgment can be frustrating. Try it,

How do you know I don't? Big assumption to make. I do actually send out first messages to people that interest me quite often.

What I don't do is send one word or one line messages or message people who have a profile clearly stating they won't be interested in me.

If you want frustrating, try numerous - really numerous - messages from men who couldn't be bothered to read my profile but believe they are entitled to something from me.

Apparently my profile is too long to bother to read. That's because it's very clear on what I am and am not looking for. If they can't be bothered to read my profile then perhaps they shouldn't bother to message me.

It's frustrating to want to chat to friends or post on the forum but to be frequently contacted by people who are nothing like what I am looking for. I have to spend my time reading their message and their profile to ascertain this because they couldn't be bothered. And then I'm expected to spend even more time sending a polite no thanks? Oddly I don't feel even slightly inclined to be polite to people who waste my time.

Waste your time? If it's such a bind Maybe you should alter your profile and sort out your filters, they are obviously not working.

There's no way to filter people who haven't read my profile from those who have, or those who match my criteria from those who don't. And how would altering my profile help when the part of the problem is people who don't bother to read it? It already contains specific information about the type of people I seek.

Besides, as I've already pointed out, I don't need to change anything as I am perfectly happy to ignore messages I don't want to reply to.

I could equally well say to you, if you don't want messages ignored, don't send any.

Yes you can, block single guys. If your perfectly happy why are you moaning about 'wasting' your te reading and checking profiles from people who don't suit. Your methods don't work, and my messages don't get ignored, i get replies, even if it's a no thanks, it's called manners"

Rubbish.

And as already pointed out, blocking men does not separate those who fit my criteria from those who don't. The latter group should expect to be ignored.

My method works fine and I'm entirely happy with ignoring those who don't fit my preferences. It's not rude and I've clearly explained why, as have many others.

If your method worked you wouldn't be on here moaning about how frustrating it is not to have messages acknowledged because you wouldn't know. And you wouldn't be so bitter and twisted about the whole matter!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very rude not to,I always reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You woman on this site are too fussy. Always got to moan about something lol "

So women moan (not the bedroom kind) and men debate?

Have you read the single guy no meet type threads?

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over a year ago


"Very rude not to reply.manners cost nothing but in todays society most people forget to be civil.if you put a profile up for people to read a respond to then you should reply to any message no matter how ville the message is, manners and civility cost nothing.

Its also very rude when you have taken the time to say a polite no thanks to then have abuse hurled at you. I'm not on here to have childish immature people (fortunately the minority) tell me to go fuck myself, tell me I'm fat, ugly, etc etc when I've been civil. The majority just say thanks or don't reply back but as always, the minority spoil it.

True, but don't stoop to their level, rise above it

I never do, I'm always civil back which tends to annoy them more. I like to thank them for showing their true colours and confirming my decision to not want to meet them as the correct one "

Fair play to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"well costs nothing to reply no thanks even if u get loads of messages lol

It costs time. Strangers have no automatic entitlement to my time.

This

When on here I want to be chanting to friends and people who interesting me, finding people who intetest me and spending time on the fora. I don't want to be sending out numerous no thanks messages, mostly to men who clearly don't fit what my profile says I am looking for.

I think you underestimate what "loads of messages" can mean sometimes too.

Do you spend time messaging people who don't interest you? Neither do I.

You don't own your profile, it's just an add, anyone can message you, here is a concept, block all sine guys then find the 'time' to find suitable people and message them . See how you get on

I'll decide how I manage my profile and what filters I use thanks. You can use the site as you choose, as can I. I am perfectly fine with ignoring messages I don't want to reply to.

You seem to have missed what this thread is about, and what my posts are about but to clarify, what I've said explains why I don't think it's rude not to reply to messages.

I don't block all men because polite messages from men who match what I am looking for are welcome. The rest I'll happily ignore, whether that suits anyone else or not.

And your missing my point, I was suggesting that your opinion on replies might change if you had to the donkey work , sending messages with out acknowledgment can be frustrating. Try it,

How do you know I don't? Big assumption to make. I do actually send out first messages to people that interest me quite often.

What I don't do is send one word or one line messages or message people who have a profile clearly stating they won't be interested in me.

If you want frustrating, try numerous - really numerous - messages from men who couldn't be bothered to read my profile but believe they are entitled to something from me.

Apparently my profile is too long to bother to read. That's because it's very clear on what I am and am not looking for. If they can't be bothered to read my profile then perhaps they shouldn't bother to message me.

It's frustrating to want to chat to friends or post on the forum but to be frequently contacted by people who are nothing like what I am looking for. I have to spend my time reading their message and their profile to ascertain this because they couldn't be bothered. And then I'm expected to spend even more time sending a polite no thanks? Oddly I don't feel even slightly inclined to be polite to people who waste my time.

Waste your time? If it's such a bind Maybe you should alter your profile and sort out your filters, they are obviously not working.

There's no way to filter people who haven't read my profile from those who have, or those who match my criteria from those who don't. And how would altering my profile help when the part of the problem is people who don't bother to read it? It already contains specific information about the type of people I seek.

Besides, as I've already pointed out, I don't need to change anything as I am perfectly happy to ignore messages I don't want to reply to.

I could equally well say to you, if you don't want messages ignored, don't send any.

Yes you can, block single guys. If your perfectly happy why are you moaning about 'wasting' your te reading and checking profiles from people who don't suit. Your methods don't work, and my messages don't get ignored, i get replies, even if it's a no thanks, it's called manners

Rubbish.

And as already pointed out, blocking men does not separate those who fit my criteria from those who don't. The latter group should expect to be ignored.

My method works fine and I'm entirely happy with ignoring those who don't fit my preferences. It's not rude and I've clearly explained why, as have many others.

If your method worked you wouldn't be on here moaning about how frustrating it is not to have messages acknowledged because you wouldn't know. And you wouldn't be so bitter and twisted about the whole matter! "

Iam not bitter, i always get a reply, that's why I can't understand people who won't send them. I was brought up with manners, I suppose that's the difference

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"You woman on this site are too fussy. Always got to moan about something lol "

Actually this thread is the MEN moaning about not getting replies and how it's rude! The women are merely explaining why it happens and why it's not in the slightest bit rude.

The sense of entitlement of some blokes on here really makes me laugh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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True, but don't stoop to their level, rise above it

I never do, I'm always civil back which tends to annoy them more. I like to thank them for showing their true colours and confirming my decision to not want to meet them as the correct one

High five, civil sarcasm is sometimes the way to go."

Or advise them to get an adult to help them pick up and replace the dummy they have clearly just spat out and go on a more appropriate site like Cebeebies as this is a site for adults, not silly little boys lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bla bla bla ??????????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

True, but don't stoop to their level, rise above it

I never do, I'm always civil back which tends to annoy them more. I like to thank them for showing their true colours and confirming my decision to not want to meet them as the correct one

High five, civil sarcasm is sometimes the way to go.

Or advise them to get an adult to help them pick up and replace the dummy they have clearly just spat out and go on a more appropriate site like Cebeebies as this is a site for adults, not silly little boys lol."

I think the odd one or two in this thread could do with that advice .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol I'm supprised no one has quoted the fab q&a about replies to messages yet

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"well costs nothing to reply no thanks even if u get loads of messages lol

It costs time. Strangers have no automatic entitlement to my time.

This

When on here I want to be chanting to friends and people who interesting me, finding people who intetest me and spending time on the fora. I don't want to be sending out numerous no thanks messages, mostly to men who clearly don't fit what my profile says I am looking for.

I think you underestimate what "loads of messages" can mean sometimes too.

Do you spend time messaging people who don't interest you? Neither do I.

You don't own your profile, it's just an add, anyone can message you, here is a concept, block all sine guys then find the 'time' to find suitable people and message them . See how you get on

I'll decide how I manage my profile and what filters I use thanks. You can use the site as you choose, as can I. I am perfectly fine with ignoring messages I don't want to reply to.

You seem to have missed what this thread is about, and what my posts are about but to clarify, what I've said explains why I don't think it's rude not to reply to messages.

I don't block all men because polite messages from men who match what I am looking for are welcome. The rest I'll happily ignore, whether that suits anyone else or not.

And your missing my point, I was suggesting that your opinion on replies might change if you had to the donkey work , sending messages with out acknowledgment can be frustrating. Try it,

How do you know I don't? Big assumption to make. I do actually send out first messages to people that interest me quite often.

What I don't do is send one word or one line messages or message people who have a profile clearly stating they won't be interested in me.

If you want frustrating, try numerous - really numerous - messages from men who couldn't be bothered to read my profile but believe they are entitled to something from me.

Apparently my profile is too long to bother to read. That's because it's very clear on what I am and am not looking for. If they can't be bothered to read my profile then perhaps they shouldn't bother to message me.

It's frustrating to want to chat to friends or post on the forum but to be frequently contacted by people who are nothing like what I am looking for. I have to spend my time reading their message and their profile to ascertain this because they couldn't be bothered. And then I'm expected to spend even more time sending a polite no thanks? Oddly I don't feel even slightly inclined to be polite to people who waste my time.

Waste your time? If it's such a bind Maybe you should alter your profile and sort out your filters, they are obviously not working.

There's no way to filter people who haven't read my profile from those who have, or those who match my criteria from those who don't. And how would altering my profile help when the part of the problem is people who don't bother to read it? It already contains specific information about the type of people I seek.

Besides, as I've already pointed out, I don't need to change anything as I am perfectly happy to ignore messages I don't want to reply to.

I could equally well say to you, if you don't want messages ignored, don't send any.

Yes you can, block single guys. If your perfectly happy why are you moaning about 'wasting' your te reading and checking profiles from people who don't suit. Your methods don't work, and my messages don't get ignored, i get replies, even if it's a no thanks, it's called manners

Rubbish.

And as already pointed out, blocking men does not separate those who fit my criteria from those who don't. The latter group should expect to be ignored.

My method works fine and I'm entirely happy with ignoring those who don't fit my preferences. It's not rude and I've clearly explained why, as have many others.

If your method worked you wouldn't be on here moaning about how frustrating it is not to have messages acknowledged because you wouldn't know. And you wouldn't be so bitter and twisted about the whole matter!

Iam not bitter, i always get a reply, that's why I can't understand people who won't send them. I was brought up with manners, I suppose that's the difference "

You don't understand because you only see it from the male perspective. That's exactly the issue. You don't understand.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Bla bla bla ??????????"

yada yada yada ???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer a no reply cos most who sais no alwais add some kind of abuse to the message lol.

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

personally we reply either way to polite messages but dont to any messages where it is obvious the sender is just blitzing the site on the hope of getting lucky lol

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Lol I'm supprised no one has quoted the fab q&a about replies to messages yet "

I think they did higher up.

Even though it's been clearly explained why this isn't rude, some people are stuck in parrot mode. "Manners cost nothing, manners cost nothing, squuuaaarrk". Denial and bitterness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"well costs nothing to reply no thanks even if u get loads of messages lol

It costs time. Strangers have no automatic entitlement to my time.

This

When on here I want to be chanting to friends and people who interesting me, finding people who intetest me and spending time on the fora. I don't want to be sending out numerous no thanks messages, mostly to men who clearly don't fit what my profile says I am looking for.

I think you underestimate what "loads of messages" can mean sometimes too.

Do you spend time messaging people who don't interest you? Neither do I.

You don't own your profile, it's just an add, anyone can message you, here is a concept, block all sine guys then find the 'time' to find suitable people and message them . See how you get on

I'll decide how I manage my profile and what filters I use thanks. You can use the site as you choose, as can I. I am perfectly fine with ignoring messages I don't want to reply to.

You seem to have missed what this thread is about, and what my posts are about but to clarify, what I've said explains why I don't think it's rude not to reply to messages.

I don't block all men because polite messages from men who match what I am looking for are welcome. The rest I'll happily ignore, whether that suits anyone else or not.

And your missing my point, I was suggesting that your opinion on replies might change if you had to the donkey work , sending messages with out acknowledgment can be frustrating. Try it,

How do you know I don't? Big assumption to make. I do actually send out first messages to people that interest me quite often.

What I don't do is send one word or one line messages or message people who have a profile clearly stating they won't be interested in me.

If you want frustrating, try numerous - really numerous - messages from men who couldn't be bothered to read my profile but believe they are entitled to something from me.

Apparently my profile is too long to bother to read. That's because it's very clear on what I am and am not looking for. If they can't be bothered to read my profile then perhaps they shouldn't bother to message me.

It's frustrating to want to chat to friends or post on the forum but to be frequently contacted by people who are nothing like what I am looking for. I have to spend my time reading their message and their profile to ascertain this because they couldn't be bothered. And then I'm expected to spend even more time sending a polite no thanks? Oddly I don't feel even slightly inclined to be polite to people who waste my time.

Waste your time? If it's such a bind Maybe you should alter your profile and sort out your filters, they are obviously not working.

There's no way to filter people who haven't read my profile from those who have, or those who match my criteria from those who don't. And how would altering my profile help when the part of the problem is people who don't bother to read it? It already contains specific information about the type of people I seek.

Besides, as I've already pointed out, I don't need to change anything as I am perfectly happy to ignore messages I don't want to reply to.

I could equally well say to you, if you don't want messages ignored, don't send any.

Yes you can, block single guys. If your perfectly happy why are you moaning about 'wasting' your te reading and checking profiles from people who don't suit. Your methods don't work, and my messages don't get ignored, i get replies, even if it's a no thanks, it's called manners

Rubbish.

And as already pointed out, blocking men does not separate those who fit my criteria from those who don't. The latter group should expect to be ignored.

My method works fine and I'm entirely happy with ignoring those who don't fit my preferences. It's not rude and I've clearly explained why, as have many others.

If your method worked you wouldn't be on here moaning about how frustrating it is not to have messages acknowledged because you wouldn't know. And you wouldn't be so bitter and twisted about the whole matter!

Iam not bitter, i always get a reply, that's why I can't understand people who won't send them. I was brought up with manners, I suppose that's the difference

You don't understand because you only see it from the male perspective. That's exactly the issue. You don't understand. "

You don't understand because you only see it from the 'female' perspective. That's exactly the issue. You don't understand. I probably get more messages than you and I reply to them all,

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire


"I prefer a no reply cos most who sais no alwais add some kind of abuse to the message lol."

there is no need to add abuse to any rejection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

You don't understand because you only see it from the 'female' perspective. That's exactly the issue. You don't understand. I probably get more messages than you and I reply to them all,

"

And the award of the most hilarious post of the day goes to...

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over a year ago


"I prefer a no reply cos most who sais no alwais add some kind of abuse to the message lol.

there is no need to add abuse to any rejection "
I know only 10 percent do it, I never reply to them lol x.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"well costs nothing to reply no thanks even if u get loads of messages lol

It costs time. Strangers have no automatic entitlement to my time.

This

When on here I want to be chanting to friends and people who interesting me, finding people who intetest me and spending time on the fora. I don't want to be sending out numerous no thanks messages, mostly to men who clearly don't fit what my profile says I am looking for.

I think you underestimate what "loads of messages" can mean sometimes too.

Do you spend time messaging people who don't interest you? Neither do I.

You don't own your profile, it's just an add, anyone can message you, here is a concept, block all sine guys then find the 'time' to find suitable people and message them . See how you get on

I'll decide how I manage my profile and what filters I use thanks. You can use the site as you choose, as can I. I am perfectly fine with ignoring messages I don't want to reply to.

You seem to have missed what this thread is about, and what my posts are about but to clarify, what I've said explains why I don't think it's rude not to reply to messages.

I don't block all men because polite messages from men who match what I am looking for are welcome. The rest I'll happily ignore, whether that suits anyone else or not.

And your missing my point, I was suggesting that your opinion on replies might change if you had to the donkey work , sending messages with out acknowledgment can be frustrating. Try it,

How do you know I don't? Big assumption to make. I do actually send out first messages to people that interest me quite often.

What I don't do is send one word or one line messages or message people who have a profile clearly stating they won't be interested in me.

If you want frustrating, try numerous - really numerous - messages from men who couldn't be bothered to read my profile but believe they are entitled to something from me.

Apparently my profile is too long to bother to read. That's because it's very clear on what I am and am not looking for. If they can't be bothered to read my profile then perhaps they shouldn't bother to message me.

It's frustrating to want to chat to friends or post on the forum but to be frequently contacted by people who are nothing like what I am looking for. I have to spend my time reading their message and their profile to ascertain this because they couldn't be bothered. And then I'm expected to spend even more time sending a polite no thanks? Oddly I don't feel even slightly inclined to be polite to people who waste my time.

Waste your time? If it's such a bind Maybe you should alter your profile and sort out your filters, they are obviously not working.

There's no way to filter people who haven't read my profile from those who have, or those who match my criteria from those who don't. And how would altering my profile help when the part of the problem is people who don't bother to read it? It already contains specific information about the type of people I seek.

Besides, as I've already pointed out, I don't need to change anything as I am perfectly happy to ignore messages I don't want to reply to.

I could equally well say to you, if you don't want messages ignored, don't send any.

Yes you can, block single guys. If your perfectly happy why are you moaning about 'wasting' your te reading and checking profiles from people who don't suit. Your methods don't work, and my messages don't get ignored, i get replies, even if it's a no thanks, it's called manners

Rubbish.

And as already pointed out, blocking men does not separate those who fit my criteria from those who don't. The latter group should expect to be ignored.

My method works fine and I'm entirely happy with ignoring those who don't fit my preferences. It's not rude and I've clearly explained why, as have many others.

If your method worked you wouldn't be on here moaning about how frustrating it is not to have messages acknowledged because you wouldn't know. And you wouldn't be so bitter and twisted about the whole matter!

Iam not bitter, i always get a reply, that's why I can't understand people who won't send them. I was brought up with manners, I suppose that's the difference

You don't understand because you only see it from the male perspective. That's exactly the issue. You don't understand.

You don't understand because you only see it from the 'female' perspective. That's exactly the issue. You don't understand. I probably get more messages than you and I reply to them all,

"

You get more messages than me?

That sums it up. There's no point trying to explain anything to the delusional

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I think it's very rude not to reply to messages even if it is no thanks seen as we have spent the time to write it in the first place as I always reply to messages and any that I do send and I see they have been read I wait for a day or two as I know people are busy working and stuff then if no reply then I block them

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

I know it's bad but this thread has really made me "laugh out loud. "

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over a year ago


"well costs nothing to reply no thanks even if u get loads of messages lol

It costs time. Strangers have no automatic entitlement to my time.

This

When on here I want to be chanting to friends and people who interesting me, finding people who intetest me and spending time on the fora. I don't want to be sending out numerous no thanks messages, mostly to men who clearly don't fit what my profile says I am looking for.

I think you underestimate what "loads of messages" can mean sometimes too.

Do you spend time messaging people who don't interest you? Neither do I.

You don't own your profile, it's just an add, anyone can message you, here is a concept, block all sine guys then find the 'time' to find suitable people and message them . See how you get on

I'll decide how I manage my profile and what filters I use thanks. You can use the site as you choose, as can I. I am perfectly fine with ignoring messages I don't want to reply to.

You seem to have missed what this thread is about, and what my posts are about but to clarify, what I've said explains why I don't think it's rude not to reply to messages.

I don't block all men because polite messages from men who match what I am looking for are welcome. The rest I'll happily ignore, whether that suits anyone else or not.

And your missing my point, I was suggesting that your opinion on replies might change if you had to the donkey work , sending messages with out acknowledgment can be frustrating. Try it,

How do you know I don't? Big assumption to make. I do actually send out first messages to people that interest me quite often.

What I don't do is send one word or one line messages or message people who have a profile clearly stating they won't be interested in me.

If you want frustrating, try numerous - really numerous - messages from men who couldn't be bothered to read my profile but believe they are entitled to something from me.

Apparently my profile is too long to bother to read. That's because it's very clear on what I am and am not looking for. If they can't be bothered to read my profile then perhaps they shouldn't bother to message me.

It's frustrating to want to chat to friends or post on the forum but to be frequently contacted by people who are nothing like what I am looking for. I have to spend my time reading their message and their profile to ascertain this because they couldn't be bothered. And then I'm expected to spend even more time sending a polite no thanks? Oddly I don't feel even slightly inclined to be polite to people who waste my time.

Waste your time? If it's such a bind Maybe you should alter your profile and sort out your filters, they are obviously not working.

There's no way to filter people who haven't read my profile from those who have, or those who match my criteria from those who don't. And how would altering my profile help when the part of the problem is people who don't bother to read it? It already contains specific information about the type of people I seek.

Besides, as I've already pointed out, I don't need to change anything as I am perfectly happy to ignore messages I don't want to reply to.

I could equally well say to you, if you don't want messages ignored, don't send any.

Yes you can, block single guys. If your perfectly happy why are you moaning about 'wasting' your te reading and checking profiles from people who don't suit. Your methods don't work, and my messages don't get ignored, i get replies, even if it's a no thanks, it's called manners

Rubbish.

And as already pointed out, blocking men does not separate those who fit my criteria from those who don't. The latter group should expect to be ignored.

My method works fine and I'm entirely happy with ignoring those who don't fit my preferences. It's not rude and I've clearly explained why, as have many others.

If your method worked you wouldn't be on here moaning about how frustrating it is not to have messages acknowledged because you wouldn't know. And you wouldn't be so bitter and twisted about the whole matter!

Iam not bitter, i always get a reply, that's why I can't understand people who won't send them. I was brought up with manners, I suppose that's the difference

You don't understand because you only see it from the male perspective. That's exactly the issue. You don't understand.

You don't understand because you only see it from the 'female' perspective. That's exactly the issue. You don't understand. I probably get more messages than you and I reply to them all,

You get more messages than me?

That sums it up. There's no point trying to explain anything to the delusional "

What ?? Of course I get more than you, why with all your amazing filters and fantastic and discriptive profile would you get more than me? Just because your a single woman doesn't mean you get more messages than I do, we obviously have different _iews on respect and manners.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i havent replied to your question posted here.

does that mean we are rude? lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well I think it's very rude not to reply to messages even if it is no thanks seen as we have spent the time to write it in the first place as I always reply to messages and any that I do send and I see they have been read I wait for a day or two as I know people are busy working and stuff then if no reply then I block them "

I agree, it all about manners, some people have them others don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i havent replied to your question posted here.

does that mean we are rude? lol"

Was it specifically directed at you??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So, I'm not rude after all, after not replying to insulting messages to a guy who I had only glanced at his profile and didn't reply to his message. People like that are just a turn off!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn't it be good if we could go a whole week without the 'rude or not to reply'

Some people reply to everyone some don't~ fact of life~ build a bridge etc etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm surprised this thread hasn't been closed yet.

Most women say it's not rude, most men say it is. Reason? Women get more messages. Yes women do send first messages (on rare occasions ) but usually get approached by hundreds of guys on the site which they have to look through and sort out. If you have female friends on this site, you'll know this. Men, it can be frustrating but you have to remember that you're not the only person who has messaged her that hour! She might not even see your mail until a month from now.

As far as "but I read the profile" goes, it all down to perception. You think you did, she thinks you didn't or you're simply not what she's looking for.

This is the Fabs way Gentlemen. But don't worry, Here's a tip which will make you're life easier: Instead of questioning if you tick her boxes, ask yourself, honestly, if she ticks yours. You'll find yourself messaging far less and your messages will be more sincere.

Now everyone calm the f**k down. It's Valentines day tomorrow!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm surprised this thread hasn't been closed yet.

Most women say it's not rude, most men say it is. Reason? Women get more messages. Yes women do send first messages (on rare occasions ) but usually get approached by hundreds of guys on the site which they have to look through and sort out. If you have female friends on this site, you'll know this. Men, it can be frustrating but you have to remember that you're not the only person who has messaged her that hour! She might not even see your mail until a month from now.

As far as "but I read the profile" goes, it all down to perception. You think you did, she thinks you didn't or you're simply not what she's looking for.

This is the Fabs way Gentlemen. But don't worry, Here's a tip which will make you're life easier: Instead of questioning if you tick her boxes, ask yourself, honestly, if she ticks yours. You'll find yourself messaging far less and your messages will be more sincere.

Now everyone calm the f**k down. It's Valentines day tomorrow! "

Hat off to you sir, that is an excellent way of looking at things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm surprised this thread hasn't been closed yet.

Most women say it's not rude, most men say it is. Reason? Women get more messages. Yes women do send first messages (on rare occasions ) but usually get approached by hundreds of guys on the site which they have to look through and sort out. If you have female friends on this site, you'll know this. Men, it can be frustrating but you have to remember that you're not the only person who has messaged her that hour! She might not even see your mail until a month from now.

As far as "but I read the profile" goes, it all down to perception. You think you did, she thinks you didn't or you're simply not what she's looking for.

This is the Fabs way Gentlemen. But don't worry, Here's a tip which will make you're life easier: Instead of questioning if you tick her boxes, ask yourself, honestly, if she ticks yours. You'll find yourself messaging far less and your messages will be more sincere.

Now everyone calm the f**k down. It's Valentines day tomorrow! "

"ask yourself, honestly, if she ticks yours"... we make a change from the right hand, then the left... of course we tick their boxes .

Actually well said that young man .

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Ultimately, whether you think it's rude or not, it's like men who don't read profiles and message everyone within a 100 mile radius, and women with a list of dos and don'ts, and posts asking why can't I get a meet, and all of the other things that niggle some people; it isn't going to change.

You can stress about it and whine or you can learn to use the site to your best advantage, ignore the genuinely unpleasant people and accept the little niggles as things you can't change. The latter approach makes the site far more enjoyable.

And that is one reason I ignore messages from people who don't fit my preferences, from rude or crass people and from everyone else who might otherwise make this place less enjoyable for me.

That's the bottom line. I use this site in the way I enjoy it most. I don't owe anything to total strangers.

Nobody messages people that don't interest them, so why expect anyone to reply to them? Madness!

The guys who complain about getting no replies need to accept that is an "I am not interested" message. They could also look at why they aren't getting replies rather than blaming the people they message. Getting hurt, bitter and whingey about it is a bit pathetic and a sign of deep insecurity. Anyone confident and secure simply shrugs, accepts it wasn't to be and moves on.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"well costs nothing to reply no thanks even if u get loads of messages lol

It costs time. Strangers have no automatic entitlement to my time.

When on here I want to be chatting to friends and people who interesting me, finding people who intetest me and spending time on the fora. I don't want to be sending out numerous no thanks messages, mostly to men who clearly don't fit what my profile says I am looking for.

I think you underestimate what "loads of messages" can mean sometimes too.

Do you spend time messaging people who don't interest you? Neither do I.

You don't own your profile, it's just an add, anyone can message you, here is a concept, block all sine guys then find the 'time' to find suitable people and message them . See how you get on

I'll decide how I manage my profile and what filters I use thanks. You can use the site as you choose, as can I. I am perfectly fine with ignoring messages I don't want to reply to.

You seem to have missed what this thread is about, and what my posts are about but to clarify, what I've said explains why I don't think it's rude not to reply to messages.

I don't block all men because polite messages from men who match what I am looking for are welcome. The rest I'll happily ignore, whether that suits anyone else or not."

Makes perfect sense to me!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I know it's bad but this thread has really made me "laugh out loud. " "

It's cracking me up: the delusional, bitter and twisted often do.

When I was meeting there was no ambiguity about the type of man I was looking for. My user name and avatar added the visuals. Always willing to give a man a fighting chance I even spelt out what I was looking for and stated anyone not meeting my criteria would not get a reply.

I read the profile before the message. Don't meet what I'm looking for? Delete unread. Meet what I'm looking for but verification from someone who only plays bareback say, polite message thanking them but no thanks.

Six years, no rude or abusive messages. If people choose to ignore my preferences good luck to them. Doesn't mean I'm wasting mine!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all

Lady's and men do you think it's rude not to reply to a message even if it's just no thanks? "

No because they aren't owed a reply, the best reply is no reply

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I'm surprised this thread hasn't been closed yet.

Most women say it's not rude, most men say it is. Reason? Women get more messages. Yes women do send first messages (on rare occasions ) but usually get approached by hundreds of guys on the site which they have to look through and sort out. If you have female friends on this site, you'll know this. Men, it can be frustrating but you have to remember that you're not the only person who has messaged her that hour! She might not even see your mail until a month from now.

As far as "but I read the profile" goes, it all down to perception. You think you did, she thinks you didn't or you're simply not what she's looking for.

This is the Fabs way Gentlemen. But don't worry, Here's a tip which will make you're life easier: Instead of questioning if you tick her boxes, ask yourself, honestly, if she ticks yours. You'll find yourself messaging far less and your messages will be more sincere.

Now everyone calm the f**k down. It's Valentines day tomorrow! "

I'm reporting this post! Common sense and a sense of humour has no place on the fora!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i havent replied to your question posted here.

does that mean we are rude? lol

Was it specifically directed at you??"

if i dont reply, does it mean im rude? lol

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By *an and wifeyCouple
over a year ago

n lincs

Used to reply to all messages but one liners can go and do on. Can't be bothered replying to such hey how you doing if what you up to. Really. What a waste of time

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"Used to reply to all messages but one liners can go and do on. Can't be bothered replying to such hey how you doing if what you up to. Really. What a waste of time "
Me, too. I used to reply to all messages but it becomes a bit tedious to reply to daily "How are you" from the same people. I have toughened up a little bit and dont do that any more. But equally if somebody messages me for the first time I would still reply with a short, polite message. Possibly not necessary but many guys write back and thank me for bothering.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"well costs nothing to reply no thanks even if u get loads of messages lol

It costs time. Strangers have no automatic entitlement to my time.

When on here I want to be chatting to friends and people who interesting me, finding people who intetest me and spending time on the fora. I don't want to be sending out numerous no thanks messages, mostly to men who clearly don't fit what my profile says I am looking for.

I think you underestimate what "loads of messages" can mean sometimes too.

Do you spend time messaging people who don't interest you? Neither do I.

You don't own your profile, it's just an add, anyone can message you, here is a concept, block all sine guys then find the 'time' to find suitable people and message them . See how you get on

I'll decide how I manage my profile and what filters I use thanks. You can use the site as you choose, as can I. I am perfectly fine with ignoring messages I don't want to reply to.

You seem to have missed what this thread is about, and what my posts are about but to clarify, what I've said explains why I don't think it's rude not to reply to messages.

I don't block all men because polite messages from men who match what I am looking for are welcome. The rest I'll happily ignore, whether that suits anyone else or not."

Well said!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all

Lady's and men do you think it's rude not to reply to a message even if it's just no thanks? "

For women no some let like 3000 a day.

For men well if you let lots then no. me I reply back to the odd few I get.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all

Lady's and men do you think it's rude not to reply to a message even if it's just no thanks?

I cant be bothered to answer those that haven't read my profile so why should i bother replying to them ???"

Had this recently

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can empathise with you totally VV, and anyone who cannot get it into their heads what you are stating, have problems.

Bottom line: no reply IS a polite way of saying no thanks. Bear in mind this doesn't attack all those fragile egos like an actual no thanks!

Those who wish to empathise how discourteous a non-reply is, your task is to contact all the senders of junk mail you receive through your letter box!"

Very well said!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Used to reply to all messages but one liners can go and do on. Can't be bothered replying to such hey how you doing if what you up to. Really. What a waste of time "

Those ones drive me crazy too! Arrrghh!

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

There is also another thought : If I mailed somebody and they did not reply, I would not be offended but interpret this as disinterest and just move on.

But then I can understand if somebody has sent a fair few messages and not got a reply from any?

Then again, if I had sent a fair few messages and not had any reply I would probably reconsider my messages, my pictures and profile?

Just some thoughts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm surprised this thread hasn't been closed yet.

Most women say it's not rude, most men say it is. Reason? Women get more messages. Yes women do send first messages (on rare occasions ) but usually get approached by hundreds of guys on the site which they have to look through and sort out. If you have female friends on this site, you'll know this. Men, it can be frustrating but you have to remember that you're not the only person who has messaged her that hour! She might not even see your mail until a month from now.

As far as "but I read the profile" goes, it all down to perception. You think you did, she thinks you didn't or you're simply not what she's looking for.

This is the Fabs way Gentlemen. But don't worry, Here's a tip which will make you're life easier: Instead of questioning if you tick her boxes, ask yourself, honestly, if she ticks yours. You'll find yourself messaging far less and your messages will be more sincere.

Now everyone calm the f**k down. It's Valentines day tomorrow! "

Very well said! You're the sort of sensible, well balanced sort of guy that I would like to meet!

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"I'm surprised this thread hasn't been closed yet.

Most women say it's not rude, most men say it is. Reason? Women get more messages. Yes women do send first messages (on rare occasions ) but usually get approached by hundreds of guys on the site which they have to look through and sort out. If you have female friends on this site, you'll know this. Men, it can be frustrating but you have to remember that you're not the only person who has messaged her that hour! She might not even see your mail until a month from now.

As far as "but I read the profile" goes, it all down to perception. You think you did, she thinks you didn't or you're simply not what she's looking for.

This is the Fabs way Gentlemen. But don't worry, Here's a tip which will make you're life easier: Instead of questioning if you tick her boxes, ask yourself, honestly, if she ticks yours. You'll find yourself messaging far less and your messages will be more sincere.

Now everyone calm the f**k down. It's Valentines day tomorrow! "

Just the sensible, intelligent kind of guy women would be interested in. You might find your in box getting a few more messages...

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