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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi all. Bit of a touchy subject here but I've been listening to radio humberside and one subject was about a woman in north yorks breast feeding her son ? But here's the strange part her son was 4 years old 5 in march ? What's your _iews ? Personally I think it's wrong people should get put on registers for that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ok im not agreeing with breast feeding that long.. but dont think she should go on a register either

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

Bitty

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Lol yeah my thoughts at first I just think it's wrong when that came on little Britan I couldn't watch it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok a register maybe too far but hopefully you can see my point

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By *rsK69Woman
over a year ago

Neath

I know in some countries this is seen as the norm.

But in my opinion its not appropriate as its not neccessary at that age....not in this country anyway.

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By *rtemisiaWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

Registers not needed at all. However it does seem a little excessive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think 4 is far to old I think upto six months is good tho then off to the bottle

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By *rtemisiaWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

I'm guessing the boy concerned will grow up to be a boob man. In other words he'll grow up normal and unharmed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think once they are past about 15 months is enough. but I struggled to feed my son for a week and had to stop for my own sanity and for him. Never fed my daughter at all. But older than 2, just urgh

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

The thing is. The boys mother said he's 5 in march and she's not going to stop it until the boy doesn't want it anymore. But my concern is. Is she encouraging the boy ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There was a thing on tv a lady had twins she would take her milk and make pudding and all sorts that would have milk in to feed them .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn't personally do it... Doesn't mean people should be put on registers. Everyone has there own ideas about whats right for their children. There's always going to be people who go to extremes and take things above and beyond.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

in come countries its perfectly normal to breast feed children upto the age of 5, older if food is limited, its only feels wrong to us because its not our culture, if we was bought up in such countries where everyone did it you wouldn't bat an eye lid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Theres isnt biologically a need for it after the first 6 months however I kept my twins on the breast till they turned one then they have had nothing but wholes cows milk, though i have suffered emotionally having to let them go off it has it was a lovely moment i cherished between me and them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's a little unusual in this day & age to be breast feeding a 4 year old but it's down to the individual to decide what's right for their child.

Maybe she only feeds the child at night as part of a bedtime routine.

I'm sure as soon as the child starts school it will cease. Don't think schools schedule in a breast feeding break into the timetable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"in come countries its perfectly normal to breast feed children upto the age of 5, older if food is limited, its only feels wrong to us because its not our culture, if we was bought up in such countries where everyone did it you wouldn't bat an eye lid

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this

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By *rsK69Woman
over a year ago

Neath


"in come countries its perfectly normal to breast feed children upto the age of 5, older if food is limited, its only feels wrong to us because its not our culture, if we was bought up in such countries where everyone did it you wouldn't bat an eye lid

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I guess this is the case for lots of different issues though. Plenty goes on in other countries that they see as 'normal' but wouldnt be seen as 'normal' here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"in come countries its perfectly normal to breast feed children upto the age of 5, older if food is limited, its only feels wrong to us because its not our culture, if we was bought up in such countries where everyone did it you wouldn't bat an eye lid

this "

Nature says 2 years. When the todler has full teeth and can eat solid. No bottle in nature.

I dont know what the OP mean by the register.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What does british law say about it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What does british law say about it?"

I don't think there is a law that governs how long you can breast feed your child, I certainly can't find a law, a few social services guide lines of what they feel is acceptable but they are by no means a law

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some ludicrous statements from the poster!

To suggest she is encouraging him to like breastfeeding is bloody insane...he's her child for godsake..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all. Bit of a touchy subject here but I've been listening to radio humberside and one subject was about a woman in north yorks breast feeding her son ? But here's the strange part her son was 4 years old 5 in march ? What's your _iews ? Personally I think it's wrong people should get put on registers for that. "

What!! Its not sexual abuse breastfeeding a child and he is five and yes he isn't getting any health benefits from it but it isn't wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all. Bit of a touchy subject here but I've been listening to radio humberside and one subject was about a woman in north yorks breast feeding her son ? But here's the strange part her son was 4 years old 5 in march ? What's your _iews ? Personally I think it's wrong people should get put on registers for that. "

I think you're ignorant. In lots of countries breastfeeding continues till around 7 when children lose the natural latching technique.

The world health organisation recommends breastfeeding for a MINIMUM of two years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Theres isnt biologically a need for it after the first 6 months however I kept my twins on the breast till they turned one then they have had nothing but wholes cows milk, though i have suffered emotionally having to let them go off it has it was a lovely moment i cherished between me and them"

Where did you get that information from?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why would you put someone on a register for breast feeding their child of 4? The only thing i can think of is because your _iewing breasts as sexual so seeing a child suckling on them as wrong, breasts are not designed to be sexual we turned them into that, so that aside, breasts are for feeding your child so what register would you put someone on for doing just that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why would you put someone on a register for breast feeding their child of 4? The only thing i can think of is because your _iewing breasts as sexual so seeing a child suckling on them as wrong, breasts are not designed to be sexual we turned them into that, so that aside, breasts are for feeding your child so what register would you put someone on for doing just that?"

well said!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im 36 and would have no problems sucking on a ladys breasts...just not sure about the milk part

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well had afew mixed messages then. First thing I'd like to say is yes I might of been harsh saying about the register but I have my _iews on things like all of you guys. I personally think it's wrong for a almost 5 yo to be doing it. I'm not bothered if it's not against the law I'm just saying what I think and what some others have said on the radio. I'm not saying it's a sexual thing I just think the boy needs to be off it by now that's all.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I feel that what a woman who I don't know does with her children (as long as she's not harming them) is none of my business.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Didnt say it was my business love I was only asking what peoples _iews was as it was a debate on the radio today

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Didnt say it was my business love I was only asking what peoples _iews was as it was a debate on the radio today"

That's my _iew.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well if you don't like poking into peoples buisness. Don't post on forums. Bye

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say hat off to her personally, it's easy for some not for others (bloody hard work) and 5 years of it I def couldn't do. No sleep for 6 months was the most I could manage.

The child will be fine they adapt easily, it's probably her who's dreading stopping, must admit I loved the snuggle time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I fed til 19months, stopped to get married as I didn't fancy leaking on my wedding dress. It bothered me more than my son tbh. Pamela Anderson boobs at work, lol!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Right getting fed up now for some reason I'm the bad bastard for brining this up. Trouble is I'm a man talking about this and there's too many women against men as it is. Plus there's the pc brigade as fucking usual

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whats so wrong about a child having their mothers milk, you wouldnt complain if it was an animal so why is it any different for a mother and child. Also saying she should be put on a register, you should give your head a shake. If i could of breast fed my little boy then i would still be doing it now, but i couldnt produce the milk sadly. If shes happy doing it then good on her

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Well if you don't like poking into peoples buisness. Don't post on forums. Bye"

Sorry, you wanted _iews. I gave you my _iew, but because it's not what you wanted to hear you've decided to have a tantrum. And well done for the misogynist remark about women ganging up on you. Perhaps the fact that women are usually the primary care givers and are the only ones that can breastfeed we might actually have opinions worth listening to.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

For a start animals don't breast feed that long. And second you want to give my head a shake lol please don't make me fucking laugh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My personal _iew is that their should be a breast feeding moratorium between 4 and 40 lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You asked for _iews, so you got it. Maybe your just jeolous that a child gets more breast action then you

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"My personal _iew is that their should be a breast feeding moratorium between 4 and 40 lol"

You wouldn't be interested in a quick taste if the opportunity arose?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course it's wrong to breastfeed the lad at almost 5 years old .

She can only be doing it for herself , not wanting to let go .

Feel so sorry for the poor kid .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Oh I'm jealous now am I ? Who's been the child now then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

breastfeeding is a comfort thing with older babies, same as dummies (yuk) you see 3 and 4 yr olds permanently attached to dummies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont ask for peoples _iew on a subject then, if you cant handle what they have to say

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you atlast someone normal agrees with me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes that's it I'm asking for peoples _iews not for people to slag me off. FFs

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest


"Yes that's it I'm asking for peoples _iews not for people to slag me off. FFs "

No-one has slagged you off.

You asked for _iews and you got them - not everyone in a public forum will agree with you but you dont have to see every disagreement as a personal attack.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

As someone else said, once a child is able to be weaned onto solids there is no natural reason for a child to breast feed as the only biological reason for breast feeding is to provide nutrients and they can be eaten whenythe time is right.

Personally I think that people who breast feed into a child's 2nd year (so after their first birthday) potentially have separation anxiety and are not thinking of their child as much as they think.

This child is 5 in March and as we all know kids can be very mean without meaning to. All it would take is for one of his friends to find out and say something at school and he could be bullied but it's ok because at least the Mum is continuing the bond she needs.

That's the crux of it, it's her needs she is looking after. Children will love you unconditionally, they don't need a breast to bond with their mother. Look at all of the children who didn't breast feed and how they have bonded with their mum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That was started by you, saying a breast feeding mother should be put on a sex offenders register. Maybe you should of choose your words more wisely, you may not agree with it but other people do, doesnt mean its wrong though. Thats just your opinion, like mine saying it is acceptable if shes happy breast feeding

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think i might sit in the Corner n watch this one

Him

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Breast feeding is a normal, healthy activity with benefits for mother and child including some natural protection against pregnancy.

My _iew is that parents are constantly told they're not doing things correctly by various agencies and this is just one more stick to beat them with.

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham

I don't think it's necessary either - we live in a society where there is abundant food so breast feeding at that age isn't about nutrition but more about emotional attachment.

It's not illegal and it's her business but the thought of a child of that age being breast fed makes me squirm.

(female here btw with an unpopular opinion - but mine all the same).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I breast fed but only for year i think mike enjoyed the fact my boobs were out when we went shopping etc lol

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

it's what they were given those milky tit things for...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As someone else said, once a child is able to be weaned onto solids there is no natural reason for a child to breast feed as the only biological reason for breast feeding is to provide nutrients and they can be eaten whenythe time is right.

Personally I think that people who breast feed into a child's 2nd year (so after their first birthday) potentially have separation anxiety and are not thinking of their child as much as they think.

This child is 5 in March and as we all know kids can be very mean without meaning to. All it would take is for one of his friends to find out and say something at school and he could be bullied but it's ok because at least the Mum is continuing the bond she needs.

That's the crux of it, it's her needs she is looking after. Children will love you unconditionally, they don't need a breast to bond with their mother. Look at all of the children who didn't breast feed and how they have bonded with their mum. "

Food is fun till one. So milk be it formula or breast milk makes up their daily nutrients until that point. They also market formula to 2+ so surely by those standards if you require formula till then, breastmilk is also necessary?

My son has just self weaned at the age of two years and one month. He has no separation issues at all. My daughter was formula fed and I had lots of separation anxiety with her until she got established at preschool.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"it's what they were given those milky tit things for..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For a start animals don't breast feed that long. And second you want to give my head a shake lol please don't make me fucking laugh "

your right but name me one other animal that rears its young for 18 years? Most animals abandon their young as soon as they stop feeding where as humans don't, so it stands to reason as we look after out young longer we will nurture them longer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"it's what they were given those milky tit things for..."
your right there hun x

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"As someone else said, once a child is able to be weaned onto solids there is no natural reason for a child to breast feed as the only biological reason for breast feeding is to provide nutrients and they can be eaten whenythe time is right.

Personally I think that people who breast feed into a child's 2nd year (so after their first birthday) potentially have separation anxiety and are not thinking of their child as much as they think.

This child is 5 in March and as we all know kids can be very mean without meaning to. All it would take is for one of his friends to find out and say something at school and he could be bullied but it's ok because at least the Mum is continuing the bond she needs.

That's the crux of it, it's her needs she is looking after. Children will love you unconditionally, they don't need a breast to bond with their mother. Look at all of the children who didn't breast feed and how they have bonded with their mum.

Food is fun till one. So milk be it formula or breast milk makes up their daily nutrients until that point. They also market formula to 2+ so surely by those standards if you require formula till then, breastmilk is also necessary?

My son has just self weaned at the age of two years and one month. He has no separation issues at all. My daughter was formula fed and I had lots of separation anxiety with her until she got established at preschool."

Just because it's made and marketed does not mean it's necessary. It just means the company has good marketing.

The separation anxiety ideas talking about was on the part of the mother. Not wanting the child to grow up and so still breast feeding them.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"For a start animals don't breast feed that long. And second you want to give my head a shake lol please don't make me fucking laugh

your right but name me one other animal that rears its young for 18 years? Most animals abandon their young as soon as they stop feeding where as humans don't, so it stands to reason as we look after out young longer we will nurture them longer"

But when an animal is weaned its weaned. It's very rare that you will see an animal breastfeed once their young are on solid food.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As someone else said, once a child is able to be weaned onto solids there is no natural reason for a child to breast feed as the only biological reason for breast feeding is to provide nutrients and they can be eaten whenythe time is right.

Personally I think that people who breast feed into a child's 2nd year (so after their first birthday) potentially have separation anxiety and are not thinking of their child as much as they think.

This child is 5 in March and as we all know kids can be very mean without meaning to. All it would take is for one of his friends to find out and say something at school and he could be bullied but it's ok because at least the Mum is continuing the bond she needs.

That's the crux of it, it's her needs she is looking after. Children will love you unconditionally, they don't need a breast to bond with their mother. Look at all of the children who didn't breast feed and how they have bonded with their mum.

Food is fun till one. So milk be it formula or breast milk makes up their daily nutrients until that point. They also market formula to 2+ so surely by those standards if you require formula till then, breastmilk is also necessary?

My son has just self weaned at the age of two years and one month. He has no separation issues at all. My daughter was formula fed and I had lots of separation anxiety with her until she got established at preschool.

Just because it's made and marketed does not mean it's necessary. It just means the company has good marketing.

The separation anxiety ideas talking about was on the part of the mother. Not wanting the child to grow up and so still breast feeding them. "

That's a sweeping generalisation. Certainly not the case here or for many of my friends who are extended breastfeeding. I always feel that everyone should do what they are comfortable with and what is right for them and their children. No one answer is right for everybody.

I have one child who was formula fed, put into her cot early on and wore disposable nappies and used a buggy and one who was breastfed, worn in a wrap sling, slept in my bed every night till he decided not to at 7 months and wore cloth nappies. It's important to listen to your instincts and your baby and go with what feels right for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think it's necessary either - we live in a society where there is abundant food so breast feeding at that age isn't about nutrition but more about emotional attachment.

It's not illegal and it's her business but the thought of a child of that age being breast fed makes me squirm.

(female here btw with an unpopular opinion - but mine all the same)."

I agree. Approximately till the child starts walking is about right for my thoughts.

5 years... just eww. On many different levels.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Of course it's wrong to breastfeed the lad at almost 5 years old .

She can only be doing it for herself , not wanting to let go .

Feel so sorry for the poor kid .

"

I bet the boy is loving the taste of his mums milk. Ahe is his MUM! for god sake.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Of course it's wrong to breastfeed the lad at almost 5 years old .

She can only be doing it for herself , not wanting to let go .

Feel so sorry for the poor kid .

"

I bet the boy is loving the taste of his mums milk. She is his MUM! for god sake and he is still young child. Nothing wrong with it. I see kids that dont leave their bottle till 5-6 or even 7 years of age. What difference would that be if he never had a bottle but his mums natural boobs. As said they are designed for feeding not for sex.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Of course it's wrong to breastfeed the lad at almost 5 years old .

She can only be doing it for herself , not wanting to let go .

Feel so sorry for the poor kid .

I bet the boy is loving the taste of his mums milk. She is his MUM! for god sake and he is still young child. Nothing wrong with it. I see kids that dont leave their bottle till 5-6 or even 7 years of age. What difference would that be if he never had a bottle but his mums natural boobs. As said they are designed for feeding not for sex. "

I think kids with bottles at that age is a little odd as well to be fair.

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

tits are for feeding .. not always a sexual thing ... I don't agree with feeding a baby at 4 but my grandson is 15 months and my daughter is trying to wean him off the breast but he wont ...ok its getting less and less but he is one contented baby and not worth her getting stressed about it .. he will stop

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham


"Of course it's wrong to breastfeed the lad at almost 5 years old .

She can only be doing it for herself , not wanting to let go .

Feel so sorry for the poor kid .

I bet the boy is loving the taste of his mums milk. She is his MUM! for god sake and he is still young child. Nothing wrong with it. I see kids that dont leave their bottle till 5-6 or even 7 years of age. What difference would that be if he never had a bottle but his mums natural boobs. As said they are designed for feeding not for sex.

I think kids with bottles at that age is a little odd as well to be fair. "

If you consider biology, the human animal would breastfeed a child until another one came along, around 12/18 months later. Then child number one would be expected to move aside for the new one. If nature intended children to be breast fed until 5 years + then the poor woman could potentially have 3 or 4 kids all suckling from her. Not practical on a basic survival level. And this is the level people seem to be quoting here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I breastfed all three of mine. The first was two and a half when she stopped. She only had a night feed from age about one. But she didn't want to stop. She cried and went mad. It was very hard for us. The other two weaned their self off age two. In other countries the average age is seven. For some reason in our country we look down on women breastfeeding after six months. I didn't tell people i was still breastfeeding with my last two children as I didn't like the funny looks/comments I got with my first. I also didn't feed them in public because of same reason.

X

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I don't understand what the fuss is about a parent choosing to do something that in the long run wont harm the child especially when you consider the amount of threads we have on here where almost every answer extols the virtue of preference and personal choice.

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By *ifes journeyCouple
over a year ago

scotland

Small minds in small worlds.....there's a huge world out there not just the uk....we could probably learn a lot if we looked outside the bubble of our own mind.....

My opinion it doesn't effect me or my life and if the family are happy it shouldn't matter to anyone else....

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham


"I breastfed all three of mine. The first was two and a half when she stopped. She only had a night feed from age about one. But she didn't want to stop. She cried and went mad. It was very hard for us. The other two weaned their self off age two. In other countries the average age is seven. For some reason in our country we look down on women breastfeeding after six months. I didn't tell people i was still breastfeeding with my last two children as I didn't like the funny looks/comments I got with my first. I also didn't feed them in public because of same reason.

X"

SEVEN? Really? I Googled it and the average age of extended breastfeeding world-wide seems to be somewhere between 2 and 4.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I breastfed all three of mine. The first was two and a half when she stopped. She only had a night feed from age about one. But she didn't want to stop. She cried and went mad. It was very hard for us. The other two weaned their self off age two. In other countries the average age is seven. For some reason in our country we look down on women breastfeeding after six months. I didn't tell people i was still breastfeeding with my last two children as I didn't like the funny looks/comments I got with my first. I also didn't feed them in public because of same reason.

X

SEVEN? Really? I Googled it and the average age of extended breastfeeding world-wide seems to be somewhere between 2 and 4. "

so the lady and child in the original post are on the edge of the world average.

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over a year ago

What hapaneds behind closed doors noone really should bother about, I wouldnt mind to be breast feed to 8 years old lol.

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over a year ago


"I breastfed all three of mine. The first was two and a half when she stopped. She only had a night feed from age about one. But she didn't want to stop. She cried and went mad. It was very hard for us. The other two weaned their self off age two. In other countries the average age is seven. For some reason in our country we look down on women breastfeeding after six months. I didn't tell people i was still breastfeeding with my last two children as I didn't like the funny looks/comments I got with my first. I also didn't feed them in public because of same reason.

X

SEVEN? Really? I Googled it and the average age of extended breastfeeding world-wide seems to be somewhere between 2 and 4. "

Yes really. You believe google and I will believe my midwife

X

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By *wencatWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I fed my daughter up to 2 and my son to 6 months

Dont see what its gotta do with anyone else the kids tell you when they wanna stop its a comfort thing later on I think I dont see a problem at all ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think breast feeding is great, but I think for the sake of the child they should be weaned off earlier than that.

Proberly have the piss taking going on at school ect.

Babies milk to cows milk then solids.

There is no set times as such, but 4 to 5 is a bit extreme.

I don't think the mother needs to be registered though.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I breastfed all three of mine. The first was two and a half when she stopped. She only had a night feed from age about one. But she didn't want to stop. She cried and went mad. It was very hard for us. The other two weaned their self off age two. In other countries the average age is seven. For some reason in our country we look down on women breastfeeding after six months. I didn't tell people i was still breastfeeding with my last two children as I didn't like the funny looks/comments I got with my first. I also didn't feed them in public because of same reason.

X

SEVEN? Really? I Googled it and the average age of extended breastfeeding world-wide seems to be somewhere between 2 and 4.

Yes really. You believe google and I will believe my midwife

X"

why are any of us, especially women, believing anyone else when it comes to deciding how long we breast feed our children?

Women are criticised for breast feeding too long, not long enough, not at all, for going to work, for staying at home, for being single mothers for staying with unsuitable men....the list goes on and I'm sure you get my gist. Why can't we let each other do what we want (safe, sane and harming none) and maybe even try a little sisterly support about it whether its what we'd choose or not?

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over a year ago


"I breastfed all three of mine. The first was two and a half when she stopped. She only had a night feed from age about one. But she didn't want to stop. She cried and went mad. It was very hard for us. The other two weaned their self off age two. In other countries the average age is seven. For some reason in our country we look down on women breastfeeding after six months. I didn't tell people i was still breastfeeding with my last two children as I didn't like the funny looks/comments I got with my first. I also didn't feed them in public because of same reason.

X

SEVEN? Really? I Googled it and the average age of extended breastfeeding world-wide seems to be somewhere between 2 and 4.

Yes really. You believe google and I will believe my midwife

X

why are any of us, especially women, believing anyone else when it comes to deciding how long we breast feed our children?

Women are criticised for breast feeding too long, not long enough, not at all, for going to work, for staying at home, for being single mothers for staying with unsuitable men....the list goes on and I'm sure you get my gist. Why can't we let each other do what we want (safe, sane and harming none) and maybe even try a little sisterly support about it whether its what we'd choose or not? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The first few weeks the baby gets is apparently the only goodness they get, if the mother doesn't look after herself.

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over a year ago

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By *rsK69Woman
over a year ago

Neath

Out of curiosity....those od you who feel it is appropriate to breast feed a 4/5 year old child do you think its appropriate at that age to do.it in public or not? X

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over a year ago


"I think breast feeding is great, but I think for the sake of the child they should be weaned off earlier than that.

Proberly have the piss taking going on at school ect.

Babies milk to cows milk then solids.

There is no set times as such, but 4 to 5 is a bit extreme.

I don't think the mother needs to be registered though. "

This makes sense

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

Well, that bunfight was certainly unexpected...

I am glad to see so much support for the woman in question - breast feeding is as natural as can be and should go on as long as the parent in question feels it should.

The whole subject seems to get certain people very touchy and I have no idea why - I can remember someone saying that it was 'unhygenic' for women to breast feed in cafes etc....but where else do you expect nipper to eat his lunch when hes out?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Out of curiosity....those od you who feel it is appropriate to breast feed a 4/5 year old child do you think its appropriate at that age to do.it in public or not? X"

I think that it would attract unwanted attention and comment so if I was asked I would advise against it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know in some countries this is seen as the norm.

But in my opinion its not appropriate as its not neccessary at that age....not in this country anyway."

I would agree with this.

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By *rsK69Woman
over a year ago

Neath


"Out of curiosity....those od you who feel it is appropriate to breast feed a 4/5 year old child do you think its appropriate at that age to do.it in public or not? X

I think that it would attract unwanted attention and comment so if I was asked I would advise against it.

"

and at that age it wouldnt be demand feeding as in an infant so no real need to do it in public i guess

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I don't mind breast feeding in public at all I'm all for it. (and no I'm not being a perv) just for you guys who might get the wrong idea. Maybe not a 4/5 yo being breast fed in public though that child may be seen and could be bullied at school for it and the parent may be blasted for it in this day an age aswell.

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By *rsK69Woman
over a year ago

Neath

Theres no need to do it in public at that age so if she did i would imagine she would be looking for some form of attention

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well my _iew is there's no need to do it at all at that age.

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By *rsK69Woman
over a year ago

Neath

I agree

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham

I'm not anti breastfeeding. I didn't do it myself but I know it's the best thing for a growing baby. But I do think there's a cut off point and in a society where there's plenty of nutritious food, I think 2ish is it.

I remember sitting in a dentists waiting room once where there was a mum with two kids... one around 2 and the other around 5. The older kid started pulling at the mum's top and without batting an eyelid she got a boob out and he started suckling. 'Natural' or not, it was cringe factor 10. Nobody said anything but everyone looked damned uncomfortable.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well, that bunfight was certainly unexpected...

I am glad to see so much support for the woman in question - breast feeding is as natural as can be and should go on as long as the parent in question feels it should.

The whole subject seems to get certain people very touchy and I have no idea why - I can remember someone saying that it was 'unhygenic' for women to breast feed in cafes etc....but where else do you expect nipper to eat his lunch when hes out?"

Well let's put it this way .

We have a six year old , and the ridicule he would endure if he were to still breastfeed would be a serious impediment to his wellbeing .

No matter how you look at this , it's just wrong and unfair - kids can be so cruel , so why give them the ammunition ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kind of gross. But no one's business, wouldn't like to see people on registers etc.

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over a year ago


"I breastfed all three of mine. The first was two and a half when she stopped. She only had a night feed from age about one. But she didn't want to stop. She cried and went mad. It was very hard for us. The other two weaned their self off age two. In other countries the average age is seven. For some reason in our country we look down on women breastfeeding after six months. I didn't tell people i was still breastfeeding with my last two children as I didn't like the funny looks/comments I got with my first. I also didn't feed them in public because of same reason.

X

SEVEN? Really? I Googled it and the average age of extended breastfeeding world-wide seems to be somewhere between 2 and 4.

Yes really. You believe google and I will believe my midwife

X

why are any of us, especially women, believing anyone else when it comes to deciding how long we breast feed our children?

Women are criticised for breast feeding too long, not long enough, not at all, for going to work, for staying at home, for being single mothers for staying with unsuitable men....the list goes on and I'm sure you get my gist. Why can't we let each other do what we want (safe, sane and harming none) and maybe even try a little sisterly support about it whether its what we'd choose or not? "

Totally agree, women can't win no mater what they do and it's usually other women putting he boot in.

I think a mother should go with the flow and do what she feels best for her child. The UK is really weird when it comes to the subject of breastfeeding and I dont know why, it's the most natural thing in the world. If you decide to feed in public your accused of being a militant breastfeeder, nevermind when a baby is hungry the bloomin well let you know about it until you feed them!

Whether it's 6 months, a year, 2 years or more that is entirely up to the parents and no child is gonna be the same you really can't be as rigid to say right 6 months then that's it,ait doesn't work like that at all.

I didnt even intend to breastfeed I just told myself I wouldn't be able to do it, to my surprise I was able to and I loved the special time I had with my baby breastfeeding, by 6 month she was on solids but also had her milk at nightime and I was going to carry on breastfeeding till at least 1 but I got ill and had to take some medication so I had to stop immediately and switch her to being bottlefed and it was traumatic I can tell you! I can totally understand how it could carry on til he age of 4, I guess she is doing what feels right for her and her child and as long as it's not harming anyone it's not really anyone else's place to judge whether it's right or wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know if anyone has breastfed for a long time here. But myself and the other mums I know that breastfed for a couple of years, wouldn't need to feed the child in public because it's only really the bedtime feed you doing this age (and if they are ill or something). It's not breastfeeding every half hour. I wonder how often throughout the day you're thinking it happens

X

X

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over a year ago

Ladyluck , the point is that a five year old still being breastfed and attending primary school is gonna get a rough ride from the other kids - fact .

So your point about no one getting harmed is not necessarily true .

I ask again , for who's benefit is carrying on at this age ?

Not that much different to parents who feed their kids junk food till they are obese . It makes the parents feel good seeing their kids get what they want , but no thought for the consequences .

Anyone thinking kids of school age will get a break from bullying and piss taking is seriously misguided .

So how is this fair ?

I don't think the mother should be on a register , but a reasoned talking to about what she is doing for the social welfare of her son wouldn't be unreasonable .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think the child would mention being breastfed at school.

It benefits the child because they are getting lovely cuddles and love and the mum is getting cuddles and bonding. It's just love.

X

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over a year ago


"Ladyluck , the point is that a five year old still being breastfed and attending primary school is gonna get a rough ride from the other kids - fact .

So your point about no one getting harmed is not necessarily true .

I ask again , for who's benefit is carrying on at this age ?

Not that much different to parents who feed their kids junk food till they are obese . It makes the parents feel good seeing their kids get what they want , but no thought for the consequences .

Anyone thinking kids of school age will get a break from bullying and piss taking is seriously misguided .

So how is this fair ?

I don't think the mother should be on a register , but a reasoned talking to about what she is doing for the social welfare of her son wouldn't be unreasonable .

"

How do you know the kid is gonna be bullied? Do kids that age even know what breastfeeding is? Will other parents tell there 5 year old that Bobby in your class still sucks his mummy's tits? I dont think so! Kids that age don't see boobs as a sexual object anyways! Why would they? So why would there be bullying if they dont even understand the concept of breastfeeding anyways?

This kids is nearly 5so I cant see him needing to Bf in public id imagine it's for comfort before bed etc, behind closed doors. The mother will have to stop at some point and it's up to her and her child to decide when regardless of what anyone else thinks, he must be in school already and she has not said he is being bullied because of it so until that happens I guess they are fine with it. If he was to get bullied cause of it im sure as his mother she would then think about stopping.

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over a year ago


"I don't think the child would mention being breastfed at school.

It benefits the child because they are getting lovely cuddles and love and the mum is getting cuddles and bonding. It's just love.

X"

And therein is the issue , it's almost a kind of hanging onto something precious .

Nothing at all wrong with this up to two , but come on - 5 ?

How does he know not to say anything to other kids ?

And more importantly , why doesn't everyone do it , if it's about cuddles and love ?

Surely you aren't suggesting she and her son have something other parents don't have ?

True love is also about letting go .....x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ladyluck , the point is that a five year old still being breastfed and attending primary school is gonna get a rough ride from the other kids - fact .

So your point about no one getting harmed is not necessarily true .

I ask again , for who's benefit is carrying on at this age ?

Not that much different to parents who feed their kids junk food till they are obese . It makes the parents feel good seeing their kids get what they want , but no thought for the consequences .

Anyone thinking kids of school age will get a break from bullying and piss taking is seriously misguided .

So how is this fair ?

I don't think the mother should be on a register , but a reasoned talking to about what she is doing for the social welfare of her son wouldn't be unreasonable .

How do you know the kid is gonna be bullied? Do kids that age even know what breastfeeding is? Will other parents tell there 5 year old that Bobby in your class still sucks his mummy's tits? I dont think so! Kids that age don't see boobs as a sexual object anyways! Why would they? So why would there be bullying if they dont even understand the concept of breastfeeding anyways?

This kids is nearly 5so I cant see him needing to Bf in public id imagine it's for comfort before bed etc, behind closed doors. The mother will have to stop at some point and it's up to her and her child to decide when regardless of what anyone else thinks, he must be in school already and she has not said he is being bullied because of it so until that happens I guess they are fine with it. If he was to get bullied cause of it im sure as his mother she would then think about stopping."

Your opening paragraph says it all , other kids may not know about breastfeeding a five year old because it's not normally done .

At no point have I suggested anything sexual here , just the motive behind it being overly possessive .

Why should the child wait to be bullied before his mum stops ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ladyluck , the point is that a five year old still being breastfed and attending primary school is gonna get a rough ride from the other kids - fact .

So your point about no one getting harmed is not necessarily true .

I ask again , for who's benefit is carrying on at this age ?

Not that much different to parents who feed their kids junk food till they are obese . It makes the parents feel good seeing their kids get what they want , but no thought for the consequences .

Anyone thinking kids of school age will get a break from bullying and piss taking is seriously misguided .

So how is this fair ?

I don't think the mother should be on a register , but a reasoned talking to about what she is doing for the social welfare of her son wouldn't be unreasonable .

How do you know the kid is gonna be bullied? Do kids that age even know what breastfeeding is? Will other parents tell there 5 year old that Bobby in your class still sucks his mummy's tits? I dont think so! Kids that age don't see boobs as a sexual object anyways! Why would they? So why would there be bullying if they dont even understand the concept of breastfeeding anyways?

This kids is nearly 5so I cant see him needing to Bf in public id imagine it's for comfort before bed etc, behind closed doors. The mother will have to stop at some point and it's up to her and her child to decide when regardless of what anyone else thinks, he must be in school already and she has not said he is being bullied because of it so until that happens I guess they are fine with it. If he was to get bullied cause of it im sure as his mother she would then think about stopping.

Your opening paragraph says it all , other kids may not know about breastfeeding a five year old because it's not normally done .

At no point have I suggested anything sexual here , just the motive behind it being overly possessive .

Why should the child wait to be bullied before his mum stops ?"

so if they don't know about it how are they gonna bully him about it? I think your making an issue over something that hasnt happened and probably wont happen given that kids that age don't know what bf is or that you should be bullied for it. Just because it's not the norm for every parent doesn't make it wrong, I do what's best for my child not what I think will fall into line with what everyone else is doing, im not a sheep and maybe this woman feels the same, just because the UK has this weird relationship with BF she isn't gonna let it get in the way of how she brings up her child. I wouldn't personally still be bf my child at 4but I respect her right to be able to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And we will have to beg to differ .

Too emotive to go falling out over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And we will have to beg to differ .

Too emotive to go falling out over "

I agree to disagree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And we will have to beg to differ .

Too emotive to go falling out over

I agree to disagree "

Lol ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well my _iew is there's no need to do it at all at that age. "

Can we ask a question, why is it that a bloke is bringing this issue to the forum, why do you feel so strongly about this issue?

We are only asking this because the last time any breast feeding occurred in ours, it was only the missus and the baby involved. As a bloke I obviously took no part in this and this most natural thing is only the mothers concern.

If a mother wants to breast feed then who are you to say what an appropriate age is for her to do this.

This seems to equate with those forumites who say you shouldn't do this or that on any particular thread.

We say live and let live, this is purely a matter for the mothers on this site. If they want to discuss breast feeding then let them, after all they are the only ones equipped to do the job.

It doesn't seem very manly concerning yourself with such matters. Surely the footie/rugby/cricket and obviously the hot woman on here are more pressing issues for the guys on here.

What next? Wings or no wings on our santitary pads?... Come on!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Out of curiosity....those od you who feel it is appropriate to breast feed a 4/5 year old child do you think its appropriate at that age to do.it in public or not? X"

As I mentioned, my son has just weaned at just over two, but I hadn't fed him in public for over a year, because it was mostly bedtime or nap times, and the only person who ever told me he was "too old to feed" was my mother! The people who were most respectful and supportive of my parenting choices were his paternal grandparents and that actually reallysurprised me.

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By *rsK69Woman
over a year ago

Neath


"Well my _iew is there's no need to do it at all at that age.

Can we ask a question, why is it that a bloke is bringing this issue to the forum, why do you feel so strongly about this issue?

We are only asking this because the last time any breast feeding occurred in ours, it was only the missus and the baby involved. As a bloke I obviously took no part in this and this most natural thing is only the mothers concern.

If a mother wants to breast feed then who are you to say what an appropriate age is for her to do this.

This seems to equate with those forumites who say you shouldn't do this or that on any particular thread.

We say live and let live, this is purely a matter for the mothers on this site. If they want to discuss breast feeding then let them, after all they are the only ones equipped to do the job.

It doesn't seem very manly concerning yourself with such matters. Surely the footie/rugby/cricket and obviously the hot woman on here are more pressing issues for the guys on here.

What next? Wings or no wings on our santitary pads?... Come on!!

"

Men regularly bring up topics such as squirting gushing etc which are also things only women can do.

So from now on should we say men can only raise "man" subjects and women should only raise "women" topics. (so no more talking about cock ladies because you dont have one!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel that what a woman who I don't know does with her children (as long as she's not harming them) is none of my business."

Yeah I'm with you on this. It's not something I would have done and I don't think i would be comfortable witnessing it, otherwise ^this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ooooo somebody was bottle fed as a baby ( . ) ( . )

I breastfed both my children up to a year old, it was the most beautiful experience in the world...having said that, at 5 it would be strange to be still doing it when they are eating properly by then, so although the OP didn't put it across very well, he does have a point...it may well be acceptable in other cultures, but in ours its not the norm.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"Well my _iew is there's no need to do it at all at that age.

Can we ask a question, why is it that a bloke is bringing this issue to the forum, why do you feel so strongly about this issue?

We are only asking this because the last time any breast feeding occurred in ours, it was only the missus and the baby involved. As a bloke I obviously took no part in this and this most natural thing is only the mothers concern.

If a mother wants to breast feed then who are you to say what an appropriate age is for her to do this.

This seems to equate with those forumites who say you shouldn't do this or that on any particular thread.

We say live and let live, this is purely a matter for the mothers on this site. If they want to discuss breast feeding then let them, after all they are the only ones equipped to do the job.

It doesn't seem very manly concerning yourself with such matters.

"

He isn't asking hoq to do it or how to deal with cracked nipples.....he is asking a question of how old is too old.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Of course it's wrong to breastfeed the lad at almost 5 years old .

She can only be doing it for herself , not wanting to let go .

Feel so sorry for the poor kid .

I bet the boy is loving the taste of his mums milk. She is his MUM! for god sake and he is still young child. Nothing wrong with it. I see kids that dont leave their bottle till 5-6 or even 7 years of age. What difference would that be if he never had a bottle but his mums natural boobs. As said they are designed for feeding not for sex.

I think kids with bottles at that age is a little odd as well to be fair.

If you consider biology, the human animal would breastfeed a child until another one came along, around 12/18 months later. Then child number one would be expected to move aside for the new one. If nature intended children to be breast fed until 5 years + then the poor woman could potentially have 3 or 4 kids all suckling from her. Not practical on a basic survival level. And this is the level people seem to be quoting here."

I agree that over 3 years it starts looking a bit odd but nothing sexual as the OP is making it. The point you made about nature... Where did you get that info?!!! At 12 months of age a baby dont have teeth yet to switch to solids. The full set of teeth is ready to switch to solids at 2 years of age and thats whats the world health organisation recommands.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well my _iew is there's no need to do it at all at that age.

Can we ask a question, why is it that a bloke is bringing this issue to the forum, why do you feel so strongly about this issue?

We are only asking this because the last time any breast feeding occurred in ours, it was only the missus and the baby involved. As a bloke I obviously took no part in this and this most natural thing is only the mothers concern.

If a mother wants to breast feed then who are you to say what an appropriate age is for her to do this.

This seems to equate with those forumites who say you shouldn't do this or that on any particular thread.

We say live and let live, this is purely a matter for the mothers on this site. If they want to discuss breast feeding then let them, after all they are the only ones equipped to do the job.

It doesn't seem very manly concerning yourself with such matters. Surely the footie/rugby/cricket and obviously the hot woman on here are more pressing issues for the guys on here.

What next? Wings or no wings on our santitary pads?... Come on!!

Men regularly bring up topics such as squirting gushing etc which are also things only women can do.

So from now on should we say men can only raise "man" subjects and women should only raise "women" topics. (so no more talking about cock ladies because you dont have one!) "

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814


" At 12 months of age a baby dont have teeth yet to switch to solids. The full set of teeth is ready to switch to solids at 2 years of age and thats whats the world health organisation recommands.

"

"solids"...when referring to baby food, isnt actually solid!

Babies are introduced to "solids" at 3-4 months old....

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By *rsK69Woman
over a year ago

Neath


" At 12 months of age a baby dont have teeth yet to switch to solids. The full set of teeth is ready to switch to solids at 2 years of age and thats whats the world health organisation recommands.

"solids"...when referring to baby food, isnt actually solid!

Babies are introduced to "solids" at 3-4 months old...."

was going to say if you kept a child exclusively on milk until age 2 they would either be very very ill or die

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both my kids were on solids at 4 months, you introduce lumps at about 7 months, I bought a blender and they had home cooked food.

Weetabix and porridge for breakfast ect

Bed time was warm cows milk after 12 months.

All this is " it is love" its not the child will be bullied simple.

They should be using knifes and forks ( kids ones).

At 5 years old mine were sitting with me reading books, not hanging off my tits.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" At 12 months of age a baby dont have teeth yet to switch to solids. The full set of teeth is ready to switch to solids at 2 years of age and thats whats the world health organisation recommands.

"solids"...when referring to baby food, isnt actually solid!

Babies are introduced to "solids" at 3-4 months old...."

Not the case, weaning is not advised until 6 months, and a lot of people now have gone back to baby led weaning. No puree or spoon feeding involved. As I said earlier, food is fun till one. Not their main source of nutrition.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Hi all. Bit of a touchy subject here but I've been listening to radio humberside and one subject was about a woman in north yorks breast feeding her son ? But here's the strange part her son was 4 years old 5 in march ? What's your _iews ? Personally I think it's wrong people should get put on registers for that. "

She was breastfeeding him and wrong in your eyes or not she was not sexually abusing him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think the child would mention being breastfed at school.

It benefits the child because they are getting lovely cuddles and love and the mum is getting cuddles and bonding. It's just love.

X

And therein is the issue , it's almost a kind of hanging onto something precious .

Nothing at all wrong with this up to two , but come on - 5 ?

How does he know not to say anything to other kids ?

And more importantly , why doesn't everyone do it , if it's about cuddles and love ?

Surely you aren't suggesting she and her son have something other parents don't have ?

True love is also about letting go .....x

"

I agree with your first point about wanting to hang on. That works both ways for mum and more importantly child. But I don't see whats wrong with that. There's lots of things parents and children do that are hard to let go of like sleeping in same bed,dummy's and not wanting them to go on their first sleepover and stuff. We all manage as best we can.

5 seems to old to me too but each to their own.

I don't think they would mention it at school and if they did, at that age is not something to get bullied over. Most 4 & 5 year olds are not bullies. And most 4 & 5 year olds don't discuss their bedtime routine.

Each person parents in their own way so as for your last comment. If course I am not suggesting that.

And the bit about love. Breastfeeding your child is done out of love nothing more. That's all I was saying there.

X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

each to there own way to bring up there child,although it does seem a bit old to be doing so,but its different in other countries.and it shouldnt have gone onto a register,but a register for what? is this the countries big brother attitude "im watching you" going to far?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I Think you will be surprised how young bullying can start.

No they may not discuss bedtimes, but only takes one remark example from " the teacher" what bedtime drink do you have it anything innocent.

Oh mummys boobies, and there it starts, just because they are five don't mean nothing, and no child should have to hide nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I Think you will be surprised how young bullying can start.

No they may not discuss bedtimes, but only takes one remark example from " the teacher" what bedtime drink do you have it anything innocent.

Oh mummys boobies, and there it starts, just because they are five don't mean nothing, and no child should have to hide nothing.

"

This is exactly the point .

There is nothing worse than bullying , which can stem from all manner of situations .

Parents who cling on to their children are a major influence , whether it be the insistence of a kiss as they leave them ( something so often seen and leaves the poor kid being ridiculed as soon as the parent leaves ) to the current topic , which may well be fine if the other kids don't find out , but catastrophic if they do .

Why should the child have to hide anything at this age ?

How will they possibly integrate , or have friends over ?

Imagine the scenario , bedtime and he suckles his mums breast , his pal is gonna be gobsmacked !

It's just wrong for so many reasons , and unfair .

As I have said , up to 2 is ok , but much longer is unnecessary and in some ways selfish of the mother .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good point, let's do away with anything that may cause bullying we should get rid of dummies, bottles, sing songs, nicknames, fav blankets and teddies.

X

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By *rsK69Woman
over a year ago

Neath


"Good point, let's do away with anything that may cause bullying we should get rid of dummies, bottles, sing songs, nicknames, fav blankets and teddies.

X"

I would say the above mentioned are far more socially acceptable among young children than breasfeeding a 5 year old is

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire


"breastfeeding is a comfort thing with older babies, same as dummies (yuk) you see 3 and 4 yr olds permanently attached to dummies"

I had a dummy till I was four

did me no harm

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By *rsK69Woman
over a year ago

Neath


"breastfeeding is a comfort thing with older babies, same as dummies (yuk) you see 3 and 4 yr olds permanently attached to dummies

I had a dummy till I was four

did me no harm "

And again....it is far more socially acceptable to see a 4 year old with a dummy than.a 4/5 year old being breastfed

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

maybe if people did live on the tit a bit longer, they may be less needy later in life...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Four years is far too old.She will be setting her self up for a lot of hard work making the child clingy and demanding.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good point, let's do away with anything that may cause bullying we should get rid of dummies, bottles, sing songs, nicknames, fav blankets and teddies.

X"

Woukd certainly agree that at the age of five the dummies , bottles and favourite blanket should be long gone .

Sing songs , nicknames and teddies are great , and should be encouraged .

Still have a good old sing song and have nicknames for all my kids aged 34 , 22 , 20 and my six year old stepson .

My daughter still collects teddies too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good point, let's do away with anything that may cause bullying we should get rid of dummies, bottles, sing songs, nicknames, fav blankets and teddies.

X"

The point being made here is that mums should not stop breastfeeding just because of the slight chance of bullying. And as I said before. I think five is too old as well. But, each to their own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bitty "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bitty

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Eewwww

X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good point, let's do away with anything that may cause bullying we should get rid of dummies, bottles, sing songs, nicknames, fav blankets and teddies.

X

The point being made here is that mums should not stop breastfeeding just because of the slight chance of bullying. And as I said before. I think five is too old as well. But, each to their own. "

absolutely ~ that goes for the above mentioned items as well!

in the big scheme of life they're only little for a very short period of time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good point, let's do away with anything that may cause bullying we should get rid of dummies, bottles, sing songs, nicknames, fav blankets and teddies.

X

The point being made here is that mums should not stop breastfeeding just because of the slight chance of bullying. And as I said before. I think five is too old as well. But, each to their own.

absolutely ~ that goes for the above mentioned items as well!

in the big scheme of life they're only little for a very short period of time "

Indeed , and for some mums , they are little for as long as possible , regardless of the consequences . God forbid that they should want to grow up and be like any other five year old !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree they are only small for not too long, and I respect opinions here.

I have seen kids bullied over even so much as having glasses on, had their haircut ect, in nearly 25 years I have been in enough playgrounds.

I have seen mothers all too lazy to wean, potty train ect, social skills are looked at in a child at school.

A parents love is unconditional yes, just show it, say it.

Don't hold them back.

Her

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By *uicylucy76Woman
over a year ago

thornton cleveleys

I'm still breastfeeding my 18 month!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I'm still breastfeeding my 18 month! "

Good on you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I'm still breastfeeding my 18 month!

Good on you

"

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By *uicylucy76Woman
over a year ago

thornton cleveleys

There are so many benefits to extended bf some people are just unaware of them... Not planning on bf till shes four though!

I couldn't give to two hoots what anyone else does... I just don't want to cause need a bloody good bevy!!

You'd think maybe people might of been a bit more open minded on here but I think extended bf will always be a bit of a taboo subject in this country.

Anyway happy sucking I mean swinging! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well my _iew is there's no need to do it at all at that age.

Can we ask a question, why is it that a bloke is bringing this issue to the forum, why do you feel so strongly about this issue?

We are only asking this because the last time any breast feeding occurred in ours, it was only the missus and the baby involved. As a bloke I obviously took no part in this and this most natural thing is only the mothers concern.

If a mother wants to breast feed then who are you to say what an appropriate age is for her to do this.

This seems to equate with those forumites who say you shouldn't do this or that on any particular thread.

We say live and let live, this is purely a matter for the mothers on this site. If they want to discuss breast feeding then let them, after all they are the only ones equipped to do the job.

It doesn't seem very manly concerning yourself with such matters. Surely the footie/rugby/cricket and obviously the hot woman on here are more pressing issues for the guys on here.

What next? Wings or no wings on our santitary pads?... Come on!!

Men regularly bring up topics such as squirting gushing etc which are also things only women can do.

So from now on should we say men can only raise "man" subjects and women should only raise "women" topics. (so no more talking about cock ladies because you dont have one!) "

But the difference you fail to grasp is that men can enjoy girls gushing and squirting but it's just wrong for them to enjoy breast feeding. That's surely for the mum and baby, if that's okay with you?

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