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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So I know we had a few csa and child maintenance threads on here before and there's a lot of different views on the company but after 3.5years of chasing them up and receiving a whole £200 off my daughters dad I have decided they really are crap!

Did you know when a non resident parent tells them something they have to take their word for it. If they say they are not working, csa will believe them unless you have solid proof otherwise! How ridiculous; my daughters dad has done this many times

Tuesday I rang up to enquire why I have not received any recent letters after telling them where he worked months ago, they come back telling me he told them 1 and a half years ago he works cash in hand and there's nothing they can do?! Now I'm sure csa is part of the DWP but apparently it's not there place to report him to HMRC. I've been told I must report him myself but I don't know where he lives now?! And even if I report him I won't get any money for my daughter so it's pretty stupid

Ok that's my rant done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dont take this as a personal slight cuz it isnt, its an observation about single parents in general.

always amazes me how people that are good enough to shag suddenly change 360 and become uncooperative monsters once they split.

have to wonder if there are any warning signs that people ignore until too late

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can take him to court. He has an obligation to pay for the child support and you can request from the court an 'attachment of earnings' . So, then whatever he makes from his job, a small portion should come to you.

...that's only if he's working i suppose.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didnt receive a penny from my ex. Eventually the csa called me and said they didn't think it was worth hassling him as he was skint and would I mind awfully if they just closed his file and not chase him for money anymore. Astounding!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"dont take this as a personal slight cuz it isnt, its an observation about single parents in general.

always amazes me how people that are good enough to shag suddenly change 360 and become uncooperative monsters once they split.

have to wonder if there are any warning signs that people ignore until too late "

You mean 180, if someone does a 360 they end up exactly where they were in the first place

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By *uro anchorMan
over a year ago

Coventry

not all blokes do this when they split...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"dont take this as a personal slight cuz it isnt, its an observation about single parents in general.

always amazes me how people that are good enough to shag suddenly change 360 and become uncooperative monsters once they split.

have to wonder if there are any warning signs that people ignore until too late

You mean 180, if someone does a 360 they end up exactly where they were in the first place

you are absolutely correct.

sorry, just so used to people doing u turns here its like being on a site for corkscrews lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"dont take this as a personal slight cuz it isnt, its an observation about single parents in general.

always amazes me how people that are good enough to shag suddenly change 360 and become uncooperative monsters once they split.

have to wonder if there are any warning signs that people ignore until too late

You mean 180, if someone does a 360 they end up exactly where they were in the first place

you are absolutely correct.

sorry, just so used to people doing u turns here its like being on a site for corkscrews lol"

I dont know why i felt the need to correct you, it wasnt that big of a deal. I think its a cry for attention

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"dont take this as a personal slight cuz it isnt, its an observation about single parents in general.

always amazes me how people that are good enough to shag suddenly change 360 and become uncooperative monsters once they split.

have to wonder if there are any warning signs that people ignore until too late

You mean 180, if someone does a 360 they end up exactly where they were in the first place

you are absolutely correct.

sorry, just so used to people doing u turns here its like being on a site for corkscrews lol

I dont know why i felt the need to correct you, it wasnt that big of a deal. I think its a cry for attention

Blame it on the E numbers on your name lol.

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By *osweet69Couple
over a year ago

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"dont take this as a personal slight cuz it isnt, its an observation about single parents in general.

always amazes me how people that are good enough to shag suddenly change 360 and become uncooperative monsters once they split.

have to wonder if there are any warning signs that people ignore until too late "

Was thinking this myself, have women lost that primal instinct to pick a good provider and someone that will keep them and their offspring safe. Or have a lot of men how become assholes?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if ur child or children are young enough to stop non paying parent from seeing him/her then stop child/children from seein that non paying parent.

very hard to implement if child or children are teens or older as they have a choice.

think gov shud change things its all wrong... inland revenue know what that parent earns so csa shud communicate with them n then decide wot the parent who has residential order shud receive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I didnt receive a penny from my ex. Eventually the csa called me and said they didn't think it was worth hassling him as he was skint and would I mind awfully if they just closed his file and not chase him for money anymore. Astounding!

That is disgusting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am officially disgusted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"dont take this as a personal slight cuz it isnt, its an observation about single parents in general.

always amazes me how people that are good enough to shag suddenly change 360 and become uncooperative monsters once they split.

have to wonder if there are any warning signs that people ignore until too late "

people change, if they didn't all of us would still be with our first partners, but how many of us are?

My ex is a great one twat, we have been split for 5 years and in that time he has never bought our kids a xmas present, birthday present, or paid me a penny towards their keep

yet he provides for his new woman's kids, how do you think that makes my children feel knowing her kids get presents from him but they don't?

he was at one time good enough to shag but im sorry I think he's a twat now for the way he makes my kids feel, does it really amaze you how people feel towards their ex's when they behave like that, no matter whether your together or apart your kids are still your kids, all because you get a new family you don't turn your back on your old one, what would happen if I behaved like that? lucky they have one parent who still wants to provide for them

its amazing how many couples split up and have to chance the other for money for their kids, if you loved your kids you would willingly work for them and wouldn't need asking, that's why a lot get bitter

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By *uicylucy76Woman
over a year ago

thornton cleveleys

My baby's dad actually tried to say it wasn't his child!! I had to put myself and my daughter through a DNA test just to prove.. He now pays but has never once seen his daughter.. I send pictures and tell him he's welcome anytime but I have never once had a response!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"dont take this as a personal slight cuz it isnt, its an observation about single parents in general.

always amazes me how people that are good enough to shag suddenly change 360 and become uncooperative monsters once they split.

have to wonder if there are any warning signs that people ignore until too late

Was thinking this myself, have women lost that primal instinct to pick a good provider and someone that will keep them and their offspring safe. Or have a lot of men how become assholes?

thats why i purposely said people and not either gender.

plenty of threads and stories in real life about 'the mother of my children being a psycho bitch!'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I know we had a few csa and child maintenance threads on here before and there's a lot of different views on the company but after 3.5years of chasing them up and receiving a whole £200 off my daughters dad I have decided they really are crap!

Ok that's my rant done

if you know his nationalbinsurance number date of birt etc they wilk trace him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"dont take this as a personal slight cuz it isnt, its an observation about single parents in general.

always amazes me how people that are good enough to shag suddenly change 360 and become uncooperative monsters once they split.

have to wonder if there are any warning signs that people ignore until too late

Was thinking this myself, have women lost that primal instinct to pick a good provider and someone that will keep them and their offspring safe. Or have a lot of men how become assholes?

no we just don't live in caves anymore

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"dont take this as a personal slight cuz it isnt, its an observation about single parents in general.

always amazes me how people that are good enough to shag suddenly change 360 and become uncooperative monsters once they split.

have to wonder if there are any warning signs that people ignore until too late

Was thinking this myself, have women lost that primal instinct to pick a good provider and someone that will keep them and their offspring safe. Or have a lot of men how become assholes?

no we just don't live in caves anymore

only using you as an example, NN as you are th eonly one that has posted further life experience, but are you really telling me that, throughout your time with this fella, there were no signs at all that made you think 'what a cnut!'

nothing?

nada?

or can you look back and say 'i should have known!'

and thats what im saying.

'love' can cover a lot of bollocks and badness in people because one partner or the other brush it off, or do the whole 'i can fix him/her' thing.

im just glad i never had kids with my ex, but only because i recognised early on a: i never wanted them, and b: we were both just way too selfish for kids

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"if ur child or children are young enough to stop non paying parent from seeing him/her then stop child/children from seein that non paying parent.

very hard to implement if child or children are teens or older as they have a choice.

think gov shud change things its all wrong... inland revenue know what that parent earns so csa shud communicate with them n then decide wot the parent who has residential order shud receive"

I couldn't have done that. My child loved her dad. Why make her totally miserable so I can get at him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"dont take this as a personal slight cuz it isnt, its an observation about single parents in general.

always amazes me how people that are good enough to shag suddenly change 360 and become uncooperative monsters once they split.

have to wonder if there are any warning signs that people ignore until too late

Was thinking this myself, have women lost that primal instinct to pick a good provider and someone that will keep them and their offspring safe. Or have a lot of men how become assholes?

no we just don't live in caves anymore

nothing?

nada?

or can you look back and say 'i should have known!'

and thats what im saying.

'love' can cover a lot of bollocks and badness in people because one partner or the other brush it off, or do the whole 'i can fix him/her' thing.

im just glad i never had kids with my ex, but only because i recognised early on a: i never wanted them, and b: we were both just way too selfish for kids"

no I knew he was a cunt before we split, that's why we split, by the time we did split we hadn't had sex for 8 years, but all because he was a cunt towards me that does not excuse him for turning his back on his kids, there is no excuse for that, I wouldn't mind so much but he was the one who wanted them, after our first I didn't want any more, but he did so I had another, then after talking me into it a few years later I had the third and now he don't give a damn about them, I love my kids to bits, im not saying other wise and I wouldn't be without them now I have them but every pregnancy I had was because he wanted a child and now....nothing from him

and I have to be honest I didn't see that coming, I honestly would never have believe that after we split he would turn his back on his kids too

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By *rumCoupleCouple
over a year ago

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"if ur child or children are young enough to stop non paying parent from seeing him/her then stop child/children from seein that non paying parent."

Courts have ruled that non payment of maintenance is not a valid reason to prevent contact. NPP could go to family court to force access.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"if ur child or children are young enough to stop non paying parent from seeing him/her then stop child/children from seein that non paying parent.

Courts have ruled that non payment of maintenance is not a valid reason to prevent contact. NPP could go to family court to force access."

to stop a child from seeing a parent it loves because that parent does not pay is only punishing the child, and that's where they have you, no loving parent would do that to their child regardless of the fact the other parent isn't paying or not

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