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By *oxy_minx OP   Woman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Ok, you start chatting to someone, then face pics get exchanged, after that, there are hints about meeting up in person but your not sexually attracted to them do you just say?

I did and I have been questioned, 'you can't go by pics surely....'

Now on here, I would have to answer, if I don't go by pictures, what else am I meant to go by? Or is it just me? Am I the only shallow person that goes by how someone looks on whether there is a sexual attractiveness?

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

No....

On here we dont have much of a choice but to go by pics....

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Usually I would say I go by pics, but if we've swapped messages and they come across as intelligent, friendly, and unlikely to be a mad axe-man, then I would give them the benefit of the doubt.

I've met quite a few guys off here who are much better looking than their pictures.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if im not physically attracted to them, there is zero chance of anything happening.

equally they could be very attractive but their personality could be a let down and then be a total turn off.

ive met a few guys for socials who im not attracted too on the basis i thought they were a good laugh and funny.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I'm not sure it is entirely shallow here.

I have met people after seeing their face picture and thinking that it would be a good face for radio but only because their messages got me interested.

I have turned down meeting people where the face picture is gorgeous but their attitude in messages has put me off. They tend to be the ones who tell me that I have no right to be fussy as I'm not good looking or sexy and that I am old and fat.

Ideally you get a good message, a face and body you like and when you meet the sexual fireworks go off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok, you start chatting to someone, then face pics get exchanged, after that, there are hints about meeting up in person but your not sexually attracted to them do you just say?

I did and I have been questioned, 'you can't go by pics surely....'

Now on here, I would have to answer, if I don't go by pictures, what else am I meant to go by? Or is it just me? Am I the only shallow person that goes by how someone looks on whether there is a sexual attractiveness? "

No you're not alone. I'd just say sorry they're not what I'm looking for. If they start asking why etc I don't reply. I have given my reason, no point entering into email tennis about it.

If I don't fancy someone I just don't. Doesn't mean that someone won't fancy them, just that I don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i use pics as a guide becausr you really can't predict sexual attraction. i check to see they aren't outside certain limits but don't fully decide until i meet them.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

You can't pretend to fancy someone that you don't, but the least you can do is not make them feel bad about it.

I tend to let my lack of time and busy schedule sort things out.

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By *irdbucCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

As the mans view I have to agree. Its being honest not shallow as us men like to see your face too but I would say the oldest saying inbthe book, never judge a book by its cover as the confident attentive men can be appealing if you chat to them 1st. Just limits your choice if its all about the the face photo and a cock pic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

has to be a attraction to meet for sex..no attraction ..then no meet..not desperate to meet for the sake of a shag x

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814


"i use pics as a guide becausr you really can't predict sexual attraction. i check to see they aren't outside certain limits but don't fully decide until i meet them. "

But if that pic is guiding me into the fetal position.....The conversation STOPS there!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you mean yoy carry on chatting after seeing pictures of a person you dont fancy....most just block straight after

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely the whole set up is about fulfilling fantasies and desires, if the person you are talking to doesn't attract you then neither fantasy nor desire is going to be met. Nothing shallow about not being attracted to everybody that chats to you. I've met many a person that intulectually hits every button, but in the looks department could do with a good beating with the pretty stick. Wouldn't stop me being friends with them but I wouldn't get naked with them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a man it's 50/50 pictures/attitude.

Some of the fittest, most beautiful women on here are absolutely awful to talk to. A pretty face and a fit body can only take you so far - it's what comes out of your mouth that means so much more, and I know it's a cliché but it's a cliché for a reason.

Being interesting, engaging, & sexy is only partially about how you look. I've turned down a few what many men on here would say were 'stunners' because their attitude stunk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok, you start chatting to someone, then face pics get exchanged, after that, there are hints about meeting up in person but your not sexually attracted to them do you just say?

I did and I have been questioned, 'you can't go by pics surely....'

Now on here, I would have to answer, if I don't go by pictures, what else am I meant to go by? Or is it just me? Am I the only shallow person that goes by how someone looks on whether there is a sexual attractiveness? "

No, I'm shallow too If there's no physical attraction then I wont agree to meet. Agreed to just a social meet a few years ago and then I was hassled as he wanted to take things further. Had to block in the end!

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By *oxy_minx OP   Woman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I totally agree, I have had messages from guys that are really good looking, but trying to hold a conversation was like pulling teeth! So there is no chance it would go further, personality really does have to match.

But when you receive pics and you know instantly your not attracted to either the face or the body type, is it really worth letting them think it could possibly progress on to a meet?

Especially when it has been made clear they are really into you?

I don't mind being shallow if that is the case, just wondered if others were the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I totally agree, I have had messages from guys that are really good looking, but trying to hold a conversation was like pulling teeth! So there is no chance it would go further, personality really does have to match.

But when you receive pics and you know instantly your not attracted to either the face or the body type, is it really worth letting them think it could possibly progress on to a meet?

Especially when it has been made clear they are really into you?

I don't mind being shallow if that is the case, just wondered if others were the same "

Honesty is the best policy and stops people from losing their mind over you. Tell a guy you don't fancy him - its much better to be honest & clear.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i use pics as a guide becausr you really can't predict sexual attraction. i check to see they aren't outside certain limits but don't fully decide until i meet them.

But if that pic is guiding me into the fetal position.....The conversation STOPS there!!! "

LOL! true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a man it's 50/50 pictures/attitude.

Some of the fittest, most beautiful women on here are absolutely awful to talk to. A pretty face and a fit body can only take you so far - it's what comes out of your mouth that means so much more, and I know it's a cliché but it's a cliché for a reason.

Being interesting, engaging, & sexy is only partially about how you look. I've turned down a few what many men on here would say were 'stunners' because their attitude stunk."

Yes I agree !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Usually I would say I go by pics, but if we've swapped messages and they come across as intelligent, friendly, and unlikely to be a mad axe-man, then I would give them the benefit of the doubt.

I've met quite a few guys off here who are much better looking than their pictures."

If I'm unsure from pics I'll decide over coffee. I have liked people a lot more in person that I wasn't sure about from their pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

generally I go by their pictures, if there is no initial attraction for me then I will say no thank you.

however there are people that I've interacted with on the forums who aren't necessarily my type but their personalities are attractive to me

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"Ok, you start chatting to someone, then face pics get exchanged, after that, there are hints about meeting up in person but your not sexually attracted to them do you just say?

I did and I have been questioned, 'you can't go by pics surely....'

Now on here, I would have to answer, if I don't go by pictures, what else am I meant to go by? Or is it just me? Am I the only shallow person that goes by how someone looks on whether there is a sexual attractiveness? "

Not at all. If I'm not attracted I won't be manipulated into a meet by being called shallow.

If anyone thinks I'm shallow then why would they want to meet me anyway?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely the whole set up is about fulfilling fantasies and desires, if the person you are talking to doesn't attract you then neither fantasy nor desire is going to be met. Nothing shallow about not being attracted to everybody that chats to you. I've met many a person that intulectually hits every button, but in the looks department could do with a good beating with the pretty stick. Wouldn't stop me being friends with them but I wouldn't get naked with them

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Usually I would say I go by pics, but if we've swapped messages and they come across as intelligent, friendly, and unlikely to be a mad axe-man, then I would give them the benefit of the doubt.

I've met quite a few guys off here who are much better looking than their pictures."

^^^^^This!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a man it's 50/50 pictures/attitude.

Some of the fittest, most beautiful women on here are absolutely awful to talk to. A pretty face and a fit body can only take you so far - it's what comes out of your mouth that means so much more, and I know it's a cliché but it's a cliché for a reason.

Being interesting, engaging, & sexy is only partially about how you look. I've turned down a few what many men on here would say were 'stunners' because their attitude stunk."

Well said ! Exactly this ! ( miss)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Face pics on first messages cut out this problem, if there is no sexual attraction then no tine has been wasted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I don't like the photos that's it x

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By *uzzybeWoman
over a year ago

Darlington


"Usually I would say I go by pics, but if we've swapped messages and they come across as intelligent, friendly, and unlikely to be a mad axe-man, then I would give them the benefit of the doubt.

I've met quite a few guys off here who are much better looking than their pictures."

Agree with you...however, they could have the best personality but if they look like shrek, I'm still not going to meet them

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"Face pics on first messages cut out this problem, if there is no sexual attraction then no tine has been wasted."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok, you start chatting to someone, then face pics get exchanged, after that, there are hints about meeting up in person but your not sexually attracted to them do you just say?

I did and I have been questioned, 'you can't go by pics surely....'

Now on here, I would have to answer, if I don't go by pictures, what else am I meant to go by? Or is it just me? Am I the only shallow person that goes by how someone looks on whether there is a sexual attractiveness? "

I go by pics too. so no you aren't

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough


"As a man it's 50/50 pictures/attitude.

Some of the fittest, most beautiful women on here are absolutely awful to talk to. A pretty face and a fit body can only take you so far - it's what comes out of your mouth that means so much more, and I know it's a cliché but it's a cliché for a reason.

Being interesting, engaging, & sexy is only partially about how you look. I've turned down a few what many men on here would say were 'stunners' because their attitude stunk."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i send face pics with any messages and never get a chat....now i know why lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Usually I would say I go by pics, but if we've swapped messages and they come across as intelligent, friendly, and unlikely to be a mad axe-man, then I would give them the benefit of the doubt.

I've met quite a few guys off here who are much better looking than their pictures."

same here most of my meets have been better looking in the flesh hence i do a social first then turn down if nessasary

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By *oxy_minx OP   Woman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"Face pics on first messages cut out this problem, if there is no sexual attraction then no tine has been wasted. "

It does help! But....the pics were exchanged maybe after the 3rd message on the same day, for once I wasn't that slow off the mark!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. I'd prefer it if someone tells me though. Rather than stringing me along making me think that we will. Then, no need for bullshit excuses. We're both adults and can handle it.

...won't lose a friendship over it. Don't expect everyone to click with me sexually. But don't lead me on in to thinking that we will 'soon'.

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By *oulcakeMan
over a year ago

Gornal


"I'm not sure it is entirely shallow here.

I have met people after seeing their face picture and thinking that it would be a good face for radio but only because their messages got me interested.

I have turned down meeting people where the face picture is gorgeous but their attitude in messages has put me off. They tend to be the ones who tell me that I have no right to be fussy as I'm not good looking or sexy and that I am old and fat.

Ideally you get a good message, a face and body you like and when you meet the sexual fireworks go off."

I think your 70 verifications might tell them different lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well i must be shallow to then i suppose, though im not that bothered about looks in that i only meet people who i think look good, just that some just arent my type.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Nope. I'd prefer it if someone tells me though. Rather than stringing me along making me think that we will. Then, no need for bullshit excuses. We're both adults and can handle it.

...won't lose a friendship over it. Don't expect everyone to click with me sexually. But don't lead me on in to thinking that we will 'soon'.

"

Soon.....

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By *ana StephanieWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

When I get message without pic, I always reply no thank you. Some send me face pic immediately but 95% isn't my type, so my hunch of incompatible is not far away from the truth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Usually I would say I go by pics, but if we've swapped messages and they come across as intelligent, friendly, and unlikely to be a mad axe-man, then I would give them the benefit of the doubt.

I've met quite a few guys off here who are much better looking than their pictures.

Agree with you...however, they could have the best personality but if they look like shrek, I'm still not going to meet them "

I like Shrek.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

few years ago a man asked to meet me i didnt like the look of him so said no, after the third time of him asking me i agreed to meet him i thought he was quite nice but then found out he wasnt nice at all, so i was right about him in the first place.

i have been right about people i didnt like the look of before quite a few times. you can sometimes judge a book by its cover.

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

Sometimes it's a definate no , other times if I really like their chat and not sure about pics then I'm happy to keep chatting and see what happens .... So I'm somewhat shallow

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By *ana StephanieWoman
over a year ago

Manchester


"few years ago a man asked to meet me i didnt like the look of him so said no, after the third time of him asking me i agreed to meet him i thought he was quite nice but then found out he wasnt nice at all, so i was right about him in the first place.

i have been right about people i didnt like the look of before quite a few times. you can sometimes judge a book by its cover."

I did the same, I've reluctantly met a man who insist pure social meet, just want to be friend.

It wasn't. He wasn't nice and I wasn't fancy his looks anyway but he was nothing like the pic.

I do always arrange social meet first but now only with a man who I'm attracted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like face pics to be sent early on as a face I find intriguing and attractive is far more important than a 6 pack x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok, you start chatting to someone, then face pics get exchanged, after that, there are hints about meeting up in person but your not sexually attracted to them do you just say?

I did and I have been questioned, 'you can't go by pics surely....'

Now on here, I would have to answer, if I don't go by pictures, what else am I meant to go by? Or is it just me? Am I the only shallow person that goes by how someone looks on whether there is a sexual attractiveness? "

A very small percentage of the woman's decision to fancy someone is done by looks,

However men go 100% for looks

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

No you're not shallow But then lets face it this isn't the most conventional way to meet people! For example if any of us was out say , in a pub... You are approached by someone, then you see them plus their body language, maybe start sum banter or not as the case may be! This is all topsy turvey! Yes we have chatted to people many times , however we always exchange face picts as soon as possible. And thats only if we get the right vibe ... Has been times we have had to say sorry you are not what we are looking for. Polite yet to the point. All of us do whats best for us as individuals. Rhino skin is essential at times for us all here! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I the only shallow person that goes by how someone looks on whether there is a sexual attractiveness? "

How very dare you have to be sexually attracted to someone before you consider having sex with them?! How very dare you!

You are supposed to sleep with anything and anyone..didn't you know!

Tut tut!

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia


"Am I the only shallow person that goes by how someone looks on whether there is a sexual attractiveness?

How very dare you have to be sexually attracted to someone before you consider having sex with them?! How very dare you!

You are supposed to sleep with anything and anyone..didn't you know!

Tut tut! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope. I'd prefer it if someone tells me though. Rather than stringing me along making me think that we will. Then, no need for bullshit excuses. We're both adults and can handle it.

...won't lose a friendship over it. Don't expect everyone to click with me sexually. But don't lead me on in to thinking that we will 'soon'.

Soon..... "

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By *ustin666666Man
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Usually I would say I go by pics, but if we've swapped messages and they come across as intelligent, friendly, and unlikely to be a mad axe-man, then I would give them the benefit of the doubt.

I've met quite a few guys off here who are much better looking than their pictures.

^^^^^This!

"
this is so true. But can be the other way round. Pictures can be so dicieving sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had the same by a guy, thing is that if I don't fancy him, what's the point in meeting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really need to be attracted to someone to arrange a meet.

I have tried to continue talking to someone when there was no spark of attraction, but for me the hint of naughtyness is lost at that point and it doesn't work, so its much better to say thanks but no thanks.

at the end of the day, it's not shallow, it's saving them from thinking they have a chance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is a sex site not a dating site! Youre not looking for a meaningful relationship so of course theres gotta be a physical attraction.

But i do hate the guilt trip guys try to pull by calling us shallow etc when we have politely declined their offers

Lou x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is a sex site not a dating site! Youre not looking for a meaningful relationship so of course theres gotta be a physical attraction.

But i do hate the guilt trip guys try to pull by calling us shallow etc when we have politely declined their offers

Lou x"

I have the same problem with women and coupled...

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

I would just say and be done with, but that's me, I never like any wires crossed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok, you start chatting to someone, then face pics get exchanged, after that, there are hints about meeting up in person but your not sexually attracted to them do you just say?

I did and I have been questioned, 'you can't go by pics surely....'

Now on here, I would have to answer, if I don't go by pictures, what else am I meant to go by? Or is it just me? Am I the only shallow person that goes by how someone looks on whether there is a sexual attractiveness? "

If there is no attraction I am honest and tell them if I like chatting to them I will do so if they want and try to help them improve their chances as nice guys I don't fancy are still nice guys.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I like to shag men I'm attracted to....if you are not my cup of tea I would just say...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok, you start chatting to someone, then face pics get exchanged, after that, there are hints about meeting up in person but your not sexually attracted to them do you just say?

I did and I have been questioned, 'you can't go by pics surely....'

Now on here, I would have to answer, if I don't go by pictures, what else am I meant to go by? Or is it just me? Am I the only shallow person that goes by how someone looks on whether there is a sexual attractiveness? "

All ways ask for a face pic from the start ,but I know what you mean ,nothing worse when your chatting to someone for a wile and getting on great then you see a pic of them and there not really your type

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like to shag men I'm attracted to....if you are not my cup of tea I would just say..."

ahem, Taylors finest Yorksire Tea here ma'am, at your disposal, none of that 50 shades of shit Earl Grey stuff

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