FabSwingers.com forum: Confidence and arrogance!

By *ild imagination OP Man
over a year ago

Basildon

I joined the site simply to open my mind and maybe learn a little more about the female imagination and sexaul satisfaction. I take the time to read profiles, _iew the pics fab the nice ones and sometimes comment on them. I would never pass a bad comment out of respect to the persons feelings and confidence. On the the other hand finding damaging to my confidence when I send a very complementary msg yet to be ignored and not even a simple thanks! I understand some guys send nasty msgs and pester some of you BUT if people took the time I do to _iew profiles they would understand I'm NOT one of them guys!! Are my pics that bad or is it just pure arrogance and rudeness that I never receive any fabs? After all manners are FREE!! Rant over.... Lol

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

maybe swinging is not for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some may feel its arrogant to claim that you are somehow entitled to a reply from a stranger.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What you expect and what you get, never match up.

You don't get sympathy meets or shags, women rule the site and you're here for them....

Dating site might be better, but most need a few dates and you just dont know if they are passive or active like the fantastic women on here

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Some may feel its arrogant to claim that you are somehow entitled to a reply from a stranger. "

^^^^^ this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't say your pics not being fabbed is arrogance. If paying someone a compliment and they don't reply its not arrogant in my eyes, just a little impolite but its life on here. If I'm lucky enough to have someone compliment me I will always thank them, many won't as some use it to start a conversation, others its just a compliment. I've sent many compliments to guys and don't get replies. I don't necessarily want to meet them, just paying a compliment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

7 cock pictures and your profile would save me even opening a message from you.

If you are too scared to put up a face pic because you are married where do you plan on meeting someone?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What you expect and what you get, never match up.

You don't get sympathy meets or shags, women rule the site and you're here for them....

Dating site might be better, but most need a few dates and you just dont know if they are passive or active like the fantastic women on here

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Maybe younger to be a bit more imaginative with your pics for them to get fabbed take a look at what sort of pics guys have fabbed and copy them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some may feel its arrogant to claim that you are somehow entitled to a reply from a stranger.

^^^^^ this

Well said!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And on the subject of arrogance, your sense of entitlement screams it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest all your pics are of your cock/pants so nothing really fabable in my opinion and like 95% of the other pics on here.

I've never really got the fab my picture thing, when I have pics in show I have the fab option turned off.

It's not rude when people don't reply, it simply means you're not for them. Just move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am not arrogant if I don't like someone I don't reply because if I do even to say sorry not for me I get a reply so then feel even worse when I don't reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fabs count for nothing.

It quite clearly states when you join that not replying to a message is as good as a 'thanks but no thanks', so deal with it.

Being a single male swinger requires a thick skin.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I joined the site simply to open my mind and maybe learn a little more about the female imagination and sexaul satisfaction. I take the time to read profiles, _iew the pics fab the nice ones and sometimes comment on them. I would never pass a bad comment out of respect to the persons feelings and confidence. On the the other hand finding damaging to my confidence when I send a very complementary msg yet to be ignored and not even a simple thanks! I understand some guys send nasty msgs and pester some of you BUT if people took the time I do to _iew profiles they would understand I'm NOT one of them guys!! Are my pics that bad or is it just pure arrogance and rudeness that I never receive any fabs? After all manners are FREE!! Rant over.... Lol"

Sorry but your pics are that bad...just another succession of cock pics...if you're looking for a fuck buddy this suggests more of a commitment than a one off, she's going to be interested in more than your cock I'm afraid...a lot of people aren't interested in married men and would probably see your compliment as an attempt to open dialogue with them...they don't respond because they're not interested in you...it's a harsh truth but truth nonetheless...we absolutely never respond to people fabbing our pictures unless we are interested in them...there is no expectation to do so...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I joined this site to get my end away (luckily for me I met a woman doing the same thing who is now very special), but on my single profile I sent god knows how many messages that were ignored, but that's life, some people fancy you, some don't,and if you think women 'ignoring' you on a site like this is tough to take, then its probably the wrong site for you.

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By *uzzybeWoman
over a year ago

Darlington

"Some may feel its arrogant to claim that you are somehow entitled to a reply from a stranger. "

Spot on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Less cock pics and more body shots, a face pic in private, use friends with benefits instead of fuck buddy, don't write in capitals if you can help it people will feel you are shouting and it's rude to shout, a little more about you and what you can bring to the party and remember that you have reduced your pool of meets by 80% just by being married and playing behind your wife's back.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Yeah they are that bad!

Sorry but you did ask!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh and I don't ask to get pics fabbed they just get fabbed maybe because I take time to take nice ones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use Fab for MY fun which doesn't include spending endless hours replying to guys who claim to have read our profile, ha ha yeah course they have

As for gabbing pics, I rarely do and frankly don't give a shit if anyone or no one fab ours. But I'm unlikely to fab a cock pic and even less likely to fab a hairy cock pic

You have to realise that fens and couples get a lot of messages. It takes time to answer them when usually I just want to read and post in forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The fact you are married is enough for us to not bother replying to a message

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By *iscomanMan
over a year ago

Solihull

Where have all the good manners gone?

A thank you a smile a nod a hand shake Costs nothing!!!!!!!

Instead all the youngsters need to is grunt and slang and text talk (init, bro ,skin,)

Come on learn proper ENGLISH and Manners

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile doesn't stand out from the thousands of other guys on here

Say more about yourself & pics of something other than your cock

Then be patient and develop a thick skin!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never fabbed a cock pic as I'm not a fan of them and I don't think I'm entirely alone in that. All the pics I've fabbed are tasteful body shots or torso or face.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So you come on a swinging site to open your mind, claim not to be "one of those" guys, you just have pics of your cock to look at, you expect a reply on the basis that you send nice messages!

And then imply that those who are not answering them are arrogant!!

As many a single guy will tell you, it's not instashag, take a no reply to your messages as a not interested in you!

Chill out and relax!! Take time to get to know people, use the forums to join in with banter! And maybe a few body shots added to your gallery!

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have some empathy with some of what your saying , manners cost nothing I agree. But it is a swingers site and people hate whinging . Suck it all up and understand not everyone you contact will be nice people , just as in real life . Stay positive , join in intelligently on the forums and you will get noticed by someone who fancies you .

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

OP: when you send a message and don't get a reply, I honestly find it difficult to understand why that would affect your confidence. How can receiving nothing be confidence damaging? Nothing has happened....what would be worse, no reply or a reply saying 'no...' with some personal and deeply hurting and unjustifiable and unfair reasons? I'd take the first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn't say your pics not being fabbed is arrogance. If paying someone a compliment and they don't reply its not arrogant in my eyes, just a little impolite but its life on here. If I'm lucky enough to have someone compliment me I will always thank them, many won't as some use it to start a conversation, others its just a compliment. I've sent many compliments to guys and don't get replies. I don't necessarily want to meet them, just paying a compliment."

Hi A, pity about your age limits, I'd love to just chat to a lady who writes with such humour on her profile xx

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Oh stop whinging you don't have a god given right to get a response....

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By *tirling DarkCouple
over a year ago

Stirling

"Where have all the good manners gone?

A thank you a smile a nod a hand shake Costs nothing!!!!!!!

Instead all the youngsters need to is grunt and slang and text talk (init, bro ,skin,)

Come on learn proper ENGLISH and Manners

Sweeping statement about 'youngsters', I would imagine that elders said the same about you when you were a 'youngster'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Where have all the good manners gone?

A thank you a smile a nod a hand shake Costs nothing!!!!!!!

Instead all the youngsters need to is grunt and slang and text talk (init, bro ,skin,)

Come on learn proper ENGLISH and Manners

Sweeping statement about 'youngsters', I would imagine that elders said the same about you when you were a 'youngster'. "

In my experience on here its not just younger people who talk in that way, many guys in their 40's write in text speak and some older ones who should know better have very few manners.

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By *tirling DarkCouple
over a year ago

Stirling

Do you really expect people to fab pictures of your cock?

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By *rsIdiotWoman
over a year ago

Bedworth

So.....you are looking for a skinny fuck buddy who likes pics of a hairy cock. Can accommodate you whenever you fancy a shag or is happy to fuck in your car. Oh and she must also not mind that you're attached and cheating behind your partners back.

Good luck with that

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By *orflondonerMan
over a year ago

Wood Green

Have you seen how many messages single ladies get on here? If they answered them all they wouldn't have time for anything else. A friend of mine showed me her inbox( ooh er Mrs) few months ago. Mental,doesn't go half way there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you really expect people to fab pictures of your cock?

my cock gets fabbed all the time ! .......... By gays

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never put pics up to be a fab warrior, or expect fabs.

I put them up as this is my arse today"

Someone has made you low in confidence I think.

Take some with a pinch of salt until someone good comes along.

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By *entaur 9Man
over a year ago

Warwickshire

Have a cry. Feel frustrated. Read the advice. Try again then realise it can be very hard work here if your not PC ! Good luck and keep smiling! When you've worked out what your doing wrong tell me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It baffles me that people spend so much time looking at their outbox

Then again I suppose the same people must be the ones sending hundreds of random messages to people not suited to them...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you really expect people to fab pictures of your cock?

my cock gets fabbed all the time ! .......... By gays

I just fabbed you

MrsNotts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh stop whinging you don't have a god given right to get a response...."

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

its not often i fab a picture but when i do its either a nice face or torso. ive never fabbed a cock, i dont even look as i dont like cock pictures

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I've taken the liberty of looking at your profile. It's not working for you, is it? So you need to change it. Have a look through all the threads about profile advice....your cock photos, IMO, are boring. You need to have a combination of subject matter, imagination and style.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe you,re a munter in disguise...in time you,ll realise its a big shop window and the ladies like to peruse...you,re either the wrong shoe size or wrong brand of beans and being put back on shelf.....get over it move on and change the pics maybe

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Maybe put some humour into your profile make it interesting and maybe remove the part about driving about it makes you look like a man that scowers the streets for women.....You really don't need 7 pictures of your cock....with this site you have to put in the effort..You don't submit a half hearted CV when you are looking for a job...you create one that will sell you and make you look interesting...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Manners are FREE, you are correct in that, but then again so is choice. We choose to say on our profile we will not respond to messages from those we have no interest in meeting.

This is not bad manners, we have simply chosen this as an option to save time responding to things we don't want, freeing up time for us to pursue things that do interest us.

You as a user of this site have the freedom of choice to contact us but you should allow us the same freedom to not respond if you are not what we want. Whether this is bad manners or not, we are not sure. However it is very controlling of you to expect a reply because you feel you are owed one by sending a message in the first place, given the fact that our profile states that we will not reply to those site users we are not interested in. After all who are you to tell us what we should do in response to the messages we receive?

As for your issue about your not having your pics fabbed, this is surely common sense. if others, like ourselves, state that they will not respond to certain messages and you do not get a response, then it makes sense that these guys will not fab your pics. You are obviously not for them.

If they thought your pics were gorgeous, stunning or so appealing, you would get the fabs, obviously you seem to crave, from them and more importantly a response.

As for this damaging your confidence after not receiving a response from the complimentary messages you post, we are sorry to say that it must be a very fragile thing to begin with. The fact that you feel you deserve a response from just writing a few nice things to someone is a little worrying. What would you do if you actually met someone and bought them a drink or a nice meal and they went on to exercise their freedom of choice and said 'no' to you. Would you feel like they were beholden to you to say 'yes' just because you did something nice for them?

Come on you know that that is not right and the same applies to messages, you can say as many nice things as you like but it doesn't entitle you to a response.

Man up and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What you expect and what you get, never match up.

You don't get sympathy meets or shags, women rule the site and you're here for them....

...the fantastic women on here

I never knew that women rule this site and that I am here for them

. May be you are and that's how you position yourself in this environement and I agree most guys I've seen around the forums never upset a wonan but they dont hesitate a second to slate a man especially if they are new to the forum and have a poor profile. Well I am here for my own pleasure and no woman will rule me in this site. I do it my way within my rules. If they meet and match anothet woman's rules then be it if not. A shagg is not worth to drop my pride and values. Don't generalise mate. You are ruled by women only when you let rule you.

For the OP. I know lots of these replies are harsh but they are very useful for you to take on board learn from them and take them on board. This place is harsh for most guys not just you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah they are that bad!

Sorry but you did ask! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We wouldn't take the time to reply to a message from an attached male whose profile pics were just cock shots x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why oh why do you feel the need for so many cock pics?? One is too many!! Jesus!!

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"What you expect and what you get, never match up.

You don't get sympathy meets or shags, women rule the site and you're here for them....

Women only 'rule' the site because most men let them!!

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"What you expect and what you get, never match up.

You don't get sympathy meets or shags, women rule the site and you're here for them....

...the fantastic women on here

I never knew that women rule this site and that I am here for them

For the OP. I know lots of these replies are harsh but they are very useful for you to take on board learn from them and take them on board. This place is harsh for most guys not just you.

I should have read all the replies first.....well said!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry but a profile that screams desperate is a huge turn off for me. married/attached guys are a big no no and cock pic after cock pic is boring and stinks of desperation.... I would give you profile a wide birth and delete your message without reading!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes there are a few arrogant ones on here who think they are much too clever for you, or that they look like fashion models. they like to think they still look as good as they did when they were in their twenties, lucky for them their eyesight isnt what it was so they cant see all their wrinkles and things.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's great that you want to learn the social mores and to improve your sociability. As you've realised, groups tend to have their own peculiar styles and ways of interacting with others.

You've put your toes into the world of swinging. Many people who swing have a social circle that involves clubs and groups, and some interaction via Fab. Someone outside of such a cohesive group may find it a challenge to become a part of this. Where the person doesn't hold the largely shared values that many in the group have, then you may find yourself remaining like an outcast, though no one has cast you out, as you never really fitted in.

If someone doesn't uphold the values that most others have, then people will be somewhat suspicious, maybe scornful and not particularly open to them.

Many people on fab get enormous amounts of communication from others, especially single women. Many of us do not have the time to enter into dialogue to respond to most of it, and some communication may have more than one meaning. For example, getting a message that is complimentary may be _iewed as an attempt by someone to have sex. If the sender is disliked for some reason, that person is never likely to get a response. Silence can be a deafening message, so there is in inferred message that you can take on board - they're not interested in you, socially, sexually or any way that has caught their imagination.

FIFO is a common thought amongst sociologists. If someone lacks the flexibility to be adaptable or the motivation to want to change, then they can question their needs and also desire to be energy efficient.

Sounds like you've learned your current approach is a waste of time. Flies keep bumping into windows, as their cognitive abilities are limited, even though they will eventually learn to stop doing it, or do something else instead. Sometimes they'll die, after using their energies doing the wrong, pointless thing.

If you're up for swinging, ask yourself what you really bring to the party, and whether you match what others want. If it aint very much, maybe go elsewhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"yes there are a few arrogant ones on here who think they are much too clever for you, or that they look like fashion models. they like to think they still look as good as they did when they were in their twenties, lucky for them their eyesight isnt what it was so they cant see all their wrinkles and things.

and this arrogance is younger prettier women not meeting all and sundry and not spending every waking hour replying to their adoring masses

. How dare these young gorgeous creatures exercise choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i nearly always say thank you if someone messages me to say they like my pictures, doesnt matter if they are my type either. i dont always fab their pics though.

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By * times sexyCouple
over a year ago

Staffs

"What you expect and what you get, never match up.

You don't get sympathy meets or shags, women rule the site and you're here for them....

Dating site might be better, but most need a few dates and you just dont know if they are passive or active like the fantastic women on here

Creep !!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you reply you get....why not..then but I can do that......and on and on and on and on and on and on! Also maybe just maybe people don't want to get involved with someone who could have an upset wife pop up. We all have choices you have a choice to do what you do maybe communication should start closer at home for you.

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By *ild imagination OP Man
over a year ago

Basildon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have 6 \ 7 cock photos.... and that's it... do I really need to say more ?

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By *ild imagination OP Man
over a year ago

Basildon

"7 cock pictures and your profile would save me even opening a message from you.

If you are too scared to put up a face pic because you are married where do you plan on meeting someone?

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like I said not just looking to meet. Would like to chat etc aswell

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By *ild imagination OP Man
over a year ago

Basildon

You have 6 \ 7 cock photos.... and that's it... do I really need to say more ?

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yes cock pics in public but not in friends ONLY!!! Like many other people!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not people being rude ........ Just take it no mail back not for you .. Some don't have the time mailing 100s even 1000s back each week .

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By *ild imagination OP Man
over a year ago

Basildon

"What you expect and what you get, never match up.

You don't get sympathy meets or shags, women rule the site and you're here for them....

...the fantastic women on here

I never knew that women rule this site and that I am here for them

For the OP. I know lots of these replies are harsh but they are very useful for you to take on board learn from them and take them on board. This place is harsh for most guys not just you.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Maybe just mail the people who match what you are looking for and you might have more chance of an answer

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

The other thing that you can do is to improve your profile so that it is as good as or better than those guys that you're competing with.

You can never be attractive to those who have no interest in you, but you can present yourself better, so that others get a good feel for you.

As others have said, any whingeing in the forums is usually a bad shot, so be warned to not do that, as it can spread disinterest like the plague.

Find people who are decent, honest and friendly and take it from there, for friendship and support. Search the forums for things that you're interested in, and to learn more about what helps people out on here and in swinging. You'll notice people who have something to offer.

A key quality for anyone to have is tenacity. It's worth developing, especially if you're a single guy on here. If you know that you don't like arrogance, then cultivate a circle of people who don't have it aplenty, and notice if you ever show it too. Humans are good at projecting onto others what they don't like in themselves, what they're uncomfortable about.

Confidence is healthy but arrogance frequently represents some anger, possibly from something else, and also someone who is insecure. Insecurity can come from all kinds of things, perhaps we've made the wrong choices, or it's just a natural gut reaction that we can learn from, if it's something that we can address. I always aim to follow my gut instincts, as they're usually important.

Like others, I have sent many messages to others in response to feedback that I've had. I don't always do it now, due to time restrictions and also as it is easy for others to feel that they're given the come on. A frequent reaction from many is that users get blocked when they've sent something that others aren't interested in, so copious amounts of unsolicited petting, feedback and messages can result in users have a big lost of members that have blocked them. As a result, it's probably something to do sparingly.

Overall, as a married man who is swinging without permission - I'm just taking a guess that you are - is someone that many will avoid, either they find it distasteful or they have other reasons. If you know this, then you may possibly develop a thicker skin, that is about your situation, rather than overall level of attractiveness. Obviously attraction also relates to the person, and some will find a person who cheats to be a mark of someone that they find less than attractive. If you're less into swinging in groups and more into finding single partners to play with, there may also be other options that suit you better, where people may be more open to people who are playing away from home. Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am confident that I am arrogant!!

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By *tirling DarkCouple
over a year ago

Stirling

You have 6 \ 7 cock photos.... and that's it... do I really need to say more ?

yes cock pics in public but not in friends ONLY!!! Like many other people!"

"Like many other people" but they aren't whinging on forums like you. You have been given lots of good advice, take it on board or accept that you just ain't going to get a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is nothing in your pics that stand out enough for me to fab them,fabbing pics has bugger all to do with people being arrogant

99% of the time ive responded politely to a compliment results in the sender assuming I want to meet them,99% of the time I don't so its sometimes less hassle to ignore messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you mail saying no thanks .... you open yourself to people being nasty maling back saying all sorts and can go on and on .....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP- maybe the life style just isn't for you. You do need a thick skin, you may receive one reply for every hundred ' nice' messages you send. perhaps you should concentrate on your relationship with your partner for a while, talk to them, ask their fantasies, you never know she/he may want a bit of spice putting back into the relationship too, which could open up a world of swinging possibilities as a couple- it worked for me and my partner and we had an amazing time and made lots of friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP Here is my honest suggestion.

Your profile doesn't look attractive for many reasons. Although there is obvious honesty which I admire but if you want to get interest from females you want to attract then try to modify it.

- Cock pics are not attractive and all your pics are about your cock. That is bad enough and off putting for women. Well most I'd say.

- Some women will admire your honesty about being married and playing away but you make most of them unsure about it so you can put you're reasons for playing away in an attractive but honest way.

- I would drop the bit that says no big women. Most women are very selfconcious about their shape and even those who fall into your criteria are likely to be put off reading that.

- Check profiles of successful guys and see what kind of pics are getting fabbed and try to make similar ones of yourself and put them in public instead of cock pics. You dont need to show your face shown in public but have a nice one in private and be ready to attach to a message when they ask and you feel comfortable to show.

- say more about yourself in your profile and your sexual experience or desires. What you want to try and what you dont ect.

- Some banter in your profile can make the whole difference.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Arrogance 'I am better than everyone else'

Confidence 'I am as good as anyone else'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't read anyone else's comments but I have looked at your profile and pics. If you read the forums then search for "cock pics" you will see that 99% of people don't like more than one. You have lots of unflattering cock pics. So I am guessing that you message someone. They read your profile. They look at your pics, all of your cock. They think eewww. You never get a reply. Hope that helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I haven't read anyone else's comments but I have looked at your profile and pics. If you read the forums then search for "cock pics" you will see that 99% of people don't like more than one. You have lots of unflattering cock pics. So I am guessing that you message someone. They read your profile. They look at your pics, all of your cock. They think eewww. You never get a reply. Hope that helps

Lol....i like this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im not being arrogant here and trying not to be rude towards you.. but we can't all like everyone's pics . Just because someone has fabbed ours doesn't mean we have to fab or reply back. . If the profile interests us we will. .. Make your pics a bit more appealing you will get a positive response. . However you have just got yourself attention to your pics as we have all looked .. Redtop..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And on the subject of arrogance, your sense of entitlement screams it."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

[Removed by poster at 07/02/14 10:51:01]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fabs count for nothing.

It quite clearly states when you join that not replying to a message is as good as a 'thanks but no thanks', so deal with it.

Being a single male swinger requires a thick skin."

What he said ^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perfect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think this is the point where it goes Pete Tongue

I'd love to do a countdown but I have to go out

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By *ild imagination OP Man
over a year ago

Basildon

Thanks for your reply and advice. Noted and reassuring that there are some DECENT people on here. Thanks again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am confident - in that I would not be interested in mailing any man who only has cock pics on his profile - as my byline states, i am not a peace of meat - stimulate my brain. That includes having teasing body shots on your profile. Leave something to the imagination - maybe keep one or two cock pics but put something else in there too. The only cock pics i fab are those that I have had the experience of, and I fab them because of the pleasure they have given me.

The only arrogance displayed here is yours in that you think you deserve to be fabbed and treated with respect - respect is a 2 way thing. Have some respect for us too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, you aren't endearing yourself with comments like these. Fab isn't instashag. In the FAQ section there is a bit that says no reply means no thank you. If I'd have replied to every message I got when I was meeting I'd have never left the house!

You've had some good advice on here from single men who've had a good number of meets in the past. I suggest you take it rather than being overly angry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You consider yourself to be decent.!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And he wonders why he gets no meets or attention lol.

Seems he's pretty arrogant himself. Come on people, where is all this positive attention he's demanding ?

So big girls don't do it for you OP ? Well arrogant, cheating, abusive types don't do it for me....."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And he wonders why he gets no meets or attention lol.

Seems he's pretty arrogant himself. Come on people, where is all this positive attention he's demanding ?

So big girls don't do it for you OP ? Well arrogant, cheating, abusive types don't do it for me.....

Where has he said he doesn't like big girls?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sadly arrogance is rife on here, the only real way to get on and enjoy seems to be tolerance & a thick skin!!

It's same as offline life.. Not everyone likes the same thing so be happy with compliments but don't set yourself up for a fall expecting things!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And he wonders why he gets no meets or attention lol.

Seems he's pretty arrogant himself. Come on people, where is all this positive attention he's demanding ?

So big girls don't do it for you OP ? Well arrogant, cheating, abusive types don't do it for me.....

Where has he said he doesn't like big girls?"

On his profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just take a no reply as a thanks but no thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And he wonders why he gets no meets or attention lol.

Seems he's pretty arrogant himself. Come on people, where is all this positive attention he's demanding ?

So big girls don't do it for you OP ? Well arrogant, cheating, abusive types don't do it for me.....

Where has he said he doesn't like big girls?

On his profile"

I would prefer men to say on their profile if they dont like big girls.

rather than pretend they do, like some do or only meet big girls because they cant get a slim one.

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By *RYBBWCouple
over a year ago

Leeds.

And he wonders why he gets no meets or attention lol.

Seems he's pretty arrogant himself. Come on people, where is all this positive attention he's demanding ?

So big girls don't do it for you OP ? Well arrogant, cheating, abusive types don't do it for me.....

Where has he said he doesn't like big girls?"

In his profile. Last sentence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

would you walk into a bar and waggle your dick in front of a womans face and expect a positive response?

well guess what?

its the same here.

they are intricate creatures which need to be interested to even give you the time of day, let alone give your winkle a tweek.

if you dont think this is true and because this is a swingers site you dont need to give women a modicum of respect enough to treat them the same as you did your wife when you were interested enough in her to get her interested, then this isnt the place for you.

and what your doing aint swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And he wonders why he gets no meets or attention lol.

Seems he's pretty arrogant himself. Come on people, where is all this positive attention he's demanding ?

So big girls don't do it for you OP ? Well arrogant, cheating, abusive types don't do it for me.....

Where has he said he doesn't like big girls?

On his profile"

Oh right. Well I don't think he's endearing himself to anyone on here is he anyway? Big or small lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Crap pics, I'm more interested in finding out about the person first before the cock.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Arrogance 'I am better than everyone else'

Confidence 'I am as good as anyone else'"

But I am better than everyone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What you expect and what you get, never match up.

You don't get sympathy meets or shags, women rule the site and you're here for them....

Women only 'rule' the site because

most men let them!!"

And they use some kind of Jedi mind trick....apparently these aren't the droids I'm looking for

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

"Some may feel its arrogant to claim that you are somehow entitled to a reply from a stranger. "

Eminence. First of all. Welcome back.

Second. Well said.

I used to send messages. If I didn't receive a response I assumed they were not interested. Didn't find it arrogant. Just saved time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Arrogance 'I am better than everyone else'

Confidence 'I am as good as anyone else'

But I am better than everyone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Arrogance 'I am better than everyone else'

Confidence 'I am as good as anyone else'

But I am better than everyone else.

May be but I am the only genuine guy on fab the rest are all fake lol

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

Hugs op

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

"Hugs op "

Watches the hug

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I dont think it is mean spirited to suggest swinging may not be for you, it often can help with any confidence issues. It can also have a detrimental effect when people exploit any vulnerabilities.

Read the forums when people are laying bare their souls following being let down by people who promised the world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP if you feel its damaging your confidence .Only you can deal with that as whatever we believe becomes true for us. People here are all different and a lot may come here thinking its fast lane sex a free for all and get a bit of a shock to find out its not very easy at all .

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

I bet if a woman have had the same post everyone will be recomforting her and sending her hugs and kisses.

. "

I know it's off topic. But I disagree with that statement. I see it wrote so many times but I read the forums a lot and see women treated the same as a man.

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over a year ago

I bet if a woman have had the same post everyone will be recomforting her and sending her hugs and kisses.

I know it's off topic. But I disagree with that statement. I see it wrote so many times but I read the forums a lot and see women treated the same as a man. "

Strange that you can't see the obvious. Just compare the reaction towards married guys and married women as an example. Look how many times this guy have been insulted for cheating. Do you ever see the same reaction when a married woman posts?!!! Definitely not. If a woman post a rant thread she gets all the lovely attention and support from most. If a guy is ranting he gets slated as always. Typical.

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

I bet if a woman have had the same post everyone will be recomforting her and sending her hugs and kisses.

I know it's off topic. But I disagree with that statement. I see it wrote so many times but I read the forums a lot and see women treated the same as a man.

I see married women slated for the same all the time. Sure men who hope to meet with her will show sympathy. He is being slated because he is cheating not because he is a man.

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By *ild imagination OP Man
over a year ago

Basildon

I bet if a woman have had the same post everyone will be recomforting her and sending her hugs and kisses.

I know it's off topic. But I disagree with that statement. I see it wrote so many times but I read the forums a lot and see women treated the same as a man.

I see married women slated for the same all the time. Sure men who hope to meet with her will show sympathy. He is being slated because he is cheating not because he is a man. "

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By *ild imagination OP Man
over a year ago

Basildon

I bet if a woman have had the same post everyone will be recomforting her and sending her hugs and kisses.

I know it's off topic. But I disagree with that statement. I see it wrote so many times but I read the forums a lot and see women treated the same as a man.

THANK YOU

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

I bet if a woman have had the same post everyone will be recomforting her and sending her hugs and kisses.

I know it's off topic. But I disagree with that statement. I see it wrote so many times but I read the forums a lot and see women treated the same as a man.

Actually if a married man posts the woman and the men mostly say they don't agree that cheating should be part of a swingers site.

If a married woman posts the woman will say the same but the men all

Scramble with sympathy trying to get their leg over.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that sometimes people get so wound up by the nasty disrespectful comments when all they wanted was a bit of advice that sometimes they blow their top.

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By *ild imagination OP Man
over a year ago

Basildon

"I think that sometimes people get so wound up by the nasty disrespectful comments when all they wanted was a bit of advice that sometimes they blow their top.

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By *ild imagination OP Man
over a year ago

Basildon

I bet if a woman have had the same post everyone will be recomforting her and sending her hugs and kisses.

I know it's off topic. But I disagree with that statement. I see it wrote so many times but I read the forums a lot and see women treated the same as a man.

Actually if a married man posts the woman and the men mostly say they don't agree that cheating should be part of a swingers site.

If a married woman posts the woman will say the same but the men all

Scramble with sympathy trying to get their leg over.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I bet if a woman have had the same post everyone will be recomforting her and sending her hugs and kisses.

I know it's off topic. But I disagree with that statement. I see it wrote so many times but I read the forums a lot and see women treated the same as a man.

Actually if a married man posts the woman and the men mostly say they don't agree that cheating should be part of a swingers site.

If a married woman posts the woman will say the same but the men all

Scramble with sympathy trying to get their leg over.

and thats the difference.

there are enough genuinely single blokes on here that the women tend to find they dont need to pander to massage the egos of cheating guys.

whereas there are so many blokes, single and not so, that not only do you get other cheating men saying that it should be 'live and let live' to cheating women, but also you get the white knights riding in and saying the same, whilst condeming the brotherhood.

such a funny sideshow

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

The site doesn't condone abuse and people get dealt with when doing it.......but before anyone talks about the OP getting angry, just look at some of the very unfriendly posts on this thread and ask yourself why.

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