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Would swinging make you want to cheat??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Does anyone out here think that now you have started swinging your partner might want to cheat??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the exam.

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By *ScotsmanMan
over a year ago

ayrshire

im only swaying

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"Does anyone out here think that now you have started swinging your partner might want to cheat??"
Nope, do you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I love swinging with my hubby and want him to have the best but can it tear a relationship apart. Just want to know peoples _iews

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

dont necessarily need to be on a swingers site or even swinging for one or both in a relationship to consider cheating..

percentage of folks in this aspect is still probably very much in the minority i suspect..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Does anyone out here think that now you have started swinging your partner might want to cheat??Nope, do you?"

Well I don't think so no. I'm happy with my hubby and we always do it together x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love swinging with my hubby and want him to have the best but can it tear a relationship apart. Just want to know peoples _iews "

Serious head on.

Right its not an uncommon thought with women who swing in a couple they wonder what if.. what if he goes off me, what if sex is better with someone else, what if he wants single life to play more and a thousand what if's. And guess what the same will more than likely cross his mind too and its only natural if you care for someone. The reality is if someone is going to cheat they are going to cheat from a devout catholic to a swinger it makes no difference and swinging doesn't make people do it more just highlights insecurities at times which in reality are highly unlikely to happen.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"Does anyone out here think that now you have started swinging your partner might want to cheat??Nope, do you?

Well I don't think so no. I'm happy with my hubby and we always do it together x"
Thats so nice to hear.....enjoy yourselves x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I love swinging with my hubby and want him to have the best but can it tear a relationship apart. Just want to know peoples _iews

Serious head on.

Right its not an uncommon thought with women who swing in a couple they wonder what if.. what if he goes off me, what if sex is better with someone else, what if he wants single life to play more and a thousand what if's. And guess what the same will more than likely cross his mind too and its only natural if you care for someone. The reality is if someone is going to cheat they are going to cheat from a devout catholic to a swinger it makes no difference and swinging doesn't make people do it more just highlights insecurities at times which in reality are highly unlikely to happen. "

That is such a good answer. thank you.

I always worry about little things and love my partner to bits, we love meeting new people and have had many good meets. But yes you can't predict what may or may not happen

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Does anyone out here think that now you have started swinging your partner might want to cheat??Nope, do you?

Well I don't think so no. I'm happy with my hubby and we always do it together xThats so nice to hear.....enjoy yourselves x "

Thanks Hun x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do you ask?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone out here think that now you have started swinging your partner might want to cheat??"

No - and if someone is having those thoughts then swinging isn't right for them or their relationship. I suspect there are insecurities within such a relationship that should be dealt with before considering swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love swinging with my hubby and want him to have the best but can it tear a relationship apart. Just want to know peoples _iews

Serious head on.

Right its not an uncommon thought with women who swing in a couple they wonder what if.. what if he goes off me, what if sex is better with someone else, what if he wants single life to play more and a thousand what if's. And guess what the same will more than likely cross his mind too and its only natural if you care for someone. The reality is if someone is going to cheat they are going to cheat from a devout catholic to a swinger it makes no difference and swinging doesn't make people do it more just highlights insecurities at times which in reality are highly unlikely to happen.

That is such a good answer. thank you.

I always worry about little things and love my partner to bits, we love meeting new people and have had many good meets. But yes you can't predict what may or may not happen "

Everyone can worry from body issues ti partners liking the other person but think in. Its usually casual sex with someone and not the deep emotions involved in a relationship. Singles get together through swinging but you don't hear of any more couples splitting in the scene than in life in general quite the opposite I would say less splits as you are talking things over and you become closer as a couple.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I love swinging with my hubby and want him to have the best but can it tear a relationship apart. Just want to know peoples _iews

Serious head on.

Right its not an uncommon thought with women who swing in a couple they wonder what if.. what if he goes off me, what if sex is better with someone else, what if he wants single life to play more and a thousand what if's. And guess what the same will more than likely cross his mind too and its only natural if you care for someone. The reality is if someone is going to cheat they are going to cheat from a devout catholic to a swinger it makes no difference and swinging doesn't make people do it more just highlights insecurities at times which in reality are highly unlikely to happen.

That is such a good answer. thank you.

I always worry about little things and love my partner to bits, we love meeting new people and have had many good meets. But yes you can't predict what may or may not happen

Everyone can worry from body issues ti partners liking the other person but think in. Its usually casual sex with someone and not the deep emotions involved in a relationship. Singles get together through swinging but you don't hear of any more couples splitting in the scene than in life in general quite the opposite I would say less splits as you are talking things over and you become closer as a couple. "

Great answer that does make a lot of sense

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we have both had the opportunity, both on here and in the 'real world' but we only seem to have any interest in being with each other, and with others, together, so no, swinging wouldnt make either of us cheat

and neither of us would cheat on the other outside of swinging.

i trust her implicitly.

you would have to ask her if she does me, but she says she does

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I have known a few that swing because he or she doesn't trust the other, so they swing to minimise the opportunity the other has.

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By *entaur 9Man
over a year ago

Warwickshire


"Does anyone out here think that now you have started swinging your partner might want to cheat??"

The old saying is a leopard never changes its spots.

So if hubby has never strayed separately before its unlikely he will now.

Those same insecurities go through a mans mind too!

Personally ive always found swinging made me closer when ive been in a relationship and looking for xtra fun together fun!

Enjoy xx

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"I love swinging with my hubby and want him to have the best but can it tear a relationship apart. Just want to know peoples _iews

Serious head on.

Right its not an uncommon thought with women who swing in a couple they wonder what if.. what if he goes off me, what if sex is better with someone else, what if he wants single life to play more and a thousand what if's. And guess what the same will more than likely cross his mind too and its only natural if you care for someone. The reality is if someone is going to cheat they are going to cheat from a devout catholic to a swinger it makes no difference and swinging doesn't make people do it more just highlights insecurities at times which in reality are highly unlikely to happen.

That is such a good answer. thank you.

I always worry about little things and love my partner to bits, we love meeting new people and have had many good meets. But yes you can't predict what may or may not happen

Everyone can worry from body issues ti partners liking the other person but think in. Its usually casual sex with someone and not the deep emotions involved in a relationship. Singles get together through swinging but you don't hear of any more couples splitting in the scene than in life in general quite the opposite I would say less splits as you are talking things over and you become closer as a couple.

Great answer that does make a lot of sense "

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By *uzzybeWoman
over a year ago

Darlington


"I love swinging with my hubby and want him to have the best but can it tear a relationship apart. Just want to know peoples _iews

Serious head on.

Right its not an uncommon thought with women who swing in a couple they wonder what if.. what if he goes off me, what if sex is better with someone else, what if he wants single life to play more and a thousand what if's. And guess what the same will more than likely cross his mind too and its only natural if you care for someone. The reality is if someone is going to cheat they are going to cheat from a devout catholic to a swinger it makes no difference and swinging doesn't make people do it more just highlights insecurities at times which in reality are highly unlikely to happen.

That is such a good answer. thank you.

I always worry about little things and love my partner to bits, we love meeting new people and have had many good meets. But yes you can't predict what may or may not happen

Everyone can worry from body issues ti partners liking the other person but think in. Its usually casual sex with someone and not the deep emotions involved in a relationship. Singles get together through swinging but you don't hear of any more couples splitting in the scene than in life in general quite the opposite I would say less splits as you are talking things over and you become closer as a couple. "

Disagree with you there. I know of a few. Including myself

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By *uzzybeWoman
over a year ago

Darlington


"I love swinging with my hubby and want him to have the best but can it tear a relationship apart. Just want to know peoples _iews

Serious head on.

Right its not an uncommon thought with women who swing in a couple they wonder what if.. what if he goes off me, what if sex is better with someone else, what if he wants single life to play more and a thousand what if's. And guess what the same will more than likely cross his mind too and its only natural if you care for someone. The reality is if someone is going to cheat they are going to cheat from a devout catholic to a swinger it makes no difference and swinging doesn't make people do it more just highlights insecurities at times which in reality are highly unlikely to happen.

That is such a good answer. thank you.

I always worry about little things and love my partner to bits, we love meeting new people and have had many good meets. But yes you can't predict what may or may not happen

Everyone can worry from body issues ti partners liking the other person but think in. Its usually casual sex with someone and not the deep emotions involved in a relationship. Singles get together through swinging but you don't hear of any more couples splitting in the scene than in life in general quite the opposite I would say less splits as you are talking things over and you become closer as a couple. "

Disagree with you there. I know of a few. Including myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if a man or woman says they will never change, then you have to be a bit guarded yes.

Personally cheating is not for me swinging or not.

If I was being cheated on like most I wouldn't be on here, why bother lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can only speak for myself...

No its the opposite for me!..I feel very lucky to have dee (my husband) in my life to be able to do what we do, have what we have together is very special & I wont screw what we have up!!..

I cant see why people would need to cheat on there partners/ husbands when we have this choice to swing...

Nope...I consider myself blessed!!..bambi x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are willingly letting your partner enjoy sex/sexual contact in swinging then they shouldnt really feel the need to cheat behind your back as they are sleeping with other people!

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By *enithWoman
over a year ago

closer than you think

I was married for almost 20 years and we joined the swinging scene ...... was something we both agreed on and enjoyed for several years so was shocked when I found out that he was cheating on me!

His excuse ....... "She sparked something in him"!!

Perhaps our relationship had gone stale who knows ...... so to answer your question the answer has to be YES

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By *entaur 9Man
over a year ago

Warwickshire


"If you are willingly letting your partner enjoy sex/sexual contact in swinging then they shouldnt really feel the need to cheat behind your back as they are sleeping with other people! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes i can imagine he might if he had the chance too, especialy if she was 20 years younger than me and slim.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone out here think that now you have started swinging your partner might want to cheat??"

No I would say more likley opposite if you class cheating solely on going behind your partners back for sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say yes cheating isn't always about sex, sometimes the marriage has just got stale and they find someone else who they connect with emotional and so cheat,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I joined fab with no expectations and certainly didn't think guys would want to meet me. I'm cheating on my husband, purely because there is no sex in our marriage and I need some male contact in my life. Selfish? Yes I guess I am. Ive been asked before how I would feel if I found out he was doing the same to me. I don't think it would bother me tbh. Preparing for backlash of comments

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By *enithWoman
over a year ago

closer than you think


"I joined fab with no expectations and certainly didn't think guys would want to meet me. I'm cheating on my husband, purely because there is no sex in our marriage and I need some male contact in my life. Selfish? Yes I guess I am. Ive been asked before how I would feel if I found out he was doing the same to me. I don't think it would bother me tbh. Preparing for backlash of comments

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Why not leave him then?

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By *enithWoman
over a year ago

closer than you think


"I would say yes cheating isn't always about sex, sometimes the marriage has just got stale and they find someone else who they connect with emotional and so cheat, "

I would agree with that

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By *organ and rob zombieCouple
over a year ago

bradford

Its ok stating that your partners won't cheat on you, but how would you know if they did!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone out here think that now you have started swinging your partner might want to cheat??"

When you are swinging , you're constantly looking for that next high until it finally leads to the last high which is not good. The last high is the high that you realize your marriage has become just a business arrangement. And when your marriage is just a business arrangement you run the danger of having intense feelings for a swing partner. So like most things in life theres a risk and yes a risk of cheating if you like it more than what you have at home.

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By *imjohnCouple
over a year ago

Clacton on sea, Essex

Before you even think of swinging look how strong your relationship is & is it what you both want, some couples we have met have been pushed into it by the other partner & its only going to end bad.

We have gone through a long varied bucket list over the years & trust each other totally, as well as swinging i star in films with lots of hot guys/ladies & John films/photographs dozens of naughty ladies but we can honestly say its never entered our heads.

If we do want to play singly we can but we tell each at the time or straight after, if we didn't then its not swinging.

If having affairs enters your heads stop swinging immediately & try your hardest to repair your marriage.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Doesn't make me want to cheat but it doesn't half make me want to eat. Ravenous I am after an "encounter"

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Before you even think of swinging look how strong your relationship is & is it what you both want, some couples we have met have been pushed into it by the other partner & its only going to end bad.

We have gone through a long varied bucket list over the years & trust each other totally, as well as swinging i star in films with lots of hot guys/ladies & John films/photographs dozens of naughty ladies but we can honestly say its never entered our heads.

If we do want to play singly we can but we tell each at the time or straight after, if we didn't then its not swinging.

If having affairs enters your heads stop swinging immediately & try your hardest to repair your marriage.

"

Wise words.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I joined fab with no expectations and certainly didn't think guys would want to meet me. I'm cheating on my husband, purely because there is no sex in our marriage and I need some male contact in my life. Selfish? Yes I guess I am. Ive been asked before how I would feel if I found out he was doing the same to me. I don't think it would bother me tbh. Preparing for backlash of comments

Why not leave him then?"

Because apart from the lack of physical side of marriage he has done nothing wrong. I have no reason to leave and would have nowhere to go

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"Does anyone out here think that now you have started swinging your partner might want to cheat??"

If someone wants to cheat they will do it whether they are swinging or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone out here think that now you have started swinging your partner might want to cheat??

If someone wants to cheat they will do it whether they are swinging or not.

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yes your right. x

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By *illwill69uMan
over a year ago

moston

Why do people think that cheating is about sex? Its not, it is about deceit destroying bonds of trust. It just happens that the easiest way to do it is through sex.

I would suggest that swinging makes it harder to use sex as a vehicle to destroy a stable relationship.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Why do people think that cheating is about sex? Its not, it is about deceit destroying bonds of trust. It just happens that the easiest way to do it is through sex.

I would suggest that swinging makes it harder to use sex as a vehicle to destroy a stable relationship. "

You're right and lots of people fail to realise that emotional infidelity is the deal breaker for a lot of people.

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