FabSwingers.com forum: Should the forums be made private ??

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

A bit of a rant as its thursday lol !!

My question is should the forums be made private and viewable by members only ?

We enjoy the forums 99% of the time ( apart from the inane drivel posted by some who in our opinion shouldnt be on fab )

However as they are public and can be viewed by anyone does that invite people to join fab or have a negative effect encouraging idiots to join who have no idea of swinging etc ??

Many sites have forums but they are not public ? So how do you feel about your views and opinions being on show to the world ? Or would you prefer it was made private for members only ??

What changes would you potentially like to see ??

Admin and fab staff do a fantastic job regardless , just interested to hear peoples views etc ??

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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It doesn't bother me that people can see what I write.

If the forum wasn't visible people can join to read them in a few minutes if they really wanted to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would back that yes, don't understand why they are not private to be honest. Only have to look at what happened a while back over and Edinburgh social being 'outed', the press freely published the contents of the forums at that time....there may be a good reason for them to be public but I can't think what it may be?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally, as a single guy who has been on and off the "scene" for 19yrs. I think they should be for members only and even go as far, as needing to be verified or a minimum time on site to read/post! Stop the d*unks & wankers, getting their rocks off on a fake accounts then vanishing!! Just my view, not saying its the right view :0)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It doesn't bother me that people can see what I write.

If the forum wasn't visible people can join to read them in a few minutes if they really wanted to.

Yeh thats true rugby, but they cant post can they for a certain period if i remember rightly ?

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"It doesn't bother me that people can see what I write.

If the forum wasn't visible people can join to read them in a few minutes if they really wanted to.

Yeh thats true rugby, but they cant post can they for a certain period if i remember rightly ? "

No they can't post for a week....but they can obviously read them

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I would back that yes, don't understand why they are not private to be honest. Only have to look at what happened a while back over and Edinburgh social being 'outed', the press freely published the contents of the forums at that time....there may be a good reason for them to be public but I can't think what it may be?"

Perfect example of the detrimental effect it can have

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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The person who reported had a profile, same as the person who outed the policeman.

Anyone can join in five minutes

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

We were on pay sites before joining fab, there are as many less than genuine types etc as there are on here..

recognising thats a very subjective view..

if anyone thinks that some within our media wont put in the time and money to have a 'scoop' just look at the issue's with hacking etc..

just the way it is and probably has been even when ahem some of us used magazines to contact others..

even easier now..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My question is should the forums be made private and viewable by members only ?

No....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It doesn't bother me that people can see what I write.

If the forum wasn't visible people can join to read them in a few minutes if they really wanted to.

Yeh thats true rugby, but they cant post can they for a certain period if i remember rightly ?

No they can't post for a week....but they can obviously read them

I see where S&J are coming from - and remember the fuss caused up in Edinburgh (hence why we looked to use an established club for the social this weekend as that's hardly press-worthy! "Swingers meet at swinging club" isn't exactly breaking news! Lol).

Yes people could simply sign up if the forums were made private - but at least that would be a step in the right direction. I see the benefit in making them accessible by only verified users - but this would also exclude new members who are genuine and who find the forums useful for advice, support and, as many have in the past, a means of getting to know people.

Not sure what the solution is tbh - but leaving them open to anyone with access to the internet is possibly not a great idea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The vast majority of people that I know on here don't even have a clue there are forums

Swinging is talked about frequently in almist every aspect of the media these days,I doubt making the forums private will deter anyone from wanting to join a site to see what its all about,in fact reading some of the crap on the forums may well put them off even wanting to give swingjng a go

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Its a tricky one admittedly, from our point of view there is a slight concern as we have high profile DJ's at our events and as the event is posted in forums we run the risk of that being in the public eye ??

Just a suggestion but how about the some of the forums being made members only or something like that ??

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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I think thats the point surrey ....if people want to find something they will and by whatever means.

My idea is I never divulge anything that I wouldn't want any stranger to know....and that is on these open forum sites or the closed forum site we use as even closed forum sites have people who are not who they say they are.

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

I do hold back from showing the true 'me' because the forum is public. If it were private I would probably be an unbearable, egotistical monster!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The person who reported had a profile, same as the person who outed the policeman.

Anyone can join in five minutes

My point was that the press could easily access the forums and print what had been written, some of which made people feel they could be identified which isn't pleasant and I know, they could have joined. waited a week and got access. Its just why are they public as in what purpose does it serve?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The forums can only be used by members, people have to join the site to post on threads ( I think )

Any site needs numbers to grow, so restricting access to features may result in less members and less revenue from advertising.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The forums can only be used by members, people have to join the site to post on threads ( I think )

Any site needs numbers to grow, so restricting access to features may result in less members and less revenue from advertising."

There is no advertising on fab, revenue is from members becoming site supporters.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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" in fact reading some of the crap on the forums may well put them off even wanting to give swingjng a go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its a tricky one admittedly, from our point of view there is a slight concern as we have high profile DJ's at our events and as the event is posted in forums we run the risk of that being in the public eye ??

Just a suggestion but how about the some of the forums being made members only or something like that ??

There is no such thing as bad publicity!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The forums can only be used by members, people have to join the site to post on threads ( I think )

Any site needs numbers to grow, so restricting access to features may result in less members and less revenue from advertising.

There is no advertising on fab, revenue is from members becoming site supporters."

WRONG!

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"The person who reported had a profile, same as the person who outed the policeman.

Anyone can join in five minutes

Thats a question for Admin as I am not 100% sure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The forums can only be used by members, people have to join the site to post on threads ( I think )

Any site needs numbers to grow, so restricting access to features may result in less members and less revenue from advertising.

There is no advertising on fab, revenue is from members becoming site supporters.

WRONG!"
Free members are bombarded with advertising, when you pay to join ie, become a member you don't get the advertising. hence the site needs free members to get an income.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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Just keep it private of who it is as per the rules.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The forums can only be used by members, people have to join the site to post on threads ( I think )

Any site needs numbers to grow, so restricting access to features may result in less members and less revenue from advertising.

There is no advertising on fab, revenue is from members becoming site supporters.

WRONG! Free members are bombarded with advertising, when you pay to join ie, become a member you don't get the advertising. hence the site needs free members to get an income.

Ok my bad we have alwasy been site supporters so wouldnt know. Can we keep it on topic thanks.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"I think thats the point surrey ....if people want to find something they will and by whatever means.

agreed, bit like when folks find their pictures all over the web and are surprised..

dont think the media per se are that interested in the fact that people from most walks of life meet and engage in consensual sex..

some 'occupations' etc are clearly more newsworthy not that its news to most of course..

do see what the Op is saying but its a tricky one, perhaps any social type meets need to be more strictly managed as to whom exactly knows..

but even thats not going to be foolproof..

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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It is meant to be that way yes surrey, but sadly some like to out socials , even swingers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I say nothing in a forum I would not say other places .. Its a mix open to people on fab and everyone is welcome if on the site. If you had places only some could go it would end up being a click ..............

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If i type something out and post it on the internet its my opinion and view point and i will stand by that comment regardless of who see's it.

If ultimately people are paranoid about anyone seeing/reading comments then simply dont post them. Only have ourselfs to blame for what views/information we put out there

Same for profile pictures.. sure its not nice but the only security we have is by not posting/uploading

Does it bother me that non members can read the forums? No. My opinions and i'll stand by them regardless

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If i type something out and post it on the internet its my opinion and view point and i will stand by that comment regardless of who see's it.

If ultimately people are paranoid about anyone seeing/reading comments then simply dont post them. Only have ourselfs to blame for what views/information we put out there

Same for profile pictures.. sure its not nice but the only security we have is by not posting/uploading

Does it bother me that non members can read the forums? No. My opinions and i'll stand by them regardless "

Good point cute and appreciate where you coming from

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I understand would more than likely cost money but im sure some people would pay more if the facility to be able to have private chat rooms were available

to create a room and enter a code so a group of people/friends could all chat freely without fear of unwelcome parties joining..

or be able to instant message/cam one on one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had no idea they was not private !!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I understand would more than likely cost money but im sure some people would pay more if the facility to be able to have private chat rooms were available

to create a room and enter a code so a group of people/friends could all chat freely without fear of unwelcome parties joining..

or be able to instant message/cam one on one"

Thats a good idea too, would be good to have a forum area that only paid members can access as well, perhaps not so easy to implement but could be a good idea ?? And yes i know these idea's should be in site feedback but its part of the conversation lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I say nothing in a forum I would not say other places .. Its a mix open to people on fab and everyone is welcome if on the site. If you had places only some could go it would end up being a click ..............

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Nah, everyone is entitled to my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It amuses me that people think the Internet is a private place.

I can see what you mean OP but as others have said, people would just join and be a member to read the forums. It might put off a few idiots but not all.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It amuses me that people think the Internet is a private place.

I can see what you mean OP but as others have said, people would just join and be a member to read the forums. It might put off a few idiots but not all. "

True and agreed

I think if a members only area was created ( site supporters access ) that would out a few of the idiots too ??

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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Idiots have money to spend too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Idiots have money to spend too

We do not!

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Idiots have money to spend too

We do not!"

Haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Idiots have money to spend too

Lol yes true, however its a very small percentage that would pay just to come and post on a forum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

POSSIBLY and this is just possibly, make the events and the clubs areas private, but how you would specify which members could use them and not i wouldnt know, because, as said, newbies need much more advice than older members, so these fora are a great place to get to find things out.

IF an organised meets section were to be made private, however, could everyone be trusted to keep communication about socials and the like there?

i dont think so.

sometimes people are their own worst enemies lol

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Idiots have money to spend too

Lol yes true, however its a very small percentage that would pay just to come and post on a forum

The damage isn't done by those who post here, it's those who read stuff here and report it elsewhere.

Nowhere on the Internet is perfectly secure and you can throw money at making it a little more secure and still leak info.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I'd rather they were private.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Idiots have money to spend too

Lol yes true, however its a very small percentage that would pay just to come and post on a forum

The damage isn't done by those who post here, it's those who read stuff here and report it elsewhere.

Nowhere on the Internet is perfectly secure and you can throw money at making it a little more secure and still leak info."

I disagree damage has been done by people on here, dont know the rules and sat bad things about other members ( naming etc )

Personally i dont agree with the whole thing about " idiots still paying " I dont believe there are that many that would waste their time and money just to come and cause grief when there are free places they can go do it and not face being banned etc ??

We would happily pay a higher support fee if it meant mods / admin got paid and could do a full time job of keeping the forums safe etc.

We all know privacy doesnt exist on the net but taking precautions is always a good thing surely ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It doesn't bother me that people can see what I write.

If the forum wasn't visible people can join to read them in a few minutes if they really wanted to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

most of the forum is like facebook so no why not LOL

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"most of the forum is like facebook so no why not LOL"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its a free site to join, so it doesnt matter if the forums are public or not. All it takes it two minutes to sign up and you can read / copy anything from the forums if you wanted to

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"its a free site to join, so it doesnt matter if the forums are public or not. All it takes it two minutes to sign up and you can read / copy anything from the forums if you wanted to "

Correct but the point is if they are public you dont need to sign up in order to copy or read them. If they are private then only people that have signed up can access them.

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

I would like to see it private, if nothing more than to stop minors stumbling across it. But that goes for control of anything of an adult nature on the net.

Making it private would make it harder, but as others have said, if people want to read it then they only have to sign up.

A bit like locking your door when you go out. It will stop a random passer by but not anyone determined.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I would like to see it private, if nothing more than to stop minors stumbling across it. But that goes for control of anything of an adult nature on the net.

Making it private would make it harder, but as others have said, if people want to read it then they only have to sign up.

A bit like locking your door when you go out. It will stop a random passer by but not anyone determined. "

Good analogy and agreed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Idiots have money to spend too

Lol yes true, however its a very small percentage that would pay just to come and post on a forum

The damage isn't done by those who post here, it's those who read stuff here and report it elsewhere.

Nowhere on the Internet is perfectly secure and you can throw money at making it a little more secure and still leak info.

I disagree damage has been done by people on here, dont know the rules and sat bad things about other members ( naming etc )

We would happily pay a higher support fee if it meant mods / admin got paid and could do a full time job of keeping the forums safe etc.

We all know privacy doesnt exist on the net but taking precautions is always a good thing surely ?? "

Your safety is your responsibility, no one could ensure that at any price.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would like to see it private, if nothing more than to stop minors stumbling across it. But that goes for control of anything of an adult nature on the net.

Making it private would make it harder, but as others have said, if people want to read it then they only have to sign up.

A bit like locking your door when you go out. It will stop a random passer by but not anyone determined. "

I was on a training course last week about the dangers to children on the net, one thing I learned which was a huge surprise to me was that it's not the sites everyone would think would be a problem but more the ones we think are safe that are.

Children these days are safer outside playing than they are inside sitting in same room as some parents while they are using the net.

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

"I would like to see it private, if nothing more than to stop minors stumbling across it. But that goes for control of anything of an adult nature on the net.

Making it private would make it harder, but as others have said, if people want to read it then they only have to sign up.

A bit like locking your door when you go out. It will stop a random passer by but not anyone determined.

Children these days are safer outside playing than they are inside sitting in same room as some parents while they are using the net. "

That, I can quite believe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Classic case of: The horse bolted - so let's lock the stable door!

The media have freelance 'journalists' - and I use the term VERY loosely - on ALL the adult sites. They've had both single and couple profiles for YEARS - they use them 'like real members' - they get to know the folks in chat-rooms, through the Forums - Hell! They even arrange meets - and attend Socials/M&Gs/Private Parties - and get themselves verified. Then they go home, copy all the profiles details of those they've met/seen at events and copy/paste them into old articles from the Wunday Sorld - and send the 'new expose' to their Editors - who print them on slow news days - just because they can!

On ALL the Sites - No matter what rules you think you can bring in NOW - it's too late! The insidious ways they use to inveigle themselves into the scene are manifold but they're already HERE.

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

"Classic case of: The horse bolted - so let's lock the stable door!

On ALL the Sites - No matter what rules you think you can bring in NOW - it's too late! The insidious ways they use to inveigle themselves into the scene are manifold but they're already HERE.

Shit! It's not Funky is it?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Classic case of: The horse bolted - so let's lock the stable door!

On ALL the Sites - No matter what rules you think you can bring in NOW - it's too late! The insidious ways they use to inveigle themselves into the scene are manifold but they're already HERE.

Shit! It's not Funky is it?

Lol that made me giggle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Noooooooo!!!

Laine says even though she's no longer on the site she still enjoys a good ranty thread

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

No.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Another "no".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dear Busybodies.

If it ain't broken, don't fix it!!

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