FabSwingers.com forum: How compassionate are you?

By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

Someone has just asked me this and I am not really sure how to answer, I think it can vary, depending on how I am feeling myself. What about you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the situation I think. My best friend will tell you I'm a cold hearted of hard faced cow but I can be sensitive

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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"Depends on the situation I think. My best friend will tell you I'm a cold hearted of hard faced cow but I can be sensitive

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Does it depend on your mood, or who the person is?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it depends on mood a bit. For me, it doesn't depend on the person. Even if it's someone I don't like, if I thought they were getting a raw deal I still stick up for them.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

In some situations I doubt you would find anyone more so... if they are just a needy cunt I may be a little less generous with my compassion.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I am to an extent, if people take control of whatever is upsetting them: I will support 100% with kindness and compassion.

if they continue to be a 'victim' of themselves, much lesser so.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"In some situations I doubt you would find anyone more so... if they are just a needy cunt I may be a little less generous with my compassion."

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I can feel compassion towards almost anyone, how that's expressed depends entirely on the situation and the person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In some situations I doubt you would find anyone more so... if they are just a needy cunt I may be a little less generous with my compassion."

Pretty much me...I run out of compassion with some people, especially when they repeatedly put themselves in situations which require compassion!

Do also think it depends on how well I know the person/people too...think if we were all affected by everything that happened to extended friends and family we'd struggle to get on with every day life, sometimes you have to distance yourself.

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By *uzzybeWoman
over a year ago

Darlington

"I am to an extent, if people take control of whatever is upsetting them: I will support 100% with kindness and compassion.

if they continue to be a 'victim' of themselves, much lesser so."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In some situations I doubt you would find anyone more so... if they are just a needy cunt I may be a little less generous with my compassion."

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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"I can feel compassion towards almost anyone, how that's expressed depends entirely on the situation and the person."
Hmmmm I think this is me.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Mostly but sometimes the wellspring of compassion is running dry and I don't have enough to give without becoming a dry husk.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I can feel compassion towards almost anyone, how that's expressed depends entirely on the situation and the person.Hmmmm I think this is me.

It's what gets me in trouble, I try and react or give advice that I hope will actually help the person and that isn't always what everyone thinks should be done.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Mostly but sometimes the wellspring of compassion is running dry and I don't have enough to give without becoming a dry husk.

That's when you should turn your compassion on yourself.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I can be....very much so but I can be quite cold also

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends on the situation I think. My best friend will tell you I'm a cold hearted of hard faced cow but I can be sensitive

Does it depend on your mood, or who the person is?"

Probably who the person is!

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Mostly but sometimes the wellspring of compassion is running dry and I don't have enough to give without becoming a dry husk.

That's when you should turn your compassion on yourself."

That's what I'm doing. Not everyone appreciates it is necessary though.

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

I think I'm pretty compassionate. Unless I'm hungry, then I'm too grumpy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am too nice for my own good

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Mostly but sometimes the wellspring of compassion is running dry and I don't have enough to give without becoming a dry husk.

That's when you should turn your compassion on yourself.

That's what I'm doing. Not everyone appreciates it is necessary though.

Then not everyone appreciates the true nature of compassion

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I am too nice for my own good "

Is compassion always about being nice?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am too nice for my own good

Is compassion always about being nice? "

Not always

But I am full of empathy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Extremely compassionate in most situations, although it does tend to run thin on the ground, when I'm compassionate with the same person time and time again, and their not listening... And keep making the same mistake over and over.....

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

I hope I am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ermmmmm... Depends on who, what and my mood x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think I'm pretty compassionate. Unless I'm hungry, then I'm too grumpy. "

Compassion needs feeding, too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If she's just sucked my cock, then yeah I would be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I compassionate to real suffering but I detest those black and white RSPCA type adverts which try and guilt-trip you into setting up a direct debit.

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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"Yes I compassionate to real suffering but I detest those black and white RSPCA type adverts which try and guilt-trip you into setting up a direct debit."
Oh fuck yes I know the ones, mind fuck adverts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As said before, depends on who, why and mood.

I agree with adverts too! One that really annoyed me yesterday (angry compassion) was an advert on getting closer to curing cancer.... If we keep paying!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i always try and help, who ever it is, hell even people i do not normally get along with.

I cannot send cash to every charity or sometimes i cannot help, and i feel guilty about not being able too.

Have been taken for a mug a few times though.

still will not change, its my nature to be generous, even if it is only time and an ear to talk to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not as compasionate as i used to be when i was younger, i am to people that matter to me mostly like my son, and husband, younger men because i have a son, old people and animals.

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester

"i always try and help, who ever it is, hell even people i do not normally get along with.

I cannot send cash to every charity or sometimes i cannot help, and i feel guilty about not being able too.

Have been taken for a mug a few times though.

still will not change, its my nature to be generous, even if it is only time and an ear to talk to.

Got a few grand you can slip me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In some situations I doubt you would find anyone more so... if they are just a needy cunt I may be a little less generous with my compassion."

Some would say that compassion involves seeing past the fact that they're a needy cunt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i always try and help, who ever it is, hell even people i do not normally get along with.

I cannot send cash to every charity or sometimes i cannot help, and i feel guilty about not being able too.

Have been taken for a mug a few times though.

still will not change, its my nature to be generous, even if it is only time and an ear to talk to.

Got a few grand you can slip me? "

god i wish i had £100 to myself lol

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester

"i always try and help, who ever it is, hell even people i do not normally get along with.

I cannot send cash to every charity or sometimes i cannot help, and i feel guilty about not being able too.

Have been taken for a mug a few times though.

still will not change, its my nature to be generous, even if it is only time and an ear to talk to.

Got a few grand you can slip me?

god i wish i had £100 to myself lol"

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By *ScotsmanMan
over a year ago

ayrshire

needy cunts annoy me.and aye im compassionate .O fuking K.

x x X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't tend to suffer fools gladly if something has been bought on themselves.

But if a friend needs me, I'm there wholehearted.

With my friends they call me an agony aunt.

A good listener of others problems, but struggle revealing my own if I have them.

Nette

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

"I don't tend to suffer fools gladly if something has been bought on themselves.

But if a friend needs me, I'm there wholehearted.

With my friends they call me an agony aunt.

A good listener of others problems, but struggle revealing my own if I have them.

Nette

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

According to my ex-hubby, I am passionate, however, I am not compassionate, and I believe he may be right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can be it depends on my _iews on the potential recipient.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"In some situations I doubt you would find anyone more so... if they are just a needy cunt I may be a little less generous with my compassion.

Some would say that compassion involves seeing past the fact that they're a needy cunt.

some would say that although some wouldn't use some of the same language

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I think confusing compassion with agreeing with a person is what stops people feeling compassion or makes them think they shouldn't show it.

I feel compassion for some of the situations people post about on these forums even though they are not showing it themselves because I can see that they are on a path that will hurt them and people close to them. However my reaction to them is often perceived as less than compassionate because I don't appear sympathetic to or agree with their cause.

What is compassion? How should it be demonstrated?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In some situations I doubt you would find anyone more so... if they are just a needy cunt I may be a little less generous with my compassion.

Some would say that compassion involves seeing past the fact that they're a needy cunt.

some would say that although some wouldn't use some of the same language

You're quite right, I was just re-quoting. Apologies if I caused offence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not very.

On rare occasions i may be.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"In some situations I doubt you would find anyone more so... if they are just a needy cunt I may be a little less generous with my compassion.

Some would say that compassion involves seeing past the fact that they're a needy cunt.

some would say that although some wouldn't use some of the same language

You're quite right, I was just re-quoting. Apologies if I caused offence. "

You didn't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Someone has just asked me this and I am not really sure how to answer, I think it can vary, depending on how I am feeling myself. What about you?"

It depends if its someone who deserves compassion or if its a needy asshole the second gets very little from me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm the same and can vary depending on mood. Even if I am feeling compassionate though I don't really communicate it as well as I'd like to so either way it makes me seem like I'm not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Someone has just asked me this and I am not really sure how to answer, I think it can vary, depending on how I am feeling myself. What about you?"

I can go out of my way for a random. I will go out of my way to do something for someone I care for no matter how big or small that is. Catch me on a bad day and I can be horrible like the rest of them. That is a really rarity though

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"In some situations I doubt you would find anyone more so... if they are just a needy cunt I may be a little less generous with my compassion.

Some would say that compassion involves seeing past the fact that they're a needy cunt.

some would say that although some wouldn't use some of the same language

You're quite right, I was just re-quoting. Apologies if I caused offence.

You didn't

I appreciated the point you made and agree that compassion does sometimes require you to look past what's in front of you and possibly see the reasons behind the neediness.

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By *aceytopWoman
over a year ago

from a town near you

im told im a soft touch don't know ifthats a good thing but I cant turn my back on anyone in trouble,i always like to think good of people,until im proven wrong then I can be quite cold if I think iv been taken for a ride

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have it in spades...

Even in a foul mood, I'll put that on hold and help or understand someone...

Once it's sorted, I can go back to being shitty..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Used to be, kind of not anymore

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm fuckin perfect me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm fuckin perfect me

In particular I have immense compassion for deluded people...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm fuckin perfect me

In particular I have immense compassion for deluded people...

See ? what do you people know, when i was 14 my teacher told me he was gonna make me a Perfect, I got a Badge n everything so nerr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends on the situation I think. My best friend will tell you I'm a cold hearted of hard faced cow but I can be sensitive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm fuckin perfect me

In particular I have immense compassion for deluded people...

See ? what do you people know, when i was 14 my teacher told me he was gonna make me a Perfect, I got a Badge n everything so nerr

Fnaaar...!!! In much the same way as my sister, who refused to believe she was ignorant..... Till she gave birth...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

P not very at all somebody once told me they had been made redundant im ashamed to say my reply was "oh cool, shit happens" I should engage the brain before the mouth sometimes tbh

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