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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is it? And what's the true definition? Discuss (remember that I am only playing devils advocate)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

By the numbers, no it isn't if normal means majority we did some calculations ages ago people on here against population of various areas swingers are less than 1% so even if some are not clever enough to be on fab it is still a minority pastime.

Is it natural? Very different question

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City

its normal for me. I'm glad I ventured out into the swinging world two years ago.

Its not normal to a lot of people tho and usually very frowned upon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

of course it aint normal otherwise everyone would be doing it, and there would be dark dingy little corners of the internet with sites dedicated to people that are happy being in monogamous relationships lol.

and, you think of a definition of swinging, as i have been trying to since we started, and by christ it certainly aint a one size fits all type hobby

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my definition

swinging = self gratification

after several years research and practise.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

WTF is "normal"?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's normal in this day and age

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's normal in this day and age "

The pendulum?

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

i think it is natural .. when our ancestors lived communally who is to say multi partner cohabiting wasnt the norm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i think it is natural .. when our ancestors lived communally who is to say multi partner cohabiting wasnt the norm"

We only have to look up to a superior species; Dolphins have it sussed!

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By *icekatCouple
over a year ago

north east

I think a lot of people would like to but never do for one reason or another.

I(female) like the freedom of swinging, the freedom to be me and enjoy life! We have great fun!

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

what do dolphins do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What is normal? Swinging definitely isn't what the status who find acceptable or in many cases understand, however in nature it's rare that sex is strictly with one partner. So in that sense swinging is following natures instinct.

Plus at times it's great fun lol

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Normal for swingers, abnormal for non swingers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't want to be normal. I think it would be too scary!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do as you please,if you enjoy it then it is normal ! ! !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone who thinks its not 'normal' has obviously never tried it!!

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By *illwill69uMan
over a year ago

moston

No...

Swinging is not the norm...

Cheating on partners and denial are!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tried being normal once…..worst five minutes of my life

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Its normal to those in the lifestyle however I would consider it not to be normal to those outside of it. I consider myself to be a semi normal person...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging is not normal because it is not "standard" behaviour. But who wants to be "normal"?

Many studies have shown swingers are happier than the general population as a result of their lifestyle. They also, in the main, love their partners more.

A narrow definition is "non-monogomus couple relationship" but this site is full of "single" men who just hunting pussy. So if those are swingers, and not just opportunists, the definition must fall wider.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i think it is natural .. when our ancestors lived communally who is to say multi partner cohabiting wasnt the norm"

There is a lot of research to suggest that this was the case... To be honest one on one relationships came in mostly with religion x I don't believe we are designed to be monogamous.... But that's just my views

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend


"i think it is natural .. when our ancestors lived communally who is to say multi partner cohabiting wasnt the norm

There is a lot of research to suggest that this was the case... To be honest one on one relationships came in mostly with religion x I don't believe we are designed to be monogamous.... But that's just my views "
seems we totally agree xx

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By *ust_for_laughsCouple
over a year ago

Hinckley


"i think it is natural .. when our ancestors lived communally who is to say multi partner cohabiting wasnt the norm

There is a lot of research to suggest that this was the case... To be honest one on one relationships came in mostly with religion x I don't believe we are designed to be monogamous.... But that's just my views seems we totally agree xx"

It would probably fall into the +-3 SD, so would therefore be considered abnormal!

Of course it's not 'normal'. To the majority of the outside world, we're freaks. Don't believe me? Go announce it to everyone next time you're on the school run!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Many studies have shown swingers are happier than the general population as a result of their lifestyle. They also, in the main, love their partners more. "

evidence?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Begs the question what is normal .......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i think it is natural .. when our ancestors lived communally who is to say multi partner cohabiting wasnt the norm

There is a lot of research to suggest that this was the case... To be honest one on one relationships came in mostly with religion x I don't believe we are designed to be monogamous.... But that's just my views seems we totally agree xx

It would probably fall into the +-3 SD, so would therefore be considered abnormal!

Of course it's not 'normal'. To the majority of the outside world, we're freaks. Don't believe me? Go announce it to everyone next time you're on the school run!"

Most on mine know... A few judge but most envy my freedom. It is not considered normal but doesn't mean it isn't ... Orgies were quite the rage in many ancient cultures

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By *ust_for_laughsCouple
over a year ago

Hinckley


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Many studies have shown swingers are happier than the general population as a result of their lifestyle. They also, in the main, love their partners more.

evidence?"

'Many studies have shown...'

How much evidence do you need?

Even if it were true though, it would still be wholly fucking irrelevant in answering the original question!

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By *ust_for_laughsCouple
over a year ago

Hinckley

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"my definition

swinging = self gratification

after several years research and practise."

I think you are onto something there, at the end of the day we all get off on getting off, so to that end its self gratification for mutual benefit....

Normal is just a point of view, as is good/bad etc. All just a perception.

I find on the whole swingers are the most honest open and easy to get on with people out there. When the clothes and inhibitions come off, the social barriers that conditioning has placed come down and we are all just being ourselves instead of trying to conform to the ideals of others.

Personally i couldnt give a toss about what others think and i find that feeling quite liberating.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"my definition

swinging = self gratification

after several years research and practise.

I think you are onto something there, at the end of the day we all get off on getting off, so to that end its self gratification for mutual benefit....

Normal is just a point of view, as is good/bad etc. All just a perception.

I find on the whole swingers are the most honest open and easy to get on with people out there. When the clothes and inhibitions come off, the social barriers that conditioning has placed come down and we are all just being ourselves instead of trying to conform to the ideals of others.

Personally i couldnt give a toss about what others think and i find that feeling quite liberating."

this..

the element of naughtiness and none comformity is in pretty much all of us..

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

And wooosh the op has gone....

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By *ust_for_laughsCouple
over a year ago

Hinckley


"And wooosh the op has gone.... "

Became convinced that it wasn't 'normal' and fucked off to somewhere that is!?

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By *ScotsmanMan
over a year ago

ayrshire

swinging whether from side to side or back and forward is not normal in normal situations but can be caused by activities such as rowing.cycling or over use of illicit substances...if none of these apply go to your nearest doctor....in some rare cases a gang bang is required.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"And wooosh the op has gone.... "

He didn't get the reaction he wanted as people are discussing it

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"And wooosh the op has gone.... "

maybe he's concentrating on gym fit types..

byeee..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quite probably the worst troll attempt ever in the history of the internet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is being a Mormon normal is being a free thinking person being normal ..... one persons normal is not others as we are different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That devil sure is hard on his advocates, one question and zapped back to his wife... I mean life... or do I?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is being a Mormon normal is being a free thinking person being normal ..... one persons normal is not others as we are different."

surely you have been around swinging long enough to know that many swingers a so closed minded, free thinking as a term that doesnt apply

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"Quite probably the worst troll attempt ever in the history of the internet. "

bet they'll be back..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Quite probably the worst troll attempt ever in the history of the internet.

bet they'll be back.."

Without a doubt and get to play guess who?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is being a Mormon normal is being a free thinking person being normal ..... one persons normal is not others as we are different.

surely you have been around swinging long enough to know that many swingers a so closed minded, free thinking as a term that doesnt apply"
Well I am , I maybe different and I know my own mind. its not what others think but me as my mind ,

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By *ScotsmanMan
over a year ago

ayrshire

i agree..its my mind to mind and if they mind my mind well they dont mind my mind as much as me .if they minded then they shouldn't because theyshould mind their own mind.i know in my mind my mind isn't like their mind but i dont mind so why should they mind about my mind when their mindset should be minding more about minding their mind..either way i dont mind so why should they mind about my mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"By the numbers, no it isn't if normal means majority we did some calculations ages ago people on here against population of various areas swingers are less than 1% so even if some are not clever enough to be on fab it is still a minority pastime.

Is it natural? Very different question "

Neither Paula or myself really care what others think about what we do

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