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"I try to read the profiles of peeps who message me, but if they are tedious or over long I just lose interest. I think with profiles it's good for people to read them, but perhaps it is up to us all to have something worth reading.
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"I dunno, maybe I'm feeling magnanimous today but if I was in the positions most single guys on here are in, sending endless unanswered messages I doubt if I'd bother to read profiles either, I think I'd be sending messages saying 'Look, if you fancy me enough to reply great, we'll talk, if not have a nice life!!'. I cut the guys some slack mostly. If I like the look of him I'll find out more, if I don't, I'm really not going to anyway, and I'm not gonna blame him for not spending another fruitless 5 mins reading. Yes, sometimes it's irritating when I look at their profile and see they're 200 miles away, kinky as hell and cannot accomm anyway - but then that gives me a damn good excuse to delete on sight without replying doesn't it! At times it's a tedious numbers game for everyone I reckon......" 
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"I dunno, maybe I'm feeling magnanimous today but if I was in the positions most single guys on here are in, sending endless unanswered messages I doubt if I'd bother to read profiles either, I think I'd be sending messages saying 'Look, if you fancy me enough to reply great, we'll talk, if not have a nice life!!'. I cut the guys some slack mostly. If I like the look of him I'll find out more, if I don't, I'm really not going to anyway, and I'm not gonna blame him for not spending another fruitless 5 mins reading. Yes, sometimes it's irritating when I look at their profile and see they're 200 miles away, kinky as hell and cannot accomm anyway - but then that gives me a damn good excuse to delete on sight without replying doesn't it! At times it's a tedious numbers game for everyone I reckon......
Just look for the people you want to meet. Simple. "I find that way too tedious, I prefer to see who comes to me, we ladies are so spoiled for choice on here! | |||
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"If I took three minutes to read a profile I would be either visiting specsavers or moving on. its a profile to grab someone's attention not War &Peace. " I disagree. I can put up a single photo if I want to grab attention. The profile is there to say what sort of people I am looking to meet, what I am not intetested in and to give more information about what I have to offer and some clues about how to get talking with me. I think it's a common misconception here, especially amongst men, that everyone with a profile here is looking for attention from anyone interested. They look at the photos and if they "grab their attention", they shoot off a message without ever bothering to consider they might not be the type of person being sought. I get loads of messages from smokers who are completely wasting their time, and mine because my profile is clear I will not meet smokers. But because my profile "grabbed their attention" they messaged anyway. Then there are the men who are "curvy" and/or 50+ and/or just passing through this area that message me. A lot of them seem to think that because my profile "grabbed their attention" that they are entitled to sex with me! A profile isn't just to "grab attention", it's to enable people to find others that will be interested in meeting them. Like View said, it isn't going to change so I try not to let it bother me, and mostly succeed. I don't think seeing a profile as just a means to grab attention does anyone any favours though. I think there would be fewer complaints about unread/deleted messages if more people read profiles and sent fewer but more specifically directed messages. It's the difference between sending a letter saying "gizz us a job" to every company in the country and sending a well tailored c.v. to specific companies advertising jobs which your suited to. | |||
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"I was going to specifically say men but thought that was mean lol" More men read profiles than women its a fact like it or not. Men go searching more than women men formulate messages more than women there is nothing wrong with that but your hypothesis is as accurate as saying more women type and post without reading what they post. Saying all that a lot of people of both genders browse profiles apposed to intently reading them that's the nature of websites in general. | |||
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"If I took three minutes to read a profile I would be either visiting specsavers or moving on. its a profile to grab someone's attention not War &Peace. I disagree. I can put up a single photo if I want to grab attention. The profile is there to say what sort of people I am looking to meet, what I am not intetested in and to give more information about what I have to offer and some clues about how to get talking with me. I think it's a common misconception here, especially amongst men, that everyone with a profile here is looking for attention from anyone interested. They look at the photos and if they "grab their attention", they shoot off a message without ever bothering to consider they might not be the type of person being sought. I get loads of messages from smokers who are completely wasting their time, and mine because my profile is clear I will not meet smokers. But because my profile "grabbed their attention" they messaged anyway. Then there are the men who are "curvy" and/or 50+ and/or just passing through this area that message me. A lot of them seem to think that because my profile "grabbed their attention" that they are entitled to sex with me! A profile isn't just to "grab attention", it's to enable people to find others that will be interested in meeting them. Like View said, it isn't going to change so I try not to let it bother me, and mostly succeed. I don't think seeing a profile as just a means to grab attention does anyone any favours though. I think there would be fewer complaints about unread/deleted messages if more people read profiles and sent fewer but more specifically directed messages. It's the difference between sending a letter saying "gizz us a job" to every company in the country and sending a well tailored c.v. to specific companies advertising jobs which your suited to." ...which you're* suited to... | |||
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"I dunno, maybe I'm feeling magnanimous today but if I was in the positions most single guys on here are in, sending endless unanswered messages I doubt if I'd bother to read profiles either, I think I'd be sending messages saying 'Look, if you fancy me enough to reply great, we'll talk, if not have a nice life!!'. I cut the guys some slack mostly. If I like the look of him I'll find out more, if I don't, I'm really not going to anyway, and I'm not gonna blame him for not spending another fruitless 5 mins reading Yes, sometimes it's irritating when I look at their profile and see they're 200 miles away, kinky as hell and cannot accomm anyway - but then that gives me a damn good excuse to delete on sight without replying doesn't it! At times it's a tedious numbers game for everyone I reckon......" No we think you are so wrong. We on occasion play with single guys but if they havent read our profile its a straight block Ours is probably too long too be honest but gives detail. if they pick out certain things and refer to them then we would get into a conversation , from then on in anything could happen. At the end of the day if you were applying for a job youd expect the person inter_iewing you to have read your CV and would be pissed if they hadnt. The OPs right if you get a "cut and pasted msg" then yes they are playing the numbers game which you say is ok with you but for us its not , but to be fair you are playing as a single so its slightly different  | |||
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"whats the point in reading your profile ?.. spend 3 minutes reading it.. thinking mmmm wouldnt mind meeting her she sounds really nice.. then go to write message to find im too old...." But had you looked at the profile properly in the first place you'd have known you were out of her age range before you started reading the content | |||
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" could happen. At the end of the day if you were applying for a job youd expect the person inter_iewing you to have read your CV and would be pissed if they hadnt. " But I don't consider making a first contact on here anywhere near akin to applying for a job, good grief, it would become a full time job for a single guy to get a meet!! Of course I prefer them to have read the profile, but plenty do - and still message me when they don't fulfil the criteria anyway! Why does playing as a single make any difference (or merit a rolling of the eyes??)? | |||
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" could happen. At the end of the day if you were applying for a job youd expect the person inter_iewing you to have read your CV and would be pissed if they hadnt. But I don't consider making a first contact on here anywhere near akin to applying for a job, good grief, it would become a full time job for a single guy to get a meet!! Of course I prefer them to have read the profile, but plenty do - and still message me when they don't fulfil the criteria anyway! Why does playing as a single make any difference (or merit a rolling of the eyes??)?" Its not to be taken literally obviously thought you would know that . The point being if you were turning up to meet someone in any walk of life (yes even swinging) and you have provided a written summary then it would be courtesy to read it . basically if you are saying it dosent matter whether people read profiles then fabs would just be a photo site like instagram and there is NO swingers site that exists that way. If you are happy just to go on a photo or meet someone that has only seen a pic of you thats your perogative of course and no ones saying thats wrong, but the large majority of people want to read a bit about the person they are talking to (as the OP was alluding to) | |||
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" Its not to be taken literally obviously thought you would know that The point being if you were turning up to meet someone in any walk of life (yes even swinging) and you have provided a written summary then it would be courtesy to read it . basically if you are saying it dosent matter whether people read profiles then fabs would just be a photo site like instagram and there is NO swingers site that exists that way. If you are happy just to go on a photo or meet someone that has only seen a pic of you thats your perogative of course and no ones saying thats wrong, but the large majority of people want to read a bit about the person they are talking to (as the OP was alluding to)" That's not what I said at all - you just misunderstood, or misread? I said the same as the poster above - that I don't blame guys for not reading long profiles before sending FIRST messages that statistically are highly unlikely to be answered, let alone get irritable at them for doing so!! Sure, it's great to get an original, engaging personalised message based on your profile, but you can count the percentage of those on the fingers of one hand! I have absolutely no objection to someone saying 'Hi, I love your pics, how are you this evening?' based on a brief scan of the profile, or even just liking the pics. I then checkout his profile, and if I like it, and he seems to fulfil MY criteria, or I have the time anyway, I will answer. THEN I expect him to check all his facts and find out about me in a conversation, during which I can suss him out too. I have met some lovely guys this way - I really don't see what the problem is?? Some intelligent, passionate, interesting men who are wonderfully engaging and communicative in person simply never write more than a line or two in messages on their phones anyway!! I find most overly long profiles too tedious to read myself, and I feel some people are overly demanding and sometimes quite bitter sounding (not suggesting anyone on this thread, I haven't looked). And you didn't say why you thought being on here as a single was different? | |||
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" Its not to be taken literally obviously thought you would know that The point being if you were turning up to meet someone in any walk of life (yes even swinging) and you have provided a written summary then it would be courtesy to read it . basically if you are saying it dosent matter whether people read profiles then fabs would just be a photo site like instagram and there is NO swingers site that exists that way. If you are happy just to go on a photo or meet someone that has only seen a pic of you thats your perogative of course and no ones saying thats wrong, but the large majority of people want to read a bit about the person they are talking to (as the OP was alluding to) That's not what I said at all - you just misunderstood, or misread? I said the same as the poster above - that I don't blame guys for not reading long profiles before sending FIRST messages that statistically are highly unlikely to be answered, let alone get irritable at them for doing so!! Sure, it's great to get an original, engaging personalised message based on your profile, but you can count the percentage of those on the fingers of one hand! I have absolutely no objection to someone saying 'Hi, I love your pics, how are you this evening?' based on a brief scan of the profile, or even just liking the pics. I then checkout his profile, and if I like it, and he seems to fulfil MY criteria, or I have the time anyway, I will answer. THEN I expect him to check all his facts and find out about me in a conversation, during which I can suss him out too. I have met some lovely guys this way - I really don't see what the problem is?? Some intelligent, passionate, interesting men who are wonderfully engaging and communicative in person simply never write more than a line or two in messages on their phones anyway!! I find most overly long profiles too tedious to read myself, and I feel some people are overly demanding and sometimes quite bitter sounding (not suggesting anyone on this thread, I haven't looked). And you didn't say why you thought being on here as a single was different? " Put your handbag away sweetie you might have someones eye out lol  | |||
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" Its not to be taken literally obviously thought you would know that The point being if you were turning up to meet someone in any walk of life (yes even swinging) and you have provided a written summary then it would be courtesy to read it . basically if you are saying it dosent matter whether people read profiles then fabs would just be a photo site like instagram and there is NO swingers site that exists that way. If you are happy just to go on a photo or meet someone that has only seen a pic of you thats your perogative of course and no ones saying thats wrong, but the large majority of people want to read a bit about the person they are talking to (as the OP was alluding to) That's not what I said at all - you just misunderstood, or misread? I said the same as the poster above - that I don't blame guys for not reading long profiles before sending FIRST messages that statistically are highly unlikely to be answered, let alone get irritable at them for doing so!! Sure, it's great to get an original, engaging personalised message based on your profile, but you can count the percentage of those on the fingers of one hand! I have absolutely no objection to someone saying 'Hi, I love your pics, how are you this evening?' based on a brief scan of the profile, or even just liking the pics. I then checkout his profile, and if I like it, and he seems to fulfil MY criteria, or I have the time anyway, I will answer. THEN I expect him to check all his facts and find out about me in a conversation, during which I can suss him out too. I have met some lovely guys this way - I really don't see what the problem is?? Some intelligent, passionate, interesting men who are wonderfully engaging and communicative in person simply never write more than a line or two in messages on their phones anyway!! I find most overly long profiles too tedious to read myself, and I feel some people are overly demanding and sometimes quite bitter sounding (not suggesting anyone on this thread, I haven't looked). And you didn't say why you thought being on here as a single was different? Put your handbag away sweetie you might have someones eye out lol "I laughed! No I REALLY laughed at that I know I shouldn't its not pc but as one liners go that's as funny as fuck! | |||
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" Its not to be taken literally obviously thought you would know that The point being if you were turning up to meet someone in any walk of life (yes even swinging) and you have provided a written summary then it would be courtesy to read it . basically if you are saying it dosent matter whether people read profiles then fabs would just be a photo site like instagram and there is NO swingers site that exists that way. If you are happy just to go on a photo or meet someone that has only seen a pic of you thats your perogative of course and no ones saying thats wrong, but the large majority of people want to read a bit about the person they are talking to (as the OP was alluding to) That's not what I said at all - you just misunderstood, or misread? I said the same as the poster above - that I don't blame guys for not reading long profiles before sending FIRST messages that statistically are highly unlikely to be answered, let alone get irritable at them for doing so!! Sure, it's great to get an original, engaging personalised message based on your profile, but you can count the percentage of those on the fingers of one hand! I have absolutely no objection to someone saying 'Hi, I love your pics, how are you this evening?' based on a brief scan of the profile, or even just liking the pics. I then checkout his profile, and if I like it, and he seems to fulfil MY criteria, or I have the time anyway, I will answer. THEN I expect him to check all his facts and find out about me in a conversation, during which I can suss him out too. I have met some lovely guys this way - I really don't see what the problem is?? Some intelligent, passionate, interesting men who are wonderfully engaging and communicative in person simply never write more than a line or two in messages on their phones anyway!! I find most overly long profiles too tedious to read myself, and I feel some people are overly demanding and sometimes quite bitter sounding (not suggesting anyone on this thread, I haven't looked). And you didn't say why you thought being on here as a single was different? " Well I think you made very good points and to some extent have converted me. However, if guys were to take more time to read and send messages to only woman whose criteria they fit they would probably get the responses they want. If they just send to everyone and anyone then obviously they are going to have a low success rate. And then send abusive messages coz you don't reply!! Its not an attractive feature guys sorry. | |||
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